Ex's

LCSULLA

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Hey Everyone,
I know I have been on and off the board for the last year or so and there are a ton of people I have never even seen before. So hey.
Anywho I had a question for the board. Have you ever had an ex or been and ex that has tried to come back?

Ok background story some may know, but others don't. Last year my ex told me she had cheated on me the summer before. Naturally I was devestated and promptly moved out of the house we had been sharing (we lived together for 3 yrs, and were together for 5 1/2). She slept with an ex BF that she had still was friends with.
During this time I was finishing my MA thesis and working so I was stretched pretty thin. So I moved out back to my folks place so I could get some grounding.
For the next month she would call begging me to come back. After about a month I did. That lasted about a week and she she dumped me. "Maybe we should have some space, etc"
We didn't talk for about a month (we had a huge blow up fight). I then get a call asking to hang out. She then told me she was flying an ex (another ex) from TX to visit. They dated way back in HS for like four months.
He's this fat bald guy with piercings all over his face and weres black all the time. He passes the time by smoking pot and getting bombed. Yes a real winner.
So the enitire summer I make an ass of myself tying to get her back. She's balling this guy like crazy and I am trying to get her back..crazy I know.
She flys him up two times that summer. He then moves to SC and she spends the rest of the summer with him. She comes back for about a month and decideds to take the dog (the one I bought her) and move down there to be with him.
The entire time she is with this guy she calls me. A few times he tried to take the phone from her and he's calling me a ****ing faggot and everything else.

Now don't get the wrong idea here. I don't want her back. **** I don't even find her that attractive anymore. Hell I don't even like her. But I want satisfaction. I mean she still calls me asking why we can't be friends.. are you kinding! And the entire time she is calling me she telling everyone that this loser is the love of her life.

So my question is has anyone here had someone, known someone, or was someone who came crawling back?
I just want my karmatic revenge.:twisted:
 
LCSULLA said:
Hey Everyone,
I know I have been on and off the board for the last year or so and there are a ton of people I have never even seen before. So hey.
Anywho I had a question for the board. Have you ever had an ex or been and ex that has tried to come back?

Ok background story some may know, but others don't. Last year my ex told me she had cheated on me the summer before. Naturally I was devestated and promptly moved out of the house we had been sharing (we lived together for 3 yrs, and were together for 5 1/2). She slept with an ex BF that she had still was friends with.
During this time I was finishing my MA thesis and working so I was stretched pretty thin. So I moved out back to my folks place so I could get some grounding.
For the next month she would call begging me to come back. After about a month I did. That lasted about a week and she she dumped me. "Maybe we should have some space, etc"
We didn't talk for about a month (we had a huge blow up fight). I then get a call asking to hang out. She then told me she was flying an ex (another ex) from TX to visit. They dated way back in HS for like four months.
He's this fat bald guy with piercings all over his face and weres black all the time. He passes the time by smoking pot and getting bombed. Yes a real winner.
So the enitire summer I make an ass of myself tying to get her back. She's balling this guy like crazy and I am trying to get her back..crazy I know.
She flys him up two times that summer. He then moves to SC and she spends the rest of the summer with him. She comes back for about a month and decideds to take the dog (the one I bought her) and move down there to be with him.
The entire time she is with this guy she calls me. A few times he tried to take the phone from her and he's calling me a ****ing faggot and everything else.

Now don't get the wrong idea here. I don't want her back. **** I don't even find her that attractive anymore. Hell I don't even like her. But I want satisfaction. I mean she still calls me asking why we can't be friends.. are you kinding! And the entire time she is calling me she telling everyone that this loser is the love of her life.

So my question is has anyone here had someone, known someone, or was someone who came crawling back?
I just want my karmatic revenge.:twisted:
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This happens frequently bro, I went back to my first love once, then we ended up doing great for another 6 months or so, then broke up again, then I wanted her back and she said no, then I moved and she wanted me back, and I said no... Recently I just got back with an ex that I dated for 4 or so months, maybe longer, but we ended on good terms and the cause was distance.... Personally, I don't see any shame whatsoever in wanting someone back. I do shame however, in being a girl about things and crying and whining and playing mind games, and trying to be friends then showing off fat bald dudes... IMO I say you forget about her bro.
 
Personally, I wouldn't ever talk to her again as this is an unhealthy cycle. I had a friend in college who did this type of thing. He seemed to just be the type of person who always liked to be in a relationship so he would go back to this one girl if he didn't have someone else he was interested in at the time. Then they'd cheat on each other when someone else of interest came along.

If you do hang out with her again, might as well just try to get her to take part in every twisted sexual fantasy that you were too embarrassed to ask her about earlier....3-some, bla bla bla. If she's offended and doesn't talk to you again, oh well.
 
I think the best karmic revenge is meted out by the universe, not the individual. Walk away. Stop returning her calls. Build a better life for yourself. If you need satisfaction, know deep in your heart that the choices she makes for herself are making her life a miserable mess and will continue to do so.
 
yeahright said:
I think the best karmic revenge is meted out by the universe, not the individual. Walk away. Stop returning her calls. Build a better life for yourself. If you need satisfaction, know deep in your heart that the choices she makes for herself are making her life a miserable mess and will continue to do so.
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Dude, that's totally heartless... but I see where you're coming from ;) LOL Personally, I give all exes the chance to be my friend, if they can't handle it, I forget about em, that simple.
 
RisingAgainst said:
Dude, that's totally heartless... but I see where you're coming from ;) LOL Personally, I give all exes the chance to be my friend, if they can't handle it, I forget about em, that simple.
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It's not heartless. This is a woman who betrayed him. Then begged him to come back. Once he did, she promptly dumped him. The following time period has been filled with weird mind games and attempts to suck him into the drama of her life. This to the extent that Lsculla is wanting to get revenge upon her.

Look at what she's done to him.

She's poison to him. No good can come from him maintaining contact with her. It will only keep him from moving on to build the life he deserves for himself.

Maybe she has a pure heart and will earn the Nobel Peace Prize someday but it doesn't sound like she's any good to Lsculla. Otherwise, Lsculla is just going to be her rebound guy when things fall apart with the pierced stoner homophobe.....And then she'll screw Lsculla over again.

Here's the bottom line: If interacting with this person has you thinking up revenge fantasies, you need to walk away. The person is ****ing-up your life. Take control by cutting her off.
 
Both posts by Yeahright are freaking dead-on!!!! Could not have possibly said it any better no matter how hard I tried.

Karma will get her in the end, big-time. Move on and forget about her. Your revenge will come in looking and feeling good, and enjoying life.

My ex, she's a raging alcoholic who's gained over 80 lbs. She just got thrown in jail for multiple DWI's, lost the house she had with her new husband and is now divorcing. He's in jail for dealing drugs. Her life is miserable and she has nothing. All of it much deserved for the things she put me through and what she did to me. Your ex will get hers, the bad ones always do.
 
I wish I would have walked away from my ex with a clean break-up instead of the lingering on-again, off-again BS that I went through for about a year. It was a toxic relationship that I could not pry myself away from and it ended very, very badly.
 
yeahright said:
I think the best karmic revenge is meted out by the universe, not the individual. Walk away. Stop returning her calls. Build a better life for yourself. If you need satisfaction, know deep in your heart that the choices she makes for herself are making her life a miserable mess and will continue to do so.
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YR thats what I have been doing. I don't return her calls because she is ****ed in the head. On mothersday she stopped by my moms because she knew I would be there (she drove up from SC to see her mom). And she brought the dog with her. So I think WTF I'll just sit and talk to her outside. She then starts going on about how her parents are getting back together after being divorced for 8 yrs (and a real messy one at that). I just go "Uhuh" and then she mentions that the **** she ran off with is setting in the car not 100 yrds away! But he has the doors locked because he's scared ****less of me.
Can you belive that!
Then two weeks ago she calls me saying she had something important to talk to me about. I never called her back.
I have told her time and time again that we can't be friends and we will never be friends after all the **** she did to me.

And I have moved on. I am traveling, looking for a new career and ahve kinda met someone. But she keeps trying to be friends.
 
yeahright said:
I think the best karmic revenge is meted out by the universe, not the individual. Walk away. Stop returning her calls. Build a better life for yourself. If you need satisfaction, know deep in your heart that the choices she makes for herself are making her life a miserable mess and will continue to do so.
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I totally agree with this post. An ex is an ex for a reason. It didn't work out, so let them go. Besides as far as the friend factor goes not to many people you date in the future are going to want to date a guy thats ex is still around in any form. We want a man thats free from his emotional past so that he can move on and give his best in the relationship we are in. So I say just stop talking to her.
 
ok, here is the secret. we ( girls) do not like when people leave us. we want the power, so we will beg a relationship back just so we can have the full power to end it..

I am sorry for the situation you are going thru, i really am.. please know now ALL girls are like this. just most
 
yeahright said:
I think the best karmic revenge is meted out by the universe, not the individual. Walk away. Stop returning her calls. Build a better life for yourself. If you need satisfaction, know deep in your heart that the choices she makes for herself are making her life a miserable mess and will continue to do so.
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Totally agree with it.
She seems got passive/agressive thing going on and as soon as you dump her she wants you back and then kick you out once she has you again. Don't worry she's gonna be pretty miserable on her own without your "revenge" because she's gonna **** up every relationship she will have.
Forgive and forget...
 
LCSULLA said:
I mean she still calls me asking why we can't be friends..
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Its an easy answer, friends don't treat each other the way she treated you. You don't lie to your friends, and you don't jack your friends around.

Theres lots of bridges in life you can't cross twice, and I don't know many people who can regain trust after the loss that comes from having an affair. And karma? just worry about your own, treat her with as much civility as you would a person WHO YOU DONT KNOW who chats with you at the grocery store, not any less or any more.
 
EasyEJL said:
Its an easy answer, friends don't treat each other the way she treated you. You don't lie to your friends, and you don't jack your friends around.

Theres lots of bridges in life you can't cross twice, and I don't know many people who can regain trust after the loss that comes from having an affair. And karma? just worry about your own, treat her with as much civility as you would a person WHO YOU DONT KNOW who chats with you at the grocery store, not any less or any more.
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Word. I told her that. After all I did for her I got the shiv in the liver...twice.
And I am trying to lead a good life, but I keep hearing how happy she is and this guy is the greatest, etc etc.

It just pisses me off a bit, thats all.
 
LCSULLA said:
Word. I told her that. After all I did for her I got the shiv in the liver...twice.
And I am trying to lead a good life, but I keep hearing how happy she is and this guy is the greatest, etc etc.

It just pisses me off a bit, thats all.
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I highly doubt she's anywhere near as happy as anybody says. If so, why does she keep contacting you? Brush her off like a bad case of fleas. She's already treated you with less respect than that. There's A LOT of women out there man.
 
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Resuscitation
When a girl is asleep, carefully open her mouth so that she doesn't awake. Then, squat over her face and carefully place your pie hole on her lips. When the time is right, you let rip the biggest baddest fart ever known to man and see if it wakes her up. Great fun during those long sleepless nights

thats what id do man
 
jomi822 said:
Resuscitation
When a girl is asleep, carefully open her mouth so that she doesn't awake. Then, squat over her face and carefully place your pie hole on her lips. When the time is right, you let rip the biggest baddest fart ever known to man and see if it wakes her up. Great fun during those long sleepless nights

thats what id do man
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Firstly... LMFAO

Secondly... You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to jomi822 again.

Thirdly wow bro, you just went up a notch in my book, you're now at a two! LOL jk
 
LCSULLA said:
And I am trying to lead a good life, but I keep hearing how happy she is and this guy is the greatest, etc etc.

It just pisses me off a bit, thats all.
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I'd just shrug it off, maybe even laugh about it. After all, its kind of sad that her grip on reality is so far off. And if she is actually that happy and he is that great, then great for her, hope they stay together forever. No reason for you to be upset, who wants a woman who will lie to you just to get some **** on the side?
 
LCSULLA said:
Word. I told her that. After all I did for her I got the shiv in the liver...twice.
And I am trying to lead a good life, but I keep hearing how happy she is and this guy is the greatest, etc etc.

It just pisses me off a bit, thats all.
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If you still give her the power over you to be pissed then she is winning. You cant be mad unless you still have some feelings for her. Which is all the more reason to stay away. YOU can't heal and move on if your still around her. Its false hope and also a negative spiral because you know her patterns. If she wanted to put the time and feelings in it that you deserve she would have the first time. I'm sure you deserve someone who gives her all for you!

Even if she is happy now it doesn't matter, would you rather be with the wrong person and be unhappy, or find the right and never doubt your happiness!
 
LCSULLA said:
I keep hearing how happy she is and this guy is the greatest, etc etc.

It just pisses me off a bit, thats all.
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Well, it exact opposite then. She's not happy at all and this is why she keeps calling you, to convince you otherwise. If you are in great relationship, you would be focusing on that, not calling your ex's non stop and try to be friends with them. Am I right?
 
DmitryWI said:
Well, it exact opposite then. She's not happy at all and this is why she keeps calling you, to convince you otherwise. If you are in great relationship, you would be focusing on that, not calling your ex's non stop and try to be friends with them. Am I right?
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I don't know about that. She has some serious abandonment issues. And she always wants people to like her when they don't.

If you still give her the power over you to be pissed then she is winning. You cant be mad unless you still have some feelings for her. Which is all the more reason to stay away. YOU can't heal and move on if your still around her. Its false hope and also a negative spiral because you know her patterns. If she wanted to put the time and feelings in it that you deserve she would have the first time. I'm sure you deserve someone who gives her all for you!

Even if she is happy now it doesn't matter, would you rather be with the wrong person and be unhappy, or find the right and never doubt your happiness!
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LOL. My friends say the samething.
 
DmitryWI said:
Well, it exact opposite then. She's not happy at all and this is why she keeps calling you, to convince you otherwise. If you are in great relationship, you would be focusing on that, not calling your ex's non stop and try to be friends with them. Am I right?
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I kinda agree with that. I have an incredible relationship right now and have no desire to go and tell any ex's about it. But for several months after my last divorce, she was trying to contact me and let me know her life was great, was actually kinda weird. Whatever, I knew otherwise.
 
Update:
She called again and left a message Sat. on my voice mail about some photos she took for my mother two years ago. She thought she may want them. :rolleyes:
I can't figure out what see wants. She says she wants us to be friends.. But I have told her numerous times NO!
WTF does she want.
 
LCSULLA said:
Update:
She called again and left a message Sat. on my voice mail about some photos she took for my mother two years ago. She thought she may want them. :rolleyes:
I can't figure out what see wants. She says she wants us to be friends.. But I have told her numerous times NO!
WTF does she want.
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attention.
 
She wants you because you ignore her and it drives her nuts! Passive/agressive thing again.
If you call her and tell her "how much you still love her and never stop loving her and you want her back so bad" I can bet anything you'll never hear from her again or at least for a while. :D
 
Exes are bad news, at least the experiences I have had with them. Things usually do not work out when you try to get back with an ex. Once you have crossed that line, I feel you really can't get back to way things "used to be".
 
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