Manimalia
Well-known member
I am about to tell you of a book, NOT a book of religion, a book of life. Yes, a book. But it's not just any book. This book is gonna help me. It's going to be my Holy Bible, my Qur'an, MY Book.
I've found a book that I will look to, so as to keep my existence the best it can be. This book is called "The Four Agreements."
It states all we have learned since we entered the world from the womb is/was an agreement. We agree(d) to believe everything. While we have agreed to many good things, we have also agreed to far too many bad.
The book compares our words and our feelings as poison, being passed on to one another. It's an analogy that seems to be a bit much, until we are reminded, or even shown, what our words can do. Here are examples:
A single mother comes home from work. She's tired. She has a migraine. Her child is singing because he is happy. He has no woes in this life yet. He's singing so loud and so wonderfully, but it is hurting the mother's head, so she screams, "Shut up! Shut up! Your voice is so loud, so ugly! Shut up!"
The child no longer sings. In fact, he doesn't even speak as much around his mother for a while. He feels uncomfotable now. A bit saddened even.
The mother's word was enough to make him stop. It got something done. It also put a feeling inside of the boy. We say many things, far uglier than this to people every day, sometimes in the hopes that it will spread like an epidemic (gossip). It's all poison.
When we take things personally, like when someone insinuates we're fat and we become hurt, we ate their poison. When someone says we're dumb and we believe them/perpetuate it, we ate their poison. But what we fail to realize/remember is that they are saying/doing these things because there is some poison in their life that they are trying to pass on.
I'm done blathering about it. Those are a few examples. This book will tell you four key things to do. It requires a lot of energy to hold true to the four, but you can find the energy by breaking old agreements and having the energy it took to make those agreements return to you (It's not as dramatic as it sounds; this just means that you can become empowered to better your life and change out old habits for new ones).
Here are the "Four Agreements":
1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
I plan to live by these four agreements. I have only been TRYING to do so for a few days now, but I already notice I feel much better. It's only a matter of time until I find heaven on earth.
Thank you for reading,
Eric Lain
P.S.- I took the time to tell you guys this because I know you are all for progression. It's evident from the physical standpoint. Here is something for your heart/brain if you feel you need it. I've read a lot of "self-help" books, but this is the only one that has actually "got into my heart."
I've found a book that I will look to, so as to keep my existence the best it can be. This book is called "The Four Agreements."
It states all we have learned since we entered the world from the womb is/was an agreement. We agree(d) to believe everything. While we have agreed to many good things, we have also agreed to far too many bad.
The book compares our words and our feelings as poison, being passed on to one another. It's an analogy that seems to be a bit much, until we are reminded, or even shown, what our words can do. Here are examples:
A single mother comes home from work. She's tired. She has a migraine. Her child is singing because he is happy. He has no woes in this life yet. He's singing so loud and so wonderfully, but it is hurting the mother's head, so she screams, "Shut up! Shut up! Your voice is so loud, so ugly! Shut up!"
The child no longer sings. In fact, he doesn't even speak as much around his mother for a while. He feels uncomfotable now. A bit saddened even.
The mother's word was enough to make him stop. It got something done. It also put a feeling inside of the boy. We say many things, far uglier than this to people every day, sometimes in the hopes that it will spread like an epidemic (gossip). It's all poison.
When we take things personally, like when someone insinuates we're fat and we become hurt, we ate their poison. When someone says we're dumb and we believe them/perpetuate it, we ate their poison. But what we fail to realize/remember is that they are saying/doing these things because there is some poison in their life that they are trying to pass on.
I'm done blathering about it. Those are a few examples. This book will tell you four key things to do. It requires a lot of energy to hold true to the four, but you can find the energy by breaking old agreements and having the energy it took to make those agreements return to you (It's not as dramatic as it sounds; this just means that you can become empowered to better your life and change out old habits for new ones).
Here are the "Four Agreements":
1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
I plan to live by these four agreements. I have only been TRYING to do so for a few days now, but I already notice I feel much better. It's only a matter of time until I find heaven on earth.
Thank you for reading,
Eric Lain
P.S.- I took the time to tell you guys this because I know you are all for progression. It's evident from the physical standpoint. Here is something for your heart/brain if you feel you need it. I've read a lot of "self-help" books, but this is the only one that has actually "got into my heart."
