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Wife admitted to affair

nightshift said:
Update:
The wife went to court Monday for her latest run in with the law. She could have taken 2 days in jail plus court fees, but decided to get a public defender and go for a non jury trial. I think it is a huge mistake.

Also found out the guy she told me she was having an affair with has now filed a restraining order against her. People familiar with the situation told me that she has sent threatening texts and emails and left horrible voice mail messages with this guy and his current girlfriend. I really don't know who to believe anymore.

Met with a para-legal and started the divorce process. I will keep you posted
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Amen Nightshift!! How do you feel so far?
MK9
 
nightshift said:
Update:
The wife went to court Monday for her latest run in with the law. She could have taken 2 days in jail plus court fees, but decided to get a public defender and go for a non jury trial. I think it is a huge mistake.

Also found out the guy she told me she was having an affair with has now filed a restraining order against her. People familiar with the situation told me that she has sent threatening texts and emails and left horrible voice mail messages with this guy and his current girlfriend. I really don't know who to believe anymore.

Met with a para-legal and started the divorce process. I will keep you posted
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I think you are doing the right thing man. Don't let others drag you down. You can only turn so many cheeks
 
Lots of good advice has been given in this thread and beyond what has already been said I have little to add except to stay the course and take lots of care of you and your kids.

Make sure you end up with custody of the children. This shouldn't be too hard given her history, but it's in their best interest.
 
nightshift said:
My wife and I have been separated for some time now. If any of you are familiar with some of my previous posts, or have gone thru this, you will know what an ugly mess it is. She is dealing with the consequences of the accident she caused and the subsequent DUI conviction. Friday night she was popped for driving on a suspended license and had the vehicle I'm paying for impounded.

On top of all this, she admitted to me that she had an affair with someone I know. While I had suspected she was cheating, I did not expect this guy to be involved. Needless to say, this s**t storm just got worse. The topper is, this guy is my sons best friends dad(he's divorced). I know this sounds like a cheesy soap opera and I guess it is.

This is foreign territory for me and I don't know what to do. The kids are living with me and I want to be honest with them, but where do you draw the line? They are 15 and 11 and are doing well. Also, I am going to see this guy at school functions throughout the year. What then?

Sorry for the rant. I needed to vent a bit. Any advice or opinions would be appreciated. Thanks
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This is a blessing in disguise man, you are 44 years young and still have many years ahead of you. you got 2 wonderful kids and think of it this way think positive and slowly but surely you can move on.

I was dwelling and been cheated and betrayed 3 times in my life by my ex girlfriends and one time I got so depressed cause this girls cheated and I cried, I was young though and she treated me like ****. The next time I learned to never show hurt or pain to them, so I found out another gf cheated and instead of getting mad I just moved on changed my number and showed no emotion like it didn't phase me and they kept trying to call me, its funny its a game to those kinda chicks and those kinda chicks are the ones you don't want around you.

Another door opens man, the woman was NO GOOD! so let her go she aint worth your heart bro.

My teacher told me a story of a doctor whose wife cheated on him when he was 50 they were married for 25 years and now the doctor is married to a young Argentine teacher in her 30s and she loves him so much. While the ex wife wound up miserable and bitter even though she cheated, plus she kept trying to get back with him. The no good women always try to make you feel sorrow for them don't be a sucker and take them back.
 
I hate to hear of your situation. You are being a "TRUE" man by not acting on your impulses. Personally, trust is the foundation of a relationship, once its gone its gone. Maybe one day down the road you can mend and rebuild but that's completely up to the individuals involved. Great job staying with the kids. I work in law enforcement and too many times I'll see the girl mess up and the guy leaves and leaves the kids with the messed up girl. That in turn messes up the kids even more.

As far as the court hearings. I cannot speak directly about AZ law but in TX there is the hearing trial (she just went to i.e. plea guilty/not guilty and if she wants a jury trial), then there wiil be the conviction trial (the jury trial she's going for) and then a sentencing trial (where she gets her punishment). Its a long road if all goes through. If she got a lawyer they will try to convince her to take a plea bargain. Generally jury's dont think to highly of drunk driver's especially if she been convicted before.

Again, you are a great man and I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts.
 
i can certainly recognize with this man. every girlfriend i have had since i was about 14 has cheated on me..sometimes they did it twice. it sucks. but definately what u should do is bring up her history in a custody battle or even a divorce proceedings, and make sure u tell of the infidelity as well. any judge with any ****ing common sense is going to award you the kids and whatever else and leave her with jack ****.

see but this could have turned bad...he could have killed her and the guy, which is what i would have done if it was my wife. but then they would look into your history or your life style and blame it on steroid use..even if u never had used...

my advice.. since ur seperated...go get some new ass...younger ass to make her feel like ****. keep your head up man.
 
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