I'll tell you why it bothers me to an extent.
Because I hear these people whine and bitch about this and that, but then when you try to lend your advice to them they laugh at it and say "Yeah ok."
Don't insult my intelligence by saying you are going to do something and not follow through. Its pisses me off.
When a person says "How can I lose weight, I like the results you got." I tell them what needs to be done then when they go to the store they stock up on junk food and then actually act confused as to why they are 2 pounds heavier than they were before. Then on top of it, they get a gym membership and never use it. Then on top of that, they say the reason why is that no one will go with them, have no support group. Then you take the time and put in the effort to show that you care, and want to be their support group, and then they come up with an excuse to avoid going to the gym.
I am proud to say I never once needed a support group, nor did I need anyones help in joining a gym. I went because I wanted it. I continue to go cause I WANT IT. Tonight when everyone is out getting drunk watching the MLB Playoffs, I'll be at the gym till 1 am in the morning busting my ass enjoying every minute of it. Then tomorrow I'll be up at the gym again for a few hours while people are nursing their hangovers because I am DEDICATED.
I am a LEADER in every sense of the word. I set examples for others to follow, and many see the results I have made but do not follow my LEAD. That's their problem and its a big one if they ever expect to get the results they want. I know what it takes. I have the answers and I am willing to help them. It does frustrate me when I take the time to do that and they don't appreciate what I am telling them. If they did they would atleast do their best and not quit.
Have a good day everyone.
I kind of get where you are coming from with this last statement - and I think you are basically saying you want to help others and you want to see them succeed like you do, but are frustrated when they ask your advice and don't take it. But I also think you're good intentions are taking a negative twist without you realizing it - negative for you AND the people you are trying to help.
There is a reason they ask you for advice and don't take it. You have no leverage with them. That's it. People don't change unless there is some leverage that forces them to change. It's easy to ask for advice, hard to follow through, and even harder to change.
To be honest, your advice to them isn't all that important. Whether they know what they are doing or not will have a small impact on their results. Them deciding to do it, and having a strong reason WHY they need to do it will be much more of a determining factor. I have seen people lose over 100 pounds on what they thought was a low carb diet, where they were stuffing their face full of bread and carbs. They didn't have a clue what a carb was and they knew nothing about dieting, but the stopped eating enough to lose 100 pounds anyway. Why? Because they decided THEY wanted to do it.
So the next time someone says, "You've done a great job, how did you do it?" Just say, "It was easy." And they will say, "Really? What did you do?" You say, "I worked very hard and I was disciplined, but it was easy." I bet the conversation ends there. But if they seem to want more, you can ask them why they want to know?
They really just want you to say, "I cut out carbs" or "I started walking" - they want to see that it was something simple that you did so that they can do something that requires no effort and do it too. If they want to know how it can be easy for them - ask them "Why do you want to lose weight?" Dig into what THEY want. Because if you get them to sell you on the idea that they need to lose the weight, the advice you give them won't matter....you have made them change. It was hard work, but it was easy for you because YOU WANTED IT.
So don't give them technical answers. Help them find what makes THEM want it. Otherwise, you are wasting your time with technical answers they don't really care about yet. And if they don't really want it, accept that and let them do what makes them happy.
