anyone else have this problem with their wives?

[bigrewards]

In all seriousness, Yes my wife use to give me alot of **** about working out and supplementing. I explained to her:

"Hey, I don't drink, I don't gamble, I don't hang out with my friends all day and all night, I don't cheat and I don't use drugs. The only thing I do for myself is go to the gym."

Once she saw for herself how much more easy going and relaxed I was after a good workout she stopped giving me **** about my supplements. Occassionaly she will still express her concern but Once or twice a year I'll go to the doctor and get a check up and prove to her that Im healthy as a horse.

I like this approach. I do love her and I think she is getting over her fears.

Like others have said every time I'm around her mother or sister they always bring up steroids. Can't a guy just workout to change their body without everyone thinking they are on steroids. If anyone that knew anything about steroids looked at me they would know I'm for sure not taking them.

 

[bulldogz]

I tried to educate my girl on my supps and aas use, but she will never undersand it and she really does not care to...so this route didn't and doesn't work, for me at least...

But, to this day I disclose everything to my girl and even though she doesn't like it or care about it at all, but I told and tell her...it's been like this before you and will continue either with you, and def after you...I think she doesn't mind anymore since it been 3yrs and she hasn't said sheit about it to me..

 

[Vance]

Spoken like an unmarried man haha. I'll give you some tips in case you ever want to take the plunge. Women are not all sunshine and lollipops after marriage. The first 5 (1-2 being the absolute hardest) years being the toughest and decreasing as the numbers go up as long as you both are working at it. You both will have an idea of how the marriage should work and will struggle against each other until you come to a happy medium. eg; Why do you leave the dishes on the coffee table instead of putting them in the sink?! ,why do leave your underwear on the floor?! , wtf isn't there any gas in the car?! wheres my keys, i left them right here, YOU obviously moved them!.
Once the Alpha has been tested and proven the Alpha, there is no more fighting. You do have to be sensitive to her needs and not be a jackass but you need to show who is in control....unless she is the leader and you are not the Alpha, you do not want to be the man, wear the pants or deal with anything hard. Marriage is tough. Having a happy marriage takes hard work. There is NO such thing as happily ever after......and Santa Claus is dead.

LOL.

I never asserted that a relationship or indeed a woman should/could/would be all sunshine and daisies matey. Your 'struggle' section sounds pretty much like nearly every relationship I've ever had. But as an unmarried man I'll ascede to your experience on the issue as far as the first 5 years go.

My point was thus; if working out and supplementation is something that is extremely important to you, a girl who breaks your balls every day about it probably isn't the proverbial horse I'd be betting the house (And the kids, the car and in most cases the dog too) on. Much the same way as if you don't like fat chicks, don't date fat chicks, don't like redheads? Don't date redheads. In my most humble of opinions to go against this most basic of rules is to push your life's wealth in with 7/2 off-suit to life's pocket aces. Sure there's a 'chance' that you'll be happy, but there's a bigger chance you're gonna end up miserable and financially castrated. Commonality FTW!

Good post though. Like I said in my original post I think there's a lot of good advice for the OP in here.

 

[Cuervo Jones]

Do What I did..... Divorce.


~Cuervo

 

[bulldogz]

Do What I did..... Divorce.


~Cuervo

lol...that's one way to take care of it....no more nagging!

 

[Irish Cannon]

Tell her to stop supplementing her physical flaws with makeup.

Maybe she'll get the hint and shutup.

 

[Flaw]

Do What I did..... Divorce.


~Cuervo

I don't know your circumstances and I'm not here to judge you but if anyone goes into a marriage with the idea that you always have a way out in 'divorce' then most likely you probably won't ever stay married. You have to look at marriage as you work things out no matter what. Of course you have to have that commitment from the 2 of you though to really make things work. What i've gathered from people who are marred multiple times and claim they have finally found the "right one" is it's not that they finally found the right person, it's more that they finally realized that they are ready to commit to a marriage.

 

[Cuervo Jones]

Well... with multiple affairs, and a drug addiction in addition, the hate for demolishing iron was essentially icing on the cake.



~Cuervo

 

[Irish Cannon]

I don't know your circumstances and I'm not here to judge you but if anyone goes into a marriage with the idea that you always have a way out in 'divorce' then most likely you probably won't ever stay married. You have to look at marriage as you work things out no matter what. Of course you have to have that commitment from the 2 of you though to really make things work. What i've gathered from people who are marred multiple times and then seem to have suddenly found the "right one" is it's not that they finally found the right person, it's more that they finally realized that they are ready to commit to a marriage.

Well said.

 

[Flaw]

Well... with multiple affairs, and a drug addiction in addition, the hate for demolishing iron was essentially icing on the cake.



~Cuervo

Sorry to hear that bro, That's where the "it takes 2" part comes in. It certainly can't be one sided. You have every right in the world to divorce for cheating. Like I said, I don't know your circumstances and I was referring to people that go into marriage with a bad attitude. You most likely had a great attitude, thought you'd be with her and no one else till you die. Her on the other hand had other plans. We live , we learn :/ Something similar just happend to a friend of mine. What's crazy is after all she has done, She's with the man she left him for and still calls him up and wants to be friends. How messed up is that?

 

[Blacktail]

"Much the same way as if you don't like fat chicks, don't date fat chicks, don't like redheads? Don't date redheads. In my most humble of opinions to go against this most basic of rules is to push your life's wealth in with 7/2 off-suit to life's pocket aces. Sure there's a 'chance' that you'll be happy, but there's a bigger chance you're gonna end up miserable and financially castrated. Commonality FTW!"

In theory I agree with your main points, in actuality though from the experience of living with a common law or marriage relationship for any long term amount of time leads me to the same thought. Women change. Rapidly, slowly and all the damn time. You may start out with common interests..like working out...then it can change on a dime. Now its...why do you go to the gym so much? ...who are you trying to look good for? Your not spending enough time with me. You spend too much on supplements. Your too into yourself. I want babies...:trout:
Sometimes the change is hormonal...check that. Most of the time its hormonal. The other times its the residual emotions that women have in large amounts. I mean as we grow up we realize that even our mothers are nuts. You can have the most in common with someone and be madly in love and then they change into something out of a Stephen King novel. Happens all the time. Happened to me more than a few times.
If as a man someone is unable to cope...they need to stay single or their lives will pay the price. If however you can take the bad with the good,Take your time about it and not rush, be prepared to be the leader bean and put in the same or more that you take out, you will be rewarded with a very fullfilling and happy life...As long as she isn't a PSI vampire feeding on your very lifeforce...might want to move on in that case..:439:

 

[ElectricPulse]

My girlfriend gives me the same thing, if I get sick or something or don't feel good it's because of my supplements that I'm taking. It gets super annoying but at the end of the day I'm not going to stop taking them so its always a dead discussion.

 

[omni]

First i'll say that i don't encourage people to split up...this is just my story. I was married young and stayed married for 14 years. I've been into weightlifting since i was 12 and my wife knew that was my passion. It was a fight for me to go to the gym but I kept going anyway. She thought the supplements were a joke and a waist of money I hid using steroids from her because she didn't acknowledge a difference anyway. She wasn't attracted to muscle. I found that out when she left me for a little computer nerd. I'm not conceted but I have zero problems with women. I never cheated on her but the opportunity was ALWAYS there. Before she left me I treated her good.(Romantic get aways, jewelry, house, Lexus, Louis Votton, etc) I finally got her into the gym and she left. I honestly thought I was in love. Now I have someone else who has the same interests as me. She enjoys talking about supplements and diet, new workout routines and gives me all of my injections. I'm glad my ex left me now. I'm alot happier and now I know what was missing in my life. I've been with my new girl for over 7 years and things feel complete.

 

[Vance]

That's a good news story. Nice one omni. Glad things are working out for you. I do think having common interests in a relationship is extremely important.

Hope things continue to improve for you.

 

[omni]

That's a good news story. Nice one omni. Glad things are working out for you. I do think having common interests in a relationship is extremely important.

Hope things continue to improve for you.

Thanks.

 

[trojanman1016]

Does anyone out there have any advice for a guy whos wife likes to try and lecture and "share" her opinion to much about my supplementing. Everytime I even mention trying something new I get the evil eye and hear about it for hours. I try telling her that this is my hobby and passion and if I can get stuff to help my performance I want it. Anyone have any advice?

hahaha sounds fimiliar, my girl is the same way, i told her i love her, but i love this stuff too. LOL

 

[p5sky]

Start doing the same thing to her about her shoes, her purses, her clothes, jewelery, collectibles, whatever she pisses money away on. Then when she complains say "well the STFU about my supplements"

And then I take off my shirt so she can admire what she has.