Obviously there are multiple reasons a guy could be getting the cold shoulder from a female, but I'd like to focus on the case in which the reason is unknown. - I'm currently stuck in the middle of this and have no idea what is going on. I've never been put in this situation before; I've definitely been given the silent treatment on other occasions, but I've always known why.
Here's a brief history:
Dated her for the last couple of months. We never really defined our relationship, and I ended things because I got sick of a few things: (1) She acts far too young. The girl is 26, but is constantly out drinking in excess with her girlfriends and their military boyfriends/husbands. I don't mind a little drinking, but she was out, on average, 3x/wk getting intoxicated. That's far too much. (2) She lacks the ability to open up in discussion. She's very shut off, something I'm not. I always like to resolve conflicts openly, discuss feelings; really get things out in the open between each other. She fails miserably at this, and I think it has something to do with one of her past relationships. Go figure; I get the baggage.
Keep in mind I broke this off tactfully. There were no harsh words between us, and I left her with a kiss. That was that.
She sent me an email and said how she wanted to remain friends. First, I explained to her my philosophy between men and women being friends (I believe it's near impossible for a male to be just friends with a female; not impossible the other way around). So, in that effect, I explained to her I was no shmuck, nor was I a doormat. She understood, and things were cool.
I waited about two weeks (this last Monday) and called her up. I asked her if she wanted to grab a nice dinner on Wednesday, and she said she would.
We both got real dressed up and went to a nice place. We had a great time chatting over dinner. We were very playful with one another. We split the tab.
We went back to my place and she had some homework she needed to work on, so I just kind of hung out with her in the living room and did some of my own.
Now, this is where it gets interesting. Occasionally I burn, and she knows this. She's told me she occasionally does as well, so I asked her this night if she wanted to after she was done with her homework and she said no, so I went out and did myself.
I came back inside and we watched a few episodes of The Office. We were together on the couch, and still rather clingy. After a few episodes, I walked her outside to her car, both of us still talking, smiling, giggling, etc. I opened her door for her, she looked up at me and said goodbye, I nodded and shut the door.
I thought, cool, I've got another female that seems to understand how I handle a non-restictive friendship with a woman; go out, enjoy each others company, acknowledge that there is a connection, and let the night play out, and when the nights over, so is the relationship until you pick it up again another night.
So, I didn't talk to her for 3 days, and then sent her a text on Saturday simply saying, "Are you working late tonight?" - I was going to offer to cook a dinner; I received no response...Later that day I saw her on Facebook chat and made a joke about something that happened Wednesday; no response.
Today, in class, I sat next to another woman friend as I always did in there and this girl gave me absolutely no eye contact nor said a word. As I was leaving class during the break I stared her down the entire way I walked towards the door and she kept her head down like a submissive little f*cking dog.
What the hell is going on here? I really don't get it. I did absolutely nothing to warrant this, and she left Wednesday with a smile on her face. :dunno:
All I can think of is she's started seeing someone else. She's one of those chicks that seems to need a guy in her life to make her feel special. Kind of pathetic, actually. - But even if this was the case, why couldn't she just say so and not make me feel like garbage?
Here's a brief history:
Dated her for the last couple of months. We never really defined our relationship, and I ended things because I got sick of a few things: (1) She acts far too young. The girl is 26, but is constantly out drinking in excess with her girlfriends and their military boyfriends/husbands. I don't mind a little drinking, but she was out, on average, 3x/wk getting intoxicated. That's far too much. (2) She lacks the ability to open up in discussion. She's very shut off, something I'm not. I always like to resolve conflicts openly, discuss feelings; really get things out in the open between each other. She fails miserably at this, and I think it has something to do with one of her past relationships. Go figure; I get the baggage.
Keep in mind I broke this off tactfully. There were no harsh words between us, and I left her with a kiss. That was that.
She sent me an email and said how she wanted to remain friends. First, I explained to her my philosophy between men and women being friends (I believe it's near impossible for a male to be just friends with a female; not impossible the other way around). So, in that effect, I explained to her I was no shmuck, nor was I a doormat. She understood, and things were cool.
I waited about two weeks (this last Monday) and called her up. I asked her if she wanted to grab a nice dinner on Wednesday, and she said she would.
We both got real dressed up and went to a nice place. We had a great time chatting over dinner. We were very playful with one another. We split the tab.
We went back to my place and she had some homework she needed to work on, so I just kind of hung out with her in the living room and did some of my own.
Now, this is where it gets interesting. Occasionally I burn, and she knows this. She's told me she occasionally does as well, so I asked her this night if she wanted to after she was done with her homework and she said no, so I went out and did myself.
I came back inside and we watched a few episodes of The Office. We were together on the couch, and still rather clingy. After a few episodes, I walked her outside to her car, both of us still talking, smiling, giggling, etc. I opened her door for her, she looked up at me and said goodbye, I nodded and shut the door.
I thought, cool, I've got another female that seems to understand how I handle a non-restictive friendship with a woman; go out, enjoy each others company, acknowledge that there is a connection, and let the night play out, and when the nights over, so is the relationship until you pick it up again another night.
So, I didn't talk to her for 3 days, and then sent her a text on Saturday simply saying, "Are you working late tonight?" - I was going to offer to cook a dinner; I received no response...Later that day I saw her on Facebook chat and made a joke about something that happened Wednesday; no response.
Today, in class, I sat next to another woman friend as I always did in there and this girl gave me absolutely no eye contact nor said a word. As I was leaving class during the break I stared her down the entire way I walked towards the door and she kept her head down like a submissive little f*cking dog.
What the hell is going on here? I really don't get it. I did absolutely nothing to warrant this, and she left Wednesday with a smile on her face. :dunno:
All I can think of is she's started seeing someone else. She's one of those chicks that seems to need a guy in her life to make her feel special. Kind of pathetic, actually. - But even if this was the case, why couldn't she just say so and not make me feel like garbage?