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why dont girls come up to guys?

LionKingGod

LionKingGod

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specefically me?

Why does it always have to be the guy to make the first move?

BS, I dont like it. Thats not me

Today, at the mall, 3 ladies, starring at me, smilling. I Refuse to go up to them. They should come up to me and ask me out, and buy me stuff , and drive me HOME! lol


buddha said, you have to be change

I am the change I guess, Hophely the world changes too.


That my rant.
 
It's the best thing in the world when girls come up to me. They can be half ugly and I'll still dance with them. Confidence is awesome.
 
your right, but everywhere I go, girls smile at me and stuff. and I cant make the first move any more, I mean, I have to go and get their number or whatever, and stuff, Im tired of it. If a girl wants me she should come after me is the way I see it now.
 
that's true confidence is awsome, but in reality its only the alcohol that makes them come up to you in a club. it's in our gene's my friend, there isn't many animals that i know of where the female finds the man, except birds of course. and it'll take many, many generations until we develop beyond those genetics that we've inherited from the apes and monkeys alike. besides a chick that comes up to you can occasionally want to put you on a leash and strut you around like a puppy because they are abit to over confident like they just know they the sh*t or just a general co*k whore. :lol:
 
That's easy, and there's a reason only unattractive girls will approach men. Attractive girls are inundated with offers all the time, if you've dated one you'll notice every guy she meets is falling all over themselves to hang out with her even if she's stupid/boring. They are so used to it they don't even notice that it's not normal.

Unattractive girls, nobody's going to hit on a fatty even if she's otherwise pretty cool so they learn to go out and make the effort. I haven't a clue why they don't make the effort to you know, not be fat, but that's why they will come up to you.
 
When a girl smiles at you, this means she usually waits for you to go talk to her.

Why not just go talk to her?

The less you care, the better IMO. From my experience, the ones I wanted most flew away just because I was proceeding too fast.

But all this to say, go talk to her. Give HER your number, and walk away. The most importsnt part: Don't think about it anymore. You'll get so many calls you'll be sick of it. lol.
 
Good advice jjohn. If you try too hard you'll push them away. Your exactly right. The girls I didnt give a care about getting with were the ones who fell for me. But the girls I crushed on weren't interested after a while cuz I tried too hard.

Girls like a chase. You might as well give it to them. Let them know your interested, but not TOO interested. And never ever drop your guard!

To the OP: Girls are timid by nature. That's why lazy men are usually single.
 
Women want to be pursued. Well, most women do.
Truthfully, if my wife didn't approach me, who knows what would be now. I didn't think I had a chance in the world. But, it all worked out.

On a side note:
Hey, go to a strip club - you'll be approached by a lot of women... just make sure to have a handful of dollar bills. ;)
 
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RenegadeRows said:
Good advice jjohn. If you try too hard you'll push them away. Your exactly right. The girls I didnt give a care about getting with were the ones who fell for me. But the girls I crushed on weren't interested after a while cuz I tried too hard.

Girls like a chase. You might as well give it to them. Let them know your interested, but not TOO interested. And never ever drop your guard!

To the OP: Girls are timid by nature. That's why lazy men are usually single.
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Exactly :)

I'm pissed off because I met a girl at school, and I got a "sorry I'm sick, I'll call you tomorrow" kinda relpy. It's been 3 days since that. LOL.

That all means "Don't call me".. Weird, but true. The hard part is not to call her under any circumstances. It's like they have to process the information, and they call you when they realize you're a good guy.

To sum it up, it's fairly easy. It's like fishing. Put the line on the water, and as soon as you get a little bite, pull the rope a little, then let it stay there until she bites back. Once the bite is solid, now it the time to claim your prize :P
 
LionKingGod said:
specefically me?

Why does it always have to be the guy to make the first move?

BS, I dont like it. Thats not me

Today, at the mall, 3 ladies, starring at me, smilling. I Refuse to go up to them. They should come up to me and ask me out, and buy me stuff , and drive me HOME! lol


buddha said, you have to be change

I am the change I guess, Hophely the world changes too.


That my rant.
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have fun not getting any pussy

stop being such a pansy take the pussy off the pedistal and realize your not gods gift to women

women dont care what you bench is they dont care what you squat or dead lift. being part of the super l33t gym crew isnt going to get you laid. secret to getting vagina is simply stop being such a pansy and go talk to them. show a little confidence faggot girls like that much more then a giant back or quads.

i dont understand you guys still havent figured out how *****es work. simply put if your in college and you cant lay the pipe turn your ****ing man card and
 
Iron Lungz said:
Women want to be perused. Well, most women do.
Truthfully, if my wife didn't approach me, who knows what would be now. I didn't think I had a chance in the world. But, it all worked out.
Hey, go to a strip club - you'll be approached by a lot of women... just make sure to have a handful of dollar bills. ;)
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Wait! So, you're telling me the only reason strippers come talk to me is because they want my money??? LOL
 
jjohn said:
Exactly :)

I'm pissed off because I met a girl at school, and I got a "sorry I'm sick, I'll call you tomorrow" kinda relpy. It's been 3 days since that. LOL.

That all means "Don't call me".. Weird, but true. The hard part is not to call her under any circumstances. It's like they have to process the information, and they call you when they realize you're a good guy.

To sum it up, it's fairly easy. It's like fishing. Put the line on the water, and as soon as you get a little bite, pull the rope a little, then let it stay there until she bites back. Once the bite is solid, now it the time to claim your prize :P
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Really good analogy!
 
dommer said:
have fun not getting any pussy

stop being such a pansy take the pussy off the pedistal and realize your not gods gift to women

women dont care what you bench is they dont care what you squat or dead lift. being part of the super l33t gym crew isnt going to get you laid. secret to getting vagina is simply stop being such a pansy and go talk to them. show a little confidence faggot girls like that much more then a giant back or quads.

i dont understand you guys still havent figured out how *****es work. simply put if your in college and you cant lay the pipe turn your ****ing man card and
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You have a way with words man. But your right. Any skinny guy who is confident and funny is going to get more chicks then an awkward guy whos built. Sad but true
 
bigpoppapump2 said:
Wait! So, you're telling me the only reason strippers come talk to me is because they want my money??? LOL
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No sir, they're genuinely interested in your lifting program. :icon_lol:
 
Girls do come up to dudes. It's just not like how dudes usually do it. We're more direct and in-your-face, while women tend to be more subtle. If you find yourself standing by a bar or something and this girl and her friend start gravitating towards you, well that's how they do it. Then they'll be standing very close to you, checking you out. That's why it's nice to have a good wingman; someone who can spot the ladies eyeing you up. ;)

But anways, enough of that sh!t. OP, if girls REALLY are quivvering at the knees for you, just man up and go talk to them. That's what balls are for.

What you're describing is sort of like a guy who applies to all these $150k+ jobs and he gets offers ALL the time. WHOOFTA....sooo tiring for him! He b!tches about why he has to apply to the jobs...they should come knocking at his door. Fine, sit and wait....see what happens.
 
jjohn said:
Exactly :)

I'm pissed off because I met a girl at school, and I got a "sorry I'm sick, I'll call you tomorrow" kinda relpy. It's been 3 days since that. LOL.

That all means "Don't call me".. Weird, but true. The hard part is not to call her under any circumstances. It's like they have to process the information, and they call you when they realize you're a good guy.

To sum it up, it's fairly easy. It's like fishing. Put the line on the water, and as soon as you get a little bite, pull the rope a little, then let it stay there until she bites back. Once the bite is solid, now it the time to claim your prize :P
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grow a ****ing sack [edit]i take it your in high school or college you should be able to pull vag even if you were a over weight ****ing cripple that smelled like hard boiled eggs try this next time you go out

1) buy a shirt with sleeves or a shirt that isnt skin tight
2) dont load up on the cologne
3) get ****ing plastered drunk
4) find the group of hot girls and then go up to them and dont pay them any attention and start talking to their fat friend (every group of hot girls has a fatty ugly friend that makes them look better)
5)rail the fatty latter that night (this is why you got plastered)
6)repeat the next night but upgrade to a ugly skinny *****, then a mildly decent looking girl and after a few months go for a good looking girl

RenegadeRows said:
You have a way with words man. But your right. Any skinny guy who is confident and funny is going to get more chicks then an awkward guy whos built. Sad but true
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i have a unique way of delivering my stop being such a pussy message

turth ill be willing to bet that i move less weight and have a higher bf% then most of you (ill find a ab one day) but before i got all gf'ed up i could pull vagina on the regular and that was way before i ever started working out

hell i got in one stupid ****s pants just purely by not giving a **** and guess how i initiated the convo i threw a chicken finger at her on a bet from a friend

ahhhh the good old days


moral of the story thread starter: dont think because you big man in the gym that it matters to girls they would rather you just take you skirt of clean the sand out of your vagina and go talk to them and guess what you have to deal with it if you want to take a shot at diddling their balloon knot other wise your not getting any play

Jay Edit: watch the personal insults
 
lennoxchi said:
walk up ask her if she has a pen (most do) ask her for her hand, and write your number and name on it.:lol:
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you got a better chance of her calling you if you walked up and asked her if you could tea bag her and then preceded to mushroom stamp her on the forehead
 
dpfisher said:
That's easy, and there's a reason only unattractive girls will approach men. Attractive girls are inundated with offers all the time, if you've dated one you'll notice every guy she meets is falling all over themselves to hang out with her even if she's stupid/boring. They are so used to it they don't even notice that it's not normal.

Unattractive girls, nobody's going to hit on a fatty even if she's otherwise pretty cool so they learn to go out and make the effort. I haven't a clue why they don't make the effort to you know, not be fat, but that's why they will come up to you.
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I agree, good looking women have dudes lined up around the block. There arent going to stick their necks out and chance it with the guy who doesnt approach when they're busy fending off the rest. Of course that has its problems as well...the real winner that she may really want might not want to stand in line behind the rest of the losers waiting for his turn. Hot women have to at least learn how to send out the vibe to *the one* to show shes available TO HIM.
Unattractive people do learn to use what they have really well at a young age. Hence why you see so many mismatched couples...hot women and average men, and vice versa. Aggressive women are great for shy/laid back guys as they do all the work..but this "role reversal" has its drawbacks because these women want to continue to wear the pants and be the boss throughout the entire relationship.
A good balance is an assertive woman with a decent personality who meets the right guy half way, doesnt flirt with every other guy or play head games. (yeah right, good luck finding her!)
 
Doomer - I'm not sure why you feel the need to call people names, etc, but you can take that somewhere else.
If you have nothing to add that is of constructive criticism, leave.
 
Iron Lungz said:
Doomer - I'm not sure why you feel the need to call people names, etc, but you can take that somewhere else.
If you have nothing to add that is of constructive criticism, leave.
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gets the point across if you dont like it dont read it cry to someone else

feel free to neg again rep doesn't mean **** anyways
 
dommer said:
grow a ****ing sack faggot i take it your in high school or college you should be able to pull vag even if you were a over weight ****ing cripple that smelled like hard boiled eggs try this next time you go out

1) buy a shirt with sleeves or a shirt that isnt skin tight
2) dont load up on the cologne
3) get ****ing plastered drunk
4) find the group of hot girls and then go up to them and dont pay them any attention and start talking to their fat friend (every group of hot girls has a fatty ugly friend that makes them look better)
5)rail the fatty latter that night (this is why you got plastered)
6)repeat the next night but upgrade to a ugly skinny *****, then a mildly decent looking girl and after a few months go for a good looking girl


i have a unique way of delivering my stop being such a pussy message

turth ill be willing to bet that i move less weight and have a higher bf% then most of you (ill find a ab one day) but before i got all gf'ed up i could pull vagina on the regular and that was way before i ever started working out

hell i got in one stupid ****s pants just purely by not giving a **** and guess how i initiated the convo i threw a chicken finger at her on a bet from a friend

ahhhh the good old days


moral of the story thread starter: dont think because you big man in the gym that it matters to girls they would rather you just take you skirt of clean the sand out of your vagina and go talk to them and guess what you have to deal with it if you want to take a shot at diddling their balloon knot other wise your not getting any play
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Ray Sausage? i thought you were dead. welcome back!!!!!
 
lennoxchi said:
Ray Sausage? i thought you were dead. welcome back!!!!!
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:nono: you got the wrong person here buddy

btw im not from bb.com so stop putting that in neg reps just neg and atleast try to get creative with the comment im shooting for 3 red bars by the end of my work day so tell your friends its fun for everyone

you guys take your interweb very serious over here christ your a touchy bunch of tolls arent you
 
Iron Lungz said:
On a side note:
Hey, go to a strip club - you'll be approached by a lot of women... just make sure to have a handful of dollar bills. ;)
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LMAO, It's all about the money.If you throw them enough, they may think you are a sugar daddy:lol:
 
If they aren't giving, take.

They like to feel taken I've found. One girl said it makes her feel more 'like a woman' when a guy just takes charge of ****.
 
dommer said:
which translates directly to stop being such a pussy
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EXACTLY!

Men and women have roles that get played out due to genetics.

**** I"m sounding like Smeton now.

Anyway, guys for the most part are driven by hunger, sex, sleep, aggression; except for those driven by skinny-no-whip mocha frappacinos, découpage, pink AF shirts, and spray on tans.

If a woman wants to get with a woman, she'll get with a real live woman, not a ladyboy.
 
LionKingGod said:
specefically me?

Why does it always have to be the guy to make the first move?

BS, I dont like it. Thats not me

Today, at the mall, 3 ladies, starring at me, smilling. I Refuse to go up to them. They should come up to me and ask me out, and buy me stuff , and drive me HOME! lol


buddha said, you have to be change

I am the change I guess, Hophely the world changes too.


That my rant.
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Like someone said before, women like to be pursued. Men were made to be more aggressive, go-get-em type. And that is what most women like to see. It is a sign of masculinity to most of us girls. When you start off by asking us out, from the get-go you are showing that you are a confident, aggressive hunter out to catch a girl. :) You also prove your manliness by doing so. Funny analogy, and a bit exaggerated, but true.
 
LionKingGod said:
specefically me?

Why does it always have to be the guy to make the first move?

BS, I dont like it. Thats not me

Today, at the mall, 3 ladies, starring at me, smilling. I Refuse to go up to them. They should come up to me and ask me out, and buy me stuff , and drive me HOME! lol


buddha said, you have to be change

I am the change I guess, Hophely the world changes too.


That my rant.
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Go ahead and change my man...if something has been working for you, why would you change now just because you are tired of what, success?

Either you have been failing terribly, or your just on a drunken rant because NO MAN, that is non-homosexual, and who has been having great success at getting women is going to CHANGE and start ignoring women just because the opposite has become stagnate or boring...


Would Bill Gates start manufacturing Pc's? heeellllll no!!

You use what's been working for you, to get what's coming to you. It's not the other way around.
 
dommed, I amm not a faggot, I am strait and I always will be strait, that is the truth by the true god, and that truth can not change, ever 9
thanks for the advice though

I think it comes down to this

Confidence, I guess I need more confidence, and I Need to t NOT care what anyone thinks about me. I used to be like that at one point.
Actually the only women that have come up to be are, not as attractive as I like

or they are attractive but are 36-45 year old single moms(who know what they are doing!)

the rest, you are right, more subtle, small smirk, stare smile, body language, hair twirls ect, they never will come up to me, no matter how Good Looking I am. I do know any girl would be lucky to be with me, just looking for a girl who id be lucky to be with as well.


perhaps, when I see a woman that I AM just so attracted it will just happen, I will never settle for anything but the best!



anyway, thanks

Cougarlicious!
hahaha
 
oh and I Only weight lift and Train, for MYSELF, only for myself, no one else. I do it For the Love of Myself, and to Reach My Absolute Highest Physical spiritual, and Genetic Potential, and I Do it Truly Only For Me, and Myself 9

that is the truth by the true god, and that Truth Can never ever change 9

thanks Peace!
 
I for one find that females cant get enough of me. I have to go shopping for groceries on the internet as I cant walk into a supermarket without being swamped with women offering their phone numbers to me. So these days I just work from home, shop from home, pay my bills from home, have my car serviced at home etc. Its living hell. Now I find women emailing me and wanting dates. It appears I shall have to leave for a more isolated location soon with no phone or net access. Ah the perils of being born a chick magnet. You guys think its a cool thing to be me I bet. But no...its a living hell.

Trust me. Being intelligent, handsome, sporty and loaded in more ways than one....its a curse.
 
aww this thread is awesome.
 
babywifey said:
.. women like to be pursued. Men were made to be more aggressive, go-get-em type. And that is what most women like to see. It is a sign of masculinity to most of us girls. When you start off by asking us out, from the get-go you are showing that you are a confident, aggressive hunter out to catch a girl....
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and to be even more of a man, we can just walk up to you, grab you by your hair and drag you away. Cavemen were REAL MEN.:nutkick:

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LionKingGod said:
your right, but everywhere I go, girls smile at me and stuff. and I cant make the first move any more, I mean, I have to go and get their number or whatever, and stuff, Im tired of it. If a girl wants me she should come after me is the way I see it now.
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Thats the way it is in nature. Look at the animal kingdom I think its lions that in the mating season merge on one lioness and get off on her. Deed done they all move on. Now im not suggesting you do that , but the male has always been the hunter.

I do understand where your coming from though , days of equality and all that but i dont think it will be for a long long time where there is equality in that department or even role reversal
 
corsaking said:
Thats the way it is in nature. Look at the animal kingdom I think its lions that in the mating season merge on one lioness and get off on her. Deed done they all move on. Now im not suggesting you do that , but the male has always been the hunter.

I do understand where your coming from though , days of equality and all that but i dont think it will be for a long long time where there is equality in that department or even role reversal
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All good points...but I think as Human beings we have the potential to be different than other animals. We rule the earth because we can go beyond primitive instincts. If we could all go beyond and evolve to a new level where we all meet half way and all be open and honest about our feelings then imagine the BS and misunderstandings we can cut down on. No assumptions..no leading on...no stalking and other perv behavior. Hey we gotta start somewhere.:thumbsup:
 
JohnnieFreeze said:
All good points...but I think as Human beings we have the potential to be different than other animals. We rule the earth because we can go beyond primitive instincts. If we could all go beyond and evolve to a new level where we all meet half way and all be open and honest about our feelings then imagine the BS and misunderstandings we can cut down on. No assumptions..no leading on...no stalking and other perv behavior. Hey we gotta start somewhere.:thumbsup:
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We rule the earth because we can rationalize, and have opposable thumbs.
 
LionKingGod said:
oh and I Only weight lift and Train, for MYSELF, only for myself, no one else. I do it For the Love of Myself, and to Reach My Absolute Highest Physical spiritual, and Genetic Potential, and I Do it Truly Only For Me, and Myself 9

that is the truth by the true god, and that Truth Can never ever change 9

thanks Peace!
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agreed. I workout for myself only and I expect my girlfriend to workout for herself only, too. I don't want her to workout just because she feels that I want her to workout.
 
LionKingGod said:
specefically me?

Why does it always have to be the guy to make the first move?

BS, I dont like it. Thats not me

Today, at the mall, 3 ladies, starring at me, smilling. I Refuse to go up to them. They should come up to me and ask me out, and buy me stuff , and drive me HOME! lol


buddha said, you have to be change

I am the change I guess, Hophely the world changes too.


That my rant.
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Name 100 other animals out of the thousands that have a female approach the male first.
 
Dr Packenwood said:
We rule the earth because we can rationalize, and have opposable thumbs.
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I think we rule the earth because humans are the more intelligent life form .Within that lifeform you have people more intelligent and brainer than others .Thats why some rule countries whilest other serve food in McDonalds, some are doctors whilest some are bus drivers.

Going back to the point of girls asking men , traditionally men have always asked girls for a date, a dance, to marry .Theyre have been exceptions to the rule , but just supposing a girl was that forward to ask you out and the relationship grew , you may find out its her that wears the trousers and youre under her thumb -would you want that?
 
No man! it's better if you just go up to girls you think you'd like, you wait for them and the most desperate girls go up to you cuz they think you're the shyest guy there and you wont go up to other girls.. If you take what comes to you, you wont like it, you have to go get what you really want.
 
Omega Man said:
No man! it's better if you just go up to girls you think you'd like, you wait for them and the most desperate girls go up to you cuz they think you're the shyest guy there and you wont go up to other girls.. If you take what comes to you, you wont like it, you have to go get what you really want.
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Good post...but doesnt this same philosophy work for females to an extent as well?
Even if the best looking women just spoke to the guys who talked to them first they would still have limited choices to some degree (perhaps not as limited as guys) but either side just sitting around and waiting can lose out on the best pics.
The best is always a bit harder to get.
 
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