Another woman advice thread

kokobeware2 said:
I told her I would like to cease talking. Yeah it hurts but I need too
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yeah. people have a hard time moving on, haha. enjoy your single time :)
 
HondaV65 said:
Well see - there you go - if he cheats you destroy his life ... "he can say goodbye to me AND our son ... simple." You SAY he has a choice to leave or stay - yet this a complete illusion ... because you've attached nothing but PENALTY to what you consider to be the "wrong" choice. What you didn't say though - is that not only does he lose his son - but he's going to lose a certain amount of his paycheck that you're going to be sure the legal authorities extract for you.

What kind of "contract of love" is this kind of arrangement? Most men cheat ... and most of those men are men who love their wives.

To answer your question, without getting to much into my own relationship's details - YES ... if a woman gave me the option to cheat I'd give her the same deal.

But here's the deal ... I already have experience with this ... women would take that deal only a handful of times ... some would never cheat. Why? Because it's too much trouble for you guys to go out and find a guy to have a simple fling with. When you cheat, IF you cheat - it's almost always for emotional reasons unless there's something sadly wrong with your husband sexually, and that's just not the case in most marriages. Women have no drive to "hunt" or to "conquer" in them - men do. Once women get into a comfortable sexual relationship - they're usually fine with it for a very long time and going out to find another sexual partner seems like work to them. Women also put emotional attachment on sex - so as long as they are emotionally attached to their mate they're very unlikely to stray. I think women tend to "project" their own sexual values on men inappropriately ... i.e. ... "He slept with another woman - he must not love me anymore because I wouldn't sleep with another unless I didn't love him."

But this is not true.

But actually - would I mind if my wife DID take the deal and find someone else to sleep with? No, I wouldn't - subject to a few rules - I don't want her sleeping with my boss or any of my buddies. But beyond that - what's the problem? I've been married for almost 30 years and I was very possessive when I first got married - this is a sign of insecurity. At this point in my life - I feel perfectly comfortable that Mrs. Honda could go out and do the nasty with someone else and then come home to me. I'd want all the details too ... and I'd hope she enjoyed it. But that's not Mrs. Honda - cuz all that is a lot of "work" to her and she'd just rather stick with me for the sexual fulfillment. It's fine with me.

The beauty of women is that they have the power to tame the male. It's very unattractive and damaging to that legacy when they resort to coercive tactics just to keep a guy - this is the sad state of our current society though.
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Heck Honda I do not automatically attach emotion to sex but when I did have one lady who made sure that we had sex on a regular basis, I have no impulse to have sex anywhere else although I did find other women attractive.
It just seemed like too much trouble to do so especially when I made the committment. My disclipline kicks in and stops any 'hunting' instinct I have.

However if I have not made an exclusive agreement to be monogamous and have made sure the woman I am dating is not assuming that, let's just say I hunt them like Darwin.
 
So this is something new - I wake up at 630 cuz its deadlift day and i like to do back in the morning and I get a text from her. She says how she can't wait to see me Sunday and give me a hug. I did not respond to the text I said have a nice day. Shortly there after, she says oh sorry I meant to send you that on Sunday before you blew me off.
Last resort to keep me? I think so
 
kokobeware2 said:
So this is something new - I wake up at 630 cuz its deadlift day and i like to do back in the morning and I get a text from her. She says how she can't wait to see me Sunday and give me a hug. I did not respond to the text I said have a nice day. Shortly there after, she says oh sorry I meant to send you that on Sunday before you blew me off.
Last resort to keep me? I think so
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she's trying to make you feel guilty.. change your number, haha.
 
Seriously change your number...

She knows she ****ed up bro. She has a guilty conscience which means that "friend" of hers was a friend to her vagina. I know it feels good that she wants you back so hold onto that and change your number. Or if you have a smart phone she can be blocked texts and calls. Do yourself a favor and let yourself move on.
 
Valdez said:
Seriously change your number...

She knows she ****ed up bro. She has a guilty conscience which means that "friend" of hers was a friend to her vagina. I know it feels good that she wants you back so hold onto that and change your number. Or if you have a smart phone she can be blocked texts and calls. Do yourself a favor and let yourself move on.
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I already did :) life is going okay for a chsnge
 
mls51112 said:
so its okay if a woman cheats on YOU? I'm done with this thread, there's no getting through to anybody. I love my man and will never leave him unless he cheats, and there's no reason for him to.. if he wants a new woman, he can say goodbye to me and our son.. simple.. I'm not making him stay with me, he has a choice to leave.. just like every man. it hurts to be cheated on.. especially after you go through pregnancy and labor for a guy, for him to cheat? no. I will never accept cheating, ever.. even if its meaningless.
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Reply back to this thread in 6 years.... Having a baby young and thinking your life is perfect right now is great, but wait until your party days hit and every swinging **** shows you more attention than your current boyfriend. The same goes for him, attention from the opposite sex goes a lot further than you think. Your 19 for **** sakes, you just got out of HIGH SCHOOL. A baby doesn't change the fact you have no real world experience to base your personal theory off of. The fact that people can, and will change on a daily basis leaves your comments futile and naive.

Op, your 23 years old. Same advice for you my man.... Your doing the right thing so far. Don't back track now
 
The fact that you resort to childish name calling justifies my post 100%. You havnt grown up enough to respond.in a normal tone, but expect everyone on this board to give you.respect? Good luck with that! I might be crude and to the point with opinions, but I never attacked you in any way.
You've got over 200 posts and about half of them have been in this thread. You didn't give anyone a woman's perspective, you gave YOUR perspective. There's a difference.

If you don't like my response, skip over it and move on... I don't need to "watch it", as you put it. Have a great day
 
lmao! girls always try to pretend as if theyre daddys little angels in conversations like this
but then you get em pissed and you see who they really are
 
clayface91 said:
lmao! girls always try to pretend as if theyre daddys little angels in conversations like this
but then you get em pissed and you see who they really are
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I never said I was daddy's angel. I'm always a b*tch :)
 
Clayface and Arny... I will NOT have you talk to my wife the way you too are! Grow up! If you don't know who I am I'm sure everyone here will let you know... Show some respect! If you don't like it then move on!
 
lmfao woah! HOLY **** that was a huuuuuuuuuge ass neg!
i ddnt even know you could do that!
and it was a post where i wasnt even saying anything mean in that post,
just laughing cus her response was funny damn man you must be pissed!
 
clayface91 said:
lmfao woah! HOLY **** that was a huuuuuuuuuge ass neg!
i ddnt even know you could do that!
and it was a post where i wasnt even saying anything mean in that post,
just laughing cus her response was funny damn man you must be pissed!
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No I'm fine... I just don't need her gettin attacked by a couple dudes for no reason... Wasn't that bad of a neg... My rep WAS at 300k... I'll be gladly to give you some reps if you be cool and leave her out of this... For now I'm irritated... Comin off a heavy cycle
 
clayface91 said:
lmfao woah! HOLY **** that was a huuuuuuuuuge ass neg!
i ddnt even know you could do that!
and it was a post where i wasnt even saying anything mean in that post,
just laughing cus her response was funny damn man you must be pissed!
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you made it sound like you were laughing at me dude.. haha. we're cool. I'll rep you later when I'm not using my phone.
 
maybe it wasnt but i just joined like 3 weeks ago and that destroyed what measly little rep points i had lol
and if you thought our comments were bad lol just scroll back a couple pages

as for being rude, i am a cynical ******* and i can't help it.
makes me feel better.. :whiner:
 
Airborne42 said:
Clayface and Arny... I will NOT have you talk to my wife the way you too are! Grow up! If you don't know who I am I'm sure everyone here will let you know... Show some respect! If you don't like it then move on!
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Lol I get it, I would get mad if anyone spoke about my wife, but that statement is kind of funny bud,
 
BPjohn123 said:
Lol I get it, I would get mad if anyone spoke about my wife, but that statement is kind of funny bud,
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Which?
 
BPjohn123 said:
Lol I get it, I would get mad if anyone spoke about my wife, but that statement is kind of funny bud,
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I was thinking the SAME THING when I read that. Like airborne has AM "clout" . . . I guess 1k posts each month does make you "special"
 
p5sky said:
I was thinking the SAME THING when I read that. Like airborne has AM "clout" . . . I guess 1k posts each month does make you "special"
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I know you recoverbros have a hard on for me... It's cool I understand... I'm not gonna sit here and argue... My wife and kid are far more important to me then this... I've had a good life... Served in the military and fought in combat... Made great friends... More then most can say.. go ahead and hate idc anymore. I've made mistakes and I shall live with them and accept the consequences... I would like if you would not reply to my comments if you plan on attacking me. Thank you...
 
Airborne42 said:
I know you recoverbros have a hard on for me... It's cool I understand... I'm not gonna sit here and argue... My wife and kid are far more important to me then this... I've had a good life... Served in the military and fought in combat... Made great friends... More then most can say.. go ahead and hate idc anymore. I've made mistakes and I shall live with them and accept the consequences... I would like if you would not reply to my comments if you plan on attacking me. Thank you...
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Amen bro reps to u bud

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bean5er said:
Amen bro reps to u bud

Sent from my iPhone using Am.com
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Thank you brother! I'm just gonna mind my own business from now on and help people in need. I appreciate those who have became my friends and helped me out as I have helped many others.
 
Airborne42 said:
I know you recoverbros have a hard on for me... It's cool I understand... I'm not gonna sit here and argue... My wife and kid are far more important to me then this... I've had a good life... Served in the military and fought in combat... Made great friends... More then most can say.. go ahead and hate idc anymore. I've made mistakes and I shall live with them and accept the consequences... I would like if you would not reply to my comments if you plan on attacking me. Thank you...
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You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Airborne42 again.

Your service is respectfully appreciated.

Sorry, you just come off as if you are some AM BAD-A$$. You seem to be the person making MANY attacks like you are going to go over and beat them up, along with your wife name-dropping like you are special here.

The people I respect on this board are the ones with knowledge and experience and they share those things, not the self-proclaimed tough guy. You are a rep on a bodybuilding forum, you have many opportunities to learn here and share that knowledge. I share my knowledge and experiences here, but I am no expert so you see my posts are at 3k over 6 yrs because I do a lot of reading from those experts that I respect.

Cheers to you AB
 
I was in no way attacking you, I laughed at the way you came off saying "do you know who I am", so I told you I thought it was kinda funny. I have no beef with anyone on this forum.

Thank you also for your service.
 
how does one receive an infraction? do you have to be tattled on? I mean, reported?
 
mls51112 said:
how does one receive an infraction? do you have to be tattled on? I mean, reported?
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2 seconds away from both being removed. You both are becoming nothing but a problem here.
 
mls51112 said:
how does one receive an infraction? do you have to be tattled on? I mean, reported?
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Violating forum rules usually does it for me.
 
AB has nothing to do with it, and nobody has a problem with him.

I don't put up with disrespect or being attacked for NO reason.

and it was a simple question.. and pretty genuine.

I've been very nice to everybody on this forum.. I am partial to some people, yes. but I have never flat out been rude to anybody for no good reason like the person who called me out.

I'll unsub from this thread and keep away from confrontation :)
 
lilarny said:
The fact that you resort to childish name calling justifies my post 100%. You havnt grown up enough to respond.in a normal tone, but expect everyone on this board to give you.respect? Good luck with that! I might be crude and to the point with opinions, but I never attacked you in any way.
You've got over 200 posts and about half of them have been in this thread. You didn't give anyone a woman's perspective, you gave YOUR perspective. There's a difference.

If you don't like my response, skip over it and move on... I don't need to "watch it", as you put it. Have a great day
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I'm sorry that my perspective upset you, and when you say "if you don't like my response, skip over it," you should take your own advice.

I didn't handle it well, I can admit that.. but, please don't assume something about somebody on the internet that you don't know on a personal level.

You have a great day too :)
 
mls51112 said:
AB has nothing to do with it, and nobody has a problem with him.

I don't put up with disrespect or being attacked for NO reason.

and it was a simple question.. and pretty genuine.

I've been very nice to everybody on this forum.. I am partial to some people, yes. but I have never flat out been rude to anybody for no good reason like the person who called me out.

I'll unsub from this thread and keep away from confrontation :)
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You dont have to put up with it..thats true...but you dont have a right to go off on someone either.

You dont have the right to neg train someone either.....or make velied threats by asking around AM who you are....whatever the hell that means.

If AB is going to get all bent out of shape because he's over sensitive to guys giving you a hard time, then both of you are the problem and i suggest you take a break from this place....people are getting pretty tired of dealing with the BS.
 
Admin said:
You dont have to put up with it..thats true...but you dont have a right to go off on someone either.

You dont have the right to neg train someone either.....or make velied threats by asking around AM who you are....whatever the hell that means.

If AB is going to get all bent out of shape because he's over sensitive to guys giving you a hard time, then both of you are the problem and i suggest you take a break from this place....people are getting pretty tired of dealing with the BS.
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I didn't neg anybody. Anyways, like I said before.. done with the thread. No more confrontation from me or Airborne.. if somebody bothers me, I'll just do what everybody else does and report them so you can take care of it.

Take care and hope we don't have any more run-ins.
 
AB called for a neg train...becuase a person didnt agree with you.

If that in itself doesnt tell you that you need a break from here, nothing will.
 
Admin said:
AB called for a neg train...becuase a person didnt agree with you.

If that in itself doesnt tell you that you need a break from here, nothing will.
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gotcha :)
 
My bad guys.... I'll mind my own business or yet tske a break
 
Airborne42 said:
I know you recoverbros have a hard on for me... It's cool I understand... I'm not gonna sit here and argue... My wife and kid are far more important to me then this... I've had a good life... Served in the military and fought in combat... Made great friends... More then most can say.. go ahead and hate idc anymore. I've made mistakes and I shall live with them and accept the consequences... I would like if you would not reply to my comments if you plan on attacking me. Thank you...
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I must have missed the memo....Who are you? Nevermind, I seen you joined the board 7 months ago. That's why I don't know you. Please be respectful of the members here, including the recoverbros. This is (was) a great forum, and we would like to keep it that way. Peace
 
RickRock13 said:
I must have missed the memo....Who are you? Nevermind, I seen you joined the board 7 months ago. That's why I don't know you. Please be respectful of the members here, including the recoverbros. This is (was) a great forum, and we would like to keep it that way. Peace
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dude. it was already DONE AND OVER WITH.
 
RickRock13 said:
I must have missed the memo....Who are you? Nevermind, I seen you joined the board 7 months ago. That's why I don't know you. Please be respectful of the members here, including the recoverbros. This is (was) a great forum, and we would like to keep it that way. Peace
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??? I think you guys took of wrong....but....
Thank you Rick, glad it could be dropped
 
kokobeware2 said:
I'm looking for a little advice on this forum because I need an outside opinion on this. Im 23 and she's 25. She has a full time job and I work full time during the summer but I can't work too much during the school year because I'm goin for my masters and I need to study a lot more than I need to work. We moved in together after a year and we both ran into money problems so we decided it would be best to move back home. I've been really depressed about the whole thing because I feel as of I failed on living on my own. My girlfriend has been talking to her one friend recently and I recently got word from her that I think he is starting to develop feelings for her. Like a man, I sent him a message on Facebook very politely if I was getting the wrong impression of his talking to my girlfriend. I'm really not a jealous guy and I trust her so I didn't care to much. But he went and cried about my messaging him to my girlfriend then she pulled the you don't trust me card and we almost broke up over it. And this was only a little over a week after we moved out.

Well during our entire argument she had the courage to tell me she isn sure she feels the same way about me. She still loves me but when I couldn't afford a lot of stuff when we were living together, it definitely hindered our relationship. We are working things out slowly but now, I feel like just cuttin my losses and breaking up with her because now that she feels that way I feel like giving up and just finding someone new who is at the same point in their life as I am. I love her to death and I wanted to propose to her right when I got out of school, but now since she told me that I feel like just Breaking it off. Am I being unreasonable? I don't know what to do.
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Let me ask you this:
Would you keep a lemon car if you could afford a better one?
 
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