Dating

DmitryWI said:
P.S. My ex gf keeps texting me all this week, feels like she wants me to ask her out or just get together. I still have feelings for her and want to see her, but I'm trying really hard not to do it. It drives me nuts.:rant:
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word to the wise..one of the "regulars" who i reemed out from the bar..thinks we could actually be together..and she texted me and called all the time..i called my wireless provider and had her number blocked and she is banned from the bar...she got the hint
 
bigpapa said:
yeah dont pick up chicks in bars or clubs. im a doorman at a very well known bar and slutty girls come in there all the time. some try to stay after and the bouncers usually take them home, or bang them in their cars or bathroom at the end of the night. its good to get ur pipes cleaned but thats all. have even banged a couple of the cocktail waitresses lol...but seriously the net is great my uncle just got married to a woman he met online like 6 months ago. also, it sounds gay, but, the grocery store, the gym (but do not try to be all macho just be polite and start off with something easy like "it's crowded in here today" and build from that), bed bath and beyond believe it or not lol, even the mall is a good place. best of luck
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Wow, I never though of any good reason to go into Bed, Bath, and Beyond. I'll have to check one out sometime.
 
Lacradocious said:
Wow, I never though of any good reason to go into Bed, Bath, and Beyond. I'll have to check one out sometime.
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o yeah..hot older women like in their late twenties 30s..but also if its near a college campus..great for picking up coeds especially if ur like me and in college. basically, non threatening environments are the best to find the good girls
 
Alright man on your journey try this out, i tried this whenever meeting or being around any new women act as if you have a girlfriend and that you are not interested it will make you seem like you are not interested in them but at the same time let you be your complete set cuz your not tryin to act a different way to get with them it puts more pressure on them to act if they want u leaving u not like an idiot in a coffeeshop with your hands in your pockets walkin away from being shut down. but good places to meet ladies are of course grocery store, coffeshops and concerts met several women from those places and im a happier man. and now i have a girlfriend now been with her for about a year and now im not digging it anymore i just want to be single so i gotta figure out what i actually want even though im still young just gotta figure my sh it out. and make sure u lock eyes dont look away keep ur eyes on her at all times makes u more confident, and when looking around a room if u see a chick lookin at you look away real quick and have a double take to see if she is still lookn at you then after lock eyes with her smile grab a drink or whatever ur doin real quick to make her ponder than make your move if she seems like shes not interested in u, you will be able to tell when u start talkin to her so make sure u have an exit planned to get out if she seems not into u alright man best of luck
 
I wouldn't mind dating an older woman this year (34-45)...

I see them around when I'm out but I'm usually distracted by friends or other stuff... just have to step up I guess! Any pointers on how to approach?
 
buuzer0 said:
I wouldn't mind dating an older woman this year (34-45)...

I see them around when I'm out but I'm usually distracted by friends or other stuff... just have to step up I guess! Any pointers on how to approach?
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Most older women know exactly what they want, so just look for the signs. If she is interested in you, you'll know. I had several older women come up to me and told me straight up what they want or that they like me or one gorgeous woman told me she likes my legs (I was wearing pretty loose jeans, go figure) but I did show her my legs later that night. lol
 
buuzer0 said:
I wouldn't mind dating an older woman this year (34-45)...

I see them around when I'm out but I'm usually distracted by friends or other stuff... just have to step up I guess! Any pointers on how to approach?
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What do women and pieces of dog crap have in common?

...the older they are, the easier they are to pick up! ;) - Nahhh, older women are classy, but I wouldn't recommend dating one just to do it.
 
Barnes & Noble ftw....seriously, you can see the kind of literature a girl is interested in, and it gives you a decent overhead of how she works. Not 100%, I am a nice guy, but unless a story has war and bloody bodies its not interesting.

I have used POF before. But I dont msg girls, I let them msg me. Then they all turn out to be weird or have too much baggage.

Church as well if you are a Christian. But that should not be your purpose to be there. My buddy who came from Vegas, became Christian here. He was a big time party guy, has all the muscles, the tude, etc. But none of the Christian girls are attracted to him... I had to explain to him this is the first time he has ever met women with real standards :D He didnt like it and went back to secular chicks.

As for the gym, I just get 28-33 year old moms that walk behind me and look at my rear.... we have the whole wall mirror things so I can see this, and it feels disturbing. I have noticed most girls who come to the gym are anti-tool. But not all of them.
 
if you are asking this question then you need to get your mojo back..
confidence breeds success..

i get more women when i dont give a **** then when im out there 'hunting' at clubs etc...women can pick up on desperation.. think swingers ...

get some good pics of you ..get on some online sites..get some dates...DONT expect anything ...
build some confidence...and have some fun!!
 
DmitryWI said:
Cool, man, good for you. I've never done online dating and I'm not sure if I want to do it right now, but it's definitely an option...
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I would like to reaffirm this idea.

Plenty of high quality sites out there, with minimal fee requirements. Also a vast amount of social networking sites such as myspace, which despite popular opinion, is not ONLY for 13 yr olds who have an endless fetish for testing the limitations of .gif capacity on a single webpage.

Ive met a few people from online around in my area, and none have turned out BAD, and one or two actually was a fantastic experience.

The idea that the person will end up 2394lbs, or have severe mental issues when they show up is a thing of the past. There is more than enough technology available to get a VERY accurate assesment both physically and emotionally before meeting.

No doubt continue traditional avenues, but for how long it takes to set up a profile, and minimal upkeep required, you really have nothing to lose, and the possibility of finding someone special.

Just one of those things I think should be a staple "background" dating tool. With the off chance of finding someone with nothing to lose.
 
Lets see...

After my ex left me a couple years ago, I went through the same thing.

Tried the online thing for a while. Tried POF, eharmony, and one other (probably Match). POF and Match were not my style...felt like I was window shopping. I got scores of dates from eharmony. I have to say I liked it the best. ITs the most expensive, but I think its a good thing. Usually the girls on there are serious about finding a relationship. Anyways...most girls I met were really decent, about half were worth a second date. A few were worth a several dates. I am pretty sure if I would have kept with it, I would have met someone.

But...God plays out his plans how he wants. I ended up meeting my GF totally differently and totally un-expected.

I took a half day from work to do whatever (I can't even remember). I walked into my bank to get some $$$ and say hi to my mom (she works there). Well, as I was heading towards the door chatting with my mom, this girl really caught my eye. Her and I exchanged several glances. Turns out, she was a good friend of my mom's (hold on, she is only 2 months older than me). After I left she ran over to her and asked "THAT IS YOUR SON???" Well, she got my info. from her and looked me up on myspace. We chatted online for a while, and the rest is history. Been 9 months now, and I'm certain this is my girl!!! Been living together for 3 months now, and it gets better each and every day.

Good luck! God will send you your match when the time is right.
 
DmitryWI said:
Most older women know exactly what they want, so just look for the signs. If she is interested in you, you'll know. I had several older women come up to me and told me straight up what they want or that they like me or one gorgeous woman told me she likes my legs (I was wearing pretty loose jeans, go figure) but I did show her my legs later that night. lol
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So how is the dating thing going??? find anyone worth the effort/time.......:) I hope all is well with you


TC
 
ABNRanger is correct

I used to have a sign that read "Will date for food" worked everytime. Nah, Jk. I actually met my lady on the net as well, been four yrs now. I would suggest not looking, it will happen when it is supposed to. Just take one day at a time, you would be surprised what you find when you are not looking. But, if you must look, there is church (not that you are there for that), grocery, female prison (hey cons needs love too). God will send you someone when he is ready.

I agree with ABNRanger.No need to waste time worrying about it or looking for it,because it has already been ordained.God either has a special woman chosen for you,or desires that you live a solitairy life.
Either way,make the most of your life as it is.
 
toughchick401 said:
So how is the dating thing going??? find anyone worth the effort/time.......:) I hope all is well with you


TC
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Not yet. But thanks for asking. :) Wasn't really looking. Keeping pretty busy right now, working, getting ready for college in a week, been going skiing 2-3 times a week, so I didn't really have time or energy. God will bring me the perfect girl when time is right, so I probably should enjoy the freedom I have until then. LOL

How about yourself?
 
DmitryWI said:
Not yet. But thanks for asking. :) Wasn't really looking. Keeping pretty busy right now, working, getting ready for college in a week, been going skiing 2-3 times a week, so I didn't really have time or energy. God will bring me the perfect girl when time is right, so I probably should enjoy the freedom I have until then. LOL

How about yourself?
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Your funny, how about me....lol...No time nor the patience, finishing up school in a few weeks, Ugghh and working to much OT, they just opened a 4.5 million wing to my unit in the hospital and now we have no one to work, nice OT but i am dead tired......with school, work and the gym when I get the energy............and besides I always pick the wrong guy, so I decided I am not looking nor dating, when I graduate I am buying a condo, buying a new jeep and focusing on my family/friends.....I also decided to write a book, a best seller :) .....I am thinking of calling it..."why I wont settle".....

TC
 
Hey, at least you have a job, right? I'd rather work my ass off then be unemployed. I separated my shoulder skiing last Saturday, so I'm satying at home this week. It's only Tuesday but I'm already going crazy. I can't just sit and do nothing.
As for your soul mate, you need to change your way of thinking about it. If you keep thinking you'll never meet anyone great, then you will make it come true. Make a wish what kind of person you'd like to meet and ask God to bring you that person. Then forget about it and God will bring you that person when you least expect. :)
 
DmitryWI said:
Hey, at least you have a job, right? I'd rather work my ass off then be unemployed. I separated my shoulder skiing last Saturday, so I'm satying at home this week. It's only Tuesday but I'm already going crazy. I can't just sit and do nothing.
As for your soul mate, you need to change your way of thinking about it. If you keep thinking you'll never meet anyone great, then you will make it come true. Make a wish what kind of person you'd like to meet and ask God to bring you that person. Then forget about it and God will bring you that person when you least expect. :)
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Your right I do love my job, this week,..we have a great group of kids who are open to help and the therapy that we provide, I will be sad to see them go home, so working so much is good for now, as for the man issue, I really am ok...I have had so many bad expereinces that I am not bitter but more like done......some guy trys to give me BS and I cant tolerate it, I stop all communication with him, it always seems the ones I fall for are not on the market for one reason or another....SO really school, work and my family are all I need, I dont need or want to make a wish that I personally dont believe in.....................

TC..
 
DmitryWI said:
Ok, this is just lame. I was hoping for more romantic and exciting stories. Anyone? :)
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Ha, apparently gym rats aren't the romantic ones.
My GF of over a year now was the new hot chick at work, so everyone hit on her and I just basically ignored her, two weeks later we hit it off. So, often times showing girls too much attention just makes you look like another dude trying to score (though I can't say I've never been there).
 
No success stories here. I had given thought about doing hot yoga regularly. Meeting a girl there would be secondary, but more likely than what I'm doing now.

I've also been on (still am I guess) plenty of fish. Had a really bad experience with this one girl I met when we met in person. I won't even go into it, but I can honestly say for one of the first times in my life - I'm quite fine without a girl and not looking for one anymore. I think she was that final straw of disappointment.

And now, whenever I do decide to date again, I'm going to be more picky than ever. (I was less "picky" with that last girl, and she still was...nasty inside). No more of that for me. I want a gf with at least an 8 for her butt. Superficial? Yes. No more settling for me. That last girl turned my stomach...in so many ways. But none of this helps you.

Anyways, IF I was looking, I guess I'd still do the hot yoga thing. I'm still planning on doing hot yoga regularly soon, but only for my health and flexibility. Then again, aside from a few short term things, I've pretty much been single for 3 years, and I don't see that changing now.

Yoga.
 
Sunder said:
No success stories here. I had given thought about doing hot yoga regularly. Meeting a girl there would be secondary, but more likely than what I'm doing now.

I've also been on (still am I guess) plenty of fish. Had a really bad experience with this one girl I met when we met in person. I won't even go into it, but I can honestly say for one of the first times in my life - I'm quite fine without a girl and not looking for one anymore. I think she was that final straw of disappointment.

And now, whenever I do decide to date again, I'm going to be more picky than ever. (I was less "picky" with that last girl, and she still was...nasty inside). No more of that for me. I want a gf with at least an 8 for her butt. Superficial? Yes. No more settling for me. That last girl turned my stomach...in so many ways. But none of this helps you.

Anyways, IF I was looking, I guess I'd still do the hot yoga thing. I'm still planning on doing hot yoga regularly soon, but only for my health and flexibility. Then again, aside from a few short term things, I've pretty much been single for 3 years, and I don't see that changing now.

Yoga.
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From my experience, women are not too apt to hit on guys in their yoga class. I took yoga and pilates for about a year a while ago. I have to say the women were intimidated, and not too apt to talk. Didn't help that I was the ONLY guy in there. Anyways, yeah it was good core work, but I never felt like I was getting much out of it. Give it a try...maybe the class you would go to would be different. I had much more interest from the opposite sex by taking a spinning class. Men and women in there, and a HELL of a workout!
 
The most success I had was when I worked as a cook/kitchen manager at a local restaurant.There never seemed to be a shortage of girls wanting to go out.At one point,I was dating three separate girls at the same time.
Now that I am older,I am not into playing the field anymore.I would like to find that special someone whom I could live the rest of my life with.
 
Conagher said:
The most success I had was when I worked as a cook/kitchen manager at a local restaurant.There never seemed to be a shortage of girls wanting to go out.At one point,I was dating three separate girls at the same time.
Now that I am older,I am not into playing the field anymore.I would like to find that special someone whom I could live the rest of my life with.
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After playing the field I'm sure you have a better idea about what type of woman you want to spend the rest of your life with though! You didn't settle for the first one that came your way, which is awesome. Hope you find the one! :cheers:

Restaurant workers do seem very outgoing...I see no shortage of Fridays, Hooters, and other waitresses (still wearing their work clothes) when I'm out at night.
 
buuzer0 said:
After playing the field I'm sure you have a better idea about what type of woman you want to spend the rest of your life with though! You didn't settle for the first one that came your way, which is awesome. Hope you find the one! :cheers:

Restaurant workers do seem very outgoing...I see no shortage of Fridays, Hooters, and other waitresses (still wearing their work clothes) when I'm out at night.
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Exactly.There is only two girls that I look back on with regrets.From what little I hear about the rest of them,they keep their husbands broke and cheat on them.
 
I'm still in the college mode... it works out nicely thus far. A lot of girls aren't worth the time but finding the few that are makes it worth wading through worthless people. I'm still happy at this point being alone after being burned not to long ago but just passively talking to girls without actively trying to pick them up is working very well lol.
 
I met my gf at a party my ex dragged me to a long time ago. Me and the girl I was dating at the time were gonna break up any day, just neither of us wanted to hurt the others feelings.

Been w/ the girl for 5 years now, we took a little break and I dated some other girls but all I can say is, stay away from girls in bars/clubs... Christ some real interesting characters out there.

OP, casual/cheap/fun first dates area must IMO, unless ya got for sure chemisty, you shall be broke fast.
 
GeekPoop said:
I met my gf at a party my ex dragged me to a long time ago. Me and the girl I was dating at the time were gonna break up any day, just neither of us wanted to hurt the others feelings.

Been w/ the girl for 5 years now, we took a little break and I dated some other girls but all I can say is, stay away from girls in bars/clubs... Christ some real interesting characters out there.

OP, casual/cheap/fun first dates area must IMO, unless ya got for sure chemisty, you shall be broke fast.
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I would say just the opposite :cheers: .

I've met some crazies in bars/clubs, but also some really cool fun-loving girls.
 
buuzer0 said:
I would say just the opposite :cheers: .

I've met some crazies in bars/clubs, but also some really cool fun-loving girls.
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Ahh, yeah excellent place to get to know people/practice for sure!

OP - wouldnt be a bad idea to hit up bars/clubs and just test out your game.

:cheers:
 
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