Wife gained weight

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CorpKiller

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Do any of you guys healthcare have wives that have gained weight? I don’t know what to do. She’s probably way more than me. I’m about 180, anyway she’s a busy teacher and I think she just stress eats right now. She’s never been this way until about two years ago, when she broke her foot. Then she just quit doing anything active altogether. I tried to encourage her because I love her, and I’ll keep doing that, but I wonder if you guys have any advice on how to deal with this. I don’t tell her tell her or she because she’s intelligent woman and I know she knows already.
 
My ex and I both put on weight like 20+ years ago and she did all these bootcamp classes with friends to shave a few lbs here and there. by the time I was 20 I was back into my high school wrestling routines so I did it the old school way, but she pressured me into trying this new crossfit box in town for fun (what the hell is Crossfit I wondered, seemed lame to me!). I think she just wanted me to try it so she could.

Next thing I knew she was doing it, joining their challenges, we were cooking paleo together, etc and she lost so much weight she became very proud of her before and afters. Started competing etc.

Now... my wife complained for a few years to me more recently about the same thing (maybe it's me??) and she was premenopausal so we looked at everything from blood work on to semaglutide etc trying to find her a solution. Getting her off birthcontrol post cancer and then with a coach that had a strict nutritional approach has yielded amazing results for her this summer.


But it sounds to me like you're trying to make your wife skinny more than she is. (no disrespect). in that case all I can think of is finding active hobbies for the two of you tbh.
 
Same situation brother, wife is a teacher as well and gained a ton of weight since “the pandemic”…..basically learning from others that that is an excuse. I am 170 and she weighs way more than me like your situation. She tries ozempic and wegovy etc but to no avail….We have to be honest with ourselves and at this point she is going to be 47 and the odds of her going back to her old weight are slim to none, but I love her and made peace with it
 
Thanks for the input.
Dustin07 said:
My ex and I both put on weight like 20+ years ago and she did all these bootcamp classes with friends to shave a few lbs here and there. by the time I was 20 I was back into my high school wrestling routines so I did it the old school way, but she pressured me into trying this new crossfit box in town for fun (what the hell is Crossfit I wondered, seemed lame to me!). I think she just wanted me to try it so she could.

Next thing I knew she was doing it, joining their challenges, we were cooking paleo together, etc and she lost so much weight she became very proud of her before and afters. Started competing etc.

Now... my wife complained for a few years to me more recently about the same thing (maybe it's me??) and she was premenopausal so we looked at everything from blood work on to semaglutide etc trying to find her a solution. Getting her off birthcontrol post cancer and then with a coach that had a strict nutritional approach has yielded amazing results for her this summer.


But it sounds to me like you're trying to make your wife skinny more than she is. (no disrespect). in that case all I can think of is finding active hobbies for the two of you tbh.
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Thanks. Yeah, it’s difficult to watch. I’ll keep asking her to workout and walk etc
Dblock said:
Same situation brother, wife is a teacher as well and gained a ton of weight since “the pandemic”…..basically learning from others that that is an excuse. I am 170 and she weighs way more than me like your situation. She tries ozempic and wegovy etc but to no avail….We have to be honest with ourselves and at this point she is going to be 47 and the odds of her going back to her old weight are slim to none, but I love her and made peace with it
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I just told my wife if she dosen't get her fat ass on the treadmill I'm gonna trade her in for a younger model.

Joking, I do not suggest that!

My girl is a good 25lbs overweight. If she asks for help i offer and if she dosen't i keep my mouth closed unless i see a really bad problem on the rise.

Its tough to tell someone you love, especially a female about there weight. I try to keep my girl a little in check for her own good cus it definitely makes her insecure and those insecurities put a strain on our relationship.

Something I do is pretend I wanna start a diet but I dont wanna do it alone
 
To be fair, when a woman holds a few extra pounds that weight often goes to some pretty great places, IMO. I'm all about the spinner that my wife is, but thick thighs save lives.

Smont said:
Something I do is pretend I wanna start a diet but I dont wanna do it alone
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There's a lot of truth to that though from both sides. It worked well for my ex and I, but like right now a huge part of why my cut is going so well is because my wife is also on one. It's a hell of a lot easier when you're both on the same page....
 
Might have to evaluate what's going on in your lives beyond the diet. Your wife used to be active but has lost interest after breaking her foot. Maybe she sees exercise as a chore or something scary; maybe she fears she will get hurt again. Maybe she has a lot of things on her mind (.i.e. finances, job, family, children etc.) and she doesn't have the mindset or energy to engage in physical activities and food is source of comfort. I guess you'll have to do some heart to heart talking with her and find out what's on her mind.
 
Smont said:
I just told my wife if she dosen't get her fat ass on the treadmill I'm gonna trade her in for a younger model.

Joking, I do not suggest that!

My girl is a good 25lbs overweight. If she asks for help i offer and if she dosen't i keep my mouth closed unless i see a really bad problem on the rise.

Its tough to tell someone you love, especially a female about there weight. I try to keep my girl a little in check for her own good cus it definitely makes her insecure and those insecurities put a strain on our relationship.

Something I do is pretend I wanna start a diet but I dont wanna do it alone
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That’s how I’ve been handling it too.
 
Cheeky Monkey said:
Might have to evaluate what's going on in your lives beyond the diet. Your wife used to be active but has lost interest after breaking her foot. Maybe she sees exercise as a chore or something scary; maybe she fears she will get hurt again. Maybe she has a lot of things on her mind (.i.e. finances, job, family, children etc.) and she doesn't have the mindset or energy to engage in physical activities and food is source of comfort. I guess you'll have to do some heart to heart talking with her and find out what's on her mind.
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Thanks. I imagine it’s probably a little bit of each of the items you mentioned.
 
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