My World Is Crashing Around Me

I just want to say this real quick. A lot of advice I am receiving is the same advice I would be giving out. However, when the shoe is on your foot, it mentally becomes a different ballgame, so to speak. I know what I need to do. I run the options through my head. I think what has really played with me is the fact she has not left...yet. I told her if she is staying out of guilt, then she needs to go. I have told her I want her to be happy, as well as myself. One of the last things she told me was if she leaves, she is not leaving me to begin a new life. She is leaving me so both of us can heal, and we can begin over. She also said she wants to be sure, because she doesn't want to go through this a year from now again. She said wants this to work out. I really think she has something mental going on that needs attention.
 
dang bro, i think your right on with the mental thing...the hard thing is, is dropping a hint to her to go see someone about it without blatently saying it....maybe between everyone on here there could be some ideas thrown out there..
 
tattoopierced1 said:
dang bro, i think your right on with the mental thing...the hard thing is, is dropping a hint to her to go see someone about it without blatently saying it....maybe between everyone on here there could be some ideas thrown out there..
Click to expand...
I've actually brought it to her attention and she has even agreed. She is just not wanting to see anyone about it. I think it's more along the lines of a female hormonal deal. I've been told some go through a sort of change at 28-32 years. Kind of like an early mid-life crisis. Some handle it fine, while others go off the deep end, so to speak.
 
Cuffs said:
I've actually brought it to her attention and she has even agreed. She is just not wanting to see anyone about it. I think it's more along the lines of a female hormonal deal. I've been told some go through a sort of change at 28-32 years. Kind of like an early mid-life crisis. Some handle it fine, while others go off the deep end, so to speak.
Click to expand...
Two words:

CANNON BALL!
 
One thing that was nice was last night as we went to bed. As I was getting comfortable, my wife placed her arm around me and held my hand until I fell asleep. Up until now, it has been me who does this for her. It felt nice that she did this on her own account.
 
im sorry. thats terrible. id be hysterical. BUT there are issues on both sides of the table, but im sure ur a smart guy and know that already. most everyone would be really suspicious of a their spouse putting a lock on their phone and recieving phone calls at night. i would probaby get pretty psycho on my boyfriend and im a really laid back trusting girlfriend. your wife isnt being very fair to you at all and is acting alittle crazy.

but ...the things u told her like the sucking the new boyfriend thing and hanging up on her were terrible. I DESPISE being hung up on. Words said in anger and frustration are almost never good. angry words make women react very VERY badly....

in my honest opinion, you two need to have an honest talk. and sad to say, but i dont believe in being in relationships that do not make me at least 95 percent happy.... there is perfection out there. dont worry kwycke, u know ours is 100000% so dont fret my 95 percent comment ( i know u were for a brief second)
 
Mrs. Gimpy said:
im sorry. thats terrible. id be hysterical. BUT there are issues on both sides of the table, but im sure ur a smart guy and know that already. most everyone would be really suspicious of a their spouse putting a lock on their phone and recieving phone calls at night. i would probaby get pretty psycho on my boyfriend and im a really laid back trusting girlfriend. your wife isnt being very fair to you at all and is acting alittle crazy.

but ...the things u told her like the sucking the new boyfriend thing and hanging up on her were terrible. I DESPISE being hung up on. Words said in anger and frustration are almost never good. angry words make women react very VERY badly....

in my honest opinion, you two need to have an honest talk. and sad to say, but i dont believe in being in relationships that do not make me at least 95 percent happy.... there is perfection out there. dont worry kwycke, u know ours is 100000% so dont fret my 95 percent comment ( i know u were for a brief second)
Click to expand...
Baby...did u read the whole thread? Things are going well for him now :)
 
kwyckemynd00 said:
Baby...did u read the whole thread? Things are going well for him now :)
Click to expand...
no...but thats good

i saw a gazilllion plus more pages so u knwo me miss impatience herself, yeah i didnt want to read all of it.....
 
Mrs. Gimpy, thanks for a females perspective on this. I know there are a ton of posts to go through, and those who have not followed it from day one are going to take the time to read everything.

I have admitted to my wrong doings and have recognized my faults with myself and this realtionship. I just hate that it has taken this for me to identify and realize how I have been acting. I have not liked who I have become for quite some time now. I've let other things get to me and have masked my emotions. I know it's a two way street and there are two sides to every story. I've laid it out on the line without holding back here. Believe me, I wish I could take back all the negative and degrading comments I have ever said to her. Along with my temper issues. But, that's something I'm working on to better myself. Whether this relationship works out or not.
 
dont worry about it. we all have our own faults... im not an easy girl to be with...lol i threw a hissy fit because i couldnt eat my krispy creme donut...
 
Well, my wife and I are getting along very well at this time. Yesterday was the first day since the whole ordeal that I did not cry. We spent some nice time last night swimming (skinny dipping) until 1:00am, and had a long talk. We decided it would be best for her to leave for a while. At least until she figuers out what it is she is wanting, or missing in life. She told me she does not want to divorce or see to other people. She just wants some time to be by herself and make sure she is doing the right thing. I told her as much as I don't want to see her leave, that I understand and will not try to stop her. We agreed to stay close and talk, and to not become hateful. She said she would come around often, and especially when the mood hits her to take care of business in bed.

I begin my counseling sessions tonight after work. My wife is fearful that the therapist will try to turn me against her, or suggest me giving her an ultimatum. My wife asked how long I would wait for her. I told her only time will tell. She is scared of leaving, but we both agreed it's probably for the best at this time. Hopefully in the end, we either become closer than ever, or part as "good friends."
 
Cuffs said:
Well, my wife and I are getting along very well at this time. Yesterday was the first day since the whole ordeal that I did not cry. We spent some nice time last night swimming (skinny dipping) until 1:00am, and had a long talk. We decided it would be best for her to leave for a while. At least until she figuers out what it is she is wanting, or missing in life. She told me she does not want to divorce or see to other people. She just wants some time to be by herself and make sure she is doing the right thing. I told her as much as I don't want to see her leave, that I understand and will not try to stop her. We agreed to stay close and talk, and to not become hateful. She said she would come around often, and especially when the mood hits her to take care of business in bed.

I begin my counseling sessions tonight after work. My wife is fearful that the therapist will try to turn me against her, or suggest me giving her an ultimatum. My wife asked how long I would wait for her. I told her only time will tell. She is scared of leaving, but we both agreed it's probably for the best at this time. Hopefully in the end, we either become closer than ever, or part as "good friends."
Click to expand...
She has a right to be fearful. She is fucking up.

I'm honestly surprised you haven't given it to her yourself.

I'd be honest with her at this point and suggest that you've come close to saying it yourself so if it should come, don't think it's because some quack (I just use that term... no dig there) is telling you to do so.
 
Damn!!!
First off.. Cuffs I am sooo sorry that you are going through this! There really is no easy way to deal with something like this without any guilt or hurt feelings on both parts - not they can't be repaired with time.
Secondly......I fully agree with Alpha-males reply, he has my kudos on that one.
Lastly.......Reading this thread is just like reading my life of not to long ago.....it's a real eye opener to see what is going through the male mind and how things are precieved at that time.....an option I was not given. I think you are doing the right thing by giving her the space and time to work through this (I hope with your help) and I hope she does seek help with the 'metal issues' - female hormones can really screw you up.. kinda kills off the brain cells and you don't even know it!!!!
BTW......I really am glad I didn't turn to the board when my life hit the s*itter......there are some pretty crule guys on this board and nothing gets solved by placing blame.......
 
Head Nurse said:
Damn!!!
First off.. Cuffs I am sooo sorry that you are going through this! There really is no easy way to deal with something like this without any guilt or hurt feelings on both parts - not they can't be repaired with time.
Secondly......I fully agree with Alpha-males reply, he has my kudos on that one.
Lastly.......Reading this thread is just like reading my life of not to long ago.....it's a real eye opener to see what is going through the male mind and how things are precieved at that time.....an option I was not given. I think you are doing the right thing by giving her the space and time to work through this (I hope with your help) and I hope she does seek help with the 'metal issues' - female hormones can really screw you up.. kinda kills off the brain cells and you don't even know it!!!!
BTW......I really am glad I didn't turn to the board when my life hit the s*itter......there are some pretty crule guys on this board and nothing gets solved by placing blame.......
Click to expand...
Thanks Nurse. As I have said, female perspectives are always welcome. My wife has told me she is having a hard time leaving, and she does feel guilty. She see's how much I'm trying, and how much I'm willing to do. I understand her issues to a certain extent. She says she loves me and I'm her best friend. But, she still needs to figure out what it is in life she is missing, wanting. I've never been this out of control with my emotions before and I'm having a tough time dealing with things. That's why I took it upon myself to set up counseling for me. Hopefully this will help me to deal with things better.

I just got invited to a party on Friday night, and a river rafting trip on July 30th. The person who invited me is a probation officer who just went through a break-up, and she is a hottie. She knows a little of my situation, just not many details. I'm going to go to these functions, but I'm not going to jump into anything either. Just keeping the door to other options open if the time ever comes for me to be on the dating scene. ****, my wife can leave this week, which she is more than likely going to do, and then file divorce papers soon after. She says she's not, but right now I have a hard time trusting words and intentions.
 
TheCrownedOne said:
Don't forget that there are some pretty damn good guys here too, Nurse.
Click to expand...
Yes there is and I commend them.....it gives me hope

But sometimes the negitive of the few over shadows the positive of many......
 
Cuffs said:
.....I begin my counseling sessions tonight after work. My wife is fearful that the therapist will try to turn me against her, or suggest me giving her an ultimatum....
Click to expand...
Thats odd, IMHO :think:

I think she knows she's been doing something wrong, if that's what she thinks. She should be excited...
 
kwyckemynd00 said:
Thats odd, IMHO :think:

I think she knows she's been doing something wrong, if that's what she thinks. She should be excited...
Click to expand...
No, she is excited that I'm going to counseling. I think she wants to see if I actually go through with it, and continue it. Not just to do it as an act to get her to stay, but to show I'm willing to get the help I need to be a better person. She's fearful that the therapist is going to try to convince me that there is someone else, which is not the case. She went to counseling a long time ago and her therapist did the same thing when it was totally false.
 
Cuffs said:
Thanks Nurse. As I have said, female perspectives are always welcome. My wife has told me she is having a hard time leaving, and she does feel guilty. She see's how much I'm trying, and how much I'm willing to do. I understand her issues to a certain extent. She says she loves me and I'm her best friend. But, she still needs to figure out what it is in life she is missing, wanting. I've never been this out of control with my emotions before and I'm having a tough time dealing with things. That's why I took it upon myself to set up counseling for me. Hopefully this will help me to deal with things better.

I just got invited to a party on Friday night, and a river rafting trip on July 30th. The person who invited me is a probation officer who just went through a break-up, and she is a hottie. She knows a little of my situation, just not many details. I'm going to go to these functions, but I'm not going to jump into anything either. Just keeping the door to other options open if the time ever comes for me to be on the dating scene. ****, my wife can leave this week, which she is more than likely going to do, and then file divorce papers soon after. She says she's not, but right now I have a hard time trusting words and intentions.
Click to expand...
WOW...does this hit close to home!!!!!! I'm reliving this all over again!!! Let me ask you this, just for my own curiousity.......Do you resent, her even hate her, because she is missing something in her life that she has no idea how to handle???

I can only ask you your side of it as I don't know her and I am picking your brain in the process to help with the residuals of my own life......but with me I knew what was missing but had no idea how to fix it. No it wasn't another guy and I loved him dearly and to this day I still do. I guess what I am trying to say is don't give up the hope or idea that things will work out.......I guess that is why I REALLY like what alpha-male said........I wish it would have been said when I needed it.
 
Head Nurse said:
WOW...does this hit close to home!!!!!! I'm reliving this all over again!!! Let me ask you this, just for my own curiousity.......Do you resent, her even hate her, because she is missing something in her life that she has no idea how to handle???
Click to expand...

I don't resent or hate her at all. On the contrary, I deeply care and love her. I realize this more now than I did before. I understand it is not her fault that she is feeling this way. I don't know why I am being so understanding. It's usually not my style. I just finally figuered out how to express my emotions without feeling like a pussy, or caring what others think. What good is it going to do if I hate her, or get angry over this? None that I can see. If it comes down to it, I would rather part as friends and have some sort of future contact with her, rather than kicking her to the curb.

Someone once told me something along the lines of: It's easy to turn your back and be hateful. But, it takes a real man to take the time to understand and work on a relationship. I can't remember the exact words, but it had the same meaning.

She keeps calling me and text messaging me today. She is scared, and wishes this whole thing would work out. She said she is almost ready to give in and not leave. However, I don't want her to stay for the wrong reasons. I love her too much to keep her where she doesn't want to be, or during her time of confusion. Don't get me wrong, I am willing to work with her, with us, on this. Whether she leaves or stays. And, if it doesn't work out, then it just was not meant to be. If it does, then I'm sure we'll be closer than ever. Bottom line is, I will be a better person when all is said and done.
 
Well, went to my first therapy session this evening and it went pretty well. I never thought I would be seeking this type of help. But, I think this is for the best. My therapist is pretty cool. I requested a female since I seem to be able to talk to women better than men. Just from the short time we met, she seems to think a lot of my anger issues stem from my father's abuse as I was growing up, and my losing a great job with what I thought were good friends over 8 years ago.

As far as what's going on with my wife wanting to leave, she believes there is the issue of loneliness, especially on my wife's part. She also believes she may be an extremist and acts out quickly instead of thinking things out first.

She said she was impressed how I was handling things, and that she can tell how much I love and care for my wife. She also said it tells a lot about a person who is willing to let go of who he loves in order for them to find or be happy. However, she also dove into the issue of certain risks, and how one or the other may not like the final outcome.

My next appointment will be next week. But, she gave me her number if I need to talk, or to set up an earlier appointment if things go to **** and I bottom out.

I almost expect my wife to leave this weekend, or by Monday. However, she has not said when or if.
 
Head Nurse said:
Damn!!!
First off.. Cuffs I am sooo sorry that you are going through this! There really is no easy way to deal with something like this without any guilt or hurt feelings on both parts - not they can't be repaired with time.
Secondly......I fully agree with Alpha-males reply, he has my kudos on that one.
Lastly.......Reading this thread is just like reading my life of not to long ago.....it's a real eye opener to see what is going through the male mind and how things are precieved at that time.....an option I was not given. I think you are doing the right thing by giving her the space and time to work through this (I hope with your help) and I hope she does seek help with the 'metal issues' - female hormones can really screw you up.. kinda kills off the brain cells and you don't even know it!!!!
BTW......I really am glad I didn't turn to the board when my life hit the s*itter......there are some pretty crule guys on this board and nothing gets solved by placing blame.......
Click to expand...

Just to hijack this thread for a min.....Most of the guys here are good guys :) Yes there are a few, but try to not let the few ruin it for the rest !!!!!!!
 
Cuffs said:
Well, went to my first therapy session this evening and it went pretty well. I never thought I would be seeking this type of help. But, I think this is for the best. My therapist is pretty cool. I requested a female since I seem to be able to talk to women better than men. Just from the short time we met, she seems to think a lot of my anger issues stem from my father's abuse as I was growing up, and my losing a great job with what I thought were good friends over 8 years ago.

As far as what's going on with my wife wanting to leave, she believes there is the issue of loneliness, especially on my wife's part. She also believes she may be an extremist and acts out quickly instead of thinking things out first.

She said she was impressed how I was handling things, and that she can tell how much I love and care for my wife. She also said it tells a lot about a person who is willing to let go of who he loves in order for them to find or be happy. However, she also dove into the issue of certain risks, and how one or the other may not like the final outcome.

My next appointment will be next week. But, she gave me her number if I need to talk, or to set up an earlier appointment if things go to **** and I bottom out.

I almost expect my wife to leave this weekend, or by Monday. However, she has not said when or if.
Click to expand...


(((((HUGZ)))))))) you should be comended.....I dont know you out side of AM, but i am very proud of you, the way you seem to be handling it all, and still maintaining "life" as it has to go on...............

I also feel for you, what a crappy way to live, as if on egg shells seeing as you refer to your wife leaving at some point and you not knowing when??? :(
 
wranglergirl said:
I also feel for you, what a crappy way to live, as if on egg shells seeing as you refer to your wife leaving at some point and you not knowing when??? :(
Click to expand...
I think that has been the worst part of this whole ordeal. It may have been easier if she would have just left when she first intended. She is having second thoughts about leaving. She tells me she doesn't want to leave, but thinks it's the right thing to do in order to repair our relationship. To me, it's too much of a risk, but I will do what needs to be done if it will save and repair things.
 
Thought I'd post up another update. Things seem to be going well. My wife is still home and we are getting along great. She has not even mentioned leaving, and she has been much more affectionate.

I went to the party I was invited to on Friday night. Turned out to be a luau, which meant plenty of beer and a pool. I only had a couple. I know, I'm on cycle right now and it wasn't the best decision. It did get a little crazy. The chick who invited me ended up having a boyfriend, but she hung around me quit a bit with him there. It got a little uncomfortable and I felt bad for him, so I tried to ignore her, which seemed to cause her to come around me even more. She kept asking me to swim with her and she was getting a little touchy...if you know what I mean. That's when I really distanced myself from her.

Anyways, another hottie I know showed up. She's been flirting with me for a few months, and word was out my wife was leaving me. She stood around me like I was her dude or something. She has a reputation of being sluty, which can be a good thing. ;) She was just getting ready to strip down to go swimming, and asked if she could wear my underwear because she only had a G-string on. I told her I had nadda on. She looked at me and said "oooh, you're feeballing, I like that." For the record, I had my swim trunks on. I decided to leave at that point because I didn't want to do anything I'd regret later on. She seemed sad when I told her I was taking off.

My wife kept calling me the entire time I was at this party. I think she was a little concerned and/or jealous. I am glad I didn't do anything that would have caused problems later on. I was actually proud of myself that I was able to keep it in my pants, considering my situation and all...LOL. Now, if my wife does leave me, then I'll probably kick myself for not staying at the party longer.

I'm going river rafting this Saturday. Pretty much with the same people from the party. My wife seems a little concerned about that, but she is encouraging me to go. Maybe this is what she needed, seeing me going out with groups of people and wondering what I'm doing. Maybe this is showing her that she doesn't want to leave me.
 
Cuffs said:
I'm going river rafting this Saturday. Pretty much with the same people from the party. My wife seems a little concerned about that, but she is encouraging me to go. Maybe this is what she needed, seeing me going out with groups of people and wondering what I'm doing. Maybe this is showing her that she doesn't want to leave me.
Click to expand...
Indeed.
 
iwannagetbig said:
Indeed.
Click to expand...
Agreed...indeed :D

Pretty sad though...you'd think she would have grown out of this sort of thing :( And, the older I get, the more I realize this is common among 'adults' and people never really grow up....Not sure how I feel about this part yet :think:
 
Damn, man, you're such a good guy to keep it together (and in your pants) at that party, given your situation and all you've been through. I really hope she recognizes what she has. And in the end, if she doesn't, you know you tried and did the right thing (over and over, at that). It's good that you're getting out and having some fun too. Keep your head up! ;)
 
you have most definitely been through so much with your wife. i dont know if i could handle all that you two are. i am in a relationship that everything is so perfect but if something happens to where we are slightly fighting or arguing over something, its really hard on me. its great that you are trying to work things out and are trying to keep faith. if you two want the same things than im sure it will be fine. but if i was in your situation, not to be rude to you, i would not stay . you seem like such a great guy, and a good woman wouldnt need more proof than the fact that you are trying so much for things to work out between you two. i've learned that you should never settle in a relationship that doesnt give you complete happiness.
 
good, you are giving her the gift of missing you!!

she sits around on her ass wondering what you are doing and how much she misses you... hopefully she will realise what she is missing before you find out that life can be even better without her ;)

good work bro!! we are here for you!!
 
Oh, I just found this out last night. Before the river rafting trip, one of the chicks is having everyone over for a "slumber party" since we all have to be up so early and drive about 3 hours to get there. This is going to go over well when I tell my wife about this one.

And on another note, I just ran into the Starbucks chick who usually takes my order in the mornings. Damn...she's freakin' hot. I had a feeling she was, but she was a customer at Starbucks today and had regular clothes on. All I can say is...Dammmnnnn! Oh, and I also found out that she works out at my gym. :D

Anyways, I think I may have found the Harley I want. Looking at the Road King Classic. Not sure what color yet.
 
intv said:
Damn, man, you're such a good guy to keep it together (and in your pants) at that party, given your situation and all you've been through. I really hope she recognizes what she has. And in the end, if she doesn't, you know you tried and did the right thing (over and over, at that). It's good that you're getting out and having some fun too. Keep your head up! ;)
Click to expand...
I'm not going to lie here. It was hard to not be "bad" at the party. Especially given the oppotunities that were presented, and receiving the attention I have been craving. I just kept thinking about how much I love my wife, and how I would feel if I screwed things up by having a one-night fling. Even if my wife didn't find out, it would bother me later on in life. If my wife does leave, then I can whore around without feeling bad. I just don't want to do like years ago when all I wanted to do was screw them, then toss them to the curb when I was done just to hurt them. I don't believe I'll ever be like that again.
 
Hi Cuffs,

I haven't read the entire thread so I'm going to ask why hasn't your wife opened up to you? Have you talked to any of her friends or family? Communication is a two way street. Good luck bro.
 
az2u said:
Hi Cuffs,

I haven't read the entire thread so I'm going to ask why hasn't your wife opened up to you? Have you talked to any of her friends or family? Communication is a two way street. Good luck bro.
Click to expand...
Actually, she has opened up to me and we have had long talks for the last three weeks, plus. I posted a lot of what we talked about, but I know this thread has gotten large. Much larger than I had anticipated. I've talked to members of her family who I am close with, but not to her friends. Hell, friends basically support the other with whatever they decide on. I realize communication is a two way street, and it is the main downfall of relationships. That's one of the things we are working on.
 
Had my second therapy session last night and it went well. I never knew how fast an hour can go by. My therapist seems to think it is a good/positive sign that my wife is still home, and she is the one reaching out to me now. I talked to her about the Harley my wife wants me to buy, and she seems to think it's a good idea. I asked if she would write out a prescription for one so I could use it as a tax write-off. LOL...it didn't work. :rasp:

Things are still going good at home. My wife said she is much happier with the way we have been with each other. However, she still feels like she's missing something. It's more of a personal issue, and she is unable to figure out what it is. She agreed to see my therapist during one of my sessions. This was at my therapists recommendation, so she could get her side of what's going on. I think this will open the door to her going to therapy on her own.

Anyways...river rafting this weekend! Should be fun.
 
Cuffs said:
Had my second therapy session last night and it went well. I never knew how fast an hour can go by. My therapist seems to think it is a good/positive sign that my wife is still home, and she is the one reaching out to me now. I talked to her about the Harley my wife wants me to buy, and she seems to think it's a good idea. I asked if she would write out a prescription for one so I could use it as a tax write-off. LOL...it didn't work. :rasp:

Things are still going good at home. My wife said she is much happier with the way we have been with each other. However, she still feels like she's missing something. It's more of a personal issue, and she is unable to figure out what it is. She agreed to see my therapist during one of my sessions. This was at my therapists recommendation, so she could get her side of what's going on. I think this will open the door to her going to therapy on her own.

Anyways...river rafting this weekend! Should be fun.
Click to expand...

I am jealous i want to go river rafting....Have fun and enjoy :) Of course if i went i would end up breaking a bone or something.......LOL seems to be my luck
 
BULK_CITY said:
i think she is missing what we normal people call a fucking brain!
Click to expand...
No doubt. I think she may have killed off a few brain cells from the pool chemicals or something.
 
Well, I did the hardest thing I had to do today. My wife and I have been getting along very good, but she told me she is still missing something. She has no desire to be affectionate with me, but will have sex. So, I told her this is fucking me up way too much and she needed to leave until she figuered out what it is she wants, or is missing. She will probably be leaving tomorrow or the next day. I'm going to the 'slumber party' tonite, then rafting all day tomorrow. Needless to say, I'm going to be a little irresponsible and get my drink on. :drunk:

I really hope I'm doing the right thing and this all works out for the best. It's just the hardest thing I've had to do. If I wanted to go out and get a piece of ass that would be no problem, but it's not what I want at this time in my life. I hope I just don't go making bad, spur of the moment decisions that I will regret later on.
 
I think that's a good move, bud. Its nice to hear that you sound like you're in control, too. You've tried very hard and done your part, so now its her turn.

Have fun rafting, don't do anything I wouldn't do...well...wait :think:....just stay out of trouble :D

Oh yeah....and bring a whiffle-ball bat. With the new shredded look and the tan, you're gonna have to beat some women senseless in order to keep the wild one in the pants :D
 
LOL...will do Kwyck.

Oh, get this. My wife told me when I was at the party last week, she could hear all the ladies screaming and having a good time in the background. She said it made her very jealous when she heard that. Also, she said she is jealous that I'm going to this 'slumber party' and rafting trip because she doesn't know who is going to be there. But, she is encouraging me to go. She said she knows she loves and cares for me, otherwise she would not be jealous.
 
Isn't jealousy an odd thing?

I think its an ugly emotion, but for others its a motivating factor....freggin' women :think: The more other women like you the more they like you....lolol
 
kwyckemynd00 said:
Isn't jealousy an odd thing?

I think its an ugly emotion, but for others its a motivating factor....freggin' women :think: The more other women like you the more they like you....lolol
Click to expand...
Very true. My wife even told me for the last week that I look very 'sexy' and that I look the best I have since she has known me. She told me she is worried that I will find some young hottie while she is gone trying to figure out what she wants.
 
((HUGZ))))) i hope it all works out...In my persoanl opinion..I think you did the right thing, now you have some control, it has to feel good.....take it slow and weight out everything before you do it....You will be fine :)

Have fun rafting
 
Rafting was a blast. We rafted for about 15 miles and got to do some swimming as well. I will definitely be doing it again next year when the season is in full force. I'll post up a few pics when I get them.

My wife left to her mother's last night. It was pretty emotional. She asked if I wanted her to stay, or leave. I told her the selfish side of me wanted her to stay, but the realistic side knew it was best that she left. Hopefully, only for a short time period. She told me she did not want to leave, but felt as if she needed to do this. We even had some pretty good sex a couple of times before she took off. She ended up calling me at 4:30am telling me she was having trouble sleeping, and doing nothing but thinking about all this. She told me she loves me and is physically attracted to me more now than ever. But, she feels some sort of void that she needs to figure out. Hell, it may even have something to do with the heart medication she's been taking for the last year and a half.

We're going to take it day-by-day and see where this **** takes us. I'm getting frequent invites to go to parties and such. I'm just going to try and keep myself busy.
 
This whole seperation thing is very tough to deal with, and it's only been a couple of days. I know things will run its course with emotions and all. I hate waking up to touch my foot to my wife's, or to run my fingers through her hair and find she is not there. She calls me frequently and we are on good speaking terms. I saw her last night for a while and it was hard seeing her leave. So, I went to the gym to try and work out some frustration. Mornings and nights are the hardest by far.

I'm already getting ladies I know trying to set me up with friends of theirs, but I have told them to keep them on the back burner. I don't want to start going out and ruin any chance of working this all out. I want the peace of mind knowing that I did all I could do before everything comes to an end. My wife seems optimistic that things may work out for us. She is just very confused and doesn't know what is wrong with her. She has talked with some other ladies who have gone through similar issues, but none of them have the answers for her.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top