To tell the GF or not?

lennoxchi

lennoxchi

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In the upcoming fall here, i'm going to move to AAS. My current GF knows that i take "stuff" but she also knows it's legal. I have been dating her for over 2 years now and it is serious. Does anyone have any positive or negative experiences telling their GF that they inject or are going to start injecting?
 
I'd say tell her. If this is a relationship you truly want to go somewhere you need to be open and honest about all aspects of your life. I don't take anything more than the normal supps (Powerfull is the most exotic thing I take), but my girls was kinda sketchy about all the pills I am "popping" all the time. So I sat her down one day and showed her each bottle, what it does, and why I take it. She feels better about it now.
 
In generality when it comes to AAS, many girls I think would find that...very negative. You can tell her you want to do it, but it may come down to a choice if the AAS or her.

Keeping a secret is a surefire way to lose a girl, just like it is with them and a guy.

Good Luck on this one. Maybe she will understand this is your lifestyle and accept that. Or it could completely turn her off of you.

The female mind is something that every psychologist in the world working with every philosopher in the world working with every scientist in the world would not be able to explain.
 
Its her or the AAS then its not a relationship worth having. Talk to her about it and inform her a bit but dont try to fill her brain with ridiculous stuff she wont get.
I tell my GF everything i use, give a basic idea what it does, possible side, how i handle the sides. I recently told her in a few months i may go to AAS. She was a little iffy, not cause size or anything else, but rather side effects and future health. I was honest with her and she understands it wont last forever.

Tell her. Then youll find out if you have a girl that truely understands you and cares for you.
 
Depends how open minded she is! My gf thinks anything i take is bad for me just due to the fact she knows nothing about it. I've tried to educate her on the things i take but she's just not interested :/
 
my gf knows. she doesnt care. as long as its not going to change ya no who i am. changing physically is fine but mentally or nething then it would be a problem.

p.s. my girlfriend is still in college, so when i order w/e i need i send it to her university mailbox...because..come on..by some chance if they open it..what is a 120lb girl going to do with that stuff lol
 
lennoxchi said:
In the upcoming fall here, i'm going to move to AAS. My current GF knows that i take "stuff" but she also knows it's legal. I have been dating her for over 2 years now and it is serious. Does anyone have any positive or negative experiences telling their GF that they inject or are going to start injecting?
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Distract her with shoes and money. She won't notice or care if she does notice. If she gives you any problems it might be futile but try to educate her the best you can. Good luck.

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MentalTwitch said:
Its her or the AAS then its not a relationship worth having. Talk to her about it and inform her a bit but dont try to fill her brain with ridiculous stuff she wont get.
I tell my GF everything i use, give a basic idea what it does, possible side, how i handle the sides. I recently told her in a few months i may go to AAS. She was a little iffy, not cause size or anything else, but rather side effects and future health. I was honest with her and she understands it wont last forever.

Tell her. Then youll find out if you have a girl that truely understands you and cares for you.
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I wasnt going to post here but I find myself really in disagreement with this statement.

If its a serious relationship, which is sounds like it is, then it is very much her right to be concerned or possibly object. Just because she is against it does not mean she does not "understand" him or is not "worth it". If a partner is taking potentially dangerous drugs, its well within reason that she does not want that kind of risk of possible side effects that could cause serious health or intimacy issues down the road.

Basically its not that she doesnt understand or care for you, its that she does care for you so much, that the thought of possibly losing, or otherwise altering, the person she loves is unacceptable.

Now is it as dangerous as everyone makes it out to be, no. But you would be kidding yourself to not accept that there are very real risks involved. And if you are with someone for the long run, that's a risk they are taking with you.

My advice would basically break down into two parts:

1. If you do not see this this relationship going the distance, and you have absolutely no intentions of marrying her, or otherwise long-term commitment. Then you don't have to tell her. If she finds out, or if something god forbid goes wrong, then you already knew it wasn't going to last anyway.

2. If you really see a long term possibility here. You owe it to her to let her know. As stated earlier, its a risk she is taking to, and she has to be comfortable and be accepting of the risks involved that could effect her life, and meaningful relationship. Doing anything else borders on shady and deceitful, and is unfair to her in every way.
 
MentalTwitch said:
Its her or the AAS then its not a relationship worth having.
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Not necessarily true. It is illegal, which some women have a kind of honer in not being involved with anyone doing anything illegal. And secondly, she may be intelligently thinking about possible offspring in the future. Pumping things into your body doesnt exactly increase the changes of a healthy baby. Though I actually do not know if any AAS or PCT could negatively effect it, that is not in my field of knowledge. And often girls tend to look down on a man who uses AAS, because to a few I have talked to it makes them seem like less of a man.

Which in all technicality, why would a man content with himself ever use AAS, and a man who cant be content with himself, cant be content with the world. And with her.

There are all kinds of factors that will go through her mind. I mean what if, God forbid and you are a smart guy lennoxchi so i doubt it, you somehow developed gyno....that would be just as embarrassing to her as it would be to you. And it could lead to a loss of her confidence in you.

If it is a serious relationship she is gona be running all kinds of thoughts and factors. And in all reality I wouldnt want the girl I am with to do plastic surgery, or get a boob job. So in a sense, I could see it being perfectly fine if a girl didnt want a guy to use AAS, which is a heck of a lot more dangerous than the boob job.
 
lennoxchi said:
In the upcoming fall here, i'm going to move to AAS. My current GF knows that i take "stuff" but she also knows it's legal. I have been dating her for over 2 years now and it is serious. Does anyone have any positive or negative experiences telling their GF that they inject or are going to start injecting?
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my wife said make sure your life insurance policy is paid up, but thats all :D

If you were to try and hide it, and she were to find it then you'd have a situation 10x worse than if you try and breach it beforehand. Watch bigger stronger faster with her before you talk about it

mental twitch said

"Its her or the AAS then its not a relationship worth having."

but really if she's worth having, is the AAS so important? If you aren't a pro bodybuilder or likely to become one relatively soon, then AAS is just a luxury/hobby thing like buying a harley or a boat.
 
lennoxchi said:
In the upcoming fall here, i'm going to move to AAS. My current GF knows that i take "stuff" but she also knows it's legal. I have been dating her for over 2 years now and it is serious. Does anyone have any positive or negative experiences telling their GF that they inject or are going to start injecting?
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im in the same perdicament, except im not telling her, i want to but i think its better off i dont. my body my issues, everyone has secrets, your not not hurting her and being safe then i think you GTG

however i did tell my GF i had low test levels 4 months ago and when i went to the doc i got hCG for it and ill take that for 5-10 weeks she didnt like that, and its even doc prescribed,
 
Chub said:
Depends how open minded she is! My gf thinks anything i take is bad for me just due to the fact she knows nothing about it. I've tried to educate her on the things i take but she's just not interested :/
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my GF only last 29 minute and like 42 seconds of bigger stronger faster, and ive mentioned it before, shes pre med, going to med school, and she is stubborn like me. i cannot convince her however i did talk to her one day and said:

i want to know you support me in my weight gaining and if im happy about it you should be to, im not hurting my self and this is the lifestyle ive had for a long time before we met.

she basically said: i support you going to the gym but gaining and losing like you do is unhealthy blah blah blah

i got mad told her i loved her and she eventually was like its your body do what you want, (she is very against AAS and said its her or AAS, soo i was surprised when she said that) but she had made no mention of AAS
 
bigpapa said:
my gf knows. she doesnt care. as long as its not going to change ya no who i am. changing physically is fine but mentally or nething then it would be a problem.

p.s. my girlfriend is still in college, so when i order w/e i need i send it to her university mailbox...because..come on..by some chance if they open it..what is a 120lb girl going to do with that stuff lol
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They dont like what it takes to get it done but they love the outcome!!!
 
crazyfool405 said:
im in the same perdicament, except im not telling her, i want to but i think its better off i dont. my body my issues, everyone has secrets, your not not hurting her and being safe then i think you GTG
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not true that everyone has secrets from their partner in life... if you are imagining marrying her, and being with her the rest of your life, purposefully hiding something like this from her is no better than hiding an affair. And again, imagine what happens if she finds the stuff.
 
The reason people can come down on weed, or other drugs so bad is because of the effects they can not only have on the body, but on your relationships.

If you are valuing something more than a good relationship...it is now an addiction, and you no longer control it-it controls you. Once it becomes more valuable than people, you are no longer the one in power.
 
EasyEJL said:
not true that everyone has secrets from their partner in life... if you are imagining marrying her, and being with her the rest of your life, purposefully hiding something like this from her is no better than hiding an affair. And again, imagine what happens if she finds the stuff.
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One thing I was taught. Keep a secret from your wife before your wedding day, and you can expect a much higher risk of a failed marriage. Trust is the most powerful thing between two people. Its how men can feel like brothers, but share different mothers. And it is how a man and a woman, can reach deep inside each other, and be comfortable, and truly be that essence of becoming One. Marriage can only exist where there is unerring trust. Even a small thing though, can put pressure on that trust, or ruin it all together. And I speak from experience....My ex lost my trust....and I tried for long time to trust her again...it didnt work.
 
Zero V said:
One thing I was taught. Keep a secret from your wife before your wedding day, and you can expect a much higher risk of a failed marriage. Trust is the most powerful thing between two people. Its how men can feel like brothers, but share different mothers. And it is how a man and a woman, can reach deep inside each other, and be comfortable, and truly be that essence of becoming One. Marriage can only exist where there is unerring trust. Even a small thing though, can put pressure on that trust, or ruin it all together. And I speak from experience....My ex lost my trust....and I tried for long time to trust her again...it didnt work.
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deep thoughts, by Jack Handy..........sorry bro, i couldn't resist.
 
I personally think you owe it to her to tell her. She may or may not be okay with it. But at least she has the right to make the choice.

An addition of PCT and the things you do to keep yourself healthy would aid the talk.
 
she also doesnt like one of the..well i think it is positive...outcomes of being on. when we're doing it, it is not uncommon to reach the two hour mark and i am still goin strong lol
 
I think the hardest this is definitely the negative reputation AAS gets from all the idiots that misuse them and end up on True Life or in the media. Ive tried to tell my girlfriend (and plenty other people) that there is safe and effective ways to use steroids... she wont have any of it because she doesnt understand the lifestyle and doesnt care to listen when I try to tell her why its not so bad... so because she is incorrectly informed and has to desire to listen to what shes not interested in... I get screwed...

Hence the reason I never told her about the M1T i took in the past or what the epistane in my cupboard is. We have a perfectly healthy relationship (most of the time) but I guess in my eyes its better leaving unsaid. She doesnt question any of the other 20 pills I pop a day so I can just tell her she never asked haha
 
If you are going to marry her, tell her; if not, deny, deny, deny.

Surprisingly, nobody here seems to be considering the very real legality involved in this situation; plainly, a judge will not care that you were sensitive enough to share your use with your partner should your relationship lead to an eventual seizure. Unfortunately, breaks can and do become vengeful and vindictive, and steroids and their ancillary drugs are illegal, and very stigmatized - facing possible legal penalties and/or social stigmatization you may not have faced otherwise is not worth anything but a marriage-bound relationship.

My freedom is my primary concern, over the concerns of my or her feelings.
 
I hope I dont have to explain myself come this summer when I run my transdermal s1+ and in the words of pistonpump my girlfriend grows a mini d1ck for a clit
 
Mullet to the scene,..
The reason I say that is because my gf and I haven't been getting along as of late. She can be a mean, vindictive person. Anyways, my point is, I don't advertise my ps/ph use, but during an argument one night, she blurts it out, in front of several people. I was considering pinning for my next cycle, I've explained away,and away, but she is against it,.. hard! So, now I'm in a pickle!
 
bonscott said:
Anyways, my point is, I don't advertise my ps/ph use, but during an argument one night, she blurts it out, in front of several people.
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Exactly. I am not trying to chauvinistically characterize women as vindictive, but; rather, I am merely trying to suggest that break-ups as a whole often become vengeful. The fact we share "secrets" with our loved ones is precisely the joy in the having them - however, when your freedom, job opportunities, social relationships and so forth are at stake, you must be careful.
 
well due to the over-whelming vote to tell her, i am going to. i was more than likely going to anyway, secrets are no good in healthy relationships anyway. i will do my best to educated her on the subject and see what happens. the nice thing is that we don't live together yet, so it won't be in her house just mine. but we're talking about living together in the future.....so that will matter. thx to all that responded to this thread...i do appreciate it guys and gal
 
My ex never cared what supps I took but as far as injecting I mean thats a whole new story. I wouldnt tell her if you wanted to do it. You do it bc you want to and keeping real with your girl I would just keep it on a rush. I mean I like taking ph's and all and I don't like the outside people knowing.Also you might want to talk to her about it see how she would feel towards it and tell her your goals. If she was okay with all the other supps and all then it may notbe a hassle since she knows you take supps.
 
I think there's something wrong with a girl that ISN'T concerned...Telling you no is one thing, but assuming she's not into bodybuilding herself, I don't know if I would want to be with a chick that didn't somewhat worry about me...you know?
 
lennoxchi said:
well due to the over-whelming vote to tell her, i am going to. i was more than likely going to anyway, secrets are no good in healthy relationships anyway. i will do my best to educated her on the subject and see what happens. the nice thing is that we don't live together yet, so it won't be in her house just mine. but we're talking about living together in the future.....so that will matter. thx to all that responded to this thread...i do appreciate it guys and gal
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Proud of you brudda, you making the right choice :party:


:D I am sure she will respect you for being truthful with her. May it improve your relationship, may she support you, and may all your wildest dreams come true(except that one about me....)
 
Zero V said:
Proud of you brudda, you making the right choice :party:


:D I am sure she will respect you for being truthful with her. May it improve your relationship, may she support you, and may all your wildest dreams come true(except that one about me....)
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lmao......thx bro. and i think you and most of the others here are right. i'm not going to go professional or anything, so it's not a improve the future thing, it's more of liking ps/ph and knowing that my liver can't handle the strees i put it through, even with support supplements. so that is way my decision is to go to injectables. i'm also going to go and talk to my doctor before i do anything and run it past him, i trust him. my first time at this doc. i was in the room waiting, looking around and saw a bottle of androgel sitting on a shelf, said to myself, "when i decide to go to injectables i'm coming to talk to this guy 1st". again to everyone who contributed, thank you. i feel better running it past a bunch of people who do not even know me personally but know the dedication and determination it takes to live this life style cause they're living it.
 
Mulletsoldier said:
If you are going to marry her, tell her; if not, deny, deny, deny.

Surprisingly, nobody here seems to be considering the very real legality involved in this situation; plainly, a judge will not care that you were sensitive enough to share your use with your partner should your relationship lead to an eventual seizure. Unfortunately, breaks can and do become vengeful and vindictive, and steroids and their ancillary drugs are illegal, and very stigmatized - facing possible legal penalties and/or social stigmatization you may not have faced otherwise is not worth anything but a marriage-bound relationship.

My freedom is my primary concern, over the concerns of my or her feelings.
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Yes to all of the above. I read where a girl ratted out her boyfriend because they were breaking up. Women have memory chips, I'm sure of it. My wife brings up stuff from 10 years ago, Holy !@#$. Words can be weapons. And don't try fluffing her up by being extra thoughtfull before you tell her. They know that game.

(Extra advice)

Also don't try having a girl on the side(I have no experience on this one). They'll figure it out unless they have a brain of wood. They just know, it's spooky.
 
lennoxchi said:
well due to the over-whelming vote to tell her, i am going to. i was more than likely going to anyway, secrets are no good in healthy relationships anyway. i will do my best to educated her on the subject and see what happens. the nice thing is that we don't live together yet, so it won't be in her house just mine. but we're talking about living together in the future.....so that will matter. thx to all that responded to this thread...i do appreciate it guys and gal
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sit down and watch bigger stronger faster with her. it is the only unbiased approach to this subject.
 
bigpapa said:
sit down and watch bigger stronger faster with her. it is the only unbiased approach to this subject.
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Totally agree. Yup as your explaining and educating her I would also say its a great idea. And yes keeping secrets will be bad since if you will be getting big faster somethinsg up that will be a red flag there. Anyways good luck my friend on the stuff and with your gf.
 
I agree with Zero it will inprove it much so by being honest and caring how she feels. Good luck on your quest and for you and your gf hope all goes well.
 
My boyfriend came clean with me recently, we have a open and honest relationship. At first I was speechless because I know what the media says about it which by what I have learned is all bogus, but he was prepared when he told me. He had a box full of stuff that he pulled out one by one and told me what it was and what it does.

I dont like the idea of it because I am worried about possible side affects and long term health issues but I understand it alot more now and he is VERY well educated on what he is doing.

Is she cares about you and is supportive she will want to know the basics (dont try and fill her brain with pointless ****...I know my boyfriend did and it was like he was speaking another language)

If she gives you the ultimadum of its her or the roids without trying to understand it or understand you then its not a relationship worth having. But you should tell her before and not during or after the cycle, because then she is going to feel as if her opinion doesn't matter.
 
kluvjsj said:
If she gives you the ultimadum of its her or the roids without trying to understand it or understand you then its not a relationship worth having. But you should tell her before and not during or after the cycle, because then she is going to feel as if her opinion doesn't matter.
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What about if she gives the ultimatum after? :) There are risks in using them, and the items are illegal. She can be opposed to that even after trying to undertand
 
If this is a relationship that you want to last, and if you want it to be based on trust and honesty, then be open and honest with your girlfriend. Hopefully she'll be open-minded about it. I have yet to be down that road.
 
EasyEJL said:
What about if she gives the ultimatum after? :) There are risks in using them, and the items are illegal. She can be opposed to that even after trying to undertand
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Agreed and sometimes the way people react on them makes you say wow, screw your health, hope the liver goes..gasp..

LOL but in all seriousness its not her body, not her choice..period. She can choose to stay or go after hearing the facts and seeing how he acts on cycle, and whether she wants to deal with it. But we all are in charge of our own individual choices.
 
your the only one who can make that call man. you know your girlfriend better then we do (lets hope) so only you can get an idea of how shes going to react. If you think theres even a chance shell flip i wouldnt say anything.
 
I want to agree with a lot of the previous posters and say 'tell her' but I feel there's no need to spoil an otherwise 'happy' relationship, unless she openly questions you about it.

Do others feel this is being deceitful?
 
UKStrength said:
I want to agree with a lot of the previous posters and say 'tell her' but I feel there's no need to spoil an otherwise 'happy' relationship, unless she openly questions you about it.

Do others feel this is being deceitful?
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Well do to my beliefs, even a small secret can breed destruction. Trust is something not in this world. My dad trusts no one, he has become distasteful with the world a bit.

I give people trust, but due to the knives I have in my back already, it is a low level of trust, and I cant increase feelings to anyone. Small things over time accumulate.
 
Zero V said:
Well do to my beliefs, even a small secret can breed destruction. Trust is something not in this world. My dad trusts no one, he has become distasteful with the world a bit.
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So true mate, in a way I can sympathise with your dad, can you ever really trust anyone? (That's not an X-files gag btw!;))

Zero V said:
I give people trust, but due to the knives I have in my back already, it is a low level of trust, and I cant increase feelings to anyone. Small things over time accumulate.
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In a way I don't feel it boils down to trust, I just like to keep some things to myself, particularly my AAS/DS usage.

Unless I met someone who really understood me, my goals and rationale for using them, I feel it would be pointless trying to get them to understand and a needless strain on a relationship.
 
well i spoke with her this past weekend. i said to her "i'm selling all my PH/PS stuff darling, its not good for my liver, did you know that the "real stuff" does less harm on the liver than the legal stuff?" she said.. "yea, that figures"....i told her that doing the "real stuff" would be less taxing on my liver (which is the main reason i want to switch) and she didn't say anything. i will have to revisit this one in a couple of months, just to be more specific......
 
UKStrength said:
So true mate, in a way I can sympathise with your dad, can you ever really trust anyone? (That's not an X-files gag btw!;))



In a way I don't feel it boils down to trust, I just like to keep some things to myself, particularly my AAS/DS usage.

Unless I met someone who really understood me, my goals and rationale for using them, I feel it would be pointless trying to get them to understand and a needless strain on a relationship.
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I understand mate.

2 people know I will be using The One starting next month. My lifting buddy, and one other friend. I doubt anyone else really would understand. But dating someone would make them a person who should know of my doings.

We each have our own levels of what is and is not this and that.

Right and wrong, just and unjust, have a base line-but function on a curve.

So its not really wrong to not say something, but it can be a big issue depending how things play out. But to me, a secret is as bad as a thousand lies.
 
lennoxchi said:
well i spoke with her this past weekend. i siad to her "i'm selling all my PH/PS stuff darling, its not good for my liver, did you know that the "real stuff" does less harm on the liver than the legal stuff?" she dais "yea, that figures"....i told her that doing the "real stuff" would be less taxing on my liver (which is the main reason i want to switch) and she didn't say anything. i will have to revisit this one in a couple of months, just to be more specific......
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Sounds like the seed is planted mate, good luck with it ;)
 
Zero V said:
I understand mate.

2 people know I will be using The One starting next month. My lifting buddy, and one other friend. I doubt anyone else really would understand. But dating someone would make them a person who should know of my doings.

We each have our own levels of what is and is not this and that.

Right and wrong, just and unjust, have a base line-but function on a curve.

So its not really wrong to not say something, but it can be a big issue depending how things play out. But to me, a secret is as bad as a thousand lies.
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AGREE!!!!!!
 
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