Dude, you're so close to being right... this is like the math problem that you forget to carry the 1 on and so your answer is all hosed up.
The fulcrum length is from your elbow to the bar, not to the weights. The center of mass of the weight is the caenter of the bar regardless of the diameter of the weights used. The force is dependent only on the weight of the bar, not how far apart the weights are, or their diameter. You can grip the bar anywhere you want and the force on your arms will be the same. It might feel a little different to you because you're stronger/weaker at different grip widths, but it's all the same.
Now if you want to get real technical, the deflection in the bar will make a difference when deadlifting, because the further you deflect the bar before the weights break from the ground the "easier" the lift will be... but that's still not what the OP was asking. FWIW I'm a mechanical engineer. I own this stuff.