Here is a legit question. I see posts all the time talking about libido, sex, and their partner's libido. I saw this one post about this dude saying his chick wanted it 5 times a day. (OK I get it is probably the most extreme and it was the internet). Meanwhile, I hit the unluckily as **** lottery in that department.
But what is normal/average for a 37-year-old couple? We are both in decent shape. No health issues. I just can't get over my frustration with this subject and my wife. She doesn't initiate sex ever, like no **** 3-4 times in 10 years, she doesn't ever act like she is horny, and she hasn't talked about sex until recently because I have basically forced her to. She doesn't masturbate hardly at all. Like I have asked and I think it's like once every six weeks or so. She lives a good life. Low stress overall. I treat her pretty well. She has like no sexual fetish or fantasy.
I feel like I work hard to make her happy....
For instance (embarrassing some but you have to do what you got to do) For Valentine's day I learned and bought all the **** to give her a pedicure (I can afford to just buy one just fine but it was the effort and thought). Like foot bath thing, all the salt rub ****, all the other rubs and oils, and ****, and then painted her damn toenails. She loves her feet rubbed and touched but not in a sexual way. I put a lot of effort into that ****. Yes, I did that **** 50% because I care about her, and yes 50% in hopes she would fucking return some favor with that level of effort. So we get to the end of the night like 945ish for me because I'm tired, and nothing.... No fucking effort to have sex after all that, even on Valentine's night. I spent the next 3 hours in bed wide awake pissed as **** while she fell asleep on the couch watching reality tv. Comes to bed at like 2am.... (this is a typical night).
Then she wonders why im fucking short in the morning.
I'll be honest I'm a confident guy and I don't really have self-esteem issues. I'm successful, rich, good looking but ****..... This is fucking with me. I seriously am like wtf, is there something wrong with me?
IDK fellas just getting worn down. I just feel like I can't fucking win.
* so what she got me was a heart onesie like you see in the link below. I put it on and felt like the kid of a Christmas story wearing the fucking bunny costume.
Full Hearts Jumpsuit: Men's Valentine's Outfits | Tipsy Elves