EasyEJL
Never enough
you might be surprised, but then again most of them are chubby/ugly/WOW addicts.
Trouble Meeting People
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you might be surprised, but then again most of them are chubby/ugly/WOW addicts.
diablosho
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Ya, it is kinda ironic isn't it! In a past life, I was a pot-head (and sold weed), which put me in contact with a LOT of people that smoke weed. As such, I've seen people smoke their first blunt in my house, and I've watched them progress to full-blown pothead, cutting off contact to everybody in their life. But, the "pothead comedy" still has a special place in my heart, and towel-y is one of my favorites! For example, I wear smurf shirts to the gym! I wear shirts with giant cartoon pirahnas, and others with a giant Homer, and one with a Pilsbury doughboy saying "Poke Me", etc! LOL! I still have the "childish pothead" in me, but I've just become a lot more responsible as well. I guess weed just permanently stunted my emotional growth, so I'm still a child. Maybe? IDK. But I enjoy being lighthearted AND sober! AND, there is more than ONE douche on this website, but I strive to not be one of them
! LOL!
Conagher
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I know what you are saying is true,Easy,I am just in a real dark place right now as far as women are concerned.Been burned too many times.
diablosho
Active member
HAHA! That was pretty much what I was thinking! I suppose I could get with a WOW addict (I've never played it, but I don't discriminate
)! I know for a fact that I want to find a nerdy girl. I need someone I can associate with, as I have been told by women that I intimidated them because I used "big words". But I also know that a lot of them are uneasy being around anyone with muscles (not that I am huge or anything, I most definitely am not ). I guess they feel like they are walking into a practical joke whenever they are approached by one. I've had some that were INCREDIBLY rude to me also, which blew me away! I don't mind getting turned down, but getting turned down by a geek in the library who was DEFINITELY using her OUTSIDE voice just sucked!!! LOL!
EasyEJL
Never enough
Yeah, its definitely rough. I really think most of it comes from where you meet the women though, and having a set of rules for "once I find out x about her, I dump her". After my first divorce I kept all my dating pretty casual, I don't think I was with anyone more than 2 or 3 months tops till I met my wife. Who comically I married after just 3 months of knowing her.
EasyEJL
Never enough
HAHA! That was pretty much what I was thinking! I suppose I could get with a WOW addict (I've never played it, but I don't discriminate
There are some hotties too, and plenty of them are single too, because they intimidate guys and also aren't willing to put up with boneheads. I know this one crazy girl who is a nerd for sure (runs ubuntu on her laptop, is on IRC, etc) who is a 5'10" maybe 145lb redhead with 36d natural boobs. But she's totally a loonie bin, drinks too much, oxycontin, etc. Oh and bisexual too. She pretty well only dates guys in the IT industry. I sorta feel sorry for the guys she dates.
EasyEJL
Never enough
At one point, I took a good 9 months out of dating. Just had a good time, did what I wanted to. I didn't avoid women, but I made no effort to talk to them.
diablosho
Active member
****, you had me at "loonie bin, drinks too much, oxycontin,...and bisexual" Sounds like a keeper! HA! THAT's what I need! But, a nerd that runs ubuntu with 36d boobs is definitely IN in my book!
I tried to run ubuntu, but apparently ATI doesn't support my graphics card anymore (x1400), so I can't get a driver to do anything GOOD with ubuntu (or any other linux distro, for that matter).
EasyEJL
Never enough
****, you had me at "loonie bin, drinks too much, oxycontin,...and bisexual" Sounds like a keeper! HA! THAT's what I need! But, a nerd that runs ubuntu with 36d boobs is definitely IN in my book!
She's loads of fun to talk to, but I can only imagine what bizareness being her boyfriend would be like. Thank god i'm married.
diablosho
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Propbably something alternating between fuzzy hand-cuffs, rope swings, Chinese water torture, and carpenter's nails! LOL! I think I'll pass! HAHA! Crazy girls scare me (especially the ones that do drugs)!
Gutterpump
Banned
The woman who is the owner of the crossfit/powerlifting gym I go to is a web developer and built like whoa. Was a pleasant surprise! Not only does she have the looks, can train like a beast, but also has smarts.
Gutterpump
Banned
I did this for almost a year, a couple times in my life. Sometimes you need the time to focus all your energies on yourself.
diablosho
Active member
I also have a rule against dating a woman that can bench-press me! LOL! As long as she doesn't fit that bill, she'd have many of the qualities I'm looking for! That's pretty awesome man!
Gutterpump
Banned
I know... I love crossfit girls <3
Just starting to see one myself
Brand new, hoping it works out
DerickVonD
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OrganicShadow
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DerickVonD
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Yeah i'm wonderign if I should get both products or just try the 5-HTP by itself first. Only thing is it can reduce appetite, I hope that won't happen.
OrganicShadow
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If it does, set an alarm on your phone for meal times. Easy fix.
DerickVonD
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Well you get used to failing after awhile when 99% of the time you fail.
OrganicShadow
Well-known member
I train to failure. Does that count?
It seemed to have made meeting women easier in regards to that post. You know, the mindset.
mich29
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yea that's what I mean you gotta go in with the right mindset. its amazing what you can do when you really really believe you can do it.
StangBanger
Well-known member
hell thats the motivation.. its a numbers game... that means 1 in 100 = WIN!!!
a WINS a WIN!
and 99% of the time is only a bad day and not all days are bad.
OrganicShadow
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Bang. Right there. Solution: convince yourself you have a chance. Because, fact of the matter, everyone (girl or guy) is at least the slightest bit willing to see what youre about.
mich29
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girls are well aware that they have a ***** and can get a guy anytime anywhere.you gotta flip the game on'em . a good percentage of women are exactly like the one jcomp talked about.this is why girls mind you I said girls date jerks.granted some women date jerks too but jerks are generally very confidence which attractions most every girl and some women.
you gotta have confidence and swag.
you gotta have confidence and swag.
Conagher
Active member
I am not even sure what success and failure is in a relationship.In reality,most peoples relationships disintegrate at some point,so in a way you could say we are failures.
Conagher
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This is a fact,which brings me to a question.Saw a friends exgirlfriend out at a club with her new boyfriend.Friend is a cleancut,skinny,and to be honest,somewhat frilly guy.Her new boyfriend is a tatted up bodybuilder who probably weighs about 210.
Why the extreme jump in personality and body types?I thought women looked for the same,basic characteristics when choosing a mate.
EasyEJL
Never enough
Well, some of it may be a sort of mental rebound effect. if the breakup with your friend was rough for some reason, she'd look for someone quite different (subconsciously) in the hopes of not repeating what happened.
Conagher
Active member
Yeah,it was really strange.Me and her were close at one time and the guy I saw her with was the complete opposite of what she said she looked for in a man.Did not talk to her.Seemed rather awkward for both of us.
OrganicShadow
Well-known member
Not necessarily. Women tend to be more open to trying different "styles" or "personalities." They may have a certain set of traits they gravitate towards but everyone does. The onyl difference is men tend to stick to their original guns a bit more... and they also gravitate toward women similar to their mother.
^Yeah I said it. Think about it, its not an edipous (spell check) complex, its whats youre comfortable with. if you have a strong and loving rlationship with your mother, wouldnt you be drawn to women who are similar. You know im right.
diablosho
Active member
AWKWARD! LOL!
OrganicShadow
Well-known member
^ Yeah I knew it would be but if you think about it, its not far from truth. Im not saying thats the kind of girl you always look for but youll notice you gravitate towards that particular set of characteristics either physical looks, beliefs, or interests.
I have a friend who the last 5 girls he dated were named Jen. Guys dont step outside the box as easily.
I have a friend who the last 5 girls he dated were named Jen. Guys dont step outside the box as easily.
EasyEJL
Never enough
Probably 1/3 of my girlfriends were irish redheads and no way they make up that much of the population
StangBanger
Well-known member
99.99% of my girlfriends have been completely bat**** crazy.... no way they all are (wink wink).
diablosho
Active member
It's funny, because quite often I have found a girl in class, and thought "Oh wow, she seems cool. I should get to know her better" only to find out her name was Jacquie (my mom's name is Jacquie). Makes for an awkward conversation with a girl: "Oh, your name is Jacquie? My mom's name is Jacquie!" Doesn't usually get me very far
!
DerickVonD
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I told a girl that once when I was drunk lol. Hey you look like my mom and my mom's name is Lisa too. She never talked to me again lol.It's funny, because quite often I have found a girl in class, and thought "Oh wow, she seems cool. I should get to know her better" only to find out her name was Jacquie (my mom's name is Jacquie). Makes for an awkward conversation with a girl: "Oh, your name is Jacquie? My mom's name is Jacquie!" Doesn't usually get me very far
Conagher
Active member
I have heard about the oedipus complex before,but not sure I agree with it.I had a very good relationship with my mom(r.i.p.),but the majority of women in my life were complete opposites of my mother,at least in their physical characteristics.
The one trend I have noticed is that an inordinate amount of my girlfriends were named Christina,or some derivative of,such as Kristina or Chrissy.
Conagher
Active member
Update:Through an unusual set of events,a girlfriend that I have not seen in 12 years has reentered my life.We both knew we had feelings for each other,but she was married at the time,so nothing ever developed from it other than casual flirting.She is divorced now,so an opportunity has presented itself.Despite the dark place I am in right now,I am fairly optimistic about this one.Maybe she is that special "someone" whom I was meant to be with.
mich29
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take it one day at a time
OrganicShadow
Well-known member
Agreed. Offer to rekindle a casual friendship to show the fun and lighter side of you. Both of you may have some dark thoughts and emotions right now but try to keep them minimal in conversation topics - dwell on good times together or recent events in your lives. Should conversation move towards the idea of something more intimate - I would think, being newly divorced, shes not quite looking to play the field yet. You can express any sort of attraction (with conservation) but suggest a casual friendship and see how things go. No commitment, no inclinations, its been a while since you two have seen each other, people do change.
StangBanger
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yeah Con.. take it slow.. never know!
Im still trying to figure out how to get my ex back. I never should have broken up with her, I was stressed about so much **** and was listening to people around me instead of myself... now she is dating someone else... sucks... I was going to marry her and now my 'wife' is dating someone... I tried dating other people but all I think about is her. I wish her happiness but I also hope her current deal doesnt work out cuz she already told me she still loves me but owes it to herself to see if this new relationship works...
Im still trying to figure out how to get my ex back. I never should have broken up with her, I was stressed about so much **** and was listening to people around me instead of myself... now she is dating someone else... sucks... I was going to marry her and now my 'wife' is dating someone... I tried dating other people but all I think about is her. I wish her happiness but I also hope her current deal doesnt work out cuz she already told me she still loves me but owes it to herself to see if this new relationship works...
Gutterpump
Banned
I just went through this 2 years ago, same exact story. We were to get married. I didn't date anyone for about a year after I had broken up with her. I really hurt her and she chased me for a while but then moved on and fell in love again..I started to realize that noone I had met or was meeting, had the same qualities that she had, but I had totally ruined all my chances.
After about a year of not dating anyone, the sex drive kicked in overdrive and made me date. I started missing companionship, even if it wasn't her. I started to realize, not everyone may be as great as this person, but someone great will come along again soon enough. Gotta get out there for it to happen, go through the motions, and enjoy yourself along the way
Conagher
Active member
Damn it!She did not mention her husband a couple of days ago,so I misinterpreted and assumed she was divorced.She is still married.Back to square one.Oh well,it is nice to have her back in my life anyway.
OrganicShadow
Well-known member
Maybe she has friends?
Conagher
Active member
Could be.Strange that there was no mention of her husband until the 3rd day of our conversations.