In my experience all the help in the world isn't going to get an addict or alcoholic to stop using. I think it is important to support them and let them know that you are there and try to help but ultimately they have to be ready and willing to do the work themselves in order to get out. Many times people think they are helping because they love someone and what they're actually doing is enabling that person to continue on in their addiction because they never really hit their bottom. Example someone who's lost their ability to properly function in society so you give them a place to live and continue to use because you love them and don't want to see them on the street. Well I could see where it could be viewed as heartless but actually if it gets bad enough for some people they may be willing to change. If they can still be comfortable and drink and use because they have shelter in food the basics they will continue to do so. So another words though it may look heartless putting someone out and telling them they have to go because they chose this and letting them know that if they choose to get help you will be there to help them is the best way in my opinion. The person must choose to receive the help that's being offered.
I understand your pain. For years and years I put my family and loved ones through the exact same thing. It's not that I didn't want to change its that I didn't know how and felt like I couldn't trust anyone. That's why in my experience the only approach that works is when someone feels that you actually care about them and you're trying to help. Then it gives them the opportunity to accept and receive that help and step out and make the change necessary.
Good man. I type all this as I sit here now with my 16 month old son. This is something that really should not be possible but it is and people can change. Merry Christmas
Thank you!
I have plenty of those. Except they aren't in laws. They're directly blood related. They try every Damn fat loss pill, powder, shake and whatever else they see on those info-mercials. Wasting all there money. Yet they will never step foot in a gym. They waste my time asking me this and that about nutrition and training, yet do nothing with the given info. Then they live sedentary lives and want to cry about how they don't understand why they're still overweight. As if they have been trying. Yet I lived with you and watched you not do a damn thing. Yep! I saw that for a good 5 years. They have issues in the mind. Weak minded people I can't be around unless they're willing to help themselves. Training trains the mind. That's what I love even more than the aesthetic benefits. I have no pity, or sorry bone in my body for those who don't help themselves and sit waiting for things to change, and waste my time while they're at it.
Oh, boy. We all walk different paths. Some paths are rockier than others and sometimes people walk off the path and need help getting back on it. We humans can be stubborn and irrational. We attack those who love us and are trying to help us when we shouldn't. It's not always as simple as you say. I have never been addicted to anything but that doesn't mean I'm better than anyone else. I also haven't dealt with the grief and suffering others have. I just try to be a nice guy and help others. You might have shaken your addiction but you still have demons. That is very apparent.
At least that last statement shows that you can see your being an ass hole.
thebigt and Whisky just to give y'all an update. Since my last fall from grace. It has been a week and a have I haven't touched anything. Woke up with a hangover one morning, and it just clicked. This aint for me no more. I am fighting to stay this way, and have blown my wifes mine when I didnt run to the store for a drink
Thanks brother will do
Awesome job brother. Stay strong, I know I will this time. I just feel so much better.
I think I have hit that level. I really think I'm ready this time. Hopefully no more set backs for this guy.
Thank you Sir!
