solid David.
I'm just not wanting to be the one that always gives in though.
I believe in a treat em mean keep em keen type with no disrespect intended.
I told her I wasn't at her beg and call and she kinda woke up a bit. surprised to say the least.
hmmm. 38 yr old. It bugs me a little
The age thing could be looked at as a negative but while what David said made a lot of sense it doesn't mean that she 100% has issues. She may but it's not certain. Some younger women date older guys for the fact that older men may be more into the lifestyle they are.
Most dudes at her age at that time may have been all about getting wasted and partying while she wanted to simply go out to dinner, go home for a movie and go to bed at 10 lol. My point is that you simply can't make judgments on a person based on one choice she made in her life. If you start to realize patterns, at that point I'd tread lightly. It may be a warning sign, so don't dismiss it.
Again dude, remember it's only been 3 months she legitimately doesn't have to tell you if she chooses not to. If she wants to keep some things to yourself just don't let it get to you, say **** it (in your head) and ask her a non personal question like what her favorite flavor of kool-aid is.
To be honest, I wouldn't talk about her exes at all for two reasons. First, it comes off as slightly insecure. If you're secure in all you do and who you are, which you should be, her exes hold zero meaning to the person you are and the relationship you're forming with this chick. Second, **** like that is toxic. Once you find out something you'll want to know more, it's a snowball effect and once you finally think you've found out enough, it may very well be that you've found out too much.
Focus on today and don't worry about her opening up to you. Also, no matter what, you met this chick for a reason and everyone involved in your life holds meaning it may be for a short time or a long time. Either way it's worth it and helps develop and form you into whom you're meant to become.
Ultimately, I'd pay attention to the present and prepare for the future. Don't worry about if she doesn't want to open up, you're the bad ass you are either way. Maybe she just doesn't like to open up emotionally, oh well. Do some other cool **** that's fun to do with her.