Work place hookups:
Work place connections are a mixed bag. One has to be careful in corporate settings, yet a large plus is the ability to relax while observing the one you might want. And you can test the waters to see if you're right.
I have a story from my recent life to tell:
Although I work in a department toward the front of the building, I pass through all of the various departments a couple of times during an eight hour period every day. Toward the back of the building there is a small department that has six women in it. All of these women are pretty nice, and they also have fairly high energy levels ( nice + low energy = no interest from me). Of these six, there are two that really stand out. By shear looks, one of these, I'll call her D, is the most beatiful girl in the company. Her face is an absolute 10 as she has an exotic look that comes from an interesting mix of asian/hispanic or something similar. She has a very good body too. She's just missing the long legs and couple if other minor attributes to push her fully into what most men would concider a 10. I'd give her a 9+. Her best friend, I'll call her M, is a 7 to a 7+, pretty, but not beautiful by narcissistic standards of today.
Both these women are way above my league by typical standards. I say whatever.
I'd been aware for a long time that I'm very attracted to M. Toward the end of my 40's, after being mildly burnt a couple of times, I began learning to look for qualities in women that I can and cannnot connect with if I want to spend a lot of time with them. Women should be attracted to me or "open," but that's only the start. I watch for traits that I desire. This woman, M, has those traits in spades. She is nice, but fiercely nice. She exudes deep sensual energy, with an amazing playfullness. I've also tried to observe if she has any sexual trauma from negative episodes with past loves. I couldn't intuit any of that. Spiritually she gets a 10+ from me. And she was open to me.
I started lightly, very lightly, flirting with M. I'd wave to the whole group, but single her out for special attention and a few seconds of talk once each day for a week. I also started to project something that could be called essence or perhaps more accurately be called, "being present to her." This is kind of a psychic projection of confidence, backed up with a powerfully focused intent, direction, and attention sent to her, and even into her, all of this while remaining relaxed and composed. If there's hidden masculine sides in her this is meant to uncover it, but if not, this usually serves notice that I'm much more than my boyish side that resides on the surface, and I expect openness and surrender from my woman.
- more later-
