Stick with what makes you happy, there are much worse qualities that people can have than being "heavyset."
Yea like being heavyset and cheating on youStick with what makes you happy, there are much worse qualities that people can have than being "heavyset."
Your friends are dicks.Guys.....I have been dating a heavier set female for the past 10 months and we are very happy. She is not ready to get fit so I do not pressure her. We love spending time together and love and respect one another. However, my guy friends always give me **** for dating a heavier set female. They always remind me that they look down on me for it and that I should be looking for something better b/c I work out and take good care of myself. I do not give in to their bs anymore b/c it really is lame. My buddy was giving me **** earlier today like "dude I wonder what the guys on the forum would think if they saw a pic of you and you girl" So I am asking to all of you honestly: Should I not be happy just because I am into fitness and she is not?
Lemme get this straight... you have good friends, I assume they're honest, they try and protect you.... and when they tell you something you don't want to hear... magically, they're dicks?Your friends are dicks.
You said it yourself.. you both are very happy. Enough said.
Okay - when you are 65 and your fat girlfriend is helping you to the bathroom or wiping your ass.......will it have mattered that she was heavy?
Will it matter that she gains weight when giving birth to your children? Will it matter when she looks into your eyes and vows to love you, no matter what?
I tell you what? Take the gamble - dump the fat chick and let's see if your judgemental friends will be there for you.......................
Love comes in all sizes and packages and when you find it - KEEP IT!!!!!!!!
Laura
Not always the case! I know some people who are pretty hefty now and wont date bigger girls. I dont agree with the attitude but oh well...I am sure if they were heavyset they wouldn't want a woman who is fit thinking that she is too good for them,
:toofunny:Seize this and run with it. (okay, maybe she cannot run)
I just read this thread. One, seriously consider reevaluating your 'friends.' Some friendly razzing is one thing, constant sniping at someone you care about is another. I don't tolerate that kind of **** from any of my friends concerning my other friends, much less a girlfriend. The ability to respect other people and be polite is something you should expect from all people unless you give them cause to act otherwise.I just wanted to say thanks to all of you guys for taking the time to give me some advice. I appreciate all of the points of view that y'all gave me. Thank you all!
haha, that's kind of like me actually, but I wouldn't stop someone else from dating a bigger girl.Not always the case! I know some people who are pretty hefty now and wont date bigger girls. I dont agree with the attitude but oh well...
Reminds of Peter Griffin on the Family Guy show and his NO FAT CHICKS shirt hehehe...haha, that's kind of like me actually, but I wouldn't stop someone else from dating a bigger girl.
LOL, well I know how it is to be really overweight, I wouldn't date a skinny girl with bad eating habits either, ie McDonalds, pizza, and junk food all the time...Even if they are not fat from it it shows a lack of respect for the body, and that is unapeeling to me. My ideal girl would be a healthy, fit girl that I could go the gym with.Reminds of Peter Griffin on the Family Guy show and his NO FAT CHICKS shirt hehehe...
Will he still be happy when/if she turns into 150kg and ladened with diabetes, and a truckload of heart disease?"We are very happy" - this is what the guy said...............Very happy!!!!!! Seize this and run with it. (okay, maybe she cannot run) but seriously, happiness is pretty cool when you can find a person that helps you feel that way.
Laura
Yes, but people are also over sold on the idea that some extra body fat is an automatic death ticket. You don't need to have 0% body fat in order to be healthy, especially for women who on average are supposed to have higher bf% than men. Whether she's over that limit or not none of us can say, but I don't think it's safe to assume she'll be needing insulin injections any time soon.Will he still be happy when/if she turns into 150kg and ladened with diabetes, and a truckload of heart disease?
It isn't the size or the look that matters. It is whether some one cares enough to live a healthy lifestyle.
When you are in your teens or in your 20's, hell, it is quite easy to be really VERY happy. The question is, will you still be happy in the long run....
People are over sold on the 'go with what makes you feel happy or great at the moment'. Yeah, when the day comes and you no longer feel happy.. well... fvck that.. hello SPLITVILLE and DumpCity. Onto the next one that makes you feel happy.... Cool huh?
That was covered on page 2....Yes, but people are also over sold on the idea that some extra body fat is an automatic death ticket. You don't need to have 0% body fat in order to be healthy, especially for women who on average are supposed to have higher bf% than men. Whether she's over that limit or not none of us can say, but I don't think it's safe to assume she'll be needing insulin injections any time soon.
It all depends on why she is heavy set. Is it b/c of her body type (genetics) or is it b/c she doesn't give a crap about living healthy?
Once the answer is clear, then the rest of the question is easy......
This whole line " if it makes you happy keep doing it" is the biggest copout I have ever heard. In that case Smoking crack rocks and never lifting weights really makes me happy. You need to do things that make you better not because they make you happy. Your a bodybuilder, you should know this. You need to find a girl who is into fitness like you are.
But what if her hobby is eating McDonalds?You can still bodybuild and be happy with a "big" girl......being different and having different hobbies is a plus......gives you more to talk about............
if your happy who cares
Not always the case. Im considered a health nut and my gf that Ive been with for years likes junkfood and doesnt exercise besides going out for walks with me. Im lucky however that I have met her family and know they have fast metabolismsThe company you keep can have a great influence on your own lifestyle.
Sorry - eating healthy and going to the gym make me happy. I'd never do it otherwise. Doing drugs/drinking/laziness makes me very unhappy. (aside from some fun times at the club)This whole line " if it makes you happy keep doing it" is the biggest copout I have ever heard. In that case Smoking crack rocks and never lifting weights really makes me happy. You need to do things that make you better not because they make you happy. Your a bodybuilder, you should know this.
Very true, as I mentioned earlier. But on the flip side, now that I think of it, my past 3 girlfriends never went to the gym until they met me (1 actually joined the gym just to get me, LoL). So while I was with them, my strength/willpower/influence overpowered theirs, and I greatly influenced their lifestyle. One of them quit smoking too, as I told her I refused to date a smoker.The company you keep can have a great influence on your own lifestyle.
There's isn't a woman strong enough to make me stop going to the gym - but every guy is different. Also, many actors (and other entertainers) make it a rule to never date their likeminded peers - they need someone in their life unlike them to keep them grounded.So for a bodybuilder to date a fat girl makes about as much sense as recovering addict dating a crackhead.
You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to B5150 again.One day in life you will have the humility to consider whether you are a REAL catch yourself.
Love, respect, happiness, compatability are all internal things that you share regardless. Be who you are on the inside rather than what you appear to be on the outside. Don't give her a pitty relationship. If you truely feel like you guys are what you say for eachother. Cherish it. She may come around to fitness one day and you may not be as fit one day yourself.
If she means that much to you than stay with her. If her weight issues is really an issue TO YOU than move on. Your critical friends don't lie next to you on your bed looking you in the eye and tell you all their hopes and dreams and how much they missed you since the last time you were together. Intimacy and (com)passion does.
Don't mind me too much. I have a gorgeous, 18yo blonde, blue-eyed, cheerleader daughter away at her freshman year of college. I have another 5yo gorgeous, brown haired, brown eyed daughter who is in her freshman year of kindergarten. My greatest fear is what will be drawn to them is drawn to them by their appearance rather than their substance of character.
This is something I forgot about. My current gf even though she still enjoys cake and ice-cream eats MUCH healthier then how she used to. I never asked her to do this she just got it from watching me.Very true, as I mentioned earlier. But on the flip side, now that I think of it, my past 3 girlfriends never went to the gym until they met me (1 actually joined the gym just to get me, LoL). So while I was with them, my strength/willpower/influence overpowered theirs, and I greatly influenced their lifestyle.
But what if her hobby is eating McDonalds?
And what if its her thyroid? happiness is from within, appearance will FADE, ALWAYS........
What if she has rank feet? Usually that doesn't fade, it just gets worse...
I love lamp.
kwyck is in bed right now but we've had talks abuot this before....I'm curious what some of you would do if your wife got disfigured in an accident. It sounds like alot of you would file a divorce on grounds of being unattractive.lol harsh!
I think when people say physical appearance does not count, they simply assume that the people they are referring to, are at least average, and not ugly. Nobody expects to meet ugly people. :lol: We tend to think that everyone we meet is at least average looking.if she makes you happy and you are physically attracted to her then it's all good. people who say that physical attractionmeans nothing, are liars. i believe in being 100% happy with the person you love and not wanting "better" and you should never settle unless you are happy. of course i believe that if you find yourself someone so perfect, you are very fortuanate and i understand that most people dont have the luxury of the total package.
Yuppersi meant that you need to be able to want to have sex with her/him......without being grossed out....