DR.D said:
I hear ya bro. I don't give good love advice, unfortunately. I still haven't totally figured it out myself. I'm married and haven't had a real mistress in over 6 years, but some of the girls at work try to "take care of me" in various ways when I let them. Some claim I've been really stressing them out emotionally on this PCT, similar to what you have stated. Subjectively, I feel pretty good, but I am more emotional than I'd like to be. I try to use the extra emotional state for some good and make personal improvements with it. I think it's good for the spirit (and BP) to be a little softer and more giving and feeling in general, but you have to be careful not to turn into a girl too, because you just can't get **** accomplished when you wanna cry 2 or 3 times a day! I backed off to 30mg/d and that feels like a much more emotionally balanced dose, but I started at 180 the first wk so there's just a lot in my system even now. Still, I love the stuff. I recovered almost too fast (if that's really possible) and will maybe start at 90-120 next time like I use to. I swear I feel like I'm 15 again in the sack. The ACT/Tor combo ain't no joke. Plus DHEA and fenugreek stacked in too, forget about it! My wife's on the run these days. I can't believe I was on 5mgs of Cialis just 3wks ago after my cycle ended, then 2.5mg 2wk ago then finally had to totally drop it last wk and am still getting hard every time the wind blows! Sex drive and functionality are insane with this PCT combo. God bless IBE for bringing in Tor. Plus, ACT is the closest thing a man can get to multiple orgams. I can usually bust 2 in a row, without stopping, if I want to on that stuff.
Yeah I gotta admit.... I cant really argue with the effectiveness of this PCT. Considering all the **** I was on and for how long its actually pretty amazing Im holding on to as many of the gains as I am so far.
And despite the sad parts and occasional anxiety, i DO like being able to feel stuff. Like you said, strong feelings are strong motivators.
But it almost seems like drama rears its head in times when Im like that, and I have to wonder if thats the case, or if it just seems like it since I feel more.
I just found out that my mistress hasnt been as forthcoming as we had discussed about seeing people. I confronted her on it and explained that I understand and forgive her if she made out with another guy cuz she's lonely w/ me on the other side of the country and knowing that Im still officially with my GF (who doesnt even know about the situation) but that I wanted us to be able to tell eachother if we're with anyone new. I know shed rather just be with me and only me, and I might move out there when I finish music school and be with her, so I just want to establish a strong trust bond. Not to keep her from being with any temps alltogether. (I know I sound and feel like a hypocrite because my GF has been faithful to me for 3 1/2 years and is getting the shortest end of the stick of us all.) But even though I have very strong feelings for her too, Im not so sure she's THE ONE. But I know that she feels that Im THE ONE. Oh man life seems complicated sometimes. The mistress might me better FOR me. My GF is 13 years older than me and my mistress is only 4 years older. My GF is on disability and will probably never work again, unless its just on the computer from home. My Mistress is on the up and up, she just got promoted to medical and marketing assistant. And she's doing great in school and on her way to becoming an adminstrative assistant at a hospital (least thats her goal.) My GF is overweight, cant exercise much cuz of her fybromyallgia, and refuses to eat good even though she used to teach a nutrition class. She drinks almost ED, (used to be ED without fail, now she occasionaly takes a day or two off) she smokes. She just recently became diabetic (borderline case). And my mistress just quit drinking (We'll see how she does) in order to be a good influence on her little brother. And she also puts some effort in to eating healthy, and she does aerobics and light resistance training. Both are strong women, but my GF is confrontational strong wich means I sometimes have to put up my proverbial dukes and defend my ground, wich I dont like to do, and the arguments are painful and hurtful. The Mistress on the other hand is submissive, and I actually feel like Im being extra good to her when I call her out on not being fair to hersel, Im not dominant, I dont take advantage of a submissive partner, and feel crappy when I have to butt heads with a dominant female. They both love the hell outta me, and even though I was taught that you only love one person, I cant deny that I feel Im in love with both of them. They both have wisdom and life experience to share with me and help me. (even though Im 29 I havent really experienced the "real world" from a providing financially stand point, as Ive been supported through 11 years of school.) My family didnt welcome my GF into our family, and sometimes I feel guilty about that.
The sex is incredible with either of them so thats not an issue. (I mean it would be if that werent the case, but it is.)
****, this is the Toremefene thread Im doing this in? I got to get off of here or else I'll sit here until my life story is on the thread. Sorry.
Let that be a lesson to everyone. Never come off of AAS, or you might go through this drama..........lol ...JK ...... I'll shut up now.