I've not posted in some time, and so I wanted to give you an update on the blessings in my life.
As some may recall, I was married for a very long time to a serial adulteress. She left a few years ago after I found out of her most recent affair; this one with the Choir Director at our Church (while she was the Director of Contemporary Praise Music at the same Church). Other than the financial affect, the only remaining issue that lingers if the affect it has had on my two adult sons (they have nothing to do with their mother) and my daughter (who, due to her mother’s manipulation, will have nothing to do with me).
I spent a great deal of time in prayer while working to recover from the betrayal. I was very intentional and disciplined in the healing process. I looked to God, and was able to learn a tremendous deal about myself, and about others. I was given an opportunity to learn, heal and recover. I seized it. The other option was to become bitter, angry, unforgiving and stuck. That was not for me.
My sons are adjusting the best they can. One is a first year law student living with me, and the other will start law school in the fall. They are both angry and hurt with their mother, but we have forged a very strong relationship – and I do not say anything to them about their mother. They are starting to open up (although just a bit) with their feelings, but this will be long process. Their mother hurt them very deeply. I hope my daughter will develop independence from her mother at some point, and we may be able to re-unite in a father/daughter relationship. This is among my prayers.
But I have been very blessed as well. Among the blessing is my life are my recent Baptism and even more recent marriage to a very devoted Christian woman who I have dated for 2 ½ years. We were married on Christmas Eve, in an exchange of covenant marriage vows.
Rather than go on and on, I write this just as a reminder that there are very good things in life to be found – and in some cases those things can only be enabled by dealing with pain; even though it isn’t pain we would ever want to have to endure. How we deal with that pain is a choice; so is the decision and process to heal.
Praise be to God.