anyone else have this problem with their wives?

Derek4Real

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Does anyone out there have any advice for a guy whos wife likes to try and lecture and "share" her opinion to much about my supplementing. Everytime I even mention trying something new I get the evil eye and hear about it for hours. I try telling her that this is my hobby and passion and if I can get stuff to help my performance I want it. Anyone have any advice?
 
My wife is very against supplements and I have no advice. I had hard enough time of her approving protein.
 
Derek4Real said:
Does anyone out there have any advice for a guy whos wife likes to try and lecture and "share" her opinion to much about my supplementing. Everytime I even mention trying something new I get the evil eye and hear about it for hours. I try telling her that this is my hobby and passion and if I can get stuff to help my performance I want it. Anyone have any advice?
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keep it at work in the car etc..lol
 
Most women I know always tell me to stop takin the "steroids", referring to all of my supplements from protein to creatine. Hell for years my Mother kept/keeps trying to convince me that creatine hurts the body, that one should only take the daily recommended value for protein, that I dont need to eat 4000 calories a day to get bigger.... It gets annoying and you cant explain to any ignorant person about supplementation, because they of course are always right...
 
You educate her and encourage her to join you in your endeavors for better nutrition. If she disagrees, you prove her wrong. If she's one of those women who can't admit they are wrong, I'm sorry for you. Such people can change, it just takes a lot of effort and open communication, as well as the patience of a saint.
 
My wife is ok with anything i take as long as i dont pin. Makes no sence, She would let me tripple dose a PH but not pin test. If i get my way that will be changing soon....
 
Two suggestions i can make are:

1) The next time she lectures you, ask her where she heard it from. Ask to see the website/ scientific study. Dont be arrogant with her in your questioning, because she will most likely go into defence mode, and you wont make any ground on the subject.

2) Stop bringing it up with her. it sounds as if you like to share your hobby with her, which makes sence. you should be able to talk to your spouse about your interests. But if she is stubborn, then maybe you should tell her that whether she agrees with it or not, the supps are safe and affordable, and just stop talking to her about it.


Hope that helps a bit, and just out of curiosity, what kind of things does she say to you?

My brother has always been adamant that creatine is an anabolic steroid... A long time ago I stopped trying to change his mind on the matter.
 
Start doing the same thing to her about her shoes, her purses, her clothes, jewelery, collectibles, whatever she pisses money away on. Then when she complains say "well the STFU about my supplements"
 
My wife was apprehensive of the supps I was taking, at first. She learned there is no point in bitching, I'm gonna take it. She knows I RESEARCH EVERYTHING. She busts my balls a little, but knows shes not gonna win.

I wish I had some advise for you. YOu need to just tell her she needs to stop. Your not a moron. Your very cautious about what you put into your body. For to sit with her and explain what the different supp's do, and how they work.
 
I think when they bich about the money your spending its harder to over come, just go with what these guys are saying and educate her on their safety and efficacy.

Or tell her you can stop working out all together and get fat.........Then would she be happy?
 
Vtaper said:
I think when they bich about the money your spending its harder to over come, just go with what these guys are saying and educate her on their safety and efficacy.

Or tell her you can stop working out all together and get fat.........Then would she be happy?
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I know some girls that are into that, some girls that dont like muscular guys at all...
 
gamer2be08 said:
I know some girls that are into that, some girls that dont like muscular guys at all...
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Yea as long as they get some $ outta the deal. I would tell her to shut it, plain and simple. If she has a problem she can research it and show you medical documentation about it, not her opinions. When you get married some women constantly want to take the reins. If you don't let her know what shes doing is wrong right away, just like a beta male shes gonna bite you and try and take your throne. If she doesn't like that you want to live a healthy, happy life and is a thorn in your side all the time...supplements might not be your biggest problem amigo.
 
Not married but my girlfriend says I have fake muscles...
I just ignore it and continue on.
 
EasyEJL said:
Start doing the same thing to her about her shoes, her purses, her clothes, jewelery, collectibles, whatever she pisses money away on. Then when she complains say "well the STFU about my supplements"
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Although that seems like a good approach - I'd double think that one.

It seems like once people start finding things wrong with the spouse, it turns bad quickly; and becomes a game of one upsmanship.

I'd try another route, but thats just me (although with my first wife - I did exactly what you suggested - but that was only because I was angry with her over a lot of other unmet (and unrelated) needs).
 
Wow your original post really hit home for me. I have been taking supplements for about 6 months. You would have thought I had robbed a bank with the reaction I got from coming home with a jug of protein powder. I have taken the approach of explaining what each of the supplements does and that seems to have helped.
 
My wife used to bitch about my supplementation for the longest time. As the years rolled on, she just realized it was something that I liked and enjoyed; now she doesn't even say anything anymore and just accepts it. I do agree that helping them to understand is a good route to take, however that doesn't always work either; for many choose the "Ignorance is bliss" route.

There really is no universal advice here, because every situation is unique in how you should handle it. In my case, I for the most part silently stood my ground letting my actions speak louder than words in the end. ;)
 
As long as it isn't a bitch about the money spent then i'd bet it's because they're worried about your health. Especially if you are open about things associated with some products (headaches flushes fast heartrate back pumps etc). They get worried about your health so the reasoning is usually good. Just make sure she's not the one that needs the 'conversation'. Some guys go overboard on their supplement use.
 
I'm pretty lucky in that area. My wife don't really mind as long as I use them and workout. That way they are not being bought for no reason. That would bother her more. All in all, if I'm using supplements and going the gym rather than going our drinking, she's cool..lol
 
I like a guy who takes care of himself......I do some suppliments as well, but I just dont talk about it..sometimes it's just nicer to keep that part to yourself....

TC
 
Guys he never even explained what it was his wife was saying. Is she a medical-educated person who thinks supplements may be harmful? Is she, herself, a supplement taker but does not understand the quest for mass and think all supps should only promote general well-being? Is she just an average person who does not understand? Is she one of those people who reads tabloids about "steroids" and then freaks out if anything with the word "muscle" on it is part of your regimen?

I've dated all of the above, so I know well ; )
 
Guys he never even explained what it was his wife was saying. Is she a medical-educated person who thinks supplements may be harmful? Is she, herself, a supplement taker but does not understand the quest for mass and think all supps should only promote general well-being? Is she just an average person who does not understand? Is she one of those people who reads tabloids about "steroids" and then freaks out if anything with the word "muscle" on it is part of your regimen?

I've dated all of the above, so I know well ; )


she is just the average 23 year old woman. I try to tell her that I have done my research but she just can't get past all the bad things in the media about "steroids" everything to her is so called "steroids"
 
My wife doesn't ask and I don't advertise either. She does worry about my health, but what I take, are just supplements to help my well being and preserve health, as far as she knows...
 
For me it's more of the ignorance is bliss. I don't really tell my wife what the supps are or what they do. English is a 2nd language for her and getting in depth to stuff like that just trips her up. However, I also leave out key words like steroids etc. Even though she wouldn't know what I meant if I used similar words like prohormones etc, I leave them out as well. I don't think she would really have that big of a deal with it at all, but none the less I omit those parts.

Now, if I smoke or dip, she'll give me serious $hit and drinking never turns out well between us so we have some give and takes.
 
SO you are pissed that the person that you married because you were IN LOVE with them are concerned about your well being?

I need to get out more; the world has truly changed on me.

Did you marry your wife because you thought she would agree with everything you did or did you marry her because you were in love with her?


I think, at times, we all can be quite selfish with our priorities.

Find an even medium between the both and bank on that...and quit asking damn strangers what they would do, not just you, EVEY FKING BODY ON THESE boards...with the exception of 3%, no one knows who the hell someone else is.
 
hardknock said:
SO you are pissed that the person that you married because you were IN LOVE with them are concerned about your well being?

I need to get out more; the world has truly changed on me.

Did you marry your wife because you thought she would agree with everything you did or did you marry her because you were in love with her?


I think, at times, we all can be quite selfish with our priorities.

Find an even medium between the both and bank on that...and quit asking damn strangers what they would do, not just you, EVEY FKING BODY ON THESE boards...with the exception of 3%, no one knows who the hell someone else is.
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SO why not stfu and stop giving YOUR opinion to damn strangers on what they should do?! She doesn't want whats best for him anyway if she refuses to acknowledge his knowledge or research for herself to make sure what he is doing is healthy. Shes just squawking for the sake of it, if she was actually concerned she would research what he is taking and show him what she had learned if it was negative.
 
CCV3 said:
Not married but my girlfriend says I have fake muscles...
I just ignore it and continue on.
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Well I am not married any longer. I do what I want but girlfriend wanna be is using 'borrowed' conclusions and has never worked thru the facts herself. She made the natural remark when I said I was supplementing with HRT and she was thrilled with how I looked but I said 'hey we have a different definition of natural this is exactly how I looked at 25 buff and working out'. Low test at 46 is not my natural state and I am supplementing to get back to it.
 
Blacktail said:
SO why not stfu and stop giving YOUR opinion to damn strangers on what they should do?! She doesn't want whats best for him anyway if she refuses to acknowledge his knowledge or research for herself to make sure what he is doing is healthy. Shes just squawking for the sake of it, if she was actually concerned she would research what he is taking and show him what she had learned if it was negative.
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Bytchhh, shut the hell up...are you his wife? Obviously if you are not his wife then how do you know what she is doing or why?

Unless you know this guy str8 up, you or I neither know wtf she is doing...

I never said sh!t about not giving your opinion, I said quit asking strangers for their opinion on these particular subject matters. If you are asking someone the effectiveness of Cissus, that's one thing or if you see a guy post up 1,000 bucks worth of illegal pros, and saying, hey, man, you might want to reconsider posting that pic due to legal reasons is all one side but asking for advice on family matters is something totally different...
 
Whenever I want to buy a new supp, I take my wife to the mall and let her buy something that costs around the same amount as my supp. Then I tell her what I am gonna buy and how much it is. She doesn't say **** cuz I just got her something she wanted. Works everytime.
 
If your spending money on your hobby after you've covered all your bills, what is there to complain about? Fortunately, my wife is pretty understanding because she nows how serious about it I am. I was lifting before we got married, have been lifting while we've been married and....

QUOTE=Derek4Real;2273422]Does anyone out there have any advice for a guy whos wife likes to try and lecture and "share" her opinion to much about my supplementing. Everytime I even mention trying something new I get the evil eye and hear about it for hours. I try telling her that this is my hobby and passion and if I can get stuff to help my performance I want it. Anyone have any advice?[/QUOTE]
 
I think you need to find out what the real issue is. Sit down and have a conversation when neither one of you are pissed about something and are in a good mood. If you are spending money on supps but are behind on bills and taking care of your business, then she has a right to be upset. If you are accusatory towards her, she will get defensive and pissed and you won't get to the bottom of her issue.
 
my wife complains as well but has 900 pairs of purple stiletto pumps in the closet..if i got a shipment coming in i usually grab her a nice pair of heels or something a day or 2 b4 they arrive and she leaves me alone
 
hardknock said:
Bytchhh, shut the hell up...are you his wife? Obviously if you are not his wife then how do you know what she is doing or why?

Unless you know this guy str8 up, you or I neither know wtf she is doing...

I never said sh!t about not giving your opinion, I said quit asking strangers for their opinion on these particular subject matters. If you are asking someone the effectiveness of Cissus, that's one thing or if you see a guy post up 1,000 bucks worth of illegal pros, and saying, hey, man, you might want to reconsider posting that pic due to legal reasons is all one side but asking for advice on family matters is something totally different...
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I know what she is doing because I READ his posts dumbass.He also EXPLAINED how she is acting. I am also married and have been with more women than you have jacked off to looking at porn. I know how they operate. If you don't like a guy asking for help then why troll here being a douche, and commenting on it? STFU! No one cares about your useless opinions. Sometimes people just need a sounding board for their own ideas. This is in general chat where it should be, for these "particular matters", If you want to read only about juice,pills and supps stay in THOSE sections and shut your fool mouth biznatch.
 
I know what she is doing because I READ his posts dumbass.He also EXPLAINED how she is acting. I am also married and have been with more women than you have jacked off to looking at porn. I know how they operate. If you don't like a guy asking for help then why troll here being a douche, and commenting on it? STFU! No one cares about your useless opinions. Sometimes people just need a sounding board for their own ideas. This is in general chat where it should be, for these "particular matters", If you want to read only about juice,pills and supps stay in THOSE sections and shut your fool mouth biznatch.


Amen to that brother
 
You could always try bringing her to the gym and hoping she develops a passion for it. Then you can share supps!
 
Yeah my wife is probally the worse when it comes to this, I never show her any of my supps or bring it up to her. She goes off of what the media has to say, plus she has a phobia about taking pills and meds any way. If I drink to much Nyquil im a bonafied junky in her eyes. I realy dont care its been a on going thing for years so I just keep it to my self and never talk about how much money you supps cost, that will make it a whole lot worse.
 
In all seriousness, Yes my wife use to give me alot of **** about working out and supplementing. I explained to her:

"Hey, I don't drink, I don't gamble, I don't hang out with my friends all day and all night, I don't cheat and I don't use drugs. The only thing I do for myself is go to the gym."

Once she saw for herself how much more easy going and relaxed I was after a good workout she stopped giving me **** about my supplements. Occassionaly she will still express her concern but Once or twice a year I'll go to the doctor and get a check up and prove to her that Im healthy as a horse.
 
Hey as far as I'm concerned if you act like you've got something to be guilty about then that's the only time you'll get your ear chewed off about it.

I've never been with anyone who's had a problem with me lifting or going to the gym or the supplementation that goes with but to be completely honest if I was to find myself in that situation I think I'd probably look at her like she was crazy, I mean it's protein not meth ffs. If it kept on I'd probably just break up with her, I mean there are more than enough things in life to get you down without someone trying to turn something that makes you happy into something negative or sordid.

Ultimately I think some good advice has been given in here in terms of sharing your passion with her and potentially bringing her along to the gym, but if she's not into it she's not into it, so stop talking about it and get on with it and she'll probably leave you alone.

If it's that big of a deal though why did you marry the girl in the first place?
 
Vance said:
If it's that big of a deal though why did you marry the girl in the first place?
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Spoken like an unmarried man haha. I'll give you some tips in case you ever want to take the plunge. Women are not all sunshine and lollipops after marriage. The first 5 (1-2 being the absolute hardest) years being the toughest and decreasing as the numbers go up as long as you both are working at it. You both will have an idea of how the marriage should work and will struggle against each other until you come to a happy medium. eg; Why do you leave the dishes on the coffee table instead of putting them in the sink?! ,why do leave your underwear on the floor?! , wtf isn't there any gas in the car?! wheres my keys, i left them right here, YOU obviously moved them!.
Once the Alpha has been tested and proven the Alpha, there is no more fighting. You do have to be sensitive to her needs and not be a jackass but you need to show who is in control....unless she is the leader and you are not the Alpha, you do not want to be the man, wear the pants or deal with anything hard. Marriage is tough. Having a happy marriage takes hard work. There is NO such thing as happily ever after......and Santa Claus is dead.
 
My wife trusts that I know what I'm doing. She has worried and asked me sometimes what I take. I start explaining and she gets bored. She's learned to not ask. haha.
 
Flaw said:
My wife trusts that I know what I'm doing. She has worried and asked me sometimes what I take. I start explaining and she gets bored. She's learned to not ask. haha.
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That's where my wife and I are. Plus, she likes the results of my hardwork and supplementation.

Blacktail said:
Spoken like an unmarried man haha. I'll give you some tips in case you ever want to take the plunge. Women are not all sunshine and lollipops after marriage. The first 5 (1-2 being the absolute hardest) years being the toughest and decreasing as the numbers go up as long as you both are working at it. You both will have an idea of how the marriage should work and will struggle against each other until you come to a happy medium. eg; Why do you leave the dishes on the coffee table instead of putting them in the sink?! ,why do leave your underwear on the floor?! , wtf isn't there any gas in the car?! wheres my keys, i left them right here, YOU obviously moved them!.
Once the Alpha has been tested and proven the Alpha, there is no more fighting. You do have to be sensitive to her needs and not be a jackass but you need to show who is in control....unless she is the leader and you are not the Alpha, you do not want to be the man, wear the pants or deal with anything hard. Marriage is tough. Having a happy marriage takes hard work. There is NO such thing as happily ever after......and Santa Claus is dead.
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Best post, yet.
 
Blacktail said:
Spoken like an unmarried man haha. I'll give you some tips in case you ever want to take the plunge. Women are not all sunshine and lollipops after marriage. The first 5 (1-2 being the absolute hardest) years being the toughest and decreasing as the numbers go up as long as you both are working at it. You both will have an idea of how the marriage should work and will struggle against each other until you come to a happy medium. eg; Why do you leave the dishes on the coffee table instead of putting them in the sink?! ,why do leave your underwear on the floor?! , wtf isn't there any gas in the car?! wheres my keys, i left them right here, YOU obviously moved them!.
Once the Alpha has been tested and proven the Alpha, there is no more fighting. You do have to be sensitive to her needs and not be a jackass but you need to show who is in control....unless she is the leader and you are not the Alpha, you do not want to be the man, wear the pants or deal with anything hard. Marriage is tough. Having a happy marriage takes hard work. There is NO such thing as happily ever after......and Santa Claus is dead.
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Great post! To the alpha males in the room, I would like to add something. I made a decision before I went into marriage. That no women would EVER disrespect me again and I am a man and I deserved to be treated like one. That doesn't mean I treat her disrespectfully or make her feel like she's worthless or good for nothing it just means that she knows I am the head of the house. The key is STICK to your guns. Do not give in. You can't give into the tears and the whinning. If you know your right (reasonably) then there is no compromise. The man that says "it's just not worth the fight" wears the "panties" in the relationship. My wife is very happy, can't keep her hands of me and we have a great relationship because she knows her role and I know mine. The problem in today's world is women don't know their role and neither do a lot of men. Men act like women and women are trying to act like men. Am I going to say that I have a fairy tale marriage? NO way, no one has one. There is no such thing as you mentioned. Fairy tales are just that. Hardwork leads to success and it's a constant work. There is no room to be lazy in a marriage. If you can't handle hard work don't get married.
 
Wives and people in general do not like what they do not understand. My wife accepts my supplement obsession, but generally because she knows I have a science background and I research most everything.
 
I receive few questions (grief) from the wife about supps. My mother in law mentions steriods everytime she sees a bottle of anything (vitamin and green tea extract included), eat a family meal, or sit down for more than 3 seconds. My response is always do you want me to gain back the 30 pounds of fat and die sonner since her daughter is over 10 years my junior? The comments have slowed but still occur at random intervals. Generally the comments occur after someone loaded up on prescription head meds, cocaine, AAS, and the rest of the kitchen sink dies or kills people...
 
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