Destroyed: My recent breakup

[toughchick401]

TC you are the bomb. I appreciate Your sincere support.

Y2J you are so right. What up, MG.

I just can't believe I let her do this to me. I know I could've prevented and 90% of the questionable sh!t happened, if I had just taken control of each situation. I swallowed the wrong pill (Matrix).

well thanks, i hate to see people hurting....but sadly we have all been there.......but just remember time will help, and so wont your friends/family.......

 

[Cuffs]

Change your number. Change your email, change it all. Don't take her calls - it doesn't matter what she says/does in the future. Decision is made. Irrevocable.

This is good advice as well. I wish I was able to cut all contact, but unfortunately I need to keep some level of contact due to insurance issues and taxes. When my final paperwork is in (about 4 weeks or less :head all contact will be cut for good. I already have a new cell phone, and am mailing her the SIM card to my old phone since it is her account. She is pissed about this. She wants to keep that contact with me, but more important, a form of control. However, I have not allowed her to and it drives her nuts. She calls and texts me often, but I don't respond. She then resorts to calling my work phone where she begins to go on a rant for not answering her calls. The calls usually end up with me hanging up on her as soon as she curses or says anything in a negative manner, and that really gets to her.

 

[handzilla]

Thanks Malek. I appreciate the words of wisdom from ya. This helps alot.

I'm anticipate as I get stronger she will get weaker. I'd actually like to confirm this when that next contact takes place. I have a feeling I that she'll have her tail between her legs and I'll take no mercy.

This sh!t all happened so fast. I remember it like yesterday when I was all jovial listening to "Love At First Sight" before I hit the gym. Working out Friday afternoons after a night of 2hrs sleep from spending Thursday nights with her. There's no way she could ever forget how great she was treated. :wtf: I almost feel like I was a different person when I was so caught up into her. Like I forgot who I was and what I stood for. I can even go so far as to say that I became OBSESSED:jaw: . And I'll go even further and say that this hasn't been cured yet.

Today's chest workout was glorious, though. I was bangin out sets while listening to "Boiler Room" by Limp Bizkit (good breakup song). Still rebuilding.

 

[Sputnik]

mate, I just read this, and it sounds similar to stuff i've been through, but when i was much younger. All the best to u, and u will do better, and keep us updated.

 

[1ad man]

yeah i had the same problem bud fell in love purpose to the ***** and twice she said think about it i need time im worth more than that now it has been 3 days horrible days of my life i dont care im not calling the ***** she is gonna call me i gave her a deadline dont worry these chicks are weird they play with your mind she is gonna call you dont pick it up forget her and find someone else.

they all be whores find yourself an angel mine always said i aint no whore and guess what she was .

you know the funny thing is a women ruins your life and she also satisfies it . when you dont have a girlfriend you suffer and when you do have one you suffer.

 

[handzilla]

Thx, salv. I'm trying. Oh, I'll be sure to keep all posted on this one.

1ad, you are stronger than I. I should've just been like "Whatever, you're fyucked up, don't even bother ever calling." Instead I desperately try everything to get her back and broke down and spilled it all to this b!tch. There went my pride.

I wake up in the morning wondering what happened and why. How'd this happen... etc. It's the obession, man. I've zoomed in and focused on this chic so much almost to the point that nothing else exists.

 

[Mrs. Gimpy!]

the best thing you can do is push yourself harder in life. the better you do, the more she'll regret, the happier you will be and with confidence and security, more than a few great women will be there for your choosing. about the "spilling it all....pride" thing, we've all done that...at least i have once. you need to mourn, but take care of yourself and all will become right.

"everything is okay in the end, if its not okay, then its not the end"

 

[Bionic]

:goodpost: Hand, EVERYONE has gone through something similar. It ALWAYS sucks and hurts. It's part of being an adult. Believe it or not, this will make you into a stronger and better person. Dude, just be glad it was 11 months. Mine came after 8 YEARS! Look at it this way, now you're free to find the woman of your dreams. Just keep in mind that no matter how beautiful you think someone is, how good they f***, s**** or l*** you, how great their body or personality seems...someone, somewhere is glad that they're gone!!!

 

[1ad man]

yeah bud you didnt do nothing wrong it is not about pride bro you just fell in love dont feel any lower in your eyes. Be proud that you were in love with her true love. It is her loss players come and go but true lover is hard to find. I believe in bad karma you karma defines your destiny if she screwed you she will get screwed one day no matter what.

I was exactly same situation like yours our story is so identical i felt like calling her but i stopped myself i was about pride . i called her and that is after i proposed to her and she said i dont know then i proposed again 6 months later and she goes i dont know now she is calling me im not calling it is not about love this time but pride.

I went on my knees once never again screw the loser. Remember think of it this way now your single and can hit on any girl of your dreams . peace

 

[Cuffs]

This 1ad dude is killing me...:blink: :blink: :blink: Maybe change the name to 1addman???

 

[Bionic]

:lol:

 

[TURUGBY]

i say **** her. That **** pisses me off. Shes obviously doin one of two things, tryin to break off from you for a while b/c she likes someone else better or shes cheating on you. Go out, have fun, get drunk, find a girl hotter than her and make her jealous. If its not fun its not worth doin.

 

[handzilla]

Thx, again Mrs.G. I'm trying to "bring up my market value."

I hear ya, bionic. Mine was only 4 1/2 months but, love is love. They say: No matter how hot she is, someone's sick of her sh!t.

1ad, I feel you on that. I would have hit her with that ring too, if things had went well longer. I really had so much love for her. It is really too bad so sad. The relationship still had some bad effects on me though.

'RUGBY, you best believe I am definitely pissed about this. I feel like ripping her heart out if she ever comes to her senses and tries to come back. She told me that she cared about me too much to ever have cheated. But that doesn't hold much merit now. What a f'ckin b!tch!

 

[toughchick401]

been a LONG day, just making sure your ok..(((HUGZ)))) be strong

 

[1ad man]

she be a loser dont show her any respect the more you call that dirtbag the more she is gonna play you. Mine i think she dont have boyfriend but her problem is her ex if i find out she seeing another guy i swear i will be on cnn for canada most wanted for murder.

They all say they are virgins and dont drink and go to any club chances are she is the first one sipping on that beer and doing a strip show for the guys . never believe what your hear or see or what they say. they all liars even if they cry it is all fake. just like the wigs and fake lee press on nails they wear and the supersized bros they wear to impress us guys.

It is always about them not about us. IM suffering just like you handzilla i got two options either rape her or murder her and go on death row.

3 days since she hasnt called me another week and im gonna get myself a shot gun and a german shepherd to eat her leftover remains.

Sorry guys im just pissed off it really hurts im sick in tired of shedding tears now they are gonna cry. 0 -2 with these chicks i minus well become a fag maybe i will be 10for 10 at the gay bar . life sucks bro but remember one thing it always goes on. always.

 

[1ad man]

another question why do i have - 503 something is that mean im close to getting banned help me i dont understand this reputation stuff. give me two thumbs up bro because the roid monkey dont care what others think what matters is what the monkey thinks

 

[handzilla]

been a LONG day, just making sure your ok..(((HUGZ)))) be strong

Thank you. You are the best. I'm always doing better closer to my workouts. Then it seems like it all starts over before I got to bed and wake up in the morning. It's sad, but a part of me still wants her back. I just gotta stay strong and try to do better than her. This is really tough sh!t.

 

[handzilla]

she be a loser dont show her any respect the more you call that dirtbag the more she is gonna play you. Mine i think she dont have boyfriend but her problem is her ex if i find out she seeing another guy i swear i will be on cnn for canada most wanted for murder.

They all say they are virgins and dont drink and go to any club chances are she is the first one sipping on that beer and doing a strip show for the guys . never believe what your hear or see or what they say. they all liars even if they cry it is all fake. just like the wigs and fake lee press on nails they wear and the supersized bros they wear to impress us guys.

It is always about them not about us. IM suffering just like you handzilla i got two options either rape her or murder her and go on death row.

3 days since she hasnt called me another week and im gonna get myself a shot gun and a german shepherd to eat her leftover remains.

Sorry guys im just pissed off it really hurts im sick in tired of shedding tears now they are gonna cry. 0 -2 with these chicks i minus well become a fag maybe i will be 10for 10 at the gay bar . life sucks bro but remember one thing it always goes on. always.

I'm definitely feeling you, man. My feelings toward this girl are way too ill right now. If she tried to come back, she'd better try real hard, have a lot of explaining to do, and be ready to treat me like royalty. I will never be the same after this sh!t. I hate her, I love her, I want her, I want her to suffer. I want her to be mine again, make her suffer, then heal her heart, and live blissfully with her. So many feelings, man. Too many too deal with.

 

[1ad man]

i know where u are coming from now make her drop on her knees women like chasing guys not guys chasing them. dont show interest in her and she will come back to u watch . if not her loss but you have some respect to bro. Dont let her walk all over u . You call the shots not her , dont let her treat you like **** . now the ball is in your court. My chick treated me like **** i proposed twice she is pretending she is the queen now i am the king and she is gonna be the maid.

just watch she called me 10 times today i picked up the phone zero times the ***** is begging and she is gonna have to beg more tell we set even. no more of her **** now i call the shots . peace

 

[1ad man]

i have the same problem as u bro and this is my second relationship gone bad bro u feel like okay during the day but when you go to bed you feel like **** it happens. dont worry pain happens both ways if it is true love you will both feel the pain not just one person both of you. peace.

 

[handzilla]

You're the man, 1'. I'd love to be in your position right now. Nothing compares to the taste of that. That is why I'm hoping she calls or something. Hopefully it's only a matter of time. Just how bad do you wanna answer that call though, man? Maybe I never should have answered her call during "weak 1.:frustrate "

I had a chic in high school that treated me like **** for the longest. She'd call me in the middle of the night(a school night at that) drunk saying her X-bf propsed to her, and just starting random fights, Always threatening to dump me, and hanging up on me only for my pu55y whipped self to call her back. She came around and fell to her knees. It was the worst relationship ever.

I thought that after dealing with her I'd be able to deal with any girl in the future. But you never know what to expect, and sh!t happens so gradually you don't realize until it's too late.

 

[toughchick401]

she be a loser dont show her any respect the more you call that dirtbag the more she is gonna play you. Mine i think she dont have boyfriend but her problem is her ex if i find out she seeing another guy i swear i will be on cnn for canada most wanted for murder.

They all say they are virgins and dont drink and go to any club chances are she is the first one sipping on that beer and doing a strip show for the guys . never believe what your hear or see or what they say. they all liars even if they cry it is all fake. just like the wigs and fake lee press on nails they wear and the supersized bros they wear to impress us guys.

It is always about them not about us. IM suffering just like you handzilla i got two options either rape her or murder her and go on death row.

3 days since she hasnt called me another week and im gonna get myself a shot gun and a german shepherd to eat her leftover remains.

Sorry guys im just pissed off it really hurts im sick in tired of shedding tears now they are gonna cry. 0 -2 with these chicks i minus well become a fag maybe i will be 10for 10 at the gay bar . life sucks bro but remember one thing it always goes on. always.

See people like you worry me...rape her or murder her..hey here is one, LET IT GO??!!! yeah it stinks and your hurting but move on....I mean come on.....and stop the thugish attuide....

enough is enough,

 

[karategirl]

Well said TG, it got way too intense in there for me to comment.
Yeh, people get hurt, us girls included.
The "mature" thing to do is realise it, walk away, learn from it and move on!:whiner:
Sitting, sulking and planning revenge is not going to get you anywhere but in trouble.

 

[Apowerz6]

Hand are you serious bro, taking advise from a person saying they would want to rape or murder a woman because she has left them in tears??? Are you not understanding that this woman is is someone's sister, daughter, and friend even though she has been shiZZty to you does not mean she deserves any bodily harm. Love is a life lesson, and if you cannot accept it then maybe this love is not for you, but i refuse to believe that because you sound like a good person. Just walk away and GET OVER IT, after all today is get over it day... ALthough easier said than done look at this way all the positive people have told you to move on, and the HURT person on this board has reminded you of hurt over and over again- misery loves company does it not... Life is too short to be stressing like this if she was just a girlfriend bro, this is like a second in your life comparitively. Keep it moving and stay positive...

 

[Cuffs]

Hand, stop listening to 1addman. Dude, it's going to take time, and it may be a tough road. However, you will come out of it just fine.

 

[toughchick401]

Hand, stop listening to 1addman. Dude, it's going to take time, and it may be a tough road. However, you will come out of it just fine.

good post

 

[handzilla]

Hand are you serious bro, taking advise from a person saying they would want to rape or murder a woman because she has left them in tears??? Are you not understanding that this woman is is someone's sister, daughter, and friend even though she has been shiZZty to you does not mean she deserves any bodily harm. Love is a life lesson, and if you cannot accept it then maybe this love is not for you, but i refuse to believe that because you sound like a good person. Just walk away and GET OVER IT, after all today is get over it day... ALthough easier said than done look at this way all the positive people have told you to move on, and the HURT person on this board has reminded you of hurt over and over again- misery loves company does it not... Life is too short to be stressing like this if she was just a girlfriend bro, this is like a second in your life comparitively. Keep it moving and stay positive...

Whoa! No no. I'm not feeling that rape and murder part. I was just saying I like the position he is in where she's blowing up his phone now. I'm doing my best to stay positive, man.

 

[handzilla]

Yeah, Cuffs. I'm starting to realize that this girl is just all around troubled. On the OBSESSION side, I read her away message. I know I should have blocked her SN but, knowledge is power. And I didn't have enough throughout the last few months. She used a quote from song she always listened to:

never much good on my own
so i'm tryin to find somebody else
never been good about findin myself
there's lonliness all by myself
cause findin you ain't been easier
i could use one hint maybe two
cause i've got this spot right beside me baby
waiting here just for you
so you go hide and i'll come seek
and maybe someday in the middle we just might meet
cause i'm counting to 100 and i promise i wont peek
you go hide and i'll come seek
how much longer will this game go on
i guess only time will tell
i hate to hear that you are all alone
overlooked and searched of someone else
so you go hide and i'll come seek
and maybe someday in the middle we may just meet

Call it life imitating art? She's posted that before. I wonder if she was thinking of me when she put it back up this time. There's no way some guy could've replaced me like that.

I wanted her to be the best she could be and I tried to help her get there when I was with her. F'kin crazy out there.

 

[1ad man]

yeah hands whats up no phone call today but i expect some next week im gonna go week 1 and 2 without answering. Before i was begging her to marry her now she is gonna beg god that she never met me . I love the postion im in she left a message yesterday crying on my answering machine all an act.

I told her marry me or take a hike. She ruined 11 months of my life now i plan to ruin the rest of her life. Screw love payback is a *****. I had enough being nice guy nice guys always finish last. now say hello to the bad guy no more flowers and chocolates , no more buying condoms and having sex with my chick . Just gonna make her suffer and screw love im just gonna get myself a 20 dollars whore atleast she dont hide her true identity she shows her true colours.

Life is all about money and sex and pimpin screw love who needs it.

 

[BigCasino]

yeah hands whats up no phone call today but i expect some next week im gonna go week 1 and 2 without answering. Before i was begging her to marry her now she is gonna beg god that she never met me . I love the postion im in she left a message yesterday crying on my answering machine all an act.

I told her marry me or take a hike. She ruined 11 months of my life now i plan to ruin the rest of her life. Screw love payback is a *****. I had enough being nice guy nice guys always finish last. now say hello to the bad guy no more flowers and chocolates , no more buying condoms and having sex with my chick . Just gonna make her suffer and screw love im just gonna get myself a 20 dollars whore atleast she dont hide her true identity she shows her true colours.

Life is all about money and sex and pimpin screw love who needs it.

Hear me out

Remember that it is how you handle **** when it comes crashing down. It is easy to do the right thing when the sun is shinning, birds are chirping, and Mr. Blue Jay is on your shoulder. When it is raining ash and all you can't see that light at the end of the tunnel, that is when your character really gets tested. I know it hurts, but don't give into to all those ****ed up feelings.

Also, I would edit some of your previous posts man, you asked why you have so many negative points? Talking about hackin' *****es up and feeding em' to German shepperds. You see Sin City? Reminds me of that scene with Marv and Frodo out on the farm. Seriously, take a deep breathe and take it down a couple notches. Gotta try and think positive.

 

[1ad man]

oh okay i see so those negative points mean you can get banned okay i didnt know okay no more bad posts from now on thanks for the kind help appreciate it.

now i need advice seriously okay i proposed to my girlfriend and she said she thinks im rushing it has been 11 months we have been meeting once a week probably met each other 100 times . she started crying when i said we should part ways because i gave her a deadline mar 5 this is the second time i proposed to her, she said im not sure needs more time second time i proposed to her just by a fluke her birthday is coming up mar 14 a couple of days left should i send her flowers. i told her only to call me if her answer is yes now she has not called in 5 days now should i send her flowers on her birthday atleast help need advice

give me serious advice i proposed to her for marriage twice and both times she said need more time im the one who parted ways she said she didnt want to break up yet she does not wanna marry me 11 months what should i do i dont wanna look like im desperate and chancing her around either .

i mean i look pretty bad when she says need more time im the one always making the effort to get back together she never does so what should i do . send flowers on her birthday or forget it help

 

[Cuffs]

Dude, 1ad, seriously...give it up! Get on with your life. You being controlling and obsessive is not helping your situation, and I see trouble in your life if it continues. By the way, YES, I'm a psychic now.

 

[handzilla]

Kill all that sh!t. I just came home from a night out and guess who I saw. Call it salt in the wound, but I spotted her at the same spot I saw her last friday and saturday. She tried to avoid me but then realized I already saw her. So she came up to me and proceeded to give me a kiss and I ask how I was and blah blah. I told her never been better but I'm sure my face said different since I was kinda shocked and hurt to see her. We locked eyes and it was weird. She said "What" and I responded "What." She walked with me for a few steps and decided she wanted to find her friend or whatever. Then she kissed me again this time on the cheek and said it was nice seeing me.

I was pretty pissed off. That she would try to avoid me and then come up to me and act all fake. I feel like I need to talk to her again to finalize this **** if need be. She still has my sleeping shorts, 1/3 of a jug of muscle milk, a hairbrush, a toothbrush, and half of a pendant on my necklace that broke off. I'm not sure what to do at this point. I kinda just wanna roll over there again. But I feel like we need to talk again. I don't like the way all this sh!t has gone down. I still love her a lot though. But I need to let her know how wrong it was for her to trash me after I treated her like royalty and stuff. And ask her why she felt the need to talk to me after she tried to avoid me.

I really don't wanna deal with all this sh!t. I wanted to ask her some questions about her and her designated turd last monday and stuff to see how open she was about that. But I didn't wanna come off like a lil b!itch again. I just wish I could have one more talk with her and that she would be absolutely straight with me. She owes me that!

On a side note. I was looking at her photo page and she created a new album. I saw that she added a couple of pictures of us in there. Showed that it was uploaded on the 10th. I was pretty pissed driving home. Still buzzin a little. I need some sleep. I better be able to get soem good rest tonight or I'm going over there 1st thing in the morning to finish her.

 

[toughchick401]

Kill all that sh!t. I just came home from a night out and guess who I saw. Call it salt in the wound, but I spotted her at the same spot I saw her last friday and saturday. She tried to avoid me but then realized I already saw her. So she came up to me and proceeded to give me a kiss and I ask how I was and blah blah. I told her never been better but I'm sure my face said different since I was kinda shocked and hurt to see her. We locked eyes and it was weird. She said "What" and I responded "What." She walked with me for a few steps and decided she wanted to find her friend or whatever. Then she kissed me again this time on the cheek and said it was nice seeing me.

I was pretty pissed off. That she would try to avoid me and then come up to me and act all fake. I feel like I need to talk to her again to finalize this **** if need be. She still has my sleeping shorts, 1/3 of a jug of muscle milk, a hairbrush, a toothbrush, and half of a pendant on my necklace that broke off. I'm not sure what to do at this point. I kinda just wanna roll over there again. But I feel like we need to talk again. I don't like the way all this sh!t has gone down. I still love her a lot though. But I need to let her know how wrong it was for her to trash me after I treated her like royalty and stuff. And ask her why she felt the need to talk to me after she tried to avoid me.

I really don't wanna deal with all this sh!t. I wanted to ask her some questions about her and her designated turd last monday and stuff to see how open she was about that. But I didn't wanna come off like a lil b!itch again. I just wish I could have one more talk with her and that she would be absolutely straight with me. She owes me that!

On a side note. I was looking at her photo page and she created a new album. I saw that she added a couple of pictures of us in there. Showed that it was uploaded on the 10th. I was pretty pissed driving home. Still buzzin a little. I need some sleep. I better be able to get soem good rest tonight or I'm going over there 1st thing in the morning to finish her.

Let it go, no one and I repeat NO ONE is worth it..really...ignore her, if she approaches you out, ignore her, dont read all her posts, or whatever you read, change your number, An ex once told me, and he was right...IF it ends badly it's like that person dosen't exist, that drives people more crazy,

Heal quick

 

[handzilla]

I'm trying tc, I'm trying. To my surpise she called me earlier, and even more surprisingly... I didn't answer it! I still feel that we have unfinished business though.

 

[DmitryWI]

All you need is closure, this is why you feel like talking to her again. Do it... and get on with your life. Oh, and make sure you get muscle milk back

 

[DmitryWI]

if i find out she seeing another guy i swear i will be on cnn for canada most wanted for murder.

You are ****ed up big time. I can't even believe it you're posting this ****. Because of other ****head like you, who threated my gf after they been separated for 2 years, that he'll kill anyone she dates. We gad to hide it for 1.5 years.

P.S. I think I got dumber reading your posts. You need some serious professional help.

 

[Achilles13]

Let it go, no one and I repeat NO ONE is worth it..really...ignore her, if she approaches you out, ignore her, dont read all her posts, or whatever you read, change your number, An ex once told me, and he was right...IF it ends badly it's like that person dosen't exist, that drives people more crazy,

Heal quick

Good Posting... Hands... I've been in the a similar situation before bro and I know it hurts... but you have to move on. Like TC said, ignore her and don't read her away messages. When I learned this, it made things easier because I wasn't thinking about my ex as much.
IMO as long as she still thinks she can hold on to you, she will continue to do what she is doing now. Yes, you need to put her on block, yes you need to ignore her in public, and yes no more contact. Once she gets the message that you have moved on, she will be contacting you alot more or wonder what she has to do to gain that control over you. As long as she can use you as a rebound or better words... "keeping you held by a string," she will continue to do these things. But bro, come on, she doesn't contact you and you let her kiss you? That tells me she isn't ready to let you go, but she doesn't want you to talk to anyone else or just keep you there on the backside. Trust me bro, just ignore her, avoid all contact. Don't read away messages, don't read her photo albums, etc. Focus more on your work and workouts. Let her fuel workouts. Focus more on your life and things that will make you advance furthermore in life. Once she sees how good you are doing and how good you look(no h0mo) she will start to miss you more than you think. You are a good man and there is a girl waiting out there for you to be her man. It just takes time... thats all. I understand that you need closer and whatnot, but just waiting for her to talk to you could forever... Don't let time pass you by waiting for her...
I am not trying to come off as a jerk, I just know how it sucks to be in the situation you are. But overtime, you will see you are much better off without her and life is better. You'll be fine bro trust me. You're a good man(from what I know) and girls will love to have a guy like you....


One more note... For God's Sake, do not listen to 1addman or aka "roid monkey," lol... All that murder and such isn't called for... h3ll the majority of his posts aren't called for. Basically all I am saying is don't do anything stupid that you will regret for the rest of your life. There are always more fish in the sea brotha.

 

[Achilles13]

You are ****ed up big time. I can't even believe it you're posting this ****. Because of other ****head like you, who threated my gf after they been separated for 2 years, that he'll kill anyone she dates. We gad to hide it for 1.5 years.

P.S. I think I got dumber reading your posts. You need some serious professional help.

He doesn't see it, but I bet the banning stick is being slowly drawn... Who knows thats just me talking.

 

[handzilla]

DW you were absolutely right. Last night I went out with some friends and for once I didn't end up bumping heads with her at the same place after 3 consecutive times.

So on my way home, she called again. I had a few drinks in me so I went ahead and reacted with out thinking and answered it. Sorry, TC.

Good posting! Thanks, achilles. Call it going with my gut instinct, but I felt I needed that closure. She tried to get sarcastic and and said "Oh, so you answer my calls now?" She had just gotten off of work and I asked her if she was tryna have me over. She tried to pull that "if you want to" sh!t again, but then was like "I wouldn't have called if I didn't want you to" obviously, well.

I got over there and she was making eggs. We small talked about bs, and then she asked me what I wanted to talk about. I told her I already did my talking and that it was her turn. Either way I asked her all about this guy she is seeing, and it turns out that she's been going over to his house for dinner after work for the last 3 Mondays. And she finally told me what he does (dentist). Said she's been friends with him for over a year now. Because of that, I brought up how it seems like she has a lot of guy friends she keeps on the side that go by the name "Justin Case" (if ya know what I mean). As I went on about how it seemed like she bounced from me to him, she stated that he had nothing to do with her and I.

So we got off of that subject and then I somehow her sexual history came up. These are those "burning questions" that I failed to asked her during the relationship. She told me that she's had a total of three relationships that lasted 3 months, how they ended, how sexual they were, and about anyone else she had sex with oral or vaginal. Keep in mind I've never asked any one that I'm involved with these questions. From that I concluded that she doesn't get around which is good. However she ended up getting hurt in two out of three of those relationships.

It was getting late. Interestingly enough she decided to sleep on the couch b/c she said she didn't wanna lead me on. I went out there to get her a few hours later and we slept together for a few hours.

Once we were both awake we talked more and I asked more questions about what happened and I found that:

-She gradually started losing love for me because
1. She became confused as to why she never met my parents and how she didn't know the "burning facts" about me. This cause her to push me away by treating me less than good. She was very confused and didn't know what was happening or why

2. She hasn't been feeling too good about herself lately apart from mistreating me.

3. Job stress, stress from having to find a place to live and a real job.

So apart from the lost love. Everything else seems to be the same.

Finally I asked her if this was it b/w her and I and she nodded. However she still stated that she still wants to see me and whatnot. So I was about to leave and then I decided to just go for it (the sex). She obliged. Afterwards I made myself a shake and upon finishing it she told me I can still leave the jug there. I replied "And the shorts?" She responded "Leave them." Then I asked "is that an order ?" She said yes.

Basically the emotion is gone but the attraction is still there. And you know what? That's absolutely fine with me, because after the way she acted towards me, at this point I don't think she deserves to be treated any better than a sex object. In addition to that, I didn't even let her cum, she just doesn't deserve it. I feel much better now, knowing exactly where I stand, where she stands, and what to expect. As I left I didn't ask but I told her "I'll hear from ya." And of course she nodded. The emotions have been minimized. Things will be quite different.

Ahhhh, closure.

 

[Bionic]

Hate to sound like an ass, bro but that is not closure. You are no better now than you were before. You just feel better because you got sex. You should've just taken your belongings and left. Don't worry, though. Life doesn't come w/an instructional manual. You live and you learn.

 

[Achilles13]

Hate to sound like an ass, bro but that is not closure. You are no better now than you were before. You just feel better because you got sex. You should've just taken your belongings and left. Don't worry, though. Life doesn't come w/an instructional manual. You live and you learn.

Bump. As long as you still have your stuff over there and you are still having sex with her, she still feels as if she has control of you. IMO you need to cut ALL the ties brotha to let it all go. In the end, you will fill much better.

 

[toughchick401]

DW you were absolutely right. Last night I went out with some friends and for once I didn't end up bumping heads with her at the same place after 3 consecutive times.

So on my way home, she called again. I had a few drinks in me so I went ahead and reacted with out thinking and answered it. Sorry, TC.

Good posting! Thanks, achilles. Call it going with my gut instinct, but I felt I needed that closure. She tried to get sarcastic and and said "Oh, so you answer my calls now?" She had just gotten off of work and I asked her if she was tryna have me over. She tried to pull that "if you want to" sh!t again, but then was like "I wouldn't have called if I didn't want you to" obviously, well.

I got over there and she was making eggs. We small talked about bs, and then she asked me what I wanted to talk about. I told her I already did my talking and that it was her turn. Either way I asked her all about this guy she is seeing, and it turns out that she's been going over to his house for dinner after work for the last 3 Mondays. And she finally told me what he does (dentist). Said she's been friends with him for over a year now. Because of that, I brought up how it seems like she has a lot of guy friends she keeps on the side that go by the name "Justin Case" (if ya know what I mean). As I went on about how it seemed like she bounced from me to him, she stated that he had nothing to do with her and I.

So we got off of that subject and then I somehow her sexual history came up. These are those "burning questions" that I failed to asked her during the relationship. She told me that she's had a total of three relationships that lasted 3 months, how they ended, how sexual they were, and about anyone else she had sex with oral or vaginal. Keep in mind I've never asked any one that I'm involved with these questions. From that I concluded that she doesn't get around which is good. However she ended up getting hurt in two out of three of those relationships.

It was getting late. Interestingly enough she decided to sleep on the couch b/c she said she didn't wanna lead me on. I went out there to get her a few hours later and we slept together for a few hours.

Once we were both awake we talked more and I asked more questions about what happened and I found that:

-She gradually started losing love for me because
1. She became confused as to why she never met my parents and how she didn't know the "burning facts" about me. This cause her to push me away by treating me less than good. She was very confused and didn't know what was happening or why

2. She hasn't been feeling too good about herself lately apart from mistreating me.

3. Job stress, stress from having to find a place to live and a real job.

So apart from the lost love. Everything else seems to be the same.

Finally I asked her if this was it b/w her and I and she nodded. However she still stated that she still wants to see me and whatnot. So I was about to leave and then I decided to just go for it (the sex). She obliged. Afterwards I made myself a shake and upon finishing it she told me I can still leave the jug there. I replied "And the shorts?" She responded "Leave them." Then I asked "is that an order ?" She said yes.

Basically the emotion is gone but the attraction is still there. And you know what? That's absolutely fine with me, because after the way she acted towards me, at this point I don't think she deserves to be treated any better than a sex object. In addition to that, I didn't even let her cum, she just doesn't deserve it. I feel much better now, knowing exactly where I stand, where she stands, and what to expect. As I left I didn't ask but I told her "I'll hear from ya." And of course she nodded. The emotions have been minimized. Things will be quite different.

Ahhhh, closure.

I have to agree, leaving things at each others places..,.bad idea....Either get your things back, or forget them....change your #, and dont give it to her, ignore her....really..it's a mind F**K really.....when i was done i sent back some pictures, ( cause thats all the ego infalted ass left me with)..he on the other hand had a crap load of nice things that I was stupid enough to give/buy him.....So I let it go, sent back the pics and all the crap, he can keep it...NOT WORTH IT....and as for the "no emotion"..bull****..someone ALWAYS ends up falling...nature of the beast

 

[1ad man]

go back to her bang her for two weeks i mean bang the crap out of her say you wanna marry her and want her to be the mother of your child then dump her that is the ultimate revenge milk her for every penny she has and suck her body inside and out that way she will feel like a 10 cent whore . do what the nike logo says just do it suck it. suck her bang her and chuck her that is life bro.

 

[toughchick401]

go back to her bang her for two weeks i mean bang the crap out of her say you wanna marry her and want her to be the mother of your child then dump her that is the ultimate revenge milk her for every penny she has and suck her body inside and out that way she will feel like a 10 cent whore . do what the nike logo says just do it suck it. suck her bang her and chuck her that is life bro.

Isent that worth banning...good god!!! grow up, get some counsling..its very clear you need some intense therapy!!!

 

[Achilles13]

go back to her bang her for two weeks i mean bang the crap out of her say you wanna marry her and want her to be the mother of your child then dump her that is the ultimate revenge milk her for every penny she has and suck her body inside and out that way she will feel like a 10 cent whore . do what the nike logo says just do it suck it. suck her bang her and chuck her that is life bro.

Do you put any thought into your posts? Dude... you need to cut this crap out.
Giving advice like this, isn't called for. I'm with TC... the banning should come in the near future for you.

 

[handzilla]

I see what your saying bionic, but I don't think I'm ready to let go. And with her saying to leave things there tells me that she is not either. I can just say screw it and leave that stuff there for good at any moment, TC. I will only do that if I have to though.

As far as control goes Achilles, I believe that I am taking over. I am definitely not going to call her. I've learned in the past week and a half that me getting ahold of her just pushes her farther away. On the other hand we've already seen how she responds after my not answering just one of her calls. So I believe I have that under control. When she calls me she's conveying that she has already made a decision that she wants to be in contact with me, at that point it's my turn to decide whether I accept or reject.

Emotionally, I already did my part and saw the effects of that: her running away from me and getting *****y. I know what's going on with her now. So I just need to make sure that I don't expect anything serious. I think I'm better off emotionally now knowing exactly how she feels. I really can't say much more. I just gotta see where it goes from here.

 

[handzilla]

Weak 4 Update (Notice the letter "a" fading...Not so weak anymore!)

I've been doing pretty well these past several days. The sadness is gone now. I just get pissed at times and think how selfish and immature she has been. She sent me a text message on Wednesday asking me if I stole her underwear. I didn't reply. However, I'm wondering if she would have tried to contact me if she didn't think they were missing. And then again maybe she knows damn well that they aren't.

 

[Malek256]

Weak 4 Update (Notice the letter "a" fading...Not so weak anymore!)

I've been doing pretty well these past several days. The sadness is gone now. I just get pissed at times and think how selfish and immature she has been. She sent me a text message on Wednesday asking me if I stole her underwear. I didn't reply. However, I'm wondering if she would have tried to contact me if she didn't think they were missing. And then again maybe she knows damn well that they aren't.

or another dude took them. :run:

sounds like you have a solid attitude about it - it's casual, it's open and you know where each other stands. You can deal with it all on your own terms - and with your own dignity intact while still being upfront and honest. That matters!

P.S.

1ad you need some help - how would his sinking to the lowest of the low make him any better than what hurt him to begin with? Get a life - and grow up.

 

[handzilla]

Ugly Lastnight:

Went out again with some friends lastnight. Hoppin around downtown drinking and stuff. Wound up at the infamous meeting spot once again...
You guessed it. She was with a new "friend." Of course my drunken ass approached her and let her kiss me on the mouth again. She introduced me to her "friend" and asked me how I've been and I told her that I've never been better (visibly lying again). Then I proceeded to ask: "Having fun?" "What's up with later?(as I rubbed on her back)" "Going to after hours?" I was really trying to find out if she wanted to take me home in other words. Of course she responded with her infamous "I don't know" and I walked off. I started to get fired up again talking to my friends, and one of the guys I know who works there helped to calm me down. So I was cool for about 5 seconds then turned around and saw her getting kind of friendly with her "friend" and flipped. I walked over there and grabbed her around her waist and proceeded to carry her out the back door telling her that we need to talk. She wasn't too happy about this and of course began yelling and swinging. I managed to get her outside with minimal force and over to a private area to talk to her. She had smacked me more than a few times at this point. I had some harsh words for her...something about acting like a slut and get the fyuck over here, and shut the fyuck up maybe. Either way both of us were pretty messed up. So I asked her "What the Fyuck is going on? We dated for a little while and now you're slutting around" (or something like that). She replied "I thought I told you I'm happier like this, I don't know what to say! I love you, but not the way that I want to. I wish I still cared about you---"
I then asked her about how she started losing love for me b/c of how she felt I was hiding her since she hasn't met my parents. She said that that was part of it. I got pissed and asked her to tell me the rest, and then she started to walk away. I said something like "I hope that dude doesn't forget to wear a condom when he ****s you!" Then my friend came up and said the cops were coming so I ran away. Idiot me drove over to her place to wait for her to arrive. Nothing. Went back downtown inside the club to find her. Nothing. Back over to her place to wait again...nothing. All within about a 45 minutes. On my way home I called her phone twice and left her a voicemail saying something like "I hope that dude wears a condom...(more importantly)We need to talk again, you haven't been straight with me, I just need to know exactly why..." Got home and went to bed. Now I'm thinking how stupid all the sh!t that went down lastnight was. I know I was out of line for snatching her up like that, and saying derogatory sh!t. But that's the product of anger and alcohol. Kinda pissed about this, bout ready to go down there and get my sh!t and be done with it for good. I can't believe how she could sh!t on me after I was so good to her. I can't stand seeing her out with other guys either. I'm losing it! :wtf: