OK another girl question...

refrieddreams

refrieddreams

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I met this girl, really really cute. Sweet, funny we have all the same interests...

For instance we both...

Steak- Medium rare
Coffee- hate it
Politically- both very conservitive
Family values the same
Same favorite wine
Football basketball baseball- love it
Looks/body types-we deserve eachother ;)

We can talk for hours, laugh at the same stuff, yada yada...


So here in lies the problem...

She gave it up on the 2nd date. I am pretty good at the art of seduction, so I cant blame her too much...but damn. I know I gave it up too, and it is a double standard, but can I have a relationship with someone that gave it up that easy?

Sex was awesome, she umm...you know 14 times! In one night, I was the perfect gentelman to wait untill she was done before I ummm..you know, once.

So what do I do? Do I have fun with her but thats it, or do I overlook the fact that we did it so quick?

Thanks
 
go withit butha. time will tell, no need to make a decision if its early. 2nd date and shes cool, who freaking cares. good luck.
 
Thats your call, I would just take it slow and see what happens. Remember just have fun and if you really have feelings for this chick take it to the next level. The next few weeks will give you a glance into her life.
 
if things are good then they are good. so what she gave it up on the second date....as you said earlier...double standards....u joined her also buddy. kwyche can tell you he knows your situation way too well.

me and kwyche um....went straight for it really fast.... and kwych blamed ME for doing the deed so early on. WTF.... he held that against me for about six months. i NEVER do such "skanky" things until just that one time. we are absolutely perfect for each other. we are happier than we have ever been and we have been together for 4 years straight, no breakups, no REAL fights (maybe just me pmsing at times), its literally perfect. DONT give up on her, give her a chance, be cautious but be open. maybe u two will be like me and kwyche....:)
 
you want to know if this happens for her a lot.

the fact that you two moved fast could just be about the way it is with you two - in which case, let it be as good for you and her as it wants to be. you'll soon know whether if you're willing to take it farther, so don't get side-tracked by trying to plot it out in advance.

breathe, relax, have fun.
 
BodyWizard said:
Mrs. G, is that you?
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yes its me. why it doesnt look like my past avatars? i tried to get my ring in the picture to show it was me just in case it looked alittle not like me but u can hardly see my ring :(
 
I thought about test driving a few cars about 8 years ago when I was planning on getting my first vehicle. Seeing as how I've been a passenger in lots, I had a decent idea of what I liked and what I didn't like.

I sat in a Jeep TJ the dealership had. It was ok (but a 4 banger).
The second vehicle I tested was a different Jeep TJ.
Loved it. Bought it - right then and there.

My brain said I'm supposed to test drive other vehicles, and that I can't make such a big purchase on such a whim. But, I really loved that Jeep. It just felt right.

8 years later, I still love my Jeep! Moral of the story - sometimes you just know when you have a good thing, and there's no need to put it off until later just because some people may think it's too quick.

As for sex, let's be honest here. Both men and women know within the first few moments of meeting someone whether or not they are possibly willing to have sex with them. Sometimes there's no connection, and you wait to see if one develops. Sometimes there is a special connection - so why wait?

What this girl did with you was WITH YOU! Everyone acts differently to different people. Just because she moved fast with you really does not necessarily prove she moves fast with anyone.

Oh - and if it eventually doesn't work - you can't blame it on starting too quickly. Sometimes relationships just don't work. That's like blaming Arnold's heart surgery on his steroid abuse - yeah, because all the non-steroid people his age never had a heart problem...
 
breathe, relax and have fun, no one says you have to marry her tomorrow, perhaps she is feeling this way about you...talk to her, communicate, and have fun:)
 
As lame as this may sound, just follow your heart. I know you may be unsure of exactly what you're supposed to do, but what do you want to do? What do you want to do the moment you think of that question? If you break it off so soon will you live in regret wondering what might have been?
No one ever got anywhere in life without taking risks, and the cost of love is well worth its recompense.

Godspeed RD.
 
refrieddreams said:
I met this girl, really really cute. Sweet, funny we have all the same interests...

For instance we both...

Steak- Medium rare
Coffee- hate it
Politically- both very conservitive
Family values the same
Same favorite wine
Football basketball baseball- love it
Looks/body types-we deserve eachother ;)

We can talk for hours, laugh at the same stuff, yada yada...


So here in lies the problem...

She gave it up on the 2nd date. I am pretty good at the art of seduction, so I cant blame her too much...but damn. I know I gave it up too, and it is a double standard, but can I have a relationship with someone that gave it up that easy?

Sex was awesome, she umm...you know 14 times! In one night, I was the perfect gentelman to wait untill she was done before I ummm..you know, once.

So what do I do? Do I have fun with her but thats it, or do I overlook the fact that we did it so quick?

Thanks
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That's pretty much me and my future Mrs. Fox.. She's like a female version of me, my best friend, and we helped each other get over past bullshit many times over.. Not sayin' you should marry this one, but take it easy and keep her around for abit, you'll never know.. ;)

At least this one ain't crazy.. :ntome:
 
Mrs. Gimpy! said:
yes its me. why it doesnt look like my past avatars? i tried to get my ring in the picture to show it was me just in case it looked alittle not like me but u can hardly see my ring :(
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I was just reflecting on what a lucky dawg he is:
my dear, you make a magnificent presentation!

Thank you. :box:
 
refrieddreams said:
But how many times has she done that? Or should that not matter either?
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That's up to you. Does it matter? Look at it this way, even if you disapprove of that and it's true, are you gonna refuse a diamond because it was once a piece of coal? Trust is what matters in the end. I personally don't care about a girl's past as long as when she's with me it's just me. The past is just that, past. I'd cringe if half the girls I went out with knew some of the **** I did when I was young.
 
spatch said:
Dont give up on it bro. Whats the worst that could happen?
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Aids, other STD, she could be pregnant! Thats just a few. This is how I look at it. If you two get serious, is that gonna cause a problem for you a year down the line? It took me 7 mnths to get it from my wife and I still think that is fast, its my wife!!! See where Im headed, if you see this going in a serious direction and causing a problem in the future, ask her about it. She may get a little upset but just let her know that you really dig her and want to know about her past. No biggie. She will probally lie and say its a first but unless you have proof, you gotta go with it. Good luck!!
 
F##k it man, you and I both have probably gave it up sooner than that...LOL...... sounds like you guys are "two peas in a pod" have fun with it if it happens it happens women are no different then men we all need alittle love to make us human!!!!
 
But how many times has she done that? Or should that not matter either?
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Bro dont even worry about that crap...my girl and I hit it right around date #3 and weve been together 7 years and just got engaged. She's the coolest, hottest, sweeted chick Ive ever known, and my best friend to boot.

As long as she's open and honest about her sexual past, and you are too, there wont be any issues.

BV
 
BigVrunga said:
Bro dont even worry about that crap...my girl and I hit it right around date #3 and weve been together 7 years and just got engaged. She's the coolest, hottest, sweeted chick Ive ever known, and my best friend to boot.

As long as she's open and honest about her sexual past, and you are too, there wont be any issues.

BV
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I agree. My wife and I hit off physically early on and she is the most trustworthy woman I could have ever married. If things are right between the two of you, you have nothing to worry about.
 
jblaze22if you like her, keep it going

What im really trying to say is... PIITB
HaHa, not so fast there...

BodyWizard.

breathe, relax, have fun.

Thanks you sir...

spatchDont give up on it bro. Whats the worst that could happen?

I could become really insecure for some stupid ass reason...

SunderI thought about test driving a few cars about 8 years ago when I was planning on getting my first vehicle. Seeing as how I've been a passenger in lots, I had a decent idea of what I liked and what I didn't like.

I sat in a Jeep TJ the dealership had. It was ok (but a 4 banger).
The second vehicle I tested was a different Jeep TJ.
Loved it. Bought it - right then and there.

My brain said I'm supposed to test drive other vehicles, and that I can't make such a big purchase on such a whim. But, I really loved that Jeep. It just felt right.

8 years later, I still love my Jeep! Moral of the story - sometimes you just know when you have a good thing, and there's no need to put it off until later just because some people may think it's too quick.

As for sex, let's be honest here. Both men and women know within the first few moments of meeting someone whether or not they are possibly willing to have sex with them. Sometimes there's no connection, and you wait to see if one develops. Sometimes there is a special connection - so why wait?

What this girl did with you was WITH YOU! Everyone acts differently to different people. Just because she moved fast with you really does not necessarily prove she moves fast with anyone.

Oh - and if it eventually doesn't work - you can't blame it on starting too quickly. Sometimes relationships just don't work. That's like blaming Arnold's heart surgery on his steroid abuse - yeah, because all the non-steroid people his age never had a heart problem...

Very nice thought out response, thanks...good analogy. I actually had a 91 YJ Wrangler and it was a piece of crap though ;)

toughchick401breathe, relax and have fun, no one says you have to marry her tomorrow, perhaps she is feeling this way about you...talk to her, communicate, and have fun:)

Communicate? Whats that? Name this movie...

"My girl and I broke up"

"Oh I am sorry to here that, what happened?"

"I dont know she said I didn't communicate or something, I don't know I wasn't paying nuch attention"

Thanks E.C.H.

TheCrownedOneAs lame as this may sound, just follow your heart.

Godspeed RD.

Not lame at all, especialy coming from you bro...

bigpetefoxQuote:
Originally Posted by refrieddreams
I met this girl, really really cute. Sweet, funny we have all the same interests...

For instance we both...

Steak- Medium rare
Coffee- hate it
Politically- both very conservitive
Family values the same
Same favorite wine
Football basketball baseball- love it
Looks/body types-we deserve eachother ;)

We can talk for hours, laugh at the same stuff, yada yada...


So here in lies the problem...

She gave it up on the 2nd date. I am pretty good at the art of seduction, so I cant blame her too much...but damn. I know I gave it up too, and it is a double standard, but can I have a relationship with someone that gave it up that easy?

Sex was awesome, she umm...you know 14 times! In one night, I was the perfect gentelman to wait untill she was done before I ummm..you know, once.

So what do I do? Do I have fun with her but thats it, or do I overlook the fact that we did it so quick?

Thanks
bigpetefoxQuote:
Originally Posted by refrieddreams
I met this girl, really really cute. Sweet, funny we have all the same interests...

For instance we both...

Steak- Medium rare
Coffee- hate it
Politically- both very conservitive
Family values the same
Same favorite wine
Football basketball baseball- love it
Looks/body types-we deserve eachother ;)

We can talk for hours, laugh at the same stuff, yada yada...


So here in lies the problem...

She gave it up on the 2nd date. I am pretty good at the art of seduction, so I cant blame her too much...but damn. I know I gave it up too, and it is a double standard, but can I have a relationship with someone that gave it up that easy?

Sex was awesome, she umm...you know 14 times! In one night, I was the perfect gentelman to wait untill she was done before I ummm..you know, once.

So what do I do? Do I have fun with her but thats it, or do I overlook the fact that we did it so quick?

Thanks







At least this one ain't crazy.. :ntome:


Damn straight bro...

CDBQuote:
Originally Posted by refrieddreams
But how many times has she done that? Or should that not matter either?


That's up to you. Does it matter? Look at it this way, even if you disapprove of that and it's true, are you gonna refuse a diamond because it was once a piece of coal? Trust is what matters in the end. I personally don't care about a girl's past as long as when she's with me it's just me. The past is just that, past. I'd cringe if half the girls I went out with knew some of the **** I did when I was young.Today 04:28 AM

Damn, my past is pretty freaking checkered too. Thats why it is such a double standard...

revodrewQuote:
Originally Posted by spatch
Dont give up on it bro. Whats the worst that could happen?


Aids, other STD, she could be pregnant! Thats just a few. This is how I look at it. If you two get serious, is that gonna cause a problem for you a year down the line? It took me 7 mnths to get it from my wife and I still think that is fast, its my wife!!! See where Im headed, if you see this going in a serious direction and causing a problem in the future, ask her about it. She may get a little upset but just let her know that you really dig her and want to know about her past. No biggie. She will probally lie and say its a first but unless you have proof, you gotta go with it. Good luck!!

The STD thing is kinda scary too, I am glad you have such a good thing with your wife man...

tribal 1F##k it man, you and I both have probably gave it up sooner than that...LOL...... sounds like you guys are "two peas in a pod" have fun with it if it happens it happens women are no different then men we all need alittle love to make us human!!!!

I know, I know...

BigVrungaQuote:
But how many times has she done that? Or should that not matter either?

Bro dont even worry about that crap...my girl and I hit it right around date #3 and weve been together 7 years and just got engaged. She's the coolest, hottest, sweeted chick Ive ever known, and my best friend to boot.

As long as she's open and honest about her sexual past, and you are too, there wont be any issues.

BV

How do you know if she's honest though? And why dies her past matter? I f you read everyone responses it doesnt...So if she said I have been with 3 guys or 30 or 300 it doesnt matter as lonf as she's honest?
There has to be a line somewhere, no?

rhunt000Quote:
Originally Posted by BigVrunga
Bro dont even worry about that crap...my girl and I hit it right around date #3 and weve been together 7 years and just got engaged. She's the coolest, hottest, sweeted chick Ive ever known, and my best friend to boot.

As long as she's open and honest about her sexual past, and you are too, there wont be any issues.

BV


I agree. My wife and I hit off physically early on and she is the most trustworthy woman I could have ever married. If things are right between the two of you, you have nothing to worry about.
Well here's to hoping...
 
Thanks guys and girls, last night we hung out and watched the game. No real hanky panky either, which is a good sign...

she is on her way to my work now. We will see how this shakes out.
 
refrieddreams said:
Thanks guys and girls, last night we hung out and watched the game. No real hanky panky either, which is a good sign...

she is on her way to my work now. We will see how this shakes out.
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She works, thats a plus!!!:woohoo:
 
CDB said:
That's up to you. Does it matter? Look at it this way, even if you disapprove of that and it's true, are you gonna refuse a diamond because it was once a piece of coal? Trust is what matters in the end. I personally don't care about a girl's past as long as when she's with me it's just me. The past is just that, past. I'd cringe if half the girls I went out with knew some of the **** I did when I was young.
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true that
 
Yes she works, has a good job...everything.

Ok heres a new one...

She just dropped the boyfriend tag on me!

Wow...

I said thanks for dinner last night and she said no need to thank ms, thats what girlfriends do for boyfriends...
 
Ok Im going to play the devils advocate here.

First, she could be lying about all the same likes/dislikes just to make you fall for her. Some girls try to be your "dream" girl to nab you, then at some point start acting like themselves and it may be a totally different person.

Second, you are right, if she gave it up that easy this time, she has probably given it up that easy a lot of times. If that bothers you, some people have no problem with it. Anyone who can cum 14 times the first time they have sex with someone must be very comfortable having casual sex. Most girls I have been with are so nervous and self conscious they need to booze up before the 1st few encounters.

Third, because she has given herself to you so quick, you lost out on the chance to "work" for it. Lets face it, we always like something better if we had to work really hard for it. It took me over a year of flirting and asking out my current g/f before I got a chance ( she had some other b/f for a while ) and I was so happy when we startted dating. Then it took me a while to get in with her because of that loser, but when I did It felt so great. I still consider myself really lucky to be with her.

So I guess this is going to be a 2-3 month fling and thats it. But good luck and I hope you prove me wrong.
 
Tattoed...I reacted like...uh well thanks again...

Kd1, nice post bro, if she is doing that she is damn good at it. Hmmmmm
 
refrieddreams said:
Tattoed...I reacted like...uh well thanks again...

Kd1, nice post bro, if she is doing that she is damn good at it. Hmmmmm
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Refrieddreams: It has been nice reading your post sorry to see you go. Have fun on the ball and chain.:run: Just kidding, enjoy it if it is what you want. Kinda quick to me, but ****, sometimes things are just meant to be and fall into place.
 
I will not get Whipped!! I promise. I am just out of a LTR 1 year ago, I had my fun...sewed some oats, and would love to be in a relationship...BUT...I will not get whipped.
 
KD1 said:
if she gave it up that easy this time, she has probably given it up that easy a lot of times.
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maybe she has, but there is a chance she hasnt. kwyche, was the only one...took him a while to trust me because of our quick incident but i never do things like that.

KD1 said:
Lets face it, we always like something better if we had to work really hard for it.
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kinda not true...im the first girl kwych's ever wanted to call his girlfriend and now fiance. its not a matter of "how long the sex took"....its a matter of the quality of your emotional relationship.

KD1 said:
So I guess this is going to be a 2-3 month fling and thats it.
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it might be, but it can be the best thing to ever happen to you. people that you feel a connection with do not come around everyday....

in short....

big veruga, rhunt, and i ALL came from beginnings much like yours and we are all either married, or been together for at least four years so far.

so, even with "unsure beginnings" can come the person of your dreams :)
 
One of my oldest friends (like, since Cub Scouts) met his wife the first week of their freshman year; they fell into bed almost immediately (1970 - that WAS their first "date") - and never came out. 36 years later, they're the best, tightest couple I've ever met...and defying all the odds, still **** like bunnies; happy as hell, the best of friends....
Mrs. Gimpy said:
...it can be the best thing to ever happen to you. people that you feel a connection with do not come around everyday....
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AMEN - (kwych, that's a lot o' smart woman you have there :head: )
don't let beliefs you collected along the way keep you from making the most of your reality: if it's good, it's good, if you work well together, then you do - if you turn your back on it, you'll regret it: maybe not tomorrow, but soon - and for the rest of your life (okay, name THAT movie).
 
Thanks guys, I will just see what happens I guess. I just got the "I'm really horny" Text on my phone 2 minutes ago ;) so at least the action is good.

I do not know that movie but, you got me thinking
 
Mrs. Gimpy! said:
maybe she has, but there is a chance she hasnt. kwyche, was the only one...took him a while to trust me because of our quick incident but i never do things like that.



kinda not true...im the first girl kwych's ever wanted to call his girlfriend and now fiance. its not a matter of "how long the sex took"....its a matter of the quality of your emotional relationship.



it might be, but it can be the best thing to ever happen to you. people that you feel a connection with do not come around everyday....

in short....

big veruga, rhunt, and i ALL came from beginnings much like yours and we are all either married, or been together for at least four years so far.

so, even with "unsure beginnings" can come the person of your dreams :)
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Im not saying its not possible, but every girl who has thrown herself at me I got tired of in a few weeks. I dont think I could ever believe a girl in that situation tell me thats never happened before. If your fiance believes you, more power to him, Im not that trusting.

The first girl that I really had to work for a long period of time has now been with me for 4.5 years, and Id marry her in a second if I could convince her to.
 
KD1 said:
Im not saying its not possible, but every girl who has thrown herself at me I got tired of in a few weeks.
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im the first girl kwych's ever kept and kwych gets bored of girls fast, especially "fast" ones. but its not the physical that keeps people together, its the mental connection. we would have gotten married a couple years ago if our financial situations allowed it....

but i can see where you are comming from, we definitly had to work at the trust thing for a bit, but it wasnt bad at all.
 
Unless you have evidence, you are only guessing.

Sometimes what you think about others is a projection of what's going on inside of yourself.
 
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