I noticed a trend over the years, when I wasn’t lifting I had a shorter fuse. I need the weights as a release of aggression. Healthy body=healthy mind. But being only 5’6” people think I am just gonna roll over and throw up the white flag. At that point it comes down to the size of the fight in the dog. When Dwayne Johnson(or anyone that size) flips out, people get out of his way. When I do it, “oh look, the little guy is mad, isn’t that cute”. Lol
Facts!
Yeah, I am only 5'8 so I am imposing to some and others seem to want to test me or themselves automatically when they see me.
Yeah, I am with you on this. I actually enjoy being nice to people, and often try to look for an amicable way out of most things. One of the main reasons I stay in my current position instead of working my way up is that I enjoy helping people face to face. Most other things in IT are not people facing.
that's a tough one personally I would still drive my wife but thats just me on the other hand does she know how important this show is to you I was gonna say tell her after the show you can go back to driving her but if you're changing shifts permanently i don't know if you can do that. Om off work at 245 eveymru day (4:15 -2:45 ) and I'm here to tell you it's the best shift ever ( on top of it ring Monday through Friday)
Yeah, it would be a permanent change, or presented as one if I want to have the shift. I might be able to swap back after, but honestly once she has adjusted, I don't know that there would be a need.
Maybe you could word it like this……
Great Minds! I was planning to leave her a nice card saying something like this, thanking her with some flowers for when she wakes up the first day she has to drive in alone. I think things will be fine as long as I don't take it personally when she complains about the new situation. I mean it is totally understandable that she would think it sucks. I would think it sucks if I were her being used to being chauffeured, and also having to get up 30 minutes earlier to go to work and possibly get home 15-30 minutes later. So, I can't allow myself to take it personally and get upset when she complains about it while getting used to driving in again.
Oh yeah flowers and a card always makes my wife feel good, and then if I take her somewhere like Red Lobster then that’s bonus points right there.
Yeah, will have to figure out somewhere to take her for dinner too.Oh yeah flowers and a card always makes my wife feel good, and then if I take her somewhere like Red Lobster then that’s bonus points right there.
Good stuff here.
Tough decision! You're getting 5 hours sleep per night? If this were me, that would be the deciding factor, but my wife and I both have an understanding and agree sleep is the best for life extension, youthfulness, health, etc and why she is 2 years older then me but looks 10 years younger lol.
Those cheesy biscuits!Oh yeah flowers and a card always makes my wife feel good, and then if I take her somewhere like Red Lobster then that’s bonus points right there.
Yeah, for sure, especially when you can't really get yourself to sleep until 10:00 or later most nights.
Thanks, I have always made sure she knows she is the priority over that stuff. I chose her for life and adore her so she should not suffer me being an ass when it is avoidable. Now during prep... She already knows things can get dicey in the push, but that I will do my best and of course accept her feedback on my behavior.
Yeah, but I typically run really well on 6, it is when it is less than 5 that the fatigue starts adding up quickly.
Oh Damn! I am not a big Red Lobster person, as a matter of fact it isn't all that often we go out for seafood since the wife isn't a diehard lover of it and I just typically don't spend my money on lobster when I am getting seafood. I like it but not as much as the price likes itself. However, those biscuits have a fond spot in my heart!
Thanks Kat, it's always good to get a woman's perspective.
LMAO! The Ol' Sabotage! We have been discussing that on the board lately.Kat if you could convince my wife to not buy junk food that only I eat while I’m on a cut that would be great!!!…lol
It makes you feel good when you have a friend, that’s a woman, that gives you a woman’s perspective and confirmation that you’re taking the appropriate action, and making the right decision in how you want to accomplish something for yourself, but still make your wife feel loved, and you absolutely don’t want to upset or hurt her in the process in any way. After all as men, for the most part, we try to give good relationship advice to our brothers, but in the end we still wonder will this help. It’s like my wife and I have discussed, many times, after almost 30 years of marriage, it takes effort and understanding to learn and speak each other’s love language. It’s like the title of that book…..
Too funny…I just pictured opening the cabinet and it being filled with Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups, M&Ms, Paydays, Cookies, Jolly Ranchers (But Jolly Ranchers are ok, right)Kat if you could convince my wife to not buy junk food that only I eat while I’m on a cut that would be great!!!…lol
Agreed, finding and speaking the love language together is the key to how it all works.It makes you feel good when you have a friend, that’s a woman, that gives you a woman’s perspective and confirmation that you’re taking the appropriate action, and making the right decision in how you want to accomplish something for yourself, but still make your wife feel loved, and you absolutely don’t want to upset or hurt her in the process in any way. After all as men, for the most part, we try to give good relationship advice to our brothers, but in the end we still wonder will this help. It’s like my wife and I have discussed, many times, after almost 30 years of marriage, it takes effort and understanding to learn and speak each other’s love language. It’s like the title of that book…..
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.
Too funny…I just pictured opening the cabinet and it being filled with Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups, M&Ms, Paydays, Cookies, Jolly Ranchers (But Jolly Ranchers are ok, right)
Yes absolutely I have a suggestion, and I have done this back before my wife became so supportive of my efforts. It has been a journey to learn and navigate through these things. However, my wife used to buy things for me when I was on a diet to sabotage it and a lot of the time it was subconscious. The better I got in shape the more insecure she got, the more insecure she got the more she would bring things in to tempt me or try to talk me into a cheat meal. It finally came to a point after several discussions that I just told her. Well I have asked you not to buy these things for me several times. So, from now on, when you do, don't be upset when I throw them directly in the trash. Then I stuck to my word. After a couple times of me tossing things and just responding to her anger about it with I told you I was dieting and I would throw this stuff away if you bought it for me. I never escalated or argued about it just matter of factly responded. I just weathered the storm and she stopped. However you have to want it enough to be that assertive and willing to weather the storm because there will be a storm.
Welcome Sir!
I mean I didn’t want to say it, but I think Kleen hit it on the head, she may not want you in shape, because she doesn’t want any hot babes checking out her man.
Pedro Pan?I mean I didn’t want to say it, but I think Kleen hit it on the head, she may not want you in shape, because she doesn’t want any hot babes checking out her man.
By the way the “Peanut Butter Escobar dropped off 3 kilos of Pb crack” is hilarious.
LOL
I am a little behind, did you get your plan from your coach?
Kat if you could convince my wife to not buy junk food that only I eat while I’m on a cut that would be great!!!…lol
It makes you feel good when you have a friend, that’s a woman, that gives you a woman’s perspective and confirmation that you’re taking the appropriate action, and making the right decision in how you want to accomplish something for yourself, but still make your wife feel loved, and you absolutely don’t want to upset or hurt her in the process in any way. After all as men, for the most part, we try to give good relationship advice to our brothers, but in the end we still wonder will this help. It’s like my wife and I have discussed, many times, after almost 30 years of marriage, it takes effort and understanding to learn and speak each other’s love language. It’s like the title of that book…..
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.
Too funny…I just pictured opening the cabinet and it being filled with Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups, M&Ms, Paydays, Cookies, Jolly Ranchers (But Jolly Ranchers are ok, right)
We're almost to this point, but the purchases in our house are under the guise of "its for the kids", who are also getting a little fluffy.
We are also both “dieting” and it is harder for her to drop and she stalls way quicker than I do. Good to know I’m not alone
You guys really do have an amazing relationship! I think the way you communicate is a huge part of that!
So true! I think not acknowledging the differences and trying to approach it best for the other person is big reason for many of the biggest struggles of relationships. Coming from a woman- having your feelings simply validated is HUGE! That’s often why women have “bitch fest” lol
Like Chris said, a lot of time is unconscious. Depending on her love language, it very well could be just a way of thinking about you buying things she knows you love and not really thinking about it making things harder on you. Best thing to do is kindly remind her how hard it is for you and that you need her to hold you accountable- enforcing the restrictions you’ve set out for yourself.
No, I am getting it this weekend.
Yeah, I extremely affectionate and dote over her. I make sure she knows she is truly adored by me. However I am sure coming home and seeing things already starting to be taken care of will be a plus for her too
Thanks on the bolded and I agree. We communicate very well. I think it is the most important thing in any relationships. Communication and showing genuine appreciation for the little things often taken for granted.
You guys really do have an amazing relationship! I think the way you communicate is a huge part of that!
So true! I think not acknowledging the differences and trying to approach it best for the other person is big reason for many of the biggest struggles of relationships. Coming from a woman- having your feelings simply validated is HUGE! That’s often why women have “bitch fest” lol
Like Chris said, a lot of time is unconscious. Depending on her love language, it very well could be just a way of thinking about you buying things she knows you love and not really thinking about it making things harder on you. Best thing to do is kindly remind her how hard it is for you and that you need her to hold you accountable- enforcing the restrictions you’ve set out for yourself.
Oh don't get me on that one. LOL
No, it is typical that women lose fat less quickly than men. They have much less muscle mass to burn energy with for one part. Also you have to factor in percentages lost not pounds to compare. Here is some easy math to illustrate, a 100lb woman losing 3lb is 3% of her body fat, and a 200lb male losing 3lbs has only 1.5% So when they see the scale moving faster for us it isn't exactly that they are not burning fat at a similar rate, but you have to consider the total mass and muscle mass for that matter for how fast someone is can burn fat. Plus we have androgens helping, and lower estrogen which also helps.
I remember that log!
No, I didn't know he was having a medical issue. I don't really get on social media much. I just actually hit him back up with my sets for the week and mentioned getting my program this weekend.
Just checked him out, definitely has some killer looking athletes! Will certainly have Kleen looking insane (as if he doesn't already)
That’s what I did. Will never compete but I hired a coach for a cut just to see how to do it correctly and it’s the best I’ve ever looked. I need to financially invest to really make myself stick to the plan it seems, only way to hold me accountable. Lol
Absolutely. He also helped me learn I need structured meals (same thing everyday).
He is okay, he ended up cancelling his show. He got a nasty infection from an ingrown hair that he thought would go away but got worse instead and had to go to the ER to get them to take care of it.
Yeah, we had a little bit of a stutter start, due to a couple things out of his control but we are on the tracks and getting this engine ready for full steam ahead.
Thanks Man! Yeah, I agree his guys look good and they win a lot too!
Yeah, of course only one way to find out. I am sure if you tell him your challenges with time he will find the most efficient way for you to progress within those constraints. As you will see his program does remind me a little of our session together. I definitely would not call it low volume by any means though.
Yes Sir he sure is, his genetics are crazy, & those wide shoulders are unreal!!!
Oh yeah, that is one sure fire way to bring up the accountability.
Facts!
Yeah, the same meals day in and day out does make it easier. You can prep easier, know exactly what you are eating at all times and then you just tend not to get caught off guard without food. However it can be monotonous depending on how bland the foods are. Current diet is bland AF and just something to get the job done but it is what it is.
Yes Sir, very excited to see how this treats me. Things seem to be going well right now and once i know exactly how I am supposed to turn the heat up on this program it will truly be go time. The idea is failure based but in the respect that once you can not complete a full ROM rep you simply to partial rom to try to hit the target reps. However he has the reps set the same on the 3 sets which no way I will be able to meet those if i get to that point on the first set. So I need to know exactly how to go into this.I know you’re glad to get the ball rolling with his workout plan. Anytime you can get a massive pump that’s always a satisfying sign.
