friends, fwb, relationships, advice?

[ItsHectic]

I was gonna post this in the fwb thread but I guess it deserves its own thread.
I have never been big on having chick friends till lately, so everything for me has either been a ONS, booty call or full relationship, all from the start, never any transitions from one sort of relationship to the other.

I am not the type of guy to express my feelings for a chick like some guys seem to (or atleast think they) get away with, I let the chick lead with things, in almost every detail, I wont make a move until I get a physical or verbal signal(or vibe) welcoming me to do so even if its subtle and even if it means the chick is put in suspense for things to progress.

Ive read here that the best relationships seem to be the ones where your good friends 1st. Well I support that theory even though I havent even seen it 1st or 2nd hand, and cause of that I dont have an idea on how it works. Im not an instinctive learner...

Is this ment to be a gradual transition or sudden. ie: slowly start acting more like a couple 1st, flirting more, going certain places etc. or do you just bust out one day and give your pitch and rip a move by saying what you need to say and put everything on the line.
Ive heard of the latter working but that sorta goes against the rule that you dont show interest in a girl until she shows it with you 1st. for example, you dont tell a girl you love her even if you do unless she says it 1st.
So how is this transition ever made?

btw Im talking about friends -> relationship. and if anyone wants to comment or relate simularities friends -> fwbs.

 

[crader]

Ive heard of the latter working but that sorta goes against the rule that you dont show interest in a girl until she shows it with you 1st. for example, you dont tell a girl you love her even if you do unless she says it 1st.
So how is this transition ever made?



I know I for one won't date a friend, in fact the guys that became friends with me for that benefit aren't around anymore. If you have feelings for someone don't wait to hear it from her first. You may miss out on a good relationship.

I really don't believe in FWB. Afiend is around forever, not because they want a piece of ass.

 

[xjsynx]

I think once you are friends, you are friends. Just a weird transition IMO.

Sure you want to get to know someone, but you casually date, and keep moving forward.

 

[dlew308]

Friend first to gf usually doesn't work, that's defeating any point of friendship. I've been married 8 years, it was basically instant liking from the moment we met

If a single girl has a lot of male friends, how many of those friends will still be around once she's married since they're no longer warming up in the bullpen