My position changed a bit over the last year, pre covid my social life was all around the gym I owned. Because of the nature of the place a lot of the members I would class as friends and my business partner was my best mate. So whilst we rarely did stuff outside the gym I had a lot of interaction with people that weren’t my family (my wife also lifted at the gym so we had a lot of joint friends etc).
found out my best mate was fucking my wife and obviously closed the gym, was right at the start of lockdown in the uk and I was homeschooling my kids and working from home so I went from seeing lots of people to seeing no one for a bit.
but what did happen was old friends I hadn’t seen for years were there for me and we are tighter again now, people from the gym that were friends but not close friends I became closer with and I found out who really had my back.
I also put myself out there socially and have settled into a nice place where I probably have 10-12 close friends I see or speak to regularly plus other people I know from boxing or the new gym I’m involved in.
it changes after kids though and it’s really easy to just get into that work, family, home lifestyle (nothing wrong with that at all if it’s keeping you happy). I think after kids you have to work harder at friendships and it seems to be more effort.
Obviously worth it if it means something to you though