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Hoe or prude?

wranglergirl

wranglergirl

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Ok, wondering here...since i responded to the dancing thread, this has me thinking....If you meet a girl, go on a date, and you ( AS THE GUY) make a move.......Is she a hoe if she does,( sleep with you ) and would you call, or would you think less of her and never call again......... and if she dosen't is she a prude and not call because you think she is a prude...???

Just wondering how guys think on this?
 
wranglergirl said:
Ok, wondering here...since i responded to the dancing thread, this has me thinking....If you meet a girl, go on a date, and you ( AS THE GUY) make a move.......Is she a hoe if she does,( sleep with you ) and would you call, or would you think less of her and never call again......... and if she dosen't is she a prude and not call because you think she is a prude...???

Just wondering how guys think on this?
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I would think she was a hoe. But what do I know. I'm married and been with her since 1990....I'm really out of the game though, so I would take my opinion with a grain of salt. I think this is more of a question for single guys. I'm the kind of person that believes in staying with one person from life and never cheating. I believe adultry is worse than murder and have very high moral standards.
 
If I had just met her and slept with her then yes I would assume she does/did that with other guys aswell, and I imagine that is the definition of hoe. Wether I would or wouldn't call her would really depend on her personality, but having a serious relationship with this girl has become quite an obstacle. How can you trust a girl that will sleep with a guy she's only known for a few hours. Some men will risk it though and try to build off that while most won't.
 
I might call her, but there is no way the relationship would become serious. I can't imagine marrying a girl who had sex with me the first time I ever met her. I agree with Cosmo about the whole few hours piece.

A girl once tried to have sex with me and I didn't even know her name. It was incredibly hard to resist as she was climbing on top of me, but WTF, I'm not that irresistible that I was a unique situation or anything. Big time hoe. I was extremely intoxicated and still managed to avert a potentially deadly (or at least itchy/burning) encounter.
 
it depends on how the sex was if i would call her. if she rocked my world i would call her but if it was just sex i would not call her. in other words, a relationship is out of the question. however i have seen many guys my age fall in love with a vagina before. not a good basis for a relationship though. on the other hand i could see it being possible where i hit it off so well with a girl that we sleep together the first day. unlikely but totally possible and romantic.

but i would say a general rule of thumb if you really like a guy i would make him wait a few dates and if he is still around then he is not looking at you just for sex.
 
I agree, if she screwd on the first date, she probably has done it many times before, not worth calling back, unless of course you were just interested in sex again
 
If I were taking the date seriously and looking to settle down, then I would not take her seriously if she wanted to have sex on the first date, just like Beo and Cosmo said, there is a serious trust issue there. Now Beo I agree with you on the first part of what you said, however the second part I do not. If you were extremely intoxicated, then were you really that serious about this girl in the first place? I don't agree w/ exactly calling her a hoe, because if a guy did this then it would be a okay, but you don't see men getting called hoes and when they are (called manwhore) then it's almost a compliment in a way. There is a double standard and I have never had anything against a girl just trying to get her's and have fun. I guess it all comes down to morals in the end, but I suck at relationships so my advice is probably the wrong advice :lol:
 
goes4ever said:
I agree, if she screwd on the first date, she probably has done it many times before, not worth calling back, unless of course you were just interested in sex again
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:goodpost: That's what I meant with my last post, but have problems putting thoughts into words. It all has to do with your initial intent and prerogatives imo.
 
For me it would depend on how she acted the rest of the date. If she was a real sweetheart. Didn't show any signs of being overly ho'ishly aggressive etc. Then if I had sex with her that night I would call her. But only if she really made me work for it and didn't come off as a ho and only if I felt that I was getting her because we hit it off or something ya know. But random? Doubt it.

WG- who is that in you avatar
 
hmn, tough question. i don't necessarily think she's a ho, although she very well could be. i can pretty much tell a girls morals after a date with her. i've found some girls simply like sex. they don't have to be a complete whore. as for dating her, she would have to be very convincing to get me to see her exclusively. although i do have a tendency to fall hard for girls
 
If a woman sleeps with me on a first date, then I am fine. I may call her a few times afterwards in pursuit of more sex. However, there is no chance that I would try to develop any relationship with her.
As odd as this may sound, I would rather a woman not sleep with me immediately.
 
Grassroots082 said:
Now Beo I agree with you on the first part of what you said, however the second part I do not. If you were extremely intoxicated, then were you really that serious about this girl in the first place? I don't agree w/ exactly calling her a hoe, because if a guy did this then it would be a okay, but you don't see men getting called hoes and when they are (called manwhore) then it's almost a compliment in a way. There is a double standard and I have never had anything against a girl just trying to get her's and have fun. I guess it all comes down to morals in the end, but I suck at relationships so my advice is probably the wrong advice :lol:
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If a friend of mine (male) had sex with a girl whose name he didn't know, I wouldn't call him a ho', I would call him a fucking idiot. I guess my definition of ho' includes the term "fucking idiot".
I neglected to mention that the girl tried to mount me w/o a condom. I never knew her name and I don't think she knew mine. Anyone, male or female, who goes through with something like this is profoundly irresponsible. There is too much **** out there: the deadly--Aids; the annoying/unsightly--HPV(genital warts)--which can lead to cervical cancer for women; the more annoying, or even painful--genital herpes; and all the curable bacterial diseases. The more people spread STDs the smarter the bacteria/viruses become. Paired with growing concern about anti-biotic resistance, and the fact that most viruses can't be cured, it angers me that people are so irresponsible that they are potentially creating a future in which non-condom sex with a monogamous partner becomes less of a reality. People have diseases without even knowing it. You have to be smart.
That being said, I feel bad for the insecure girls who get hammered and throw themselves at guys they like only to get taken advantage of. By going the one-night-stand route they sabotage a potential relationship as most of us seem to agree that the 1st night Nookie has no future.
 
The only reason you should call her back is for more sex.
but personally, i wouldn't call her back.
I am trying to keep my test levels high, by calling her back and having MORE sex with her and then with my current girlfriend, I would only be negating the effects of all the heavy squatting i've been doing!

btw, i don't cheat on my g/f, i love her lol
 
i don't think you can characterize a girl based on one experience with her .. you certainly can't judge her entire personality and if she's a good person based on what she did one night

i wouldn't form a judgement of a girl just because she slept with me the first night (maybe i just did everything right lol) i would decide if i would call her based on a collection of the entire night and any other experiences i had with her .. not just whether she slept with me or not
 
One girl that I hooked up with on the first night I went out with her ended up in a 6 month relationship. Just because a girl likes sex doesnt mean she's a hoe and lets face it practice definitely makes you better. On the reverse of that note if a girl doesnt want to get it on the first night then it doesnt make her a prude. A prude to me is a girl that never wants to get freaky, I mean swinging from the rafters til the nieghbors call the cops freaky.
 
wranglergirl said:
Ok, wondering here...since i responded to the dancing thread, this has me thinking....If you meet a girl, go on a date, and you ( AS THE GUY) make a move.......Is she a hoe if she does,( sleep with you ) and would you call, or would you think less of her and never call again......... and if she dosen't is she a prude and not call because you think she is a prude...???

Just wondering how guys think on this?
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Avoid it on the first date if you want a lasting relationship...guys do take the impression that the chick is a hoe. I'd personally never call again. If she called back, I'd go for seconds, but I'd never call again.

You're not a prude if you don't. In fact, if you don't, you give the guy something to work for. Every guy is going for the sex eventually as "one of" their goals. It's just how guys are--even those who disagree with me "will" screw at the first given chance, confirming my point about guys. But, if you make him work for it, he'll have to get to know you on the way and then you've actually got a chance at a working relationship. My .02.

PS. Don't blame the guy for wanting to do the deed...it's just a guys' nature. The less intelligent of our two heads has an enormous amount of power over our actions ;)
 
ironviking said:
One girl that I hooked up with on the first night I went out with her ended up in a 6 month relationship....
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My current g/f of 3 years and I did this. However, it cause major trust issues for sometime because we were both so quick to screw. Eventually we believed the other that that was "out of character" and saw past it. But, it gave a good reason for distrust in the relationship.

If you take a chick out and screw her within a couple hours, are you going to have complete trust when she goes and hangs out with other guys or around other guys?

I'm a really trusting person, but I'm also a realist. I know that there is always going to be a situation where your g/f is going to be around other guys and I know that if someone did it once on their first time, they're capable of it again. I'm no waaaaaaaaaaaay beyond that and let her go out to eat w/ her guy friends by themselves (I could be who knows where), I don't care. But, it took a good 6-8 months to build up that trust...
 
kwyckemynd00 said:
My current g/f of 3 years and I did this. However, it cause major trust issues for sometime because we were both so quick to screw. Eventually we believed the other that that was "out of character" and saw past it. But, it gave a good reason for distrust in the relationship.

If you take a chick out and screw her within a couple hours, are you going to have complete trust when she goes and hangs out with other guys or around other guys?

I'm a really trusting person, but I'm also a realist. I know that there is always going to be a situation where your g/f is going to be around other guys and I know that if someone did it once on their first time, they're capable of it again. I'm no waaaaaaaaaaaay beyond that and let her go out to eat w/ her guy friends by themselves (I could be who knows where), I don't care. But, it took a good 6-8 months to build up that trust...
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I think it depends on the girl. If you really hit it off well, then it might be all good. If she was just some drunk sorority slut that you banged, fooorrgggiit aaabout it!!!

I now am sorta where you were. It is not so much that I don't trust my girl, I just do not trust any guy that wants to "hang out" with her. In the past, when I have had relationships that developed slightly more gradually (ie: not screwing on the first night) I never really was ever concerned or worried about them hanging out with their guy "friends", I just trusted them and did not worry about it, and it worked, no probs ever came up. With this girl though, I sorta feel like she was so quick to want me, that I worry she could be quick to be swayed too, so I keep her on a pretty tight leash. Then again we have not been together THAT long, so maybe it will just take some more time for more trust to develope.
 
Well thanks, I was just wondering what a guy's thoughts were,LOL

Funny when i asked the girls I work out with ( my 2 best friends) they said what I said....Hoe.......funny how different we really think..........
 
kwyckemynd00 said:
My current g/f of 3 years and I did this. However, it cause major trust issues for sometime because we were both so quick to screw. Eventually we believed the other that that was "out of character" and saw past it. But, it gave a good reason for distrust in the relationship.
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My fiance and I have been together for 2 years. I am getting married in June and we banged on our first date. We had been friends for a while. I just didnt think anything of it really until I had the opportunity to sleep with another chick and I just didnt want to then I started to search my heart and discover deep feelings for her. I guess I always knew we woudl be together in the back of my head. One note it can cause trust issues but if you know the person it is easy to tell if that is a normal occurance or if you are really something special.
On another note I have fucked girls that I didnt know their name. They got called back ONLY for sex and that lasted about a week. Honestly I feel dirty and scared after doing **** like that.............Bone 'em and Disown 'em
 
size said:
If a woman sleeps with me on a first date, then I am fine. I may call her a few times afterwards in pursuit of more sex. However, there is no chance that I would try to develop any relationship with her.
As odd as this may sound, I would rather a woman not sleep with me immediately.
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Depends on my state, but nowadays I am looking for relationships, not just sex. I usually don't have a problem finding sex, but I would prefer to have a steady relationship. So I agree with the wanting women to not sleep with me immediately. Once they give it up, and the reason most of the good ones come across as prudes, is because women are smart enough to know that giving it up too fast will make a man (a decent man) lose interest in them. And women are great at this whole "reading people" thing, men in fact are lightyears behind them as far as the whole psychological aspect goes (for the most part).
 
BigCasino said:
I think it depends on the girl. If you really hit it off well, then it might be all good. If she was just some drunk sorority slut that you banged, fooorrgggiit aaabout it!!!

I now am sorta where you were. It is not so much that I don't trust my girl, I just do not trust any guy that wants to "hang out" with her. In the past, when I have had relationships that developed slightly more gradually (ie: not screwing on the first night) I never really was ever concerned or worried about them hanging out with their guy "friends", I just trusted them and did not worry about it, and it worked, no probs ever came up. With this girl though, I sorta feel like she was so quick to want me, that I worry she could be quick to be swayed too, so I keep her on a pretty tight leash. Then again we have not been together THAT long, so maybe it will just take some more time for more trust to develope.
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I understand where you're coming from. It took my a good 6 months before I had full trust for my g/f. It turned out I just did everything right and I guess I was just irresistable (:Dheheeh ;)).

however, like i said earlier, NOW I trust her more than anything. I've always let her do what she wanted and hang out w/ who she wanted...now, I trust her when she does it though ;)
 
There's a difference between a ho and someone who you have sex with the first night. A ho to me is just sex, if even that.

A ho is a girl who first off, surrounds herself with nothing but guys. Guys don't just hang out with a girl unless they are gay or having sex with someone more attractive. A ho is someone who cheats on someone. To me, that just shows a lack of respect and lack of restraint. Next, a ho pretty much bases her life on who is she going to get fucked by that night. No actual ambition in her life, just as long as there is booze and cock, she's there.
There's a lot of fine lines but be with women long enough and you can figure it out.
 
glenihan said:
i don't think you can characterize a girl based on one experience with her .. you certainly can't judge her entire personality and if she's a good person based on what she did one night

i wouldn't form a judgement of a girl just because she slept with me the first night (maybe i just did everything right lol) i would decide if i would call her based on a collection of the entire night and any other experiences i had with her .. not just whether she slept with me or not
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what he said.
 
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