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help please!!!!

diplomats

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[font=verdana, arial, helvetica]ok this is the situation i find my self in. I have been going out with my girlffriend for about 3 years and in those three years i have not spent quality time with her, cuz of gym , studies and work. There were time that i would not call her for a month and then she would call me but i would not take time to talk to her. She just started talking to one of her close guy friends for about 2 months and he recently told her that he wants to be more than a friend to her and she says that she told him that i was her first choice and that if i were to ever wanted to pick up were me and her left off that she would choose that to her guy friend. She just moved to her own apartment yesterday and i have been trying to call her since she would not answer her phone or nothing and then i texted her but still notin. i then found out where the apartment is and drove by there yesterday only to find the her guy friends car outside parked next to hers. she told me last week that he got kicked out of his parents house.

I am loosing her i know it and it hurts verrryyy bad, because i just figured out that i am madly in love with this girl and i will do anything to get her back. please i need help on how to go about this i do no want to loose her.[/font]
 
honestly i don't want to sound like a dick, but what kind of relationship is/was it when you go an entire month without talking? .. i don't really blame her for possibly looking to be with someone that will ACTUALLY BE a boyfriend

if you want to keep her you need to put forth effort and actually talk with her spend time with her ... show her you do care about her and love her .. not talking for a month and then brushing her off when she calls is not something someone who is in love would do .. i can't believe she has been with you for this long

sorry if this sounds harsh .. but what did you expect her to do?
 
One tends to want, what one does not have.
You had her but neglected the situation. Now she seemingly has moved on and you suddenly want her back.
 
I went through a similar thing a wile back.. I told my girl of 3 years i wanted a break.. So for 10 months i just was single, hung out with freinds, and she called me everyday for 10 months.. One day the phone calls stopped and i hear she is talking to one of her guy friends.. when i heard that that **** pissed me off so bad it wasn't even funny, and i thought i lost her. I then called her up and was like "ok forget that guy, lets get back together" so she stopped talking to him and got back with me and 3 years later we got married.. Luckally i cought it before she had any real feelings for him, and she told me she just did it to make me jealous, and come back to her(it fucking worked)

If you really want her you need to get off your ass and show her.. There is enough hours in the day for you to spend time with her, train, etc.. You need to make her a priority or else you are going to lose her..

Don't act like they ruined your day by telling you how it is, you need to wake up and see the situation for what it is. If you don't like it, get out there and do something about it..

You better hope this is just a reent thng and hasn't been going on for some time..
 
The question is, if you get her back, will things slide back into the same situation they were in before concerning the neglect. Unless you can prove to her otherwise, you don't stand much of a chance. The harsh reality of this situation is who do you think was there if you weren't? The other guy.

Youre going to have to work your ass off for her, and never stop. She knows what is possible in a relationship with you, and if you ever show any negative aspects again, its going to burn you hard.

If you really do love her, then prove it to her, the sooner the better. But, take this into account. If you cared about someone as much as she obviously cared about you to stick with you through that period, would you wanted to be treated like that?

Just tell her how you feel, and that you know youve made mistakes, and you want to make it up to her. With some luck, things will work out.
 
size said:
One tends to want, what one does not have.
You had her but neglected the situation. Now she seemingly has moved on and you suddenly want her back.
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I was going to say the same thing. Size oh wise one. :box:
 
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