1 of 3 things now.My room mate /friend not friend her brain damage sometimes messes things up which is the one that ruined it. She told her like from the beginning (year ago) that I said I was madly in love with her which freaked her out, I just recently found this out. I did ask her out long time ago for some lunch/dinner and she turned me down. I also asked her recently and said no. My room mate made it clear that she does not want her helpers dating her room mate ( me ). So I think she does not want a weird situation between my roomate and her and is not showing her feelings towards me. Once she stops working for my room mate I think I can be more open about it and she can be more lax.
1) move on...my impression is she is not interested. She turned you down a few times. Don't get hung up on one woman. It will ruin your life.
2) the hell with your roommate. It is a free country. Who the hell is your roommate to tell you who you can and can't date. I once banged my roommates gf, well, that was a mess...but still did it.
Anyways, point being fess up to the girl completely, don't worry what others think, and do what you feel in your heart. If you spill it and she doesn't want it, she is not worth your time.
3) best for last...bang her mom in the BANGBUS