Wife wants a divorce

[Usf97j4x4]

If you sleep with a married woman you are nothing but crap that cape out of a fly's rear end after it ate the crap that came from the back end of a dung beetle who was feeding off of bush's toilet....

I concur

I see the cheater and the cheating partner equally... terrible people.

 

[Omen]

If you sleep with a married woman you are nothing but crap that cape out of a fly's rear end after it ate the crap that came from the back end of a dung beetle who was feeding off of bush's toilet....

You're the guy who thinks porn is just as bad as murder and cheating is worse than murder....and cheaters...should be killed.....:lol:

If I sleep with a married woman, that's her problem that she's married, not mine, if you can't "take care" of your wife, that's again, your problem, not mine.

I think the same about every religious person, that they're lower and stupider than cow sh*t, everyone's got an opinion and everyone's got an a$$hole and 99% of all em stink.

 

[Zero V]

You're the guy who thinks porn is just as bad as murder and cheating is worse than murder....and cheaters...should be killed.....:lol:

If I sleep with a married woman, that's her problem that she's married, not mine, if you can't "take care" of your wife, that's again, your problem, not mine.

I think the same about every religious person, that they're lower and stupider than cow sh*t, everyone's got an opinion and everyone's got an a$$hole and 99% of all em stink.

Its not usually the husbands problem.Its just we live in a society where 90% of people anymore don't deserve the classification as human... They just function off of drive for pleasure.

But a person who will sleep with am married woman is useless scum. Which comes around in the end.....

I hope if you do it again her husband is a "NRA" truck driver who returns home early and has his sawed of 12 gauge with him....

You make crackheads look like superheros...

 

[MuscleHeadGuy]

She seems to be in an unstable state. She's more concerned about you paying attention to her and spending money on her rather than your children. She's being very selfish and unfair. It seems as if she's putting you in the middle and wanting you to choose either her or the children. Braces are a necessity in some cases. Boob jobs and botox, however, are not. I do believe that depression may be playing here, but is there any history of bipolar disorder in her family? You seem to have your head on straight, but are confused by this sudden misfortune, which is very understandable. Just take a deep breath and relax. Keep yourself calm. Try pre-occupying yourself by doing things you enjoy. She just may need some time away for a while. If she ends up making it clear that she wants a divorce and is not willing to at least try working things out, then give her what she wants. But fight! Take what's yours, back. Hire a divorce lawyer. Just don't put your children in the middle. You seem like a better and smarter man than to do something like that. I can't say much in her defense at this point. I can only go by what you're telling us. If she wants this divorce bad enough and truly wants it, then she'll go through the hassle of collecting the appropriate paperwork and filling it out.

That's what advice I'm offering for right now. I've dealt with harsh times during my past with my son's mother as well. It's definitely not easy. Children being involved makes the misfortune much more difficult! Everyone ends up going through a lot of pain and hurt, but keep your chin up. Say your prayers. Stay calm. Think positive. I wish you the best of luck.

 

[Nabisco]

Omen and Zero V. This is a thread designed to help a fellow AMer going through an incredibly tough time. We are here to help and support him, not start an argument between you two. What you two are doing is unacceptable. Take it elsewhere.

Best of luck nightshift, sounds like things are going to get a little bit tougher before they get better.

 

[MK9]

Nightshift,
I wanted to share a couple of verses with you that came to mind.

2 Samuel 22:30 For by thee I have run through a troop: by my God have I leaped over a wall.

2 Kings 6:16 And he answered, Fear not: for they that be with us are more than they that be with them.

I have been in your shoes except no kids, and you and your family are in my prayers. Just wanted to pass along some good words to you, and let you know that *YOU WILL MAKE IT!* Each day that goes by is a victory, each day that goes by is a day of healing.
I don't really know you, but wanted to let you know that we are all here for you Ok. It is always darkest before the light my friend.

MK9

 

[nightshift]

Thanks for the kind words MK9 and for the reprimand from Nabisco. I appreciate it. It sounds like things are going to get worse. According to my wife's lawyer, we should have some clarity as to the legal consequences of her accident by Sept. 9. Could get anywhere from 24hrs to 6 months in the can and lose of license for 3 to 12 months. Unreal. What, if anything, do I say to my kids. She doesn't want them to know. If she does get some time, she wants to tell them she is going to stay with a relative out of state. I don't want to lie to my kids, but I do think there are things they do not need to know and worry about.

 

[Nabisco]

Wow man. I'm not sure how I'd handle that. I wouldn't necessarily bring it to the kids attention until the court reaches a verdict, because if she is a first time offender than I doubt she's going to spend an extensive amount of time in jail (if any at all). Once you get a ruling, than maybe it's time to think about telling or not telling your children.

The best thing you can do is protect your children. It's your decision as to what is the best way to do that. Good luck, and best wishes to you and yours.

 

[Beau]

Thanks for the kind words MK9 and for the reprimand from Nabisco. I appreciate it. It sounds like things are going to get worse. According to my wife's lawyer, we should have some clarity as to the legal consequences of her accident by Sept. 9. Could get anywhere from 24hrs to 6 months in the can and lose of license for 3 to 12 months. Unreal. What, if anything, do I say to my kids. She doesn't want them to know. If she does get some time, she wants to tell them she is going to stay with a relative out of state. I don't want to lie to my kids, but I do think there are things they do not need to know and worry about.

This isn't something - IMO - that you should decide by yourself. I wouldn't be willing to jump in and lie to the kids, but that is me. When the She-Devil had her first affair, we were advised by a very well respected counselor to have her tell the kids. It turns out this was a very good thing. They would find out the truth, and they knew something was wrong - so why lie about it? How would your kids feel if they learned that you - the only stable and honest one they have - told them something that wasn't the truth?

I would talk to a counselor who deals with kids of your age and ask him/her how to handle it.

God's blessings to you in your handling this.

Oh, I went to court on Tuesday (mandatory divorce settlement conference). It was one of the most awful experiences of my life.

 

[EasyEJL]

you cant lie to them about it. besides, i thought you were getting divorced right? here is your opportunity to wash your hands of her, and be able to have a peaceful honest family relationship with your kids. to me it seems a blessing

 

[babywifey]

It is obvious that you want the best for everyone in this situation. You seem to be a loving, selfless man and that is not often seen in today's world. I am sorry that your wife doesn't appreciate that fact- what she is doing to you isn't right, but I know that you are handling it very well and doing the best that you can. good job.

 

[badbart]

Just when I thought things couldn't get worse, the wife crashed and totaled her car(a very sweet Saab convertible). Paramedics couldn't believe she was alive and basically unhurt. She put the car through 2 one inch steel barrier cables. It sheared the top of the car off. Unreal. The F$%#ed part is that even though she passed a field sobriety test, they did blood work at the hospital and she told me it will be dirty. A detective called and informed her that testing is ongoing and we would hear from them soon. She has retained an attorney. It's really weird because she is very nonchalant about the whole thing. Like it's no big deal. What is my liability, if any, hear. She is still under our joint auto insurance. Any advice.

Are you legally separated yet?