You're right, thanks for the advice man.
Yeah I've caught her flirting and getting "involved" with other guys two or three times before.
And one time I found out she renamed her ex's contact in her phone as some girl and had been texting him for a whole week, the whole time acting like she was just chatting with one of her girl friends.
I caught my ex in a similar situation. You'll be 100x better off if you end it. My ex is married to that guy and they're happy and I've got a girl I can trust and rides or dies for me. Turns out - she was engaged to him for the entire two + years we dated and I ignored all the signs and forgave her for all the sketchy ****. He worked on a rig and would be home for a week or so tops every six months. In the end, everybody won but it was hell for us all for a while.
BamBam0319 I refrained from chiming in on your situation earlier, not because I didn't feel for you, or didn't have anything to offer to the discussion, but rather that I was not sure I could relay my advice w/o coming off wrong or sounding preachy.
You mentioned you caught her stepping out a couple of times. Once is an incident, twice a reason for concern, more than that is a pattern of behavior. Patterns don't change, that is by nature of their definition as a pattern. I am sorry to say this but you need to cut your (emotional) losses and move on. I have had relationships fail, some were my fault, some not, but all stung. Here comes the preachy part (sorry
) You are still young. There is another, better fit for you out there. I am on my second marriage, and by far 100 times better for it. I did not know how bad I had it until I found out how good it could be. I also learned a lot from my first marriage; what to do, not to do, say, not to say, and what warning signs to watch out for. You need to use your last 3 years as a learning experience. If anything it will help keep you from feeling they were "wasted" time, as I believe to alluded to in a previous post. You are also a good looking guy (no, not throwing my hat in the ring
). Unless you are a total douche, which I don't get from your posts, you will likely find someone new fairly quickly. At least once you pull your head out of the funk it is in, which will take time. A word of advice, when on any future "first dates", do NOT talk about your Ex, no matter how much that topic may be on the forefront of your brain, nor how much your date might say that she "understands", and it is "OK".
Now back to our regularly scheduled program of killing it in the gym!
he is actually already technically my client, as he has already bought some sessions with me but we haven't used any yet.
