Omg Please Help Me Out!

anabolicandre

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another girl problem

Let me give you some background on this situation...

first the girl who I am dating. She's smart beautiful, driven, fit, sexy, classy, sexually satisfying, a christian, really everything you could ask for.

Last year I went to VA BEACH with 7 of closest my friends three of which were girls. we hung out, partied, surfed, sat on the beach, walked the boards, you named it we did it we had so much fun. (I was not seeing the girl, I am now, at this time.)

This year we're planning on going back same crew, do prettty much of the same things.

SO my problem is this girl, we'll call her JAYNE... Jayne doesnt want me to go bc shes says its something i wouldve done before I ment her. The whole party scene, and while I have matured A LOT over the past year, I still dont see how a week WITH MY CLOSEEST FRIENDS is that big of a deal.

She says ohhh if youre in such a commited relationship you dont need to go down there and get drunk and party for a week....Her main issue is the three girls going... Now 1. IS FAT and I wouldnt touch it with a 10ft pole GIRL#2. is effing my best friend and GIRL#3 has a serious boyfriend

I just got off the Phone with her and told her i will try and replace the three girls but if I cant I'm stilll going, and she was like well the andre i dont want to be you...


WHAT DO I DO?!?!
 
Why doesn't she just go with you?


CROWLER
 
Put a pillow over her face while she sleeps?


JK

Why doesn't she just go with you?

Really, you gotta decide whether or not you want to get serious with this girl and live on a freakin leash for the rest of your life. I had one of them girls and it sucks. What else did you do before you met her? Go to the gym? Eat healthy? Maybe you should stop doing those too? $.02

Edit: Beat me to it Crowler, you sly bastad! :)
 
anabolicandre said:
her family is hardcore christian and would never let her go.
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I am afraid to ask this but I will.

How old is your girlfriend?


CROWLER
 
anabolicandre said:
her family is hardcore christian and would never let her go.
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How do they feel about you bangin their daughter then?
And bump to Crowlers question. How old is she?
 
insecure girl andre... in the future, dont tell me i didnt warn you if she has another "insecure fit" attack.... i would chose another... but thats just me......... insecure people freak me out...... to no end....
 
Mrs. Gimpy! said:
insecure girl andre... in the future, dont tell me i didnt warn you if she has another "insecure fit" attack.... i would chose another... but thats just me......... insecure people freak me out...... to no end....
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word :goodpost: there's some deep seated problems there that you're going to get blamed for.
 
Its horrible isn't when your made to feel guilty for this sort of stuff! I bet if the roles were reversed and she wanted to go away for a week then you would let her?
So why then should you live with double standards?
As posted above, in time you will realise this runs deeper. Insecurity is a ***** to live with....
 
Can't say I blame her for not being thrilled about you going down there to get hammered and stay with girls, even if they are just friends. I know the one chick is fat but lets be honest when the beer is flowin sometimes your a fat chick magnet.

Honestly how many of us here would have no issues with our women going to the beach with her guy friends. I'm sorry but it just seems like a bad situation. Guys staying with girls at the beach and lots of alcohol involved. That's a recipe for disaster if you have a girl.

One other thing, your leaving out the thousands of other girls you might stumble into while piss drunk on the board.
 
I really can't blame her either (although I hate to say it).

How would you like her going down to Virginia Beach to party with friends, if those friends included some guys? You probably wouldn't like it. I know I wouldn't.
 
Mrs. Gimpy! said:
insecure girl andre... in the future, dont tell me i didnt warn you if she has another "insecure fit" attack.... i would chose another... but thats just me......... insecure people freak me out...... to no end....
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I've dated girls like this. If this happens once again I suggest Mrs. G's advice. I came up with "things I wouldn't accept". When they fit the bill, they hit the road. It's easier that way. Time not wasted.
 
bpmartyr said:
Really, you gotta decide whether or not you want to get serious with this girl and live on a freakin leash for the rest of your life. I had one of them girls and it sucks. What else did you do before you met her? Go to the gym? Eat healthy? Maybe you should stop doing those too? $.02
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Very good advice. Listen to your elders. Since I'm only 18 I'm not qualified to give you any insight but bpmartyr he's like an old dude...full of...full of... wisdom. Thats it! Full of wisdom.
 
21? and she still listens to her parents? i gave up on that like 3 years ago... Christ.. i go to church twice a week and am a strong believer, but seriously.. your gonna be whipped if you aint careful
 
jminis said:
Can't say I blame her for not being thrilled about you going down there to get hammered and stay with girls, even if they are just friends. I know the one chick is fat but lets be honest when the beer is flowin sometimes your a fat chick magnet.

Honestly how many of us here would have no issues with our women going to the beach with her guy friends. I'm sorry but it just seems like a bad situation. Guys staying with girls at the beach and lots of alcohol involved. That's a recipe for disaster if you have a girl.

One other thing, your leaving out the thousands of other girls you might stumble into while piss drunk on the board.
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DING DING DING and the WINNER IS . . . jminis

:bow28:



CROWLER
 
jrkarp said:
I really can't blame her either (although I hate to say it).

How would you like her going down to Virginia Beach to party with friends, if those friends included some guys? You probably wouldn't like it.
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i see where u and jiminis are coming from but its not 3 random girls.....

one is fat, one is his best friend and the other is taken......

i dont see the issue here. if it was the opposite, i wouldnt care if kwyck went.... if hes going to cheat, then he will.... nothing i can do about it and why would i want to fret and "protect him" from that? i dont want to be witha cheater or "potential cheater" anyways....

i have guy friends, at one point a male best friend (whos jealous wife ended our friendship) and it wasnt an issue if i went with him somewhere (along with a fat guy and a taken one).

i got out with my friends. if there are guys there are. no questions only trust. if kwyck wants to go out with some friends, girls, fine. only trust. we never second guess each other and its sad to have a relationship that does.
 
meowmeow said:
Very good advice. Listen to your elders. Since I'm only 18 I'm not qualified to give you any insight but bpmartyr he's like an old dude...full of...full of... wisdom. Thats it! Full of wisdom.
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Well BP is old...And full of something, I'm not sure if it's wisdom, but it's something..lol..(Sorry bro, I had to)...Anyway, if your relationship with this girl is secure, trusting and maintainable through a situation like this, then you going there shouldn't really matter because she should have a full amount of trust in you and know you aren't going to do anything....If that implicit trust between two people isn't there, then this relationship is founded on a bunk premise and isn't going anywhere anyway...IMO trust is rewarded with an honouring of that trust..For example, a little while ago I went to Puerto Vallarta with 8 of my friends, one was a girl..My gf was sad as hell she wasn't going to see me for two weeks, but NEVER once brought anything up about any other girls..Only thing she said was don't drink too much..I was so pleased I had a gf tight enough to not suspect me in the least that I didn't even look at other broads when I was down there..Instead I dropped a half bill on my ol' lady and brought her back tight presents, and she picked me up at the airport wearing a long coat and lace underneath...:smite: So the moral of the story is ditch this broad and find a trusting secure woman like Gimpster said, because it really makes all the difference...
 
Sooty said:
21? and she still listens to her parents? i gave up on that like 3 years ago... Christ.. i go to church twice a week and am a strong believer, but seriously.. your gonna be whipped if you aint careful
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No offense bro, but I think that's highschool bullsh!t. People that say others are whipped say that **** because they are afraid of commitment. It really pisses me off when sombeody says that someone else is pussy whipped just because a guy enjoys spending time with his girlfriend. Please don't take this as a flame bro, I just felt I should say what I felt.
 
Sooty said:
21? and she still listens to her parents? i gave up on that like 3 years ago... Christ.. i go to church twice a week and am a strong believer, but seriously.. your gonna be whipped if you aint careful
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You sound like half of my students :icon_lol:
 
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