AllTheGainz
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I've never been one with the ladies, I'm average on my best days and I'm pretty damn shy. If I happen to catch a glance from a girl I never know what to say to start the conversation, and holding one is a whole new battle. If I some how have the balls to go up and ask how she's doing we will talk for a bit and then there's a lull in the conversation, where it naturally dies off. I call it the moment of truth. Typically I'd wait for her to fill it in, sometimes give her a look that reads "well what are you going to say" without actually saying anything.
Sometimes it works but most of the time it doesn't, the conversation ends up dying right then and there and I finish it off with some bull **** goodbye like "It was nice talking to you but I have to get back to my friends" or something along those lines. If it happens to work there's almost always another moment of truth. The conversation will die off again at some point and at this point I make it blatantly obvious that I'm expecting her to fill in the awkward silence that has befallen the conversation. I mean it is her job after all right? I kicked the ball into her court by making the first move and talking to her, so shouldn't she be doing most of the talking? I always hear women I'm friends with say the same things after they go on failed dates. It goes something like this, "I just felt like I never had the room to talk" or "he never let me get my point out" or even simply "he just wouldn't shut up".
So if I give them room to talk then why does the conversation die? I follow the breadcrumbs they lay out, if they tell me about a place they used to go to I'll ask what it was like and so on.
Am I missing something here? It doesn't seem like rocket science but it damn sure feels like it.
Sometimes it works but most of the time it doesn't, the conversation ends up dying right then and there and I finish it off with some bull **** goodbye like "It was nice talking to you but I have to get back to my friends" or something along those lines. If it happens to work there's almost always another moment of truth. The conversation will die off again at some point and at this point I make it blatantly obvious that I'm expecting her to fill in the awkward silence that has befallen the conversation. I mean it is her job after all right? I kicked the ball into her court by making the first move and talking to her, so shouldn't she be doing most of the talking? I always hear women I'm friends with say the same things after they go on failed dates. It goes something like this, "I just felt like I never had the room to talk" or "he never let me get my point out" or even simply "he just wouldn't shut up".
So if I give them room to talk then why does the conversation die? I follow the breadcrumbs they lay out, if they tell me about a place they used to go to I'll ask what it was like and so on.
Am I missing something here? It doesn't seem like rocket science but it damn sure feels like it.