The myth that women want deep conversation

[Conagher]

im just curious... whats the downside to bangin the bitch? are you originally her friend or the dudes friend?

i would tell her that you met someone and hit it off like crazy and talk about this ficticious person every chance you get.

Friends with the guy.I have no problem with taking me and her`s relationship to the next level since my friend is the one who f***** up the relationship and she is very attractive physically and spiritually,I am just having a hard time reading what she wants out of me.My instinct tells me she is not into me that way.
I have actually met a girl who I am currently seeing casually,and have let the girl in question know that I am actively seeing and pursuing someone else.

 

[TheDarkHalf]

Friends with the guy.I have no problem with taking me and her`s relationship to the next level since my friend is the one who f***** up the relationship and she is very attractive physically and spiritually,I am just having a hard time reading what she wants out of me.My instinct tells me she is not into me that way.
I have actually met a girl who I am currently seeing casually,and have let the girl in question know that I am actively seeing and pursuing someone else.

Good move.

 

[HumpTheCook]

i think we all misread this bad. i think we were under the assumption she wanted you and you werent feelin it back.

if you are friends with the dude, you need to leave that chick alone my man. it doesnt matter that it was his fault, she was his chick to do what he wanted with. bro-code.

 

[Conagher]

there is no reason to talk about this girl sweetly though... look what she is putting this dude through? messing with him and the friend... thats no good, not a good person, therefore a bitch lol. blame jay-z, its not my fault haha

I agree.She is playing a lot of games right now,so no reason to pretend she is not the typical bitch.That is what has me worried about my job security.

 

[Conagher]

i think we all misread this bad. i think we were under the assumption she wanted you and you werent feelin it back.

if you are friends with the dude, you need to leave that chick alone my man. it doesnt matter that it was his fault, she was his chick to do what he wanted with. bro-code.

Also agree with this sentiment.Being the typical guy,I almost let my infatuation with her override my normally high sense of loyalty to my friend.The more that it plays out,the more I realize she is not the sweet girl I thought she was.Pretty much just a cold,calculating bitch who plays a lot of games.
Problem is,she has my friend kissing her ass now and he doesn`t want to listen when I try to warn him he needs to take a step back from the situation before he does something rash.He is about to buy her a ring.
I think he is headed for a lot of heartache with this girl.

 

[toughchick401]

Also agree with this sentiment.Being the typical guy,I almost let my infatuation with her override my normally high sense of loyalty to my friend.The more that it plays out,the more I realize she is not the sweet girl I thought she was.Pretty much just a cold,calculating bitch who plays a lot of games.
Problem is,she has my friend kissing her ass now and he doesn`t want to listen when I try to warn him he needs to take a step back from the situation before he does something rash.He is about to buy her a ring.
I think he is headed for a lot of heartache with this girl.

And sadly when your with someone you can't see them or the situation for what it is..your blinded. all you can do is be a good friend and help him when the crap hits the fan....

TC

 

[TheDarkHalf]

And sadly when your with someone you can't see them or the situation for what it is..your blinded. all you can do is be a good friend and help him when the crap hits the fan....

TC

You can see what the situation for what it is....love isn't blind it's retarded

 

[Nitrox]

blame jay-z, its not my fault haha

Word!

 

[Harry Manback]

I'm all for big breasted women too.

 

[Nitrox]

Also agree with this sentiment.Being the typical guy,I almost let my infatuation with her override my normally high sense of loyalty to my friend.The more that it plays out,the more I realize she is not the sweet girl I thought she was.Pretty much just a cold,calculating bitch who plays a lot of games.
Problem is,she has my friend kissing her ass now and he doesn`t want to listen when I try to warn him he needs to take a step back from the situation before he does something rash.He is about to buy her a ring.
I think he is headed for a lot of heartache with this girl.

Nothing really that you can do about the latter. Sounds like both are tilting emotionally. Since she is your boss it is probably best to stay on the sidelines and wait for the fireworks to end. Just keep your head down.
:AR15firing: :rocketwhore:

 

[Conagher]

Too late

Nothing really that you can do about the latter. Sounds like both are tilting emotionally. Since she is your boss it is probably best to stay on the sidelines and wait for the fireworks to end. Just keep your head down.
:AR15firing: :rocketwhore:

Probably will have to fight for my job now.We were discussing the situation today when she threw out the statement that if I let anything slip that would cause hard feelings between my friend and her family,I would have to answer to him for it.
That was the worst possible thing she could have said to me.I told her I loved him like a brother,but if she wanted to see himget his ass kicked so bad,we would call him right now and straighten it out.It only escalated from there.

 

[TheDarkHalf]

Probably will have to fight for my job now.We were discussing the situation today when she threw out the statement that if I let anything slip that would cause hard feelings between my friend and her family,I would have to answer to him for it.
That was the worst possible thing she could have said to me.I told her I loved him like a brother,but if she wanted to see himget his ass kicked so bad,we would call him right now and straighten it out.It only escalated from there.

Bummer man. Just save yourself the headache and quit and cut both of them out of your life completely. Change your phone number too.

It gets to a point where you have to realize you made a bad investment, and simply cut your losses

 

[Nitrox]

Probably will have to fight for my job now.We were discussing the situation today when she threw out the statement that if I let anything slip that would cause hard feelings between my friend and her family,I would have to answer to him for it.

Is this a family run business that you are working for?

 

[Conagher]

Is this a family run business that you are working for?

Corporate.We sat down this morning and had a talk.She would like to get rid of me but knows I could cause her a lot of trouble.For one,she hired me under false pretenses.She told me to not use her boyfriend(my friend) as a reference or ever mention that I know him when the regional manager is around.Secondly,she has had me clock in her several times when she is running late so that it appears she is punctual.Thirdly,she takes off constantly for personal business and asks me to cover for her.
She is an apartment manager and I am her superintendent if that helps clarify our working relationship.

 

[Conagher]

Bummer man. Just save yourself the headache and quit and cut both of them out of your life completely. Change your phone number too.

It gets to a point where you have to realize you made a bad investment, and simply cut your losses

My friend is still being cool.He did not even realize there was a problem until I texted him last night and told him his girl needs to calm down.
His girlfriend does not want him to know that she confided in me and made some advances towards me(I assume to spite him) during their breakup period.
As far as I know,he is in the dark about what has transpired.We both work long hours so we have not had a chance to sit down and talk.

 

[Nitrox]

Corporate.We sat down this morning and had a talk.She would like to get rid of me but knows I could cause her a lot of trouble.For one,she hired me under false pretenses.She told me to not use her boyfriend(my friend) as a reference or ever mention that I know him when the regional manager is around.Secondly,she has had me clock in her several times when she is running late so that it appears she is punctual.Thirdly,she takes off constantly for personal business and asks me to cover for her.
She is an apartment manager and I am her superintendent if that helps clarify our working relationship.

Sounds like you have some of your own ammunition then. Good stuff. As long as she is aware that you could probably cause as much grief then you are probably safe in the short term. Props for playing it cool and professional.

If it was a family business you probably would have been toast. Employees that are family members are often untouchable at the expense of everyone else.

 

[Conagher]

Sounds like you have some of your own ammunition then. Good stuff. As long as she is aware that you could probably cause as much grief then you are probably safe in the short term. Props for playing it cool and professional.

If it was a family business you probably would have been toast. Employees that are family members are often untouchable at the expense of everyone else.

Yep,I think I am good right now.The regional manager is coming up for a two day inspection and my buddy`s girl keeps emphasizing that I do not say anything about me and her boyfriend being friends.The regional manager does not hesitate to fire managers when they do not do the right thing.
Just getting tired of her bitch attitude,especially since I have covered for her ass so many times.

 

[TheDarkHalf]

Yep,I think I am good right now.The regional manager is coming up for a two day inspection and my buddy`s girl keeps emphasizing that I do not say anything about me and her boyfriend being friends.The regional manager does not hesitate to fire managers when they do not do the right thing.
Just getting tired of her bitch attitude,especially since I have covered for her ass so many times.

getting her canned would solve a major headache

 

[Dizmal]

Get her fired. I'm not sure why you'd hesitate? It's clear she won't... After this regional manager leaves or the next breakup happens you best believe you're on the chopping block again.

Fight fire with fire

 

[Conagher]

Get her fired. I'm not sure why you'd hesitate? It's clear she won't... After this regional manager leaves or the next breakup happens you best believe you're on the chopping block again.

Fight fire with fire

I agree.Had a real nice guy named Carlos helping when I first started.He is contract labor and has worked for the regional manager before.He wanted to call Brenda the first two or three weeks I was there because my friends bitch was putting to much of a workload on me.Out of respect for my friend,I would not let Carlos do it,but now I am wishing I had.
Tired of covering for her sorry ass.

 

[Conagher]

She is playing mind games with my friend which is pissing me off even more.The girl I am seeing wants to beat her ass.

 

[Conagher]

The bitch I am working for must have figured out that I was going to upper management.She sit me down today and claimed even if we were having an affair,the boss wouldn`t care.
Do you think she is really that tight with the regional manager or should I call her bluff.

 

[Nitrox]

The bitch I am working for must have figured out that I was going to upper management.She sit me down today and claimed even if we were having an affair,the boss wouldn`t care.
Do you think she is really that tight with the regional manager or should I call her bluff.

Really hard for someone on the outside to tell. Regardless, unless you have reason to assume otherwise, it is best to assume that the regional manager will, at best, treat your position with equal weight as your boss's. At worst he will support his immediate subordinate - your boss.

If it were me I would make sure that I had some hard evidence (can you wear a recording device?) before going higher up. That way you can support your position and if necessary, have some ammo to back up the threat of legal action (eg. harassment). Without it you could be out the door with little recourse.

 

[Conagher]

Really hard for someone on the outside to tell. Regardless, unless you have reason to assume otherwise, it is best to assume that the regional manager will, at best, treat your position with equal weight as your boss's. At worst he will support his immediate subordinate - your boss.

If it were me I would make sure that I had some hard evidence (can you wear a recording device?) before going higher up. That way you can support your position and if necessary, have some ammo to back up the threat of legal action (eg. harassment). Without it you could be out the door with little recourse.

Yeah,this is what I am afraid of.Her our regional manager is also a woman and I know they have a tight bond.Looks like I am on the losing end of the deal.Even my friend has his head so far up her ass he is supporting her position now.

 

[Conagher]

Really hard for someone on the outside to tell. Regardless, unless you have reason to assume otherwise, it is best to assume that the regional manager will, at best, treat your position with equal weight as your boss's. At worst he will support his immediate subordinate - your boss.

If it were me I would make sure that I had some hard evidence (can you wear a recording device?) before going higher up. That way you can support your position and if necessary, have some ammo to back up the threat of legal action (eg. harassment). Without it you could be out the door with little recourse.

Wished I would have saved the texts she sent me asking for me to clock her in when she was running late.Of course,that would have gotten us both in trouble.
The regional manager came on property today.Will be here for another day.My bitch boss was on pins and needles.I don`t think she pulls nearly as much weight as she claims.

 

[bomb402]

99% of women are really too dumb to want deep conversation - they want the baybiez - I am not saying women are incapable of being smart, but most women in the younger generation have not experienced the fun in intellectual endeavors

 

[TheDarkHalf]

99% of women are really too dumb to want deep conversation - they want the baybiez - I am not saying women are incapable of being smart, but most women in the younger generation have not experienced the fun in intellectual endeavors

No $hit. I was dating a girl that was 22 and i almost think that was too young for me. I'm mature and wise for my age....and she just wasn't cutting it for me intellectually. I need a girl that is at least my own age....if not older.

 

[Conagher]

No $hit. I was dating a girl that was 22 and i almost think that was too young for me. I'm mature and wise for my age....and she just wasn't cutting it for me intellectually. I need a girl that is at least my own age....if not older.

It amazes me how immature women are these days.It is as if they stop growing intellectually and emotionally at 13,no matter what their age.
Fortunately for me,the regional manager and myself really hit it off well when we met Thursday and Friday,so I think my job is safe.

 

[ABNRanger]

Friend and his girlfriend made up,but now that she knows that she has the upperhand in the relationship,she is playing mind games with him.She told me yesterday she was going to dye her hair blonde for the first time because I am partial to blondes and in her words,"it will make him flip out".
She called me late last night while she was on her way to spend the wekend with my friend.She created a work situation and wants me to go in today to fix it.She told me to call her when I had it resolved.We had a previous agreement that I do not call her on the weekends,especially when she is spending the weekend with my friend.
She also told me that wherever she goes jobwise,she is taking me with her.
I am in a really bad spot here and am either going to lose my friend or my job or both.Not really sure how to handle this situation.

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Sometimes in life we have to learn when to fight, and when to cut our losses and run. You need to take a moment to really evaluate the situation and your options. If you are very good at what you do, and have good references (other than her), as well as experience, then look for another job. But from this point on, make hard documentation about everything for when the walls of Jericho come tumbling down. Your friend, be a friend to him, cause we have all been there, (blinded by love or lust), cause he will need you when things go bad. I have a policy not to tell anyone anything, cause I don't want it to be my fault they broke up. When it is over, I then say, I knew. some might get mad at me for not telling, but hey, if I did, they would have acted in denial because they were so in love. Listen to Percy Sledge's when a man loves a woman "turn his back on his best friend if he puts her down" Sorry for the ranting, but I really feel bad for you. Hope it all works out for the best, for all of you.

 

[Conagher]

All good points Ranger

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Sometimes in life we have to learn when to fight, and when to cut our losses and run. You need to take a moment to really evaluate the situation and your options. If you are very good at what you do, and have good references (other than her), as well as experience, then look for another job. But from this point on, make hard documentation about everything for when the walls of Jericho come tumbling down. Your friend, be a friend to him, cause we have all been there, (blinded by love or lust), cause he will need you when things go bad. I have a policy not to tell anyone anything, cause I don't want it to be my fault they broke up. When it is over, I then say, I knew. some might get mad at me for not telling, but hey, if I did, they would have acted in denial because they were so in love. Listen to Percy Sledge's when a man loves a woman "turn his back on his best friend if he puts her down" Sorry for the ranting, but I really feel bad for you. Hope it all works out for the best, for all of you.

At this point,I really do not know what to do.This situation gets more insane every day.Have not talked to my friend in a couple of weeks but one of the tenants told me the other night that him and my boss broke up again.
Was also told that she has been coming back to the complex and using my hottub when she knows I am going to be off property for the evening.(Made the mistake of giving her a key to my apartment when we were still on good terms).
I would leave the whole deal in a second if I could line something else up.The job market is pretty bad around here right now,though.

 

[WILL DA BEAST]

damn man. just read through the whole thread and this definitely one cluster**** of a situation. i'd say do what you can that you're certain will end best for you.

i work for an apt complex as well...can't you talk to the regional managers or corporate about getting another job at another location? i know the company I work for is always moving people around because of requests or needs...

good luck

 

[Conagher]

damn man. just read through the whole thread and this definitely one cluster**** of a situation. i'd say do what you can that you're certain will end best for you.

i work for an apt complex as well...can't you talk to the regional managers or corporate about getting another job at another location? i know the company I work for is always moving people around because of requests or needs...

good luck

Going to get out of the deal.Told my friends girl yesterday.I thought she would be relieved,but it almost seemed like she was pissed,probably because she knows she will have a hard time finding someone else who will work as hard.I would talk to the regional manager about shifting to a different location,but they own Section 8 properties and honestly,dealing with these type of people is really wearing on me more than my boss.
I am going to look for a job that does not involve Section 8`s.These people are the biggest bunch of non working trash you will ever meet.

 

[mytime09]

If you want deep conversation you need to be able to connect with the girl and have the same interests as her/something that she would be interested in for her to want to have a deep convo. That or she wants to get to know who you really are but you gotta have some A game for that and be interesting. Most guys cant get that far and if they do try to soon they look like a b*tch. There is a fiiiine line with women lol and when i say fine i mean FINE. you gotta have the swag and the brains my friend.

 

[Conagher]

If you want deep conversation you need to be able to connect with the girl and have the same interests as her/something that she would be interested in for her to want to have a deep convo. That or she wants to get to know who you really are but you gotta have some A game for that and be interesting. Most guys cant get that far and if they do try to soon they look like a b*tch. There is a fiiiine line with women lol and when i say fine i mean FINE. you gotta have the swag and the brains my friend.

She basically wanted me to say I love her.Would not do it because she is my best friends girl.Does not matter,I only have a couple weeks left and will never have to see her again.