Two things make me hit redline:
1. Someone who takes what you have said, twists it into something you did not say and never intended, and then says "So what you are saying is ...", as if they are somehow the kind/queen interpreter for the universe. Usually this is done in an attempt by the second person to make the first person sound unreasonable or stupid. If the second person wanted to know what you meant, they could ask "Does that mean that you believe ...", but they don't really care what you think in the first place - and they are only concerned with punishing whatever you said into meaning something else entirely - to make the first person seem unreasonable, stupid or worse. For example - lets say you said "You know, eating fish is really good and I like a good piece of salmon now and then. They would restate this as "So what you are saying is that you don't like what I cook, and that cows are terrible and cause climate change." Then you would say "You are a crazy sack of crap"; and
2. A wife who thinks "she understands" her husband well enough to analyze what he says/does not say, why what he thinks what he thinks (or what she thinks he thinks), and how past events have scarred you. Most of the time, they do this to make it seem as if they are blameless, and you are screwed up. For example - lets say you said "You know, eating fish is really good and I like a good piece of salmon now and then. They would restate this as "I am sorry that your father never took you salmon fishing, and that your mother was such a poor cook - but she didn't cook poorly just to spite you. She might then say "I think you may like fish because it remind you of sex, and you are sexually obsessed, and scarred by your past relationship. But I am not that person, and I am a great wife". Then you would say "You are a crazy sack of crap"