Fweed, we are not alone. It took me awhile to find people on the internet that have similar stories to ours. However, recently I found a forum where guys have somewhat the same situation as ours. They call it Hard Flaccid, like their penises are dead and lack proper blood flow. And a lot of them have varicocele and testicle shrinkages. This guys discussed their problems since year 2010. However, as I was reading through the thread, I found that ca. in year 2012 they found out what was wrong with them. Basically, we most probably, have a severe case of CPPS. It is a muscle spasm of our pelvic floor. A big/significant part of the blood supply and nerves, going down into the groin, goes through the pelvic floor. However, when the pelvic floor gets cramped it presses on this crucial arteries veins and nerves and basically strangles the groin area.
It's also been found that just as many cases of so-called "varicoceles" have no vascular anomaly at all, and are caused by simple muscular congestion and inflammation. This is why they almost always occur on the left side, the blood vessels on that side travel a far messier path than on the right. This is also why almost all patients who undergo surgery for them end up going under the knife again for a new one shortly after. The valves in a normal young adult's veins don't just randomly fail, and only in one very specific part of the body. It's absurd. THE VEINS DOWN THERE, DONT EVEN HAVE VALVES! Think about it for a sec.
It's also basic scientific fact that hindering the blood flow to and from your testicles (via CPPS, muscular tension, etc) is going to have an impact on fertility and hormone levels, yet 99% of doctors will sooner condemn a man to a lifetime of hormone replacement drugs instead of fixing the actual problem with physical therapy.
My question might sound too personal for you, but man it is important to know, do you kegel a lot when having sexual stimulation? Now when I think about it whenever I have sexual stimulation I would kegel, and my kegel muscles would be too strong. In addition, since this started, right after, I couldn't kegel, I couldn't stop my urine. Like the muscles down there were dead. But now I understand, they weren't dead. Its just they were so cramped and locked, that there was no way to flex them. Like imagine curling your biceps, and then trying to curl more, there is an anatomical limit, as to how much it can curl. And now imagine this biceps in this super contracted and pulled state for a long long time.