Gonna reiterate...people on this board havealways been there when I needed. It is shocking how you can make friends that you have never met and they can be there for you when no one in your real life is. PM if you ever need.
I feel like, for me at least, I get anxiety over things that I focus on and do nothing about. For instance, I will go to bed and start thinking about something and it is too late at night to go do anything about it, so I get in a cycle.
I think we are designed to have a hunting cycle. We have a problem, we think about it and this triggers action, we go kill it and things are good. I am hungry, I need food, I go kill something and eat it.
But the modern cycle is, I have this problem, I think about that problem, I should take action but I am not willing to take action at that moment or don't know an effective strategy, so I still have the problem, so I think about it, and the cycle is short circuited into am endless thinking loop.
As another example, I see people do this and have done it at times myself even though it isn't how I am wired - Something went wrong and I have to call someone to deliver the bad news. But this person will be upset, so I don't want to call them...so back to square one, I have a problem.
And then, to make things worse, after a short while it escalates. Now I haven't called them, so they will be upset I didn't call and it will be awkward, and I have bad newsso they will really hit the roof...and so on.
If you have anxiety, in other words, what action can you take to actually make a difference? Take positive action, you will feel better (usually).