I think everyone will describe the party depending on how it went for them. In my case I'm the only female and I have three more brothers. Never in my life me or my brothers were spanked nor yelled at. My mom is a psychologist and my dad is an agronomy engineer. I was taught from very little that there's consequences for everything I did and do. If I made bad choices consequences were going to be disastrous. My mom's speech was something I didn't want to hear, she knew how to made us all feel extremely guilty and she helped us realized what we did was just not right and that she didn't raise us to do any kind of craziness. Neither my parents were verbal or physical violent parents, they would always talk to us. We did get grounded several times. But as I grew and went to medical school at age 17 I 100% knew making idiotic choices meant bad bad consequences. I don't know but I do believe children now a days have no idea about consequences. They do things however whenever they want and have no idea about consequences. They always get away with whatever they do. I think talking to kids and letting them know their actions will have either positive or negative consequences is a must. Just my humble opinion. Btw me an my 3 brothers were all raise the same exact way, no one became a social parasite, we all went to college. One works for FOX channel as an electronic engineer, the other is a psychologist and the other one is a lawyer. This is just how it worked for us. Talking always worked.