Two things make me hit redline:
1. Someone who takes what you have said, twists it into something you did not say and never intended, and then says "So what you are saying is ...", as if they are somehow the king/queen interpreter for the universe. Usually this is done in an attempt by the second person to make the first person sound unreasonable or stupid. If the second person wanted to know what the first person meant, they could ask the first person "Does that mean that you believe ...", but the second person does not actually care what the first person thinks in the first place - and the second person is only concerned with punishing whatever the first person said and making it mean something else entirely - for the purposes of the second person making the first person appear to be unreasonable, stupid or worse. For example - lets say you said "You know, eating fish is really good and I like a good piece of salmon now and then. The second person might restate this as "So what you are saying is that you don't like what I cook, and that cows are terrible and are the sole and elusive cause climate change, and that since most cow ranchers are men - men hate the climate." Then you would say to the second person "You know, you are really a crazy sack of crap"; and
2. A wife who thinks "she understands" her husband well enough to analyze what he says/does not say, why what he thinks what he thinks (or what she thinks he thinks), and how past events have scarred you - and they do not stop to realize that they are not a man and have no idea what a man thinks. Most of the time this is done to make it seem as if the wife is blameless, and you are screwed up. For example - lets say you said "You know, eating fish is really good and I like a good piece of salmon now and then. The wife might restate this as "I am sorry that your father never took you salmon fishing, and that your mother was such a poor cook - but she didn't cook poorly just to spite you, and I hope you can forgive her some day - carrying that latent anger is ruining you." Then, she might then say "I think you may like fish because its smell reminds you of sex, and you are sexually obsessed. Also, I think you have been scarred by your past relationships, but I am not those women, and I am a great wife, and you have it really good". Then you would say "You know, you really are a crazy sack of crap"
Sometimes #1 and #2 are the same person.
no thanks!
no thanks!
