He didn't 'choose steroids over her' he tried being honest to his new gf and she didn't express any concerns and just ended it. Choosing steroids over her would have been her giving him an ultimatum and him staying on, honestly it seems like OP would have stopped for her so why do we gotta keep busting his balls?
Also you verbatim said "ANY intelligent and mature young woman(my daughter included) would kick your ass to the curb"
Any means all and not "this one girl" and the fact you included your daughter only proves me right moreso in your attempt to
Include the general populous of women. You're projecting your views and hopes of your daughter not dating a juice head onto every one else here.
Plenty is illegal out there( example:fellatio in many many states) but I'm sure we've all received a bj before ? It came most likely after talking to a significant other. If a girl says no that's an admiral position a guy can respect an no reason for name calling but if she agrees it makes her no less of a woman than those who don't. Now if she just breaks up with you on the spot for simply asking I believe that grants a tilt of the eye brow being that truly mature couples can talk through problems not simply run from them. If this girl was the mature woman you're applauding her for she would have at least told OP about her reasoning and why she can not be with a user if that was the problem. Case closed
Zero tolerance means zero tolerance. She doesn't need to explain herself to you, him or anyone else. She isn't his wife. She saw the warning signs that set off her alarms that he was not relationship material and left. End of story. Guys say and do the same all of the time. It sucks when the shoe is on the other foot. Hypocrites men are.
As for the "verbatim" statement "any intelligent and mature young woman would kick your ass to the curb", I stand by my statement. ANY woman who sees something that she
chooses not to be exposed to should kick your's or anyone's ass to the curb. She doesn't owe you or anyone else an explanation. If she chooses to accept it she is not God's gift to the world and if she chooses drop you like a bad habit she is no villain either. As I have said before, what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Men hate the taste of their own medicine.
If you want to nitpick the verbiage of my statement I can clear it up for you one more time if that wasn't clear. If you want to take offense to it, then do so, and I will assume ownership of offending you, your awesome significant other, and all the other awesome significant others who love their steroid user boyfriends and husbands. I'll get over it. You should too.