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swimfan65

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Since ive gotten pretty close to some guts on here and have listened and offered mt own support...heres the deal. 5 years ago i was head principal at a school of kids with special needs. I was also married at the time with 4 kids. They are 18, 13, 7, and 5. At work, my BP spiked...was running test deca,called my Doc he says come in after work. I do. He puts me on a beta blocker...something i have never taken. I take one in his office get the script and head home. I live an hour away. During the ride, the beta blocker bottoms me out...i cant even keep my eyes open. I pull over on the side of the freeway. Cops come. I explain whats up. They arrest me for ovi. They also breath and drug test me at the station...i dont do drugs and rarely drink. I get a court date. Wife is understanding. We love each other, we will make it through this, etc etc. I dont get a lawyer. Figure i just need to explain this to the judge. Judge asked me if i could read...i said yes...he said this bottle says that this medication may impaire you ability to operate a motor vechical...and he was being a jerk about it. I said are you kidding me? He said you should have thought about that first. I said...this is going to ruin me. He laughed. I said this is a joke...that pissed him off. You calling my court room a joke? Heres your punchline funny man...90 days in jail. So i went to jail and lost my job. Turns out my wife was also having an affair. The day i went ito jail she moved her boyfriend into my house, filed a restraining order against me so i couldnt come home, and filed for divorce. Then she threw everything...i mean everything i had ever owned away. The restraining order and divorce were finalized while i was in jail. I walked out of jail in the winter with sandels, a tshirt and shorts. I had no phone, no money, no family...nothing. I was homeless. I went to the nearest hospital so i wouldnt freeze. I case manager got me into a homeless shelter...were i stayed for more than a year. I walked 2 miles one way to the gym everyday. Finally i rented a room in a crack house...and kept walking 2 miles to the gym. For the last year i have been living with my GF...now a take the bus 30 mins to the gym. I still havent been allowed to see my kids...i cant afford an attorney. I still can drive...but im not sleeping outside any more. Everyday is an epic struggle to maintain my sanity. I have lost an entire life...i just keep plugging away and keep training...sometimes that is all you can do.
 
Bro that’s super deep. I don’t even know where to start. Don’t take this the wrong way, but you have given me support. I mean look at what you been through; and what you are going through. You have the strength to keep persevering. It’s amazing what the human spirit can provide with such strength. Yes you left heavy but your spiritual strength is stronger than your physical being will ever be. By what you have posted I literally have no excuse. Keep pushing. Push yourself until you can physically match your spirit. I prayed for you swim and I know You will come out of this stronger than you ever imagined
 
Life can be rough if you let it. It's up to us to create our own happiness. If it helps my older brother is a crack addict, stole my identity, racked up a number of items on my credit and sent them to collections, which in turn is stopping me from getting a house so now I'm back to living with my parents at the great age of 35, oh and then came very close to framing me for crimes that he committed that had federal charges... I just make the best of it, fix my credit, and grind away at life because that's all I can really do.
 
swimfan65 said:
Since ive gotten pretty close to some guts on here and have listened and offered mt own support...heres the deal. 5 years ago i was head principal at a school of kids with special needs. I was also married at the time with 4 kids. They are 18, 13, 7, and 5. At work, my BP spiked...was running test deca,called my Doc he says come in after work. I do. He puts me on a beta blocker...something i have never taken. I take one in his office get the script and head home. I live an hour away. During the ride, the beta blocker bottoms me out...i cant even keep my eyes open. I pull over on the side of the freeway. Cops come. I explain whats up. They arrest me for ovi. They also breath and drug test me at the station...i dont do drugs and rarely drink. I get a court date. Wife is understanding. We love each other, we will make it through this, etc etc. I dont get a lawyer. Figure i just need to explain this to the judge. Judge asked me if i could read...i said yes...he said this bottle says that this medication may impaire you ability to operate a motor vechical...and he was being a jerk about it. I said are you kidding me? He said you should have thought about that first. I said...this is going to ruin me. He laughed. I said this is a joke...that pissed him off. You calling my court room a joke? Heres your punchline funny man...90 days in jail. So i went to jail and lost my job. Turns out my wife was also having an affair. The day i went ito jail she moved her boyfriend into my house, filed a restraining order against me so i couldnt come home, and filed for divorce. Then she threw everything...i mean everything i had ever owned away. The restraining order and divorce were finalized while i was in jail. I walked out of jail in the winter with sandels, a tshirt and shorts. I had no phone, no money, no family...nothing. I was homeless. I went to the nearest hospital so i wouldnt freeze. I case manager got me into a homeless shelter...were i stayed for more than a year. I walked 2 miles one way to the gym everyday. Finally i rented a room in a crack house...and kept walking 2 miles to the gym. For the last year i have been living with my GF...now a take the bus 30 mins to the gym. I still havent been allowed to see my kids...i cant afford an attorney. I still can drive...but im not sleeping outside any more. Everyday is an epic struggle to maintain my sanity. I have lost an entire life...i just keep plugging away and keep training...sometimes that is all you can do.
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I'm sorry that happened to you brother.
 
swimfan65 said:
Since ive gotten pretty close to some guts on here and have listened and offered mt own support...heres the deal. 5 years ago i was head principal at a school of kids with special needs. I was also married at the time with 4 kids. They are 18, 13, 7, and 5. At work, my BP spiked...was running test deca,called my Doc he says come in after work. I do. He puts me on a beta blocker...something i have never taken. I take one in his office get the script and head home. I live an hour away. During the ride, the beta blocker bottoms me out...i cant even keep my eyes open. I pull over on the side of the freeway. Cops come. I explain whats up. They arrest me for ovi. They also breath and drug test me at the station...i dont do drugs and rarely drink. I get a court date. Wife is understanding. We love each other, we will make it through this, etc etc. I dont get a lawyer. Figure i just need to explain this to the judge. Judge asked me if i could read...i said yes...he said this bottle says that this medication may impaire you ability to operate a motor vechical...and he was being a jerk about it. I said are you kidding me? He said you should have thought about that first. I said...this is going to ruin me. He laughed. I said this is a joke...that pissed him off. You calling my court room a joke? Heres your punchline funny man...90 days in jail. So i went to jail and lost my job. Turns out my wife was also having an affair. The day i went ito jail she moved her boyfriend into my house, filed a restraining order against me so i couldnt come home, and filed for divorce. Then she threw everything...i mean everything i had ever owned away. The restraining order and divorce were finalized while i was in jail. I walked out of jail in the winter with sandels, a tshirt and shorts. I had no phone, no money, no family...nothing. I was homeless. I went to the nearest hospital so i wouldnt freeze. I case manager got me into a homeless shelter...were i stayed for more than a year. I walked 2 miles one way to the gym everyday. Finally i rented a room in a crack house...and kept walking 2 miles to the gym. For the last year i have been living with my GF...now a take the bus 30 mins to the gym. I still havent been allowed to see my kids...i cant afford an attorney. I still can drive...but im not sleeping outside any more. Everyday is an epic struggle to maintain my sanity. I have lost an entire life...i just keep plugging away and keep training...sometimes that is all you can do.
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Crazy swim but we are all here for one another. If you ever need me you know where to find me
 
Sorry you went through such a horrible injustice brother. It’s obvious by your career choice that you care about children and people, and have given good advice on this forum. I will keep you in my prayers brother.
When you share such a tough experience, it helps many of us appreciate our lives.
Thanks for sharing.
 
I swear...if i couldnt train...id probably take a header off a bridge. The gym is the only place where there is some consistency and peace of mind. I will be able to drive next year...so hopefully i will be able to find a job in my field, buy a car, and hire a lawyer to fight the ex in court. All i want to do see my kids. I couldnt see them when i was homeless. I got supervised visits two years ago...but i was homeless and the visitation center was two hours away. I had no car and no money...and no way to get there. So...i lost my supervised visits. I tried to get them again recently...my ex tied it up in court with legal BS until i ran out of money. Sometimes guys its more effort than i have to put my feet on the floor in the morning. 5 years of utter hell. I cant call, write, or have any contact with my kids. Having a vagina in domestic court allows you to do and say whatever you want. Im just an honest guy that wants to see his kids.
 
swimfan65 said:
I swear...if i couldnt train...id probably take a header off a bridge. The gym is the only place where there is some consistency and peace of mind. I will be able to drive next year...so hopefully i will be able to find a job in my field, buy a car, and hire a lawyer to fight the ex in court. All i want to do see my kids. I couldnt see them when i was homeless. I got supervised visits two years ago...but i was homeless and the visitation center was two hours away. I had no car and no money...and no way to get there. So...i lost my supervised visits. I tried to get them again recently...my ex tied it up in court with legal BS until i ran out of money. Sometimes guys its more effort than i have to put my feet on the floor in the morning. 5 years of utter hell. I cant call, write, or have any contact with my kids. Having a vagina in domestic court allows you to do and say whatever you want. Im just an honest guy that wants to see his kids.
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Well if you ever headed off a bridge I feel sorry for the car below. I know how hard it is without a car DWI in 1999 with a BAC of .411. Cop said "Your Legally Dead", I said " I can't be I was driv....". All Ex's are b!tches trust me I got 2 of them. And hopefully you can get to see your kids soon. I know how hard that must be. And honestly. If I was you when you got the money. I'd sue that doctor, he gave you a pill knowing you had to drive home.
 
I’m soo sorry to hear this Swimfan65, You’re a Strong Individual and keep fighting Brother! Because it’s Light and Happiness at the end of this tunnel.
 
swimfan65 , buddy, just stay strong. Follow your plan step by step. Once you're on your feet, you will see your kids again, that I'm sure. Use the "time out" to get into your best shape EVER. The day your ex wife sees you, she will be sorry she had dumped you.
 
Thank guys...just really got the blues today. Went to the gym and went through the motions. Eerybody there was like...what the hell is wrong with you. Every once in a while...i get just stuck on it. Training has been the only thing ive been able to fall back on. 45 pound plate was 45lbs today and it will be 45lbs tomorrow....sometimes thats all you know for sure. I appreciate the support. Some of us on here have fromed a pretty tight bond. Whats funny...is at the homeless shelter...that sucked...inner city hell hole of drunks and addicts. I volunteered in the kitchen so i could get my calories in to train. Id fill my pockets with cooked chicken and eat it during my 4 miles of walking to and from the gym. I also use to sweep parking lots, and clean windows, whatever...to scrounge up money for gear. I use to have to wash my gym clothes in the sink at speedway and dry them on the park benches in the evening. I mop the toliets and scrub the floors at my gym for a free membership. My toes hang out of my gym shoes. But honestly, id give anyone that was a dope a fiend the shirt of my back if he needed it. Currently, i take the bus to 3 diffetent soup kitchens a week to help brothers out...just talk to them and let them know that are not alone. I cant got a pot to piss in...but if i can make one dude, a woman with kids...somebody just lost...i know im doing the right thing. I stopped livin for me some time ago...my ststisfication comes come from evelevating someone other lost individuals
...not to some salvation...but bette i was. Not Many successes...a lot a failures. But if peole quit on me...id me dead. What imsaynig my friend...go the whole Exeter mile...if you a dicik....think yous like you could say. What im saying is check you. Do so worth some withou well. You are not my important. If you if you can make some who you small like acts of decides to some who you needs it..i can save femaloves..save lifes. This world is bigger than...you ander your famiy. Stop with hate...are its not bother or sister. Togethet we can raise eah other up...and care for one another...and be proud...love you all

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Brother it’s obvious you’ve done a lot of good in your life. Keep at it and working out hard and good seeds will come back to you in blessings. We may not know you personally, but you are definitely a good dude. Thanks for your contribution on here brother. We may have different paths and trials, but everyone sticking together helps.
Just keep at it brother.
 
It really is ****ty. I’ve been in a situation where I went to court once without a lawyer and almost paid the price. I’ve learned no matter how small the charge is get a lawyer. Lawyers know all of the loop holes and judges respond better to them than someone representing themselves. Wish someone would have given you this advice before hand. Still can’t believe they were that harsh over some BP medication. Absolutely harsh and absurd.
 
Sh1t bro, that’s some horrible stuff to go through. Keep fighting the good fight, light eventually comes in even the darkest situations.
 
Not gonna go in to my personal life but I had 3 years of hell that just wouldn't go away. Even if it's a cliche I can tell you that if you truly believe you're in the right or if you're in the wrong and can man up and take responsibility things will work out for you. The key is to move on from the past and look forward. Sometimes moving forward can be better than what you once had even if it looks completely dark.

I strongly believe that you have to take what you want in life no matter what other people think of you. Take a second and think what you want and need to fulfill yourself and get it.
 
Dang Swim - from what you have told us about yourself...prior work history, education, lifting achievements, etc.....I thought you were a man on top of the world. I don't know how you caught a deal with policemen that wouldn't help you out AND a judge that wouldn't see things with a pinch of common sense. You've already fought an amazing battle and it is going to be great to see you finish it off. You clearly seem to have the moral high ground here - I have no doubt you WILL come out on top. Just wish it could be sooner rather than later for you brotha. You had a post a few days ago about a man's grit....you have loads of it.
 
Thanks guys. I just keep trying to do the next right thing. No gym today...just gonna chill and eat chicken and rice...and probably some icecream later. Try to crank up the intensity for tommorws session. I will not be broken. I like having the odds against me.
 
Just stay alive and healthy and time has its way of turning things upside down.Karma hasnt spoket yet my friend and when it does, make sure you are around to enjoy it.
 
Call me jaded... but this is a prime example of how evil women can ruin a life. Single or prenup is the way to go... let the hoes drool over your gains.

Hit me right in the feels... keep at it Swim.
 
Damn man, that's a pretty heavy hand to be dealt at once. I've been betrayed and seen all kinds of **** but, wow, man. That's a real kick in the nuts. You must truly have the heart of a warrior. I commend you for that.

No matter how grim the outlook may be at any point, keep that fire burning, hunger for the weights above all else. Might DOES make right! Never surrender.
 
Fawk sluts man. I feel for ya. Just do you and your kids and everything else is secondary.
 
So the doctor never told you how to use the beta blocker? I'm not sure what the legal rights here are.. Is it your own responsibility to read the package?

This will obviously be taken in consideration. Unfortunately the problem that will occur is that you took steroids which are illegal. Without taking sides and not because I don't feel bad for you but you do have some problems with the decisions you made to hold up I would assume.

I would also consider the wife an ******* regardless of who's in the right if she actually knew you took steroids and supported it. Unfortunately a courtroom doesn't go by sympathy.

Again if she knew everything, in my eyes she's just as involved.. If you were sneaking behind her back taking steroids and beta blockers it'll be hard to prove.

I do think if your story is honest and this is all it is she has no right to do what she did and I find it hard to believe you wouldn't be able to see your kids at some point.

Just be true to yourself and if you made a mistake or two you man up and take responsibility because that's the best way for you to show you're a changed person.. It doesn't matter if its unfair and she supported your whole steroid run, you were never violent to her etc.. Of course everyone will say yes it's hypocritical of her and its unfair but this is about the kids not her. Karma will get to her if you're in the right cause these kids will grow up knowing that a women took their dad away because of a prescribed medicin from a doctor.
 
Chados said:
So the doctor never told you how to use the beta blocker? I'm not sure what the legal rights here are.. Is it your own responsibility to read the package?

This will obviously be taken in consideration. Unfortunately the problem that will occur is that you took steroids which are illegal. Without taking sides and not because I don't feel bad for you but you do have some problems with the decisions you made to hold up I would assume.

I would also consider the wife an ******* regardless of who's in the right if she actually knew you took steroids and supported it. Unfortunately a courtroom doesn't go by sympathy.

Again if she knew everything, in my eyes she's just as involved.. If you were sneaking behind her back taking steroids and beta blockers it'll be hard to prove.

I do think if your story is honest and this is all it is she has no right to do what she did and I find it hard to believe you wouldn't be able to see your kids at some point.

Just be true to yourself and if you made a mistake or two you man up and take responsibility because that's the best way for you to show you're a changed person.. It doesn't matter if its unfair and she supported your whole steroid run, you were never violent to her etc.. Of course everyone will say yes it's hypocritical of her and its unfair but this is about the kids not her. Karma will get to her if you're in the right cause these kids will grow up knowing that a women took their dad away because of a prescribed medicin from a doctor.
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No one knew about the gear...wife..dr...friends...kids...police...lawyer...no one. I kept that hidin...never came up
 
Well, if the the doc let you dose or made you dose in his office knowing you were going to be driving and didn't warn you that's straight up negligence on his part. You should never have gone to jail based on that one fact alone. I'd make a huge stink. I don't know a lawyer but that's the avenue I would pursue.
 
swimfan65 said:
No one knew about the gear...wife..dr...friends...kids...police...lawyer...no one. I kept that hidin...never came up
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You're running in to the problem explaining why you got prescribed blockers. I don't know man it's almost like I feel that you have to explain the situation and be honest about it.. This isn't a reason for you to never see your kids.

Wether bringing up the steroids or not is important I don't know. Maybe just explaining the high blood pressure and see if it's the doctors obligation to explain how to take the blockers. It doesn't make any sense why they would take away your kids for taking blockers prescribed by a doctor.
 
Chados said:
You're running in to the problem explaining why you got prescribed blockers. I don't know man it's almost like I feel that you have to explain the situation and be honest about it.. This isn't a reason for you to never see your kids.

Wether bringing up the steroids or not is important I don't know. Maybe just explaining the high blood pressure and see if it's the doctors obligation to explain how to take the blockers. It doesn't make any sense why they would take away your kids for taking blockers prescribed by a doctor.
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Because i got an ovi and went to jail. No drugs no booze. While i was in jail the ex filed a restraining order against me and my kids. I was not there to defend myself...i was in jail. The ex painted me to be the biggest fire breathing wife, child, and drug and alcohol abuser that has every live. Of course i wasnt there...so it was true. Afyer court, she moved her new man into my house. Welcome to the legal system
 
Don't bring up the gear use to anyone. Itll only complicate the whole fuking situation. But on another note I would Google search lawyers in your area and explain your case to them and see where it goes. Talk to at least three and just pick there brains
 
High BP is common enough that it doesn't have to be pin pointed to the exact reason. Regardless of whether you know the origins of it others will just chalk it up to genetics and just leave it be at that.
 
Could have and should haves are a dime a dozen. Im an honset straight forward...completely non violent man...who got screwed by a court system that caters to women.i literally had my life ruined...from top to bottom.
 
swimfan65 said:
Since ive gotten pretty close to some guts on here and have listened and offered mt own support...heres the deal. 5 years ago i was head principal at a school of kids with special needs. I was also married at the time with 4 kids. They are 18, 13, 7, and 5. At work, my BP spiked...was running test deca,called my Doc he says come in after work. I do. He puts me on a beta blocker...something i have never taken. I take one in his office get the script and head home. I live an hour away. During the ride, the beta blocker bottoms me out...i cant even keep my eyes open. I pull over on the side of the freeway. Cops come. I explain whats up. They arrest me for ovi. They also breath and drug test me at the station...i dont do drugs and rarely drink. I get a court date. Wife is understanding. We love each other, we will make it through this, etc etc. I dont get a lawyer. Figure i just need to explain this to the judge. Judge asked me if i could read...i said yes...he said this bottle says that this medication may impaire you ability to operate a motor vechical...and he was being a jerk about it. I said are you kidding me? He said you should have thought about that first. I said...this is going to ruin me. He laughed. I said this is a joke...that pissed him off. You calling my court room a joke? Heres your punchline funny man...90 days in jail. So i went to jail and lost my job. Turns out my wife was also having an affair. The day i went ito jail she moved her boyfriend into my house, filed a restraining order against me so i couldnt come home, and filed for divorce. Then she threw everything...i mean everything i had ever owned away. The restraining order and divorce were finalized while i was in jail. I walked out of jail in the winter with sandels, a tshirt and shorts. I had no phone, no money, no family...nothing. I was homeless. I went to the nearest hospital so i wouldnt freeze. I case manager got me into a homeless shelter...were i stayed for more than a year. I walked 2 miles one way to the gym everyday. Finally i rented a room in a crack house...and kept walking 2 miles to the gym. For the last year i have been living with my GF...now a take the bus 30 mins to the gym. I still havent been allowed to see my kids...i cant afford an attorney. I still can drive...but im not sleeping outside any more. Everyday is an epic struggle to maintain my sanity. I have lost an entire life...i just keep plugging away and keep training...sometimes that is all you can do.
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Very sorry this happened to you. Different circumstances but I too have had to rise from the ashes, you are strong and I hope you get to see or call your kids soon.
 
swimfan65 said:
Because i got an ovi and went to jail. No drugs no booze. While i was in jail the ex filed a restraining order against me and my kids. I was not there to defend myself...i was in jail. The ex painted me to be the biggest fire breathing wife, child, and drug and alcohol abuser that has every live. Of course i wasnt there...so it was true. Afyer court, she moved her new man into my house. Welcome to the legal system
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Having lived in the US and been close to a cop that used to work for swat I know how corrupt the justice system is. He once helped his step daughter put of trouble for driving too fast due to his connections.. That's just one thing that I sort of had a hard time respecting. What about the people that dont have connections? Poor people?

I still can't understand how they take one person's words and just go by that

Justice system should be equal for anyone and its not your job to prove innocence.. It's their job to prove your guilt and according to you they haven't.
 
Dang swim, this was deep. I sincerely hope things get better for you, and always know you have anyone in this thread to reach out to if you ever need to vent or get anything off your chest.

My fiance and I keep getting a kick in the crotch on a daily/weekly/monthly basis by random things this whole year. This year we both honestly feel has been garbage for both of us in many ways - not relationship wise at all, just literally everything else. What happened to you blows my crappy year out of the water, so just know your story time reminded me to keep on keepin' on. I hope you do the same!
 
Thanks everyone. Taking today and tomorrow off. Hate to do it. But ive been going 3 hours a day 6 days a week...heavy. I know i need the rest. Let some of these little injuries heal up some. Put in my 3 hours yesterday...missed the bus..walked 2 miles home and then did 3 hours of yardwork. Got dehydrated and passed out. Been pushing water all day...stomach isnt ready for food yet.
 
I'm very sorry to hear, but this goes to show that you are an increasingly strong person, physically, mentally and emotionally. I shall keeo you in my prayers.
 
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I don't know anything about US law, so don't take my advice to heart, but here the reason as to why you needed beta blockers is irrelevant and inadmissible in a court of law. The only thing that you woukd have to prove is that a medical professional acted recklessly in his duties and that it directly resulted in the events that transpired.

The liability may be shifted to him and then you would have a further case of wrongful incarceration AND the loss of work, which would result in compensation from state, reinstatement etc.

Again, may not be at all relevant, see an attorney, they may also be obligated to perform 24 hours of pro bono work a year
 
PM me when you have time. I’ve been to family court 23 times. 7 in front of a judge. I know ways to get after your parenting time some haven’t dreamt up. And I have yet to spend more than $600 on an attorney. Family court judges don’t even like them.

You know, as the addict I am, I FCKING LIVE for a time to help a friend, not because it comes naturally for a selfish pos like me, but because it’s keeping me alive and out of my own selfish head.

And ya, ya, ya; we don’t know each other, but you’re my friend regardless. We were just talking in the other thread about how your time is coming to be happy and get on top of things again. This shyt is behind you and every day you’re getting closer to another victory, another success, another item checked off your list. My list of shyt is so long that I have a big day planner jus for my effed up life the last 4 years. This week is get on a payment plan and file back taxes before I end up in jail or garnished.
Last week was quash a warrant and get my drivers license reinstated. Next week is something else, and I have 12 months filled with shyt to do to get my life back on track.

PM me bro. I got all the time in the world if you need anything...
 
Matthersby said:
PM me when you have time. I’ve been to family court 23 times. 7 in front of a judge. I know ways to get after your parenting time some haven’t dreamt up. And I have yet to spend more than $600 on an attorney. Family court judges don’t even like them.

You know, as the addict I am, I FCKING LIVE for a time to help a friend, not because it comes naturally for a selfish pos like me, but because it’s keeping me alive and out of my own selfish head.

And ya, ya, ya; we don’t know each other, but you’re my friend regardless. We were just talking in the other thread about how your time is coming to be happy and get on top of things again. This shyt is behind you and every day you’re getting closer to another victory, another success, another item checked off your list. My list of shyt is so long that I have a big day planner jus for my effed up life the last 4 years. This week is get on a payment plan and file back taxes before I end up in jail or garnished.
Last week was quash a warrant and get my drivers license reinstated. Next week is something else, and I have 12 months filled with shyt to do to get my life back on track.

PM me bro. I got all the time in the world if you need anything...
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Matthersby said:
PM me when you have time. I’ve been to family court 23 times. 7 in front of a judge. I know ways to get after your parenting time some haven’t dreamt up. And I have yet to spend more than $600 on an attorney. Family court judges don’t even like them.

You know, as the addict I am, I FCKING LIVE for a time to help a friend, not because it comes naturally for a selfish pos like me, but because it’s keeping me alive and out of my own selfish head.

And ya, ya, ya; we don’t know each other, but you’re my friend regardless. We were just talking in the other thread about how your time is coming to be happy and get on top of things again. This shyt is behind you and every day you’re getting closer to another victory, another success, another item checked off your list. My list of shyt is so long that I have a big day planner jus for my effed up life the last 4 years. This week is get on a payment plan and file back taxes before I end up in jail or garnished.
Last week was quash a warrant and get my drivers license reinstated. Next week is something else, and I have 12 months filled with shyt to do to get my life back on track.

PM me bro. I got all the time in the world if you need anything...
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This is what it is all about.
 
I kept hoping you were going to break at some point and say the whole story was a joke, but I realize it’s not and I feel horrible for you and what you’ve been through. You sound like a really good guy and I am so sorry that you were treated like that. That in humane, and if you ever want to go visit an old friend (his honor) I am with you. I hate abuse of power like that. How you can even tell such a story is amazing. I don’t know how, and I know you have a lot of support, but if you ever need anything, anything, please don’t hesitate. Your story hits very close to home for me, so I felt compelled to reach out. You are doing amazingly well after all that, incredible story.
 
Evan Bageris said:
I kept hoping you were going to break at some point and say the whole story was a joke, but I realize it’s not and I feel horrible for you and what you’ve been through. You sound like a really good guy and I am so sorry that you were treated like that. That in humane, and if you ever want to go visit an old friend (his honor) I am with you. I hate abuse of power like that. How you can even tell such a story is amazing. I don’t know how, and I know you have a lot of support, but if you ever need anything, anything, please don’t hesitate. Your story hits very close to home for me, so I felt compelled to reach out. You are doing amazingly well after all that, incredible story.
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Thanks..i appreciate the support
 
swimfan65 said:
Since ive gotten pretty close to some guts on here and have listened and offered mt own support...heres the deal. 5 years ago i was head principal at a school of kids with special needs. I was also married at the time with 4 kids. They are 18, 13, 7, and 5. At work, my BP spiked...was running test deca,called my Doc he says come in after work. I do. He puts me on a beta blocker...something i have never taken. I take one in his office get the script and head home. I live an hour away. During the ride, the beta blocker bottoms me out...i cant even keep my eyes open. I pull over on the side of the freeway. Cops come. I explain whats up. They arrest me for ovi. They also breath and drug test me at the station...i dont do drugs and rarely drink. I get a court date. Wife is understanding. We love each other, we will make it through this, etc etc. I dont get a lawyer. Figure i just need to explain this to the judge. Judge asked me if i could read...i said yes...he said this bottle says that this medication may impaire you ability to operate a motor vechical...and he was being a jerk about it. I said are you kidding me? He said you should have thought about that first. I said...this is going to ruin me. He laughed. I said this is a joke...that pissed him off. You calling my court room a joke? Heres your punchline funny man...90 days in jail. So i went to jail and lost my job. Turns out my wife was also having an affair. The day i went ito jail she moved her boyfriend into my house, filed a restraining order against me so i couldnt come home, and filed for divorce. Then she threw everything...i mean everything i had ever owned away. The restraining order and divorce were finalized while i was in jail. I walked out of jail in the winter with sandels, a tshirt and shorts. I had no phone, no money, no family...nothing. I was homeless. I went to the nearest hospital so i wouldnt freeze. I case manager got me into a homeless shelter...were i stayed for more than a year. I walked 2 miles one way to the gym everyday. Finally i rented a room in a crack house...and kept walking 2 miles to the gym. For the last year i have been living with my GF...now a take the bus 30 mins to the gym. I still havent been allowed to see my kids...i cant afford an attorney. I still can drive...but im not sleeping outside any more. Everyday is an epic struggle to maintain my sanity. I have lost an entire life...i just keep plugging away and keep training...sometimes that is all you can do.
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Dang man thats rough. Beyond rough. I couldnt imagine going without my kids and my wife leaving for someone else. But all you can do is keep doing what you can to get through it. I come from being a hopeless drug addict and ruining my life over and over and starting over again and again so i know what its like to feel like theres no hope and to feel like things will never get better. But they do get better if you keep doing the right thing. Its not easy but its worth it. Keep on keeping on brother
 
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