Married men, what kind of wedding ring did you buy ?

ReaperX

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I was listening to the radio this morning, and they usually have a topic that they talk about.

There was a woman who was 26 who called in that recently got engaged (3 weeks ago). The guy bought her a white gold ring with a 1 caret diamond.


She was calling in to the radio b/c she was upset and she wanted a 4 caret diamond in platinum, not white gold.


So because of this, she hasen't told anyone (friends/family) that she was proposed to by this guy, b/c inevitably they will ask to see the ring which in her words, she is incredibly embarassed about.

She only wears the ring around him, but really hates it and says she has 'high' standards and shouldn't settle for a ring that she dosen't want.

One of her solutions was to "accidently" lose it.



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I had a custom designed engagement ring and matching wedding band made by a very well known jeweler. The engagement ring (and band) are made of white gold with very detailed/complex engraving throughout... they have that "estate" look to them and look older than they really are. The center stone on the engagement band is elevated and is a 0.50 carat, ideal cut, D colored internally flawless princess cut diamond. On each side are step cut (rectangular) bagettes totalling about 0.4 carats. The wedding band is the same band as the engagement ring although the elevated portion holding the center stone was removed and instead a larger 0.25 carat bagette was added in between the two side bagettes so it is basically 3 bagettes going across the ring. The engravings are all the same as on the engagement ring.

My wife was blown away and absolutely loved it. I know her tastes. I could have gotten her some tacty 2 ring (that looks like everyone elses) for what I spent but I opted for the custom design. It is a 1 of 1 and I have the molds for the ring so it can never be made again, unless she loses it than I can have it rebuilt. Whats funny is her friends that are engaged like it better than theirs.

That situation you described above has some fine lines. I can understand a woman being unsatisfied if her husband makes 100k a year and only spends 4k on an engagement ring. It shows that the person is cheap, obviously, but it also shows that you the guy is not willing to make a sacrifice for his supposed love. Now, If a guy makes 36k a year and spends 4k on a ring this shows one hell of a sacrifice. Lots of time saving and possibly some debt to show how important the woman is to him. Thats how I see it. Either way the ring is just a symbol of ones love for another. I think even if a woman gets a "crappy" ring she should focus more on the message it carries with it, not its value. When I bought my wifes ring I definitely could not afford it but I sacrificed by saving and skipping spending money on things I like (supplements! lol)
 
Usf97j4x4 said:
I had a custom designed engagement ring and matching wedding band made by a very well known jeweler. The engagement ring (and band) are made of white gold with very detailed/complex engraving throughout... they have that "estate" look to them and look older than they really are. The center stone on the engagement band is elevated and is a 0.50 carat, ideal cut, D colored internally flawless princess cut diamond. On each side are step cut (rectangular) bagettes totalling about 0.4 carats. The wedding band is the same band as the engagement ring although the elevated portion holding the center stone was removed and instead a larger 0.25 carat bagette was added in between the two side bagettes so it is basically 3 bagettes going across the ring. The engravings are all the same as on the engagement ring.

My wife was blown away and absolutely loved it. I know her tastes. I could have gotten her some tacty 2 ring (that looks like everyone elses) for what I spent but I opted for the custom design. It is a 1 of 1 and I have the molds for the ring so it can never be made again, unless she loses it than I can have it rebuilt. Whats funny is her friends that are engaged like it better than theirs.

That situation you described above has some fine lines. I can understand a woman being unsatisfied if her husband makes 100k a year and only spends 4k on an engagement ring. It shows that the person is cheap, obviously, but it also shows that you the guy is not willing to make a sacrifice for his supposed love. Now, If a guy makes 36k a year and spends 4k on a ring this shows one hell of a sacrifice. Lots of time saving and possibly some debt to show how important the woman is to him. Thats how I see it. Either way the ring is just a symbol of ones love for another. I think even if a woman gets a "crappy" ring she should focus more on the message it carries with it, not its value. When I bought my wifes ring I definitely could not afford it but I sacrificed by saving and skipping spending money on things I like (supplements! lol)
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can you post a pic of the ring ?
 
ReaperX said:
can you post a pic of the ring ?
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I am at work so I might have the engagement ring pic but I dont have one of the wedding band. I actually had the band made later using the original molds of the engagement ring. Let me see what I have.
 
ReaperX said:
I was listening to the radio this morning, and they usually have a topic that they talk about.

There was a woman who was 26 who called in that recently got engaged (3 weeks ago). The guy bought her a white gold ring with a 1 caret diamond.

She was calling in to the radio b/c she was upset and she wanted a 4 caret diamond in platinum, not white gold.
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too bad the guy doesnt know about this... prob about a 99% of this marriage ending in failure.
this chick sounds like she should be lucky to even get a ring.

one song comes to mind:
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ReaperX said:
can you post a pic of the ring ?
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It's a bit hard to see the engravings but all sides and the tops are custom engraved. Its a cool design too, hard to tell though. LOL my wife is not really old and wrinkly, that pic was taken outside with a 10.0 megapixel SLR camera. A bit detailed. The engagement band is the same band except the elevated center stone is replaced with a big bagette thats no longer elevated and is inline with the bagettes. I also used some larger bagettes on the side than the ones on the engagement ring as I had room to play with to make things line up.
 

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Palo Alto Labs said:
too bad the guy doesnt know about this... prob about a 99% of this marriage ending in failure.
this chick sounds like she should be lucky to even get a ring.

one song comes to mind:
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lol, yup.


the ring she wants costs close to a car.
 
ReaperX said:
That's pretty nice. Is there some etching along the sides of the band ?
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Yea, heres one that shows it better. The side etchings were actually the hardest ones b/c they didnt come through on the mold. Took the jeweler a LOT of time.

Its actually been tweaked for alightment a couple times since I took these. Its a PITA getting custom work.
 

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lol, yup.

the ring she wants costs close to a car.
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My sister has a 4 carat flawless diamond. I have NO IDEA what that cost. Its on a solitaire setting so its like all stone, pretty ugly IMO. Anything over 1 carat is usually gawdy.
 
Being ungrateful is a major sign of doom and gloom ahead for the poor guy. She should be happy with any ring, all she seems to care about is showing off to her family/friends. I bought a diamond from a jeweler in NY and had it mounted at robin's bros. locally. It looks great and kept the costs way down. If this chic wants a 4c rock, let her fork out $ for it. Sadly, it seems more of the trailer trashy mentality for those kind of ladies to want some huge rocks, and usually they care about size more then the quality. Ok I'm done ranting :)

ReaperX said:
I was listening to the radio this morning, and they usually have a topic that they talk about.

There was a woman who was 26 who called in that recently got engaged (3 weeks ago). The guy bought her a white gold ring with a 1 caret diamond.


She was calling in to the radio b/c she was upset and she wanted a 4 caret diamond in platinum, not white gold.


So because of this, she hasen't told anyone (friends/family) that she was proposed to by this guy, b/c inevitably they will ask to see the ring which in her words, she is incredibly embarassed about.

She only wears the ring around him, but really hates it and says she has 'high' standards and shouldn't settle for a ring that she dosen't want.

One of her solutions was to "accidently" lose it.



Discuss. The phones are open.
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wow ... leave it to google ads....

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this is the ad that was at the bottom of this thread the last time i looked at it... im tired of this brainwashed mentality of needing to buy pretty things to show LOVE. A girl should be honored to be proposed to... a guy should be honored for her acceptance... we dont need to throw 3 months of salary out the window to prove it so she can brag to her mindless co-workers.

Ive often contemplated proposing with a $1 cracker-jack ring.. if she accepts... shes a keeper and ill pull out the real ring....if shes insulted..then she does not truly love me.

anyone check out the synthetic diamonds (not cubic zirconia..they are lab created diamonds)... they look 99% real and are about 5% the price. Most jewelers cannot tell the difference anyways. I also read an article where they showed a $50k diamond and a Cubic Zirconia to jewelers.. half of them couldnt pick out the real one. 'real' diamonds are just a waste
my gf wants some cut diamond thats pretty rare and expensive..she actually told me shed be happy with a synthetic one bc she knows its a waste of money especially when there are more important things to invest in at this point in our lives
 
Palo Alto Labs said:
wow ... leave it to google ads....

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this is the ad that was at the bottom of this thread the last time i looked at it... im tired of this brainwashed mentality of needing to buy pretty things to show LOVE. A girl should be honored to be proposed to... a guy should be honored for her acceptance... we dont need to throw 3 months of salary out the window to prove it so she can brag to her mindless co-workers.

Ive often contemplated proposing with a $1 cracker-jack ring.. if she accepts... shes a keeper and ill pull out the real ring....if shes insulted..then she does not truly love me.

anyone check out the synthetic diamonds (not cubic zirconia..they are lab created diamonds)... they look 99% real and are about 5% the price. Most jewelers cannot tell the difference anyways. I also read an article where they showed a $50k diamond and a Cubic Zirconia to jewelers.. half of them couldnt pick out the real one. 'real' diamonds are just a waste
my gf wants some cut diamond thats pretty rare and expensive..she actually told me shed be happy with a synthetic one bc she knows its a waste of money especially when there are more important things to invest in at this point in our lives
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Moissonite (Sp?!)

I am a geologist with a little bit of gemology and I couldn't tell the difference. My jeweler has a sample for comparison.
 
Palo Alto Labs said:
wow ... leave it to google ads....

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this is the ad that was at the bottom of this thread the last time i looked at it... im tired of this brainwashed mentality of needing to buy pretty things to show LOVE. A girl should be honored to be proposed to... a guy should be honored for her acceptance... we dont need to throw 3 months of salary out the window to prove it so she can brag to her mindless co-workers.

Ive often contemplated proposing with a $1 cracker-jack ring.. if she accepts... shes a keeper and ill pull out the real ring....if shes insulted..then she does not truly love me.

anyone check out the synthetic diamonds (not cubic zirconia..they are lab created diamonds)... they look 99% real and are about 5% the price. Most jewelers cannot tell the difference anyways. I also read an article where they showed a $50k diamond and a Cubic Zirconia to jewelers.. half of them couldnt pick out the real one. 'real' diamonds are just a waste
my gf wants some cut diamond thats pretty rare and expensive..she actually told me shed be happy with a synthetic one bc she knows its a waste of money especially when there are more important things to invest in at this point in our lives
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That's a pretty good idea actually.
 
Matt got me a very pretty ring, its half yellow gold and white gold in a swirl pattern around the diamond with some baugette diamonds on the side. Its not the size of the diamond but the thought that went into it and the feelings behind it.
 
I actually just had this discussion with some friends the other day. I think there's a lot to be looked at when deciding these things. I think the cost of the cost is low on the list compared to thought and time put into getting just the right one.
 
Our weddings band matched, but here is a clue to guys everywhere, if she is unhappy about the engagement ring, DUMP HER NOW!!! She should want to be with you and wearing a ring of tinfoil if that signified her love for you
 
Reaper329 said:
Our weddings band matched, but here is a clue to guys everywhere, if she is unhappy about the engagement ring, DUMP HER NOW!!! She should want to be with you and wearing a ring of tinfoil if that signified her love for you
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Depends... reynolds or generic tin foil? :frustrate
 
I've had this conversation with the girlfriend. Because I asked her why she felt the need to have a big ring. Her older sister, who is a selfish cow, said that it has to at least be bigger than her friends rings so she can show it off. I proceeded to turn to my girlfriend and tell her point blank, "Why not a ring pop then? It'll definitely be bigger than anyone elses AND you get to eat it too."

Why spend 15k on an engagement ring, when I could spend 5k on a very nice ring and then 10k on a fantastic honeymoon or something. All so you can show your friend a BIGGER prettier rock. Thank god she is not like her sister and told me she'd be happy with any ring I got her.
 
Gold digging wneches is all I gotta say! :frustrate

BTW my wedding band is made of stainless steel! :D
 
Palo Alto Labs said:
thats actually pretty tight.... i dont know how ill ever get used to wearing a ring... not really one for jewelry
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I felt the same way but I really like my ring now. It gets a lot of comments, it looks a lot better in person than in the picture but people are always like wow where did you find that. Its titanium so its featherweight and super durable. Just gotta wear gloves lifting b/c the bars will mar the finish.
 
Palo Alto Labs said:
thats actually pretty tight.... i dont know how ill ever get used to wearing a ring... not really one for jewelry
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my wedding ring sits in a drawer. i wore if for a few yrs but gave up. i can't even handle wearing a watch. plus my ring just got all scratched up from lifting. my wife has finally accepted the fact that i am not a jewelry guy.
 
Hank Vangut said:
my wedding ring sits in a drawer. i wore if for a few yrs but gave up. i can't even handle wearing a watch. plus my ring just got all scratched up from lifting. my wife has finally accepted the fact that i am not a jewelry guy.
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sounds like you got a good one. i wouldn't marry a woman who forced me to wear something i didn't want to wear either. in fact, i always say i'm going to marry a woman who doesn't want to bother with rings. i'll wear a necklace, but not a ring,
 
Manimalia said:
sounds like you got a good one. i wouldn't marry a woman who forced me to wear something i didn't want to wear either. in fact, i always say i'm going to marry a woman who doesn't want to bother with rings. i'll wear a necklace, but not a ring,
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yeah, she wasn't cool with it at first. actually it caused quite a bit of tension during our first two yrs of marriage when i would take my ring off. so i tried my best to wear it.
after some time she realized this was one battle that she wouldn't win. i think i love her even more now that she lets me go without it.
 
we have this for wedding bands but in all white gold

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and her original engagement band was with a 1.5ct CZ that looked real, but was replaced later with this

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$3200 for that, the stone is 1.25ct
 
I got married young, and paid about $1,700 for my wife's engagement ring. I knew the jeweler and got a good price for the stone, which is approximately 3/4's of a karat, but it is a very high quality stone with few flaws and great clarity. The engagement ring consisted of just the diamond, and the wedding ring is just some additional diamonds on another band that connects to the engagement ring.

If she would have done anything but love the ring I wouldn't have married her. I had a friend of mine who made her fiance buy her a second engagement ring (that she picked out) because the one he picked out wasn't good enough. That was fine for her, but I wouldn't have put up with that for one second.
 
Nabisco said:
I've had this conversation with the girlfriend. Because I asked her why she felt the need to have a big ring. Her older sister, who is a selfish cow, said that it has to at least be bigger than her friends rings so she can show it off.
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Ouch. So I guess it's acceptable to reply back to those girls that in order to propose in the first place, the girl needs to be skinnier than my friends' girlfriends? lol
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I'd run away from any girl that was like this woman or the radio girl. I can understand wanting a "nice" looking ring since she'll always be wearing it - but I dislike girls who will disrespect the guy if he didn't waste enough money on it or it didn't beat her gf's size.

Girls like that ruin for all the "good" girls out there who are in it for the love and not the money/bragging rights.
My ex was one of those "good" girls - so I know they're out there. :)
(I never proposed to anyone, she just made her stance on that clear...as well as she threatened a few times that she'll propose to me if I didn't do it soon, lol. And look - she's an ex - so obviously I made the right choice...).

On the flip side, a girl that says she doesn't care about the ring and just desires the proposal - well, I'd want to go above and beyond to give her the biggest and best ring I could - just because girls like that deserve it. I want to WANT to give my girl the very best I can - not feel obligated to because she'll complain about me to everyone.
 
Palo Alto Labs said:
thats actually pretty tight.... i dont know how ill ever get used to wearing a ring... not really one for jewelry
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It took me a long time dave. I'm not much of a jewelry person myself. Now i don't even notice it anymore to be honest.
 
When I was looking for a ring to buy Matt I found so many cool unconventional style bands. Some of the titanium ones were so light I doubt you would notice them after awhile.
 
ReaperX said:
I was listening to the radio this morning, and they usually have a topic that they talk about.

There was a woman who was 26 who called in that recently got engaged (3 weeks ago). The guy bought her a white gold ring with a 1 caret diamond.


She was calling in to the radio b/c she was upset and she wanted a 4 caret diamond in platinum, not white gold.


So because of this, she hasen't told anyone (friends/family) that she was proposed to by this guy, b/c inevitably they will ask to see the ring which in her words, she is incredibly embarassed about.

She only wears the ring around him, but really hates it and says she has 'high' standards and shouldn't settle for a ring that she dosen't want.

One of her solutions was to "accidently" lose it.



Discuss. The phones are open.
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if my girl was like this, i would just get her one of those 4 carat cubic zerconia rings that come with fake papers to make her think it's real.
 
My wedding band is pretty cool. It looks square on the outside, but is round in the inside with a comfort fit. I tried to post a pic but it didn't work. I'll see if i can get it up later.
 
I got my wife hers at Invalid Link Removed

They have a custom ring designer feature thats nice.

I only spent like 2k, got her a marquis cut .66 with nice clarity and other crap. Marquis cut is nice because even thought its only .66, it looks like about a carat.
 
Palo Alto Labs said:
thats actually pretty tight.... i dont know how ill ever get used to wearing a ring... not really one for jewelry
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Get a ring made of tungsten, I've had mine almost two years and not one scratch, hardest metal on earth bro... light bulb filaments are made out of it .:chick::whip:
 
Hank Vangut said:
if my girl was like this, i would just get her one of those 4 carat cubic zerconia rings that come with fake papers to make her think it's real.
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Now that I think about it:



-First use the Cracker Jack ring


-Later on, say I was just bullshltting then pull out the cubic zerconia ring
 
ReaperX said:
Now that I think about it:



-First use the Cracker Jack ring


-Later on, say I was just bullshltting then pull out the cubic zerconia ring
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well as long as you handle the insurance and the appraisal, she will never know the true value. the cheapest way to insure a ring is through a homeowners policy.. its an easy add-on

If you cant tell the difference between a real rock and a lab created one without the use of a diagnostic machine.. then whats the point in supporting Debeers?
 
you guys can use the diamond search at the top of this to find a raw stone

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my recommendation is to look for a color D or E stone, that is SI1-SI3. thats a nearly perfectly white stone that has occlusions you can see with a magnifying glass but not with the plain eye. that is WAY more visually impressive than a yellow stone (H color) that is flawless. and cheaper too :D
 
Get something between D-G color.

Get something at least VS1 and higher in terms of clarity.

Get a gold/white gold band.

The above criteria will reduce the size you can buy but overall will hold/increase their value much better.




I got a F color, WS2 clarity at 1 carat.



If you get a lower grade color and get a platinum or white gold band, its will emphasize the slight yellow tint they have.

That's why I like a higher grade diamond, take a hit on the size and go with a white gold band. Its just looks extremely clear and the light reflections are really nice.
 
haha...easy beat me to it..lol
 
Palo Alto Labs said:
well as long as you handle the insurance and the appraisal, she will never know the true value. the cheapest way to insure a ring is through a homeowners policy.. its an easy add-on

If you cant tell the difference between a real rock and a lab created one without the use of a diagnostic machine.. then whats the point in supporting Debeers?
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lol

I can tell the difference between a zirconia and a real diamond with the naked eye. However, I can't tell the difference between a real diamond and a moissonite stone, even using a loop or magscope.
 
RobInKuwait said:
I got my wife hers at Invalid Link Removed

They have a custom ring designer feature thats nice.

I only spent like 2k, got her a marquis cut .66 with nice clarity and other crap. Marquis cut is nice because even thought its only .66, it looks like about a carat.
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pretty cool site. Can u give a pic of the ring...maybe options u selected. That would be cool.
 
Also, pick the ring you want on a website, print it out and bring it to you if you buy it locally. They generally will price match it and you can actually see what you're getting. If they don't go somewhere else....these shops are dying right now and will pretty much do whatever they have to do to get a sale.
 
Soup Nazi said:
haha...easy beat me to it..lol
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my wifes (picture a page or two back) is a D that is certed as a SI3, but was laser drilled + filled so its actually a VS1 other than that. but since it was drilled it has to be listed as the SI3. absolutely eye perfect, and throws colored reflections all over the car roof when the sun hits it while her hands are on the steering wheel :)

thats another thing about the trillions too, they look way bigger because they are thin. so the 1.25 ct trillion looks bigger than a 3ct round
 
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