Another woman advice thread

kokobeware2 said:
Right. Well I wasn't thinking rationally and I wanted him to know I knew what he was up too. However maybe I did cross the line. I would never admit to her she was right though
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Yeah, it sounds like she was ready to leave anyhow
 
kokobeware2 said:
Yeah I thought she was but then she tells me today how she messed up and she still really loves me blah blah blah
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She was ready to leave, just it hurts her self esteem that you aren't struggling trying to get her back. Stay away, it's not worth it. There are already big holes punched in the fabric of trust in the relationship which will make a disaster of the least little thing going forwards. A year seems like a lot invested, but it isn't
 
EasyEJL said:
She was ready to leave, just it hurts her self esteem that you aren't struggling trying to get her back. Stay away, it's not worth it. There are already big holes punched in the fabric of trust in the relationship which will make a disaster of the least little thing going forwards. A year seems like a lot invested, but it isn't
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Thanks man. Im feeling better about all of it. I saw her yesterday and we talked and stuff about what happened. She decided to say it wast all her and it was me to let her walk all over me. But now I'm in a IDGAF mode and told her off.
 
sprintstar01 said:
Get your masters.....get swole....females will come running like Usain Bolt
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Funny that you mention it cuz now I'm gonna try going to Columbia for my NP and cross off my bucket list goal of living in NYC
 
kokobeware2 said:
I'm looking for a little advice on this forum because I need an outside opinion on this. Im 23 and she's 25. She has a full time job and I work full time during the summer but I can't work too much during the school year because I'm goin for my masters and I need to study a lot more than I need to work. We moved in together after a year and we both ran into money problems so we decided it would be best to move back home. I've been really depressed about the whole thing because I feel as of I failed on living on my own. My girlfriend has been talking to her one friend recently and I recently got word from her that I think he is starting to develop feelings for her. Like a man, I sent him a message on Facebook very politely if I was getting the wrong impression of his talking to my girlfriend. I'm really not a jealous guy and I trust her so I didn't care to much. But he went and cried about my messaging him to my girlfriend then she pulled the you don't trust me card and we almost broke up over it. And this was only a little over a week after we moved out.

Well during our entire argument she had the courage to tell me she isn sure she feels the same way about me. She still loves me but when I couldn't afford a lot of stuff when we were living together, it definitely hindered our relationship. We are working things out slowly but now, I feel like just cuttin my losses and breaking up with her because now that she feels that way I feel like giving up and just finding someone new who is at the same point in their life as I am. I love her to death and I wanted to propose to her right when I got out of school, but now since she told me that I feel like just Breaking it off. Am I being unreasonable? I don't know what to do.
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From experience...move on. You'll be happier for it in a few years.
 
kokobeware2 said:
Thanks south paw. Incase you havent read the thread, I feel a lot better. Much more peace of mind
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Good to know man. Keep your head up. We've all been there, done that and can pretty much predict where these things are headed. Keep your head in the books, workout and you'll end up getting more tail than a millionaire in a Tijuana whorehouse.
 
kokobeware2 said:
Yeah I thought she was but then she tells me today how she messed up and she still really loves me blah blah blah
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damn why do they always pull that? lol they wanna have their cake and eat it to. I dated a girl who wanted to keep a relationship with me but date other guys! i told her to leave me if that was the case, it was tough but a couple years later I met an amazing girl so it all takes time. its tough to walk away but its whats best sometimes
 
southpaw23 said:
Good to know man. Keep your head up. We've all bee there and done that and can pretty much predict where these things are headed. Keep your head in the books, workout and you'll end up getting more tail than a millionaire in a Tijuana whorehouse.
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That's what I'm hoping. I go back to class in 2 week with a new state of mind. And it's amazing as soon as you get rid of stress and drama you channel all your anger into your workouts you get better results. My workouts have been awesome lately
 
JoeySon said:
damn why do they always pull that? lol they wanna have their cake and eat it to. I dated a girl who wanted to keep a relationship with me but date other guys! i told her to leave me if that was the case, it was tough but a couple years later I met an amazing girl so it all takes time. its tough to walk away but its whats best sometimes
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It sucks. Especially since the first girl I talk too gives her number to me, talk for a bit, but then doesn't respond back. Really?
 
your 23, move on...if in time when your settled ( school is over) she is open to a relationship, than pursue..if it's meant to be it will be...good luck
 
Dude when u go back to school go to the school cafe it's so easy to meet girls there less threatening. I'd meet one a week there new and see how fast I could get her to come over ha
 
you said your relationship suffered when you ddnt have as much money
like most girls she loves money, odds are he has more of it then you

moral: don't put all your eggs in one whore-basket
 
From a woman's point of view.. you definitely did the right thing. She sounds selfish and not worth it.

Any decent girlfriend would stick by your side and support you!

My man and I only met a little over a year ago, and we have a 3 month old - so we had to figure **** out fast.. neither of us were ready.. and we're still getting on our feet and broke! haha. but I will never leave him..

And that's what adults do who generally care about one another and want to be together.. you work it out and do the best you can.. appreciate and support each other!

Good luck with the next one :) Hopefully you find someone a little more mature!
 
clayface91 said:
you said your relationship suffered when you ddnt have as much money
like most girls she loves money, odds are he has more of it then you

moral: don't put all your eggs in one whore-basket
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She isn't crazy about money. Yeah she liked to go out and do things but I always paid. So when I would always pay, she would then complain why I have no mkney
 
mls51112 said:
From a woman's point of view.. you definitely did the right thing. She sounds selfish and not worth it.

Any decent girlfriend would stick by your side and support you!

My man and I only met a little over a year ago, and we have a 3 month old - so we had to figure **** out fast.. neither of us were ready.. and we're still getting on our feet and broke! haha. but I will never leave him..

And that's what adults do who generally care about one another and want to be together.. you work it out and do the best you can.. appreciate and support each other!

Good luck with the next one :) Hopefully you find someone a little more mature!
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Well thank you for the kind words. I just think she's too far in her life and I just want to have fun right now. Not buy a house and crap. I got a lot of things I have to do before I settle down
 
kokobeware2 said:
Well thank you for the kind words. I just think she's too far in her life and I just want to have fun right now. Not buy a house and crap. I got a lot of things I have to do before I settle down
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totally understandable!
 
MidwestBeast said:
No PM-ing. This needs to be shared with all! lol

But seriously, I'd just stop talking to her, personally.
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totally. Next time she wants to talk, just let her know you've got better things to do. We all make our choices in life, and don't usually get to make the choice over again.
 
mls51112 said:
what happened? PM me if you want to.
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Well i told her how when I fought with her I would tell my buddy about it. She it all defensive and said well in gonna tell (her one guy friend) and I'm like idgaf w aren't together anymore do whatever you want. She told me to leave all this other crap.
 
kokobeware2 said:
Well i told her how when I fought with her I would tell my buddy about it. She it all defensive and said well in gonna tell (her one guy friend) and I'm like idgaf w aren't together anymore do whatever you want. She told me to leave all this other crap.
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why'd you tell her that in the first place unless you wanted to start an argument? bottom line, if she brings up another guy.. no bueno..good riddance!
 
-Chicks lie like its their job!

-all women have emotional problems. Not their fault, its harmonal.

-Chances are she's steady banging that dude and doesn't want u to mess up her back up plan!

-a Guy crys if he's realty hurt, girls cry to get what they want only!

-don't ever let a girl dictate any thing u do.

- make decision with logic, not emotion, emotions can be manipulated.

- she has half the blame for not making it work financaily.. don't be so sexist.

-Don't trust anyone, unless ur know where they are and what they are doing second by second. If u can, don't trust ur self.

Ur Young have fun, fuk independant live, chill with the parents save money, spend some out partying and banging.g random chicks. Never bang the same girl more then twice.

U have at least untill till 28-30 before u decide to settle down and live with a nut job.


Thank God, u guys are not living together now!

----never move in with a girl , unless its ur wife---
Any way u slice that's marriage!
 
^^^ then maybe you should just be gay!

not every woman is a lying, cheating, manipulative b*tch.. don't take advice from men who have obviously never had a successful relationship.

just be thankful she isn't pregnant, hahah.

like others have said. you're young, have fun. but I'm gonna add, be safe!
 
mls51112 said:
^^^ then maybe you should just be gay!

not every woman is a lying, cheating, manipulative b*tch.. don't take advice from men who have obviously never had a successful relationship
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Sorry mam; ur incorrect. In all counts here.
And I understand, by ur nature u can't truthfully answer that question.
 
murk01 said:
Sorry mam; ur incorrect.
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I'd love to argue with you but I have a baby to take care of and a wonderful man to clean and cook for.. who I don't lie to, cheat on, or manipulate :)
 
mls51112 said:
I'd love to argue with you but I have a baby to take care of and a wonderful man to clean and cook for.. who I don't lie to, cheat on, or manipulate :)
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No arguments.
I'm just trying to help a brotha out with real world advice.

Of course not all women r. But most r. Like 98%. It will benifit him more to keep his guard up.

Congrats on the child
 
murk01 said:
No arguments.
I'm just trying to help a brotha out with real world advice.

Of course not all women r. But most r. Like 98%. It will benifit him more to keep his guard up.

Congrats on the child
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And women feel the same way about men.. I know I do.

Real world advice? Sounds like biased advice to me.

I'm aware of how women can be, we're emotional because of hormones.. but we aren't made to lie and manipulate.. our genetics and instincts have unfortunately "evolved".. which is the main reason behind divorce, adultery, etc.

its society today that makes relationships so difficult to maintain.
 
I'm with u , u understand things more than most. Ur probably also a little older then the women he will be dealing with for a while.

I like what ur saying. But I think at his age and situation my advice will be more benifical
 
murk01 said:
No arguments.
I'm just trying to help a brotha out with real world advice.

Of course not all women r. But most r. Like 98%. It will benifit him more to keep his guard up.

Congrats on the child
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honestly if you flipped the sexes around, that is pretty common on most of what you said to hear a woman telling another woman about men...
 
murk01 said:
I'm with u , u understand things more than most. Ur probably also a little older then the women he will be dealing with for a while.

I like what ur saying. But I think at his age and situation my advice will be more benifical
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I'm only 19.. I'm just not retarded.
 
EasyEJL said:
honestly if you flipped the sexes around, that is pretty common on most of what you said to hear a woman telling another woman about men...
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I know , that because it's the best advice when dealing with opposite sex
 
MidwestBeast said:
Can someone please put this in their sig? I can't stop laughing.
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if you're mocking or making fun, you're making a bad move!
 
mls51112 said:
if you're mocking or making fun, you're making a bad move!
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And you just ruined it...

I thought your statement was hilarious (being genuine here; hence why I repped you for it). But now, it doesn't seem as funny.
 
well f*ck dude. I'm always being attacked, haha. I'm defensive by nature XD
 
MidwestBeast said:
And you just ruined it...

I thought your statement was hilarious (being genuine here; hence why I repped you for it). But now, it doesn't seem as funny.
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LOL...
The tone has just changed
 
How many times have I seen this before?

Guy loses girl (who really wasn't right for him anyway) ... and then guy gets all smarmy and starts questioning himself and what he might have done to keep her - or might do to get her back.

It's happened to me also. I used to date a chick who was absolutely UN-BELIEVABLE in the sack. She could read my mind. She was like one of those slave girls from the GOR novels - completely submissive and devoted to me. You've heard the term "Too Good To Be True"? Yep, that's what I was thinking about her - I figured there was a screw loose in her somewhere (in the end - I turned out to be correct). But - I couldn't let go of this incredible sex with her. Then one day my submarine went on a three month deployment - so I resolved to not write her at all. Worked like a charm - in fact, she married some other dude two weeks before I returned from that deployment.

So I got what I wanted - but as soon as I hit dry land again - the male hormones pop up and I start missing the sex. Only my mind doesn't make it look to me like it's the sex I'm missing - but other things about her. You know, like the way she smelled or smiled. In reality, it was the way she stripped off her jeans, instantly, when we were together anytime she sensed I was thinking about sex even for a milisecond. That's what I was really missing.

Woe was me!

It damn sure took awhile to get over her - and I really thought I had screwed up in not marrying her (she actually asked ME to several times - which was one of the things that made me suspect she wasn't firing on eight cylinders).

Anyway - I got over her and guess what? Well we broke up almost 30 year ago and she's a "friend" on my facebook and ... whoa ... the years haven't been kind to her. To top it off, she's been through three marriages. I really don't think it would have been a success with her and I'll love her to death for all that great sex we had but damn - I don't think I could wake up to that face of hers today!

IT WILL GET BETTER MY MAN!
 
^^ sorry to hear. military relationships have a way of being really good or really bad, mostly bad :\

great advice though! you made good points for OP. would rep you but my phone is a pain and browser is screwed up.
 
mls51112 said:
^^^ then maybe you should just be gay!

not every woman is a lying, cheating, manipulative b*tch.. don't take advice from men who have obviously never had a successful relationship.

just be thankful she isn't pregnant, hahah.

like others have said. you're young, have fun. but I'm gonna add, be safe!
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how about not be gay and just have sex? lol
and no, not every woman. just every woman I have ever met...
and im a very nice and easygoing person to people i meet, but never to those that don't deserve it tho.
almost every single woman who gives me attention is basicly because they think i look attractive, and if they want to **** me then they'll do whatever to get what they want, they'll try to lower my confidence and make me think i cant do any better, purposely ignore a call of mine here and there just to make it seem like they're hard to get or too busy for me or whatever, and they have tried playing all nice and cute like theyre some little angel, i've even had a girl try to say my dick is little when i know it's not and sex was the base of our relationship anyway but she went that far just to try to make me insecure, if they think im very sentimental they may act like they love me but after we have sex just that just disappears because they got what they WANT...

its 2012 and from WHERE I AM FROM it's all about what people WANT from you here. if you want to get a good looking girl you have to have at least one of the following; to be good looking, money, drugs, social status/popularity, and any position of power will help immensely... if you don't have one of these then it's like you're nothing to these girls, a bore, a ghost not even worth mentioning... it's sick but it's true
at least i have decent looks, work out, am smart and dont let people manipulate me because life would really suck without this.

sorry if i sound rude that was just my little rant lol
 
If the problems started when you both had money issues and needed to move back to your parents' places, then to me it sounds like she doesn't think you 're a good enough provider for her at this time and point in her life. Sorry to say mate, but she doesn't sound like someone I would want to invest any more time in.

If she sees this 'failure' that you both suffered as mostly your fault, as evidenced by her behaviour and change of feelings towards you, then count yourself lucky she's bailing on you now and not 10 years from now when you might be married and have a house and maybe even a kid together.

Unfortunately, for better or for worse, she tipped her hand about what she sees your primary purpose is to her life; the guy who will take care of her and pay the bills when she fails in life or things go south.

Just my 2 cents.
 
why don't you concentrate on a girls personality before their looks?

and BTW. what you (clayface) just explained ^^^^^ is exactly what Cosmo magazine tells us to do. but I don't follow that liberal, feminist bull****.

if you want a good girl, find an average looking girl with a kickass personality :) the level of attraction will go way up with someone you are compatible with, rather than just finding the hottest girl you can get.
 
mls51112 said:
why don't you concentrate on a girls personality before their looks?

and BTW. what you (clayface) just explained ^^^^^ is exactly what Cosmo magazine tells us to do. but I don't follow that liberal, feminist bull****.

if you want a good girl, find an average looking girl with a kickass personality :) the level of attraction will go way up with someone you are compatible with, rather than just finding the hottest girl you can get.
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MEN - PAY ATTENTION. SHE ACTUALLY KNOWS WHAT'S GOING ON HERE AND IS TELLING YOU THE TRUTH BASED ON A WOMAN'S PERSPECTIVE!!!!

Yeesh! Ya know, threads like this make me laugh. Guy meets girl, girl meets guy, train wreck ensues. It happens to everybody. Thread appears, a bunch of bro advice comes into play, and it's a trainwreck masked as a high-five festival.

Seriously, guys, when a lady comes into a thread like this, just as she has, you might want to listen. 19 is kinda young, but really I'm just kinda old! It's a rare female perspective that's offered here, and from all I've read, it seems honest and genuine.

To the dudes: Women are a dime a dozen. You only get a nickel.
To the ladies: Men are a dime a dozen. You only get a nickel.

To both: Come together and go buy a some penny candy. If you like it, work together to make more money and buy more candy. If you don't like it, go away and be broke. It's just how it is.

Edit: Just for kicks, this just went live, if anyone cares to read (and hopefully chuckle): Invalid Link Removed
 
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