Women advice...

goleafsgo1216

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Ok so I've seen some lady problems on here and some darn good advice so i thought I'd try it out. I know im young haha but I'm sure you've all been here before. So about 6-7 months ago my ex dumped me for the second time in 2 months... the usual i just dont want a relationship right now and i still love you... so after a while i start getting with girls and what not. nothing serious. she found out recently after barely talking for months, and freaks on me. so when i calmed her down we talked for maybe two weeks. then she says she has feelings for me again and wants to hang out and see hwere it goes. i told her i still had feelings too but i can't be with someone who i already gave two chances.. justified?
 
goleafsgo1216 said:
Ok so I've seen some lady problems on here and some darn good advice so i thought I'd try it out. I know im young haha but I'm sure you've all been here before. So about 6-7 months ago my ex dumped me for the second time in 2 months... the usual i just dont want a relationship right now and i still love you... so after a while i start getting with girls and what not. nothing serious. she found out recently after barely talking for months, and freaks on me. so when i calmed her down we talked for maybe two weeks. then she says she has feelings for me again and wants to hang out and see hwere it goes. i told her i still had feelings too but i can't be with someone who i already gave two chances.. justified?
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Perfectly justified man. She obviously does not know what she wants. And so she wants to string you on. Dont do it man. This next part is not to offend any women, but personally I think finding a girl who is really ready is hard to come by before 24/25ish.

You might still care alot for her, but man move on. You are going into the prime of your life. A better girl will come along. Your just beginning life, no reason to worry about it being the one if she has screwed you over twice. She was not ready then, is not ready now, and wont be for awhile. And no its not worth waiting for her.... experience speaking here -.-
 
Zero V said:
Perfectly justified man. She obviously does not know what she wants. And so she wants to string you on. Dont do it man. This next part is not to offend any women, but personally I think finding a girl who is really ready is hard to come by before 24/25ish.

You might still care alot for her, but man move on. You are going into the prime of your life. A better girl will come along. Your just beginning life, no reason to worry about it being the one if she has screwed you over twice. She was not ready then, is not ready now, and wont be for awhile. And no its not worth waiting for her.... experience speaking here -.-
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X2....especially about the 24/25ish comment. go, have fun, don't look back only forward......you'll be with someone better and the only reason that girl even said what she said is cause she can't find someone better right now, which is what she was trying to do in the first place, and couldn't, take the satisfaction of know that she wants you back cause no one treated her as well as you did. there's a lot of dicks out there, she might have learned her lesson, but the lesson for you is to know when enough is enough.
 
Plus there is alot of othere women out there that you may like better.
I always said, " The worst piece I ever had was wonderful!"
 
yea, after that i almost feel a serious relationship at my age or the next few years is almost a waste of time, you're not going to wind up with this girl so why bother?.
 
goleafsgo1216 said:
yea, after that i almost feel a serious relationship at my age or the next few years is almost a waste of time, you're not going to wind up with this girl so why bother?.
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Plus dont go back with her and give her a chance to ruin you ability to trust other people. It makes it so much harder when you cant trust to have a good relationship.
 
and get this, the day after we had that big talk, she hangs out with some guy that she has hungout with somewhat recently, says she doesnt like him... haha more than enough to put a cap on it for me, i can do better.
 
goleafsgo1216 said:
and get this, the day after we had that big talk, she hangs out with some guy that she has hungout with somewhat recently, says she doesnt like him... haha more than enough to put a cap on it for me, i can do better.
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Thats the spirit

Basically though, there are reasons I wont date secular girls...
 
I think in your first post you said you had been seeing other women and she found out about it and that's when she wanted to talk, right? It's hilariousl when that happens. You're preselected man, and when she sees that other women want you, it makes you more valuable to her so that's why she starts hittin you up like crazy.

Take the advice you've seen over and over in here: MOVE ON. You will have a lot of fun being single, just make sure you're safe. If a girl you really like comes along though, don't be afraid to get into a relationship. Just know that you can always walk away, and so can she. Realize that there are a LOT of women out there... really awesome women. So get out there and meet as many as you can!

If you hear about this girl dating other guys, who cares? They are going to get treated the same as you, so you should really feel sorry for them. Move on to the next awesome girl. And the next... and the next... and someday you'll find one that is a 10. Not just in looks, but personality. THAT is the one you will want to keep. Beauty is common.
 
Just keep her around to have sex with when you need to... but still get on other chicks, its a classic move! I've done it with all my ex girlfriends. Plus you have the right
 
Tone said:
Just keep her around to have sex with when you need to... but still get on other chicks, its a classic move! I've done it with all my ex girlfriends. Plus you have the right
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Doing this no longer makes you the good guy, it puts you on her same level. Basically your like she is.

Plus I have to take a spiritual stance against that one....
 
Well buuzer thats some damn good advice.. The thing is hearing anything about her and another guy never phased me for more then 10 seconds. And yea to be honest I've had way more fun hanging out with my friends and meeting other girls than I did, at first it caught me off guard thinking maybe i still do have feelings, which i might, but not near enough to go back. haha and i don't think having sex with her is an option believe me i tried the friends with benefits thing with her a few times, only flew once
 
sounds to me like the ol' "i don't want you right now, but I don't want anyone else to have you" bit. Listen to these people's advice man, they've sure helped me alot!
 
haha yes you are all wise and it would seem stupid not to listen to you, and yea i told her basically no dice, although it wasn't easy nor a fun conversation
 
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