Do you have any make or break things when it comes to dating ?

xtraflossy said:
MLTR= multipule Long Term Realationships.

It's different from having a few FB's. Its litterally, having what the name implies. There's more value in it,other then just sex. Just like a girlfriend, lol, but more then one.
For those women that are LTR potentail (but it's not a competition per se, you have no intentions of exclusiveness with just one of them. It's another option, although, admitidly, it's not for everyone. Its kindy lonely doing that, despite having more then one girlfriend. hard to explain that last part :P
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id love to but hiding one from another would get tiresome. I wish i could have them all know about each other, no secrets but theyd all love me, not jealous of each other just happy they can have a piece lol. Kind of like a heirm(however you spell it).
 
pistonpump said:
id love to but hiding one from another would get tiresome. I wish i could have them all know about each other, no secrets but theyd all love me, not jealous of each other just happy they can have a piece lol. Kind of like a heirm(however you spell it).
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Thats the way you pretty much HAVE to do it :afro:

You don't have to have them get along together, but a girl really does know when your seeing other girls. She only asks you about it to see if your strong in your frame.
You don't HIDE anything. But you do have to be sensitive towards her feelings, so you don't rub it in her face or anything.
I mean, what does someone else, have to do with YOUR relationship with HER? ...nothing. When you beleive this, and your actions are congruent with it, she trusts your beleifs.

You ever heard a girl say "that's just how he is" ?..

lol- My woman (well, my primary) is a wonderfull woman. I've been with her for 9 months now. Fior Christmass she asked to be the only one. But she completely trusts that I will not leave her becasue of anyone alse, which is true (now, if within out own relationship something happens, that's different). She's even "talked" to the other two women I was seeing at the time :P .... damn Myspace.

I say it's kinda lonely,.. becasue when your having an issue with one woman, and your down about it, and another is asking you what's wrong, there's no reason to dump that on her ya know.. And when you have a great time or a funny expirence, you can't really tell her either becasue of the same reason.
 
Id rather just be really good friends with girls but just be able to get intimate (not just str8 no feelings screwing) when the time arises. I mean this keeps jealousy out for the most part, lets you have a great loving, meaningful relationship but that intimacy when its the right time. Nothing expected except genuine caring friendship. I wish it could happen to me :whiner: ...its really hard to be satisfied nowadays.
 
pistonpump said:
Id rather just be really good friends with girls but just be able to get intimate (not just str8 no feelings screwing) when the time arises. I mean this keeps jealousy out for the most part, lets you have a great loving, meaningful relationship but that intimacy when its the right time. Nothing expected except genuine caring friendship. I wish it could happen to me :whiner: ...its really hard to be satisfied nowadays.
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No reason why you cant. The hard part comes when SHE catches feelings for you though. Or you.
It's kinda rare that neither of you develope some attachment.
Although, if you had more the one female, just like you described, and that relationship was ongoing, you'd be in Mltr of sorts.



It's TOTALLY possible. There's no reason you can't enjoy the company of more then one woman like that. It's only a limiting beleife that you can't. ..It's also a limiting beleife to think that most women don't want that as well

I sh!t you not, three's litterally nothing preventing you from such an outcome like you described. ...Except YOU thinking that you can't.

Go out and meet someone wonderfull. A really cool chick, who you click with. Just lkimit your time to 3 days a week at MOST. Anything more and your setting it up in her mind as something else.
Then if you run into someone else you click with.. you know.

I mean, just becasue you sleep with someone, doesn't mean you owe them exclusiveness.

It's not just about having a bunch of copol chicks that you get to lay with.. It's about YOU surrounding yourself with people who you enjoy, and add value.
 
is there anything you dont know? lol...

well there is a real close friend of mine and you say its totally possible but im really stuck in the friends catergory nothing more than pecks and cuddling. Other than that we have an awesome time together do things that i would be doing with other chicks, nice dinners etc. She just wont go any further with me. I guess ive learned to accept that and im satisfied but it would be nice to make out with her just because we are so close. eh...well whatever.
 
Things I won't settle for:

1. Drunks
2. Smokers (I don't mind the occasional once a month cigarette, but not the kind that smokes a pack-a-day)
3. Materialistic
4. Insecure (always looking for you to be the shoulder to cry on, or wanting you to be there to always say, "Good job!" when they accomplish something)
5. Selfish
6. Member of the ACLU
7. Whoreish


Pistonpump, are you a Seinfeld fan? Ever watch the episode where Jerry and Elaine try to have that type of relationship? It truly doesn't work. What people don't seem to understand is that having a sexual relationship with someone is so much more than a physical act. I really find it to be truly impossible to do that without being attached. I think the way you have it now with your friend is the best way to do it. You are close, you show each other a mutual affection, and enjoy each others company. That's the best way to do it without becoming too attached. If you were in it just to have a sexual relationship, then it's not a true friendship at all. Sex, for the most part, is a completely selfish act. I don't necessarily mean it is selfish in a bad sense, but you are in it to seek pleasure for yourself. That's why you can't have a relationship based purely on sex. You are in the relationship for yourself, and no one else. What if you and your friend did start having sex, and then you became involved with another woman? Any halfway decent girl that you date would tell you to put an end to it with your friend, so now you lose that closeness that you had. This throws me into a whole other tangent...

Men and Women were not made to be JUST friends. Men can NOT be just friends with women, however I believe that women can be just friends with men. You guys need to read the Ladder Theory. It started as a joke, but actually carries some very meaningful points. I disagree with some of it since I'm a Christian guy, but for the most part it's true. Men always want "something more" - You will laugh your butt off, but will probably also change your opinion on lots of stuff.

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pistonpump said:
is there anything you dont know? lol...

well there is a real close friend of mine and you say its totally possible but im really stuck in the friends catergory nothing more than pecks and cuddling. Other than that we have an awesome time together do things that i would be doing with other chicks, nice dinners etc. She just wont go any further with me. I guess ive learned to accept that and im satisfied but it would be nice to make out with her just because we are so close. eh...well whatever.
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easy.

Just start busting the cocky comeody on her.. tell her she's being bratty.
Threaten to give her a spanking one in a while..
Just start teasing her, like you would your bratty little sister..

When she goes in to cuddle, tell her "hands off the merchandise hunny!"
STOP taking her out to dinners, and other "date" things.

You are doing things to KILL any possibility of Attraction!
Your in the friends zone simply becasue she doesn't want to get with you, and simply becasue there is no attraction, no sexual tension, no push/pull.
I'll PM ya
 
Irish Cannon said:
Things I won't settle for:

1. Drunks
2. Smokers (I don't mind the occasional once a month cigarette, but not the kind that smokes a pack-a-day)
3. Materialistic
4. Insecure (always looking for you to be the shoulder to cry on, or wanting you to be there to always say, "Good job!" when they accomplish something)
5. Selfish
6. Member of the ACLU
7. Whoreish


Pistonpump, are you a Seinfeld fan? Ever watch the episode where Jerry and Elaine try to have that type of relationship? It truly doesn't work. What people don't seem to understand is that having a sexual relationship with someone is so much more than a physical act. I really find it to be truly impossible to do that without being attached. I think the way you have it now with your friend is the best way to do it. You are close, you show each other a mutual affection, and enjoy each others company. That's the best way to do it without becoming too attached. If you were in it just to have a sexual relationship, then it's not a true friendship at all. Sex, for the most part, is a completely selfish act. I don't necessarily mean it is selfish in a bad sense, but you are in it to seek pleasure for yourself. That's why you can't have a relationship based purely on sex. You are in the relationship for yourself, and no one else. What if you and your friend did start having sex, and then you became involved with another woman? Any halfway decent girl that you date would tell you to put an end to it with your friend, so now you lose that closeness that you had. This throws me into a whole other tangent...

Men and Women were not made to be JUST friends. Men can NOT be just friends with women, however I believe that women can be just friends with men. You guys need to read the Ladder Theory. It started as a joke, but actually carries some very meaningful points. I disagree with some of it since I'm a Christian guy, but for the most part it's true. Men always want "something more" - You will laugh your butt off, but will probably also change your opinion on lots of stuff.

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THATS WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT. ..Limiting beleifs..
The second part he actually explains WHY it's possible to have what you want to have, she wants to have, and have it add value to everyone involved.
 
Mulletsoldier said:
Well I am sure in between rousing sessions of WOW and bible Monopoly your friends and yourself reminisce about your 'totally unique sense of humor that like, nobody gets'.

I mean, you had a weird picture of Britney as your avy, that's really novel and unique. Well, it's about as novel and unique as an MJ joke, but it was funny. Well, it wasn't so much funny as monotonous and overplayed. But, it was definitely unique though. Well, I had seen somebody on a different board with the same one, so it wasn't so much unique. It was definitely something though.
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rofl :toofunny:
 
Mulletsoldier said:
Well I am sure in between rousing sessions of WOW and bible Monopoly your friends and yourself reminisce about your 'totally unique sense of humor that like, nobody gets'.

I mean, you had a weird picture of Britney as your avy, that's really novel and unique. Well, it's about as novel and unique as an MJ joke, but it was funny. Well, it wasn't so much funny as monotonous and overplayed. But, it was definitely unique though. Well, I had seen somebody on a different board with the same one, so it wasn't so much unique. It was definitely something though.
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The concept of a "running gag" is a tricky strategy. If used properly, it can be hilarious. If used improperly, it can wind up as just annoying. Different strokes for different folks, I say. We all have unique senses of humor.
 
pistonpump said:
ive been wanting a red head for a while now.
I dont like:

psychos
compulsive liars
nasty feet
dirty chicks in general
cant handle the D
oh and probably number 1 on my list.....messed up grills, looking like cheetos or just dagger like.....like it would be mad dangerous to explore.
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i agree with PP's selection. just need to add smoking.
 
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