Cuffs' Road To Recovery...Let The Healing Begin!

joecski said:
Just be careful, the meeting with the attorney might kill your libido!

Best of luck to you Cuffs, have a great time, you deserve it !:cheers:
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LOL...I know what you mean there. Actually, she is a prosecutor for the District Attorney's office in the county I work in. She's not a wild chick at all. Just nice, quiet, intelligent, very conservative. The kind of lady you'd bring home to mom. It may be nice just to go out and have dinner and a movie type of date. Just to hang out, talk, and get to know one another. Although, she may be the type who is looking for more down the road.
 
Cuffs said:
Although, she may be the type who is looking for more down the road.
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And as a prosecutor she is probably working 80 hours a week for $40,000/yr. Down the road she will be working 30 hours a week for $250/hr. I think I would probably go to dinner with her too and walk down that road!

Then after dinner I would hook up with the 24 yr old to make a stop on that road!:thumbsup:
 
joecski said:
And as a prosecutor she is probably working 80 hours a week for $40,000/yr. Down the road she will be working 30 hours a week for $250/hr. I think I would probably go to dinner with her too and walk down that road!

Then after dinner I would hook up with the 24 yr old to make a stop on that road!:thumbsup:
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joecski said:
And as a prosecutor she is probably working 80 hours a week for $40,000/yr. Down the road she will be working 30 hours a week for $250/hr. I think I would probably go to dinner with her too and walk down that road!

Then after dinner I would hook up with the 24 yr old to make a stop on that road!:thumbsup:
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Great minds think alike...LOL!
 
Okay dudes. I'm posting up a pic of the 24 year old who has been talking to me. Am I bragging...maybe a bit. Had some phone sex with her last night. Kinda different for me. This girl is a pretty wild party chick. Anyways, she's the chick in the black and white stripe shirt. The others are her some of her friends she wants to hook me up with as well. A couple of them are cute. But, who the hell cares if it's 3 on 1??? Damn, this is going to be hard to resist. WG...please don't think any less of me...
 
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Cuffs said:
Okay dudes. I'm posting up a pic of the 24 year old who has been talking to me. Am I bragging...maybe a bit. Had some phone sex with her last night. Kinda different for me. This girl is a pretty wild party chick. Anyways, she's the chick in the black and white stripe shirt. The others are her some of her friends she wants to hook me up with as well. A couple of them are cute. But, who the hell cares if it's 3 on 1??? Damn, this is going to be hard to resist. WG...please don't think any less of me...
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BWaaqahahahahahahah..................YES. Give in to the dark side, Cuffs! :lol:

MmmMMMMm is all I've got to say. Do you get to take all of them? :D

I'm so very excited that you're recognizing the power and greatness of the dark side of the force, Cuffs :lol:
 
Cuffs said:
Yeah, I just found out my wife is dating a person from her work
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Wanted to stop you there Cuffs. That's a "slip of the tongue" and it's a dangerous one.

As of a few days ago, any sentence like that you need to use "ex-wife" or "soon to be ex-wife". Yes, I know divorce has not yet happened, etc. but even though it sounds like you really have got your stuff together you need to keep your head straight and keep walking that tightrope. You need to see it as "done". Helps with you moving forward, insulates you some from any possible heartache.

So, keeping with it the next thought to yourself is: "Why should that person's dating bother you? She's not part of your life now..."

That mentality is what kept me sane. I hope this message doesn't come off as high-handed or something, there really was power in this (for me and a couple of friends who went through similar stuff).

It sounds like you've already got that together based upon your posts but your subconscious needs a LOT to get itself programmed and small stuff adds up in it. The wrong words reinforce what you don't want, the right ones slowly reinforce what you do want.

...Not anything to lose my job over.
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Damn right.

P.S. nice pic...lol now us married dudes will live vicariously through you!! But you might want to reconsider posting it. Your (and her) anonymity is lessened and you may find later that you wish it were not.
 
Cuffs said:
Okay dudes. I'm posting up a pic of the 24 year old who has been talking to me. Am I bragging...maybe a bit. Had some phone sex with her last night. Kinda different for me. This girl is a pretty wild party chick. Anyways, she's the chick in the black and white stripe shirt. The others are her some of her friends she wants to hook me up with as well. A couple of them are cute. But, who the hell cares if it's 3 on 1??? Damn, this is going to be hard to resist. WG...please don't think any less of me...
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Bro', you seem like a pretty decent guy, so here's advice from another arm-chair observer -just frickin' do it!!! Forget all the B.S philosophy about whether you should or you shouldn't and and enjoy frickin' life!!! I'm saying this as one of the OLDER guys on this board (older than 45, but younger than 60!) What's wrong with just being a decent, red-blooded male who enjoys consensual sex with an adult female (or females, as the case may be) whom he finds intriguing and attractive? I mean, am I missing something here? If you are truly too mentally and emotionally f'ed up to do so, then you should seek professional help rather than the opinion of people on this BB (like MYSELF, LOL!). As far as I know, you are a healthy, hetero, American male who enjoys female companionship - duh! That female companionship need not be the next love-of-your-life - she can simply be someone that you enjoy sharing sex, conversation, ****-talking, or whatever with in the here and now. However, if it somehow turns out that way, that's cool too. And as an aside, the comments about one woman's suitablity (or lack thereof)for introducing to family as oppopsed to another woman's is not only premature, but it's immature. Until you've spent time with a person and engaged them in more than just casual conversation or observed them through more than casual observation, you can't even begin to guess at this! It's that old, male double standard in your own head that causes you to categorize these women as lady or not-a-lady based on your perception of each one's sexual attitude, number of past partners, etc...which may or may not translate into how each one will behave in a steady relationship (see your Ex for a reference point). As you know, everyone is multidimensional, and what each individual chooses to present to another is often determined by what they perceive about that particular person, and not necessarily "what they are all about."

It really seems like your confidence has been shaken by the soon-to-be-ex and the "revelation" that she's seeing/involved with someone else, which is pretty normal, BUT... you've got to get past that and focus on YOUR NEEDS. You're making a straightforward proposition by the 24 y/o into something that is wayyy too complicated. If there is a mutual physical attraction, AND both parties are being upfront about the "hey, this is just sex thing," then just frickin' do it. Otherwise, YOU are the one jerkin' the 24 y/o around because you are simple using her interest to pump up your ego and confidence by engaging her in talk, but not following up with action!!!

Keep it simple, don't lie, don't lead people on. and enjoy your health and good looks the way that any normal male would. Finally, you don't need to try to impress anyone else (yes, that includes all of us on this BB) with how desirable various women find you (and about one gazillion other men - duh!)- you simply need to be honest with yourself about what you can or cannot handle, what you desire or you don't, on a day-to-day basis and stop behaving as if any and every encounter with an attractive woman has to lead to your next "permanent" relationship!

Roger willco, over and out...
 
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Bro', you seem like a pretty decent guy, so here's advice from another arm-chair observer -just frickin' do it!!! Forget all the B.S philosophy about whether you should or you shouldn't and and enjoy frickin' life!!! I'm saying this as one of the OLDER guys on this board (older than 45, but younger than 60!) What's wrong with just being a decent, red-blooded male who enjoys consensual sex with an adult female (or females, as the case may be) whom he finds intriguing and attractive? I mean, am I missing something here? If you are truly too mentally and emotionally f'ed up to do so, then you should seek professional help rather than the opinion of people on this BB (like MYSELF, LOL!). As far as I know, you are a healthy, hetero, American male who enjoys female companionship - duh! That female companionship need not be the next love-of-your-life - she can simply be someone that you enjoy sharing sex, conversation, ****-talking, or whatever with in the here and now. However, if it somehow turns out that way, that's cool too. And as an aside, the comments about one woman's suitablity (or lack thereof)for introducing to family as oppopsed to another woman's is not only premature, but it's immature. Until you've spent time with a person and engaged them in more than just casual conversation or observed them through more than casual observation, you can't even begin to guess at this! It's that old, male double standard in your own head that causes you to categorize these women as lady or not-a-lady based on your perception of each one's sexual attitude, number of past partners, etc...which may or may not translate into how each one will behave in a steady relationship (see your Ex for a reference point). As you know, everyone is multidimensional, and what each individual chooses to present to another is often determined by what they perceive about that particular person, and not necessarily "what they are all about."

It really seems like your confidence has been shaken by the soon-to-be-ex and the "revelation" that she's seeing/involved with someone else, which is pretty normal, BUT... you've got to get past that and focus on YOUR NEEDS. You're making a straightforward proposition by the 24 y/o into something that is wayyy too complicated. If there is a mutual physical attraction, AND both parties are being upfront about the "hey, this is just sex thing," then just frickin' do it. Otherwise, YOU are the one jerkin' the 24 y/o around because you are simple using her interest to pump up your ego and confidence by engaging her in talk, but not following up with action!!!

Keep it simple, don't lie, don't lead people on. and enjoy your health and good looks the way that any normal male would. Finally, you don't need to try to impress anyone else (yes, that includes all of us on this BB) with how desirable various women find you (and about one gazillion other men - duh!)- you simply need to be honest with yourself about what you can or cannot handle, what you desire or you don't, on a day-to-day basis and stop behaving as if any and every encounter with an attractive woman has to lead to your next "permanent" relationship!

Roger willco, over and out...
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word :goodpost:
 
Cuffs said:
True, but those are the things I missing right now. I believe what the others were trying to say with their messages was, don't get caught up and **** up your emotions more than they already are. If I start to think the love is in the booty call sex, or clinging to the first thing I hook up with, then I'm on the path to failure. I know to not do this, but human emotions are nothing to screw with. The threeway???...well, I will not pass that up again. Unless the chicks turn out to be baggers, or something I need to drink pretty. I don't mean to sound shallow WG, so don't please don't think any less of me. ;) I'm just going to be picky who I am with. I do have some standards.
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I won't.....:) just be careful, sometimes in our pain we do things we regret later.......((((HUGZ))))
 
Cuffs said:
Okay dudes. I'm posting up a pic of the 24 year old who has been talking to me. Am I bragging...maybe a bit. Had some phone sex with her last night. Kinda different for me. This girl is a pretty wild party chick. Anyways, she's the chick in the black and white stripe shirt. The others are her some of her friends she wants to hook me up with as well. A couple of them are cute. But, who the hell cares if it's 3 on 1??? Damn, this is going to be hard to resist. WG...please don't think any less of me...
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Empty meaningless sex... couldnt hurt I suppose.

Btw... she looks like she will eat you alive....hehe
 
Do what you want to fill the void you feel... it`s your choice... just remember no matter where you go... you can`t run away from yourself...

and in time you will need to deal with "Life on Lifes terms."
 
EEmain said:
Do what you want to fill the void you feel... it`s your choice... just remember no matter where you go... you can`t run away from yourself...

and in time you will need to deal with "Life on Lifes terms."
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EEmain said:
Do what you want to fill the void you feel... it`s your choice... just remember no matter where you go... you can`t run away from yourself...

and in time you will need to deal with "Life on Lifes terms."
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I totally hear you E. I haven't made up my mind with what I'm going to do. It's just weird getting these proposals all of a sudden. I'll be sure to be responsible with whatever my decision is.

I contacted my cousin today. She is a principal at an elemtary school. I told her about my ordeal and she said there were a few cute teachers she knows of who are looking to date a nice dude. These are good ladies who you would be proud to take home to mom. I may start the slow dating thing to pass the time, get to know different people, and have new experiences, while I continue to heal myself. Not rush into anything.
 
aww cuffs im soo glad ur moving on.....about the casual sex thing, do it!!! nothing wrong with it as long as ur careful and hurting anyone. besides ur only single for so long usually. oh and that girls' cute ;)

ur wife, yes shes what makes me ill, women who mess with nice guys make me "upset".......
 
Mrs. Gimpy said:
aww cuffs im soo glad ur moving on.....about the casual sex thing, do it!!! nothing wrong with it as long as ur careful and hurting anyone. besides ur only single for so long usually. oh and that girls' cute ;)

ur wife, yes shes what makes me ill, women who mess with nice guys make me "upset".......
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Its official...you've got Mrs. Gimpy tellin' you to bone that 24 yr old....you've gotta do it :D
 
Okay, so I'm working late last night and I get invited over to a house to have a couple of beers. While I'm there, my phone rings. It's my wife. As we're talking, a couple of girls at this house start saying their going to talk **** to make my wife jealous. I looked at them and shook my head no, to just leave it be. Well, they began saying some **** and I had to hang up quickly. My wife tried calling me back, but I would not answer. I spoke to her the following day and she is upset that I'm with these girls, saying I had them lined up all along, and how I couldn't wait for her to leave me before moving on. ****...give me a fucking break here. I tried to explain, but it didn't help. Anyways, then she tells me it's none of her business, and how she is dating this guy now and going out of town with him. She then starts to question me on who the girls were, where I was, what we did, and so on. She then tells me she's filing for divorce come Monday.

And the weird part of this whole deal...I'm not all that upset. I kinda feel a little crappy, but I think I'm about over the hump on this.

I'll fill you all in on what took place last night with me. Let's just say, I'm a bit dehydrated today. :twisted:
 
Cuffs said:
. My wife tried calling me back, but I would not answer.
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This is definitely the right move. Let the old voicemail pick it up. If it's important, you can call right back. Most of the time it's not important.

Glad to hear things are moving right along Cuffs! Can't wait to hear the story! :woohoo:
 
Cuffs said:
Okay, so I'm working late last night and I get invited over to a house to have a couple of beers. While I'm there, my phone rings. It's my wife. As we're talking, a couple of girls at this house start saying their going to talk **** to make my wife jealous. I looked at them and shook my head no, to just leave it be. Well, they began saying some **** and I had to hang up quickly. My wife tried calling me back, but I would not answer. I spoke to her the following day and she is upset that I'm with these girls, saying I had them lined up all along, and how I couldn't wait for her to leave me before moving on. ****...give me a fucking break here. I tried to explain, but it didn't help. Anyways, then she tells me it's none of her business, and how she is dating this guy now and going out of town with him. She then starts to question me on who the girls were, where I was, what we did, and so on. She then tells me she's filing for divorce come Monday.

And the weird part of this whole deal...I'm not all that upset. I kinda feel a little crappy, but I think I'm about over the hump on this.

I'll fill you all in on what took place last night with me. Let's just say, I'm a bit dehydrated today. :twisted:
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Sorry for your troubles Bro :sad: You know I told you things sounded like they would work out but we never know what the other is thinking... have to go with the others here man... you do not need her fucking with your head... move on so YOU can heal and put this behind you
 
EEmain said:
Sorry for your troubles Bro :sad: You know I told you things sounded like they would work out but we never know what the other is thinking... have to go with the others here man... you do not need her fucking with your head... move on so YOU can heal and put this behind you
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Get this, as I'm talking to her on the phone a few ago, I get a text message from her saying "I'm talking to the fuckhead right now." I hit her up about it. Obviously she sent it to the wrong person. She ment to send it to her new boyfriend. She began apologizing and I made her feel like ****. I have never said a bad word about her to anyone. I still won't stoop to that level, but this helps me to get over her, and to finally become a bit angry.

I have my next counseling session tonight. Thank God!

On a good note, I did get laid a couple times early this morning. I'll fill in later, via a link from the adult section. I don't wish to offend anyone.
 
Sad / glad you got to / have to see the person on the inside coming out.

I still don't believe her that she didn't have anything going on previously. Crazy woman :rant:
 
Cuffs said:
Get this, as I'm talking to her on the phone a few ago, I get a text message from her saying "I'm talking to the fuckhead right now." I hit her up about it. Obviously she sent it to the wrong person. She ment to send it to her new boyfriend. She began apologizing and I made her feel like ****. I have never said a bad word about her to anyone. I still won't stoop to that level, but this helps me to get over her, and to finally become a bit angry.

I have my next counseling session tonight. Thank God!
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So much for never :D
 
Had my counseling session and told my therapist everything. Even about the night of wild sex. I told her that I almost feel a bit guilty for the sex. She told me that was normal, but I'm a healthy male who is looking for sex and companionship. As long as there is an understanding between both, then there's nothing to feel guilty or worry about. Then she dove into how these are new days and condoms are important...lalala. LOL. She said she supports what I am doing, andit seems I'm finally coming out. She's glad I'm starting to get angry as it's the next step I needed to get to.

I feel much better after this last session.

Now...off to the adult side to talk about my coming out. I'll post a link here when it's finished.
 
Here's the link to the night I had. Invalid Link Removed

I'm a tired dude right now. Gatorade really helped me today...LOL!
 
Cuffs said:
Get this, as I'm talking to her on the phone a few ago, I get a text message from her saying "I'm talking to the fuckhead right now."
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And her true colors show through. One way or the other, this isn't new; it was there all along in some form. Funny how these little 'accidents' happen at times like these and help us move in the right direction :rolleyes:
 
Get this, as I'm talking to her on the phone a few ago, I get a text message from her saying "I'm talking to the fuckhead right now."
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Hate to say I told ya so... You--->:saw: <---The "ex"



Good luck knocking the ladies dead :cheers: Bet you feel like :dance:
 
Dudes, I'm really starting to see the true colors of my soon-to-be-ex. She is just freaking out about the split of assets and money. I have maintained a level head, never raising my voice, or using profanity while we talk. She on the other hand does all of which I spoke of. She thinks I'm being influenced by others and am trying to make life miserable for her.... :wtf: I already spoke to a couple of attorney's I know. They gave me a little advice and basically that's what I'm following. My soon2bex threatens to fight this using attorney's so neither of us gets the money I want to split 50/50. She's willing to let the attorney's bleed the money dry before giving in to an even split. Although, I think she's just talking out of her ass right now. She thought I was just going to roll over and give in, but is now realizing I'm not doing that.

I'm really at the point now that I don't want her back, and am looking forward to moving on with my life.
 
Cuffs said:
I'm really at the point now that I don't want her back, and am looking forward to moving on with my life.
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The final step is acceptance... sounds as if you are well on your way!


Denial->Anger->Bargaining->Guilt->Depression = Acceptance.... not always in that order and not always neccesary to move through each phase!
 
EEmain said:
The final step is acceptance... sounds as if you are well on your way!


Denial->Anger->Bargaining->Guilt->Depression = Acceptance.... not always in that order and not always neccesary to move through each phase!
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Yep, I've been experiencing each of those stages. Anger not so much, but there is some. Actually, a little more-and-more each time I think about what she is doing I still feel a little flustered, but am accepting things much better now.
 
Cuffs said:
Yep, I've been experiencing each of those stages. Anger not so much, but there is some. Actually, a little more-and-more each time I think about what she is doing I still feel a little flustered, but am accepting things much better now.
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Next step: stop reacting and take the lead on filing for divorce. If you are in a "no fault" state, it may not matter (too much) because joint assets will be spilt right down the middle (although the devil will be in the details). However, if you are in a state other than a "no fault," you need to file first thing Monday morning, regardless of whether she does or not, and take the initiative to set the agenda. If children are involved and she is currently the custodial parent, this makes it doubly important. Otherwise, you are going to continue to smolder because you've fallen into a passive role based on an unwillingness to accept a certain reality: when a wife or girlfriend leaves, takes off the ring, says "it's over," swears it's not because of anyone else but you eventually discover there is someone else, then it's time to take the legal initiative because you are already playing catch-up with everything else!

This is especially urgent when you eventually discover that most-probably the soon-to-be ex has been involved in fairly long term planning, effort, and deceit to break away from you so she can be with the next "love of HER life." All the details may never come out, but understand this - by the time she verbally revealed her so-called unhappiness with you all's life as a couple, she was at least two steps ahead of you with regard to what she was planning to do, who she was planning to do it with, and with regard to having already gotten outside, and possibly professional, legal and personal advice that would keep you in the dark. This is the real reason she never wanted to attend counseling - she was afraid that a good counselor would have either gotten her to admit these things before she was ready to do so or at the very least, the counselor's bullshit detector would have been blinking and blaring, and the counselor would have shared her concerns and impressions with you! Just remember the text message to someone else you inadvertently intercepted, and act accordingly.
 
Thanks Cardinal. Yeah, I'm in a no-fault state so assets get split down the middle. She's freaking over money made on the sale of a house she had, that we lived in, and later while we were married, that we sold. We put some of the money made from that sale as a down on our new home. She wants 100% of the money we used as the down payment, and I told her it needs to be split 50/50. She's all freaked and pissed, saying I have no rights to that money. Well, I already spoke to a couple of attorneys I know, and they told me she can pound sand all she wants, that it's a 50/50 split in this state without a contract.

I am soooo lucky there is not a child involved. Just my son from my previous marriage, who I have custody of. He's taking thi swell, and his mother is supposed to be moving back to the area to take a mo positive role inhis life. That will help me out a great deal.
 
Okay...I need to do something here I think. I'm having a blast with this girl I've been seeing for the past week or so. We are so compatible and comfortable with each other, it's not funny. We spent last night at a house she is watching for a friend. After we finished up with some great sex, we were laying there kissing and feeling each other's bodies. She looked straight into my eyes and said "it could be so easy to fall in love with you." Although that made me feel good, it also brought up the radar warning. I absolutely do not want to hurt this girl. We set ground rules before we started this, but I know how emotions can change. I don't want to just cut this girl off, but I don't want there to be any mixed emotions or problems between us down the road. I guess I'll have to sit down and talk to her tonight and just be straight with her, which I have been all along.
 
Cuffs said:
Okay...I need to do something here I think. I'm having a blast with this girl I've been seeing for the past week or so. We are so compatible and comfortable with each other, it's not funny. We spent last night at a house she is watching for a friend. After we finished up with some great sex, we were laying there kissing and feeling each other's bodies. She looked straight into my eyes and said "it could be so easy to fall in love with you." Although that made me feel good, it also brought up the radar warning. I absolutely do not want to hurt this girl. We set ground rules before we started this, but I know how emotions can change. I don't want to just cut this girl off, but I don't want there to be any mixed emotions or problems between us down the road. I guess I'll have to sit down and talk to her tonight and just be straight with her, which I have been all along.
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Although we say we wont get attached.....sex is different for most girls, (unless your lose)we tend to develope emotions for the guy...it happens..and before i offend anyone..yes it happens to guys to ( feelings)...good your going to talk to her....

(((HUGZ))))
 
Well, things are very cool with the girl I'm seeing. She is just too amazing of a find. I know I don't really "know" her yet, but what I do know of her, is very good.

Now, my soon-2b-ex keeps calling me. 5-10 times a day. I have told her repeatedly to stop calling, but do so if there is an emergency or something very important. She calls me the other day because she found the economy size box of condoms I planted for her to find. She freaked out and asked who I was fucking. I told her and she wanted to know all the details, if she was better than her, if we talked dirty, the positions, etc. I asked her why she wanted to know all this and she said it was turing her on. She said she was starting to masterbate and wanted to hear it. I'm sorry but... :wtf: She then changed her tune and said I was dirty now because my dick has been in another girl. I just told her I'm sure she and her new boyfriend were doing their thing and I wasn't questioning, nor did I care.

She then tells me she was having second thoughts and didn't know if she wanted to stay away or come back, that she has been making comparisons between me and the other. Guess she's seeing the grass isn't greener on the other side. I told her she needs to make up her mind so we could both take a step back and see if it even worth working out. I told her at this point, I'm not sure if I want to try, but I would talk about it. Later the next day she tells me she doesn't want it to work between us, and she is going through with the divorce. I told her that was fine.

Well, later that day she calls me 10 more times. I would not answer. Then she text messages me while I'm at the house with the girl I'm seeing. It said to call her because it was important. So, I call and she basically tells me it was for the break down of the assets. Telling me we will be getting around $43,000 each after the sale of the house and paying everything off. She then asked where I was and why I didn't end up going home. I told her I was with some friends and needed to end this conversation because I was needing to have some fun, and to stop calling with things like this. She then began trying to pry asking if my "girlfriend" was there. So, I told her she was. She then made the comment "well, I hope you and your **** buddy have fun" and other ones. I then hung up.

It's obvious that my not answering her calls, me having fun and not coming home, and seeing someone is really bothering her. At least now she is open to spliting everything 50/50. Guess the attorney she talked to set her straight.
 
Cuffs said:
Well, things are very cool with the girl I'm seeing. She is just too amazing of a find. I know I don't really "know" her yet, but what I do know of her, is very good.
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It's kinda neat when you set aside preconceptions, go with the flow, and someone surprises you in ways you never woulda guessed, huh? Anyhoo, continue to enjoy life on your own terms, and I think you'll be fine. I said earlier that I thought you seemed like a decent guy, and IMHO, you continue to reinforce this by the way that you're dealing with the soon-to-be-ex. Best thing you can do for her at this point is to wish her well, just nod while not believing anything that she says, and to tell her "I don't know what you're looking for, but I've decided I don't want to be there when you find it." [Approximate quote from a character in a James Lee Burke novel].
 
the Cardinal said:
"I don't know what you're looking for, but I've decided I don't want to be there when you find it." [Approximate quote from a character in a James Lee Burke novel].
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that's pimp :cheers:
 
Cuffs said:
Well, things are very cool with the girl I'm seeing. She is just too amazing of a find. I know I don't really "know" her yet, but what I do know of her, is very good....
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This is good to heard :thumbsup:

And...dude...that soon-to-be-ex-wife of yours is whacko :lol:
 
kwyckemynd00 said:
This is good to heard :thumbsup:

And...dude...that soon-to-be-ex-wife of yours is whacko :lol:
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yeah, this is good to 'heard'. WTF cali-boy? can't spell on the west coast?
 
Cuffs said:
Well, things are very cool with the girl I'm seeing. She is just too amazing of a find. I know I don't really "know" her yet, but what I do know of her, is very good.

Now, my soon-2b-ex keeps calling me. 5-10 times a day. I have told her repeatedly to stop calling, but do so if there is an emergency or something very important. She calls me the other day because she found the economy size box of condoms I planted for her to find. She freaked out and asked who I was fucking. I told her and she wanted to know all the details, if she was better than her, if we talked dirty, the positions, etc. I asked her why she wanted to know all this and she said it was turing her on. She said she was starting to masterbate and wanted to hear it. I'm sorry but... :wtf:
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The planted condoms is childishl but somewhat justified since from what you said earlier, she is trying to be difficult with the splitting up the assets. It definitely irritated your ex but at this juncture its kindof pointless.
 
Hey bro, so far things are panning out as you'd mostly expect.

Be ready for a phone call in the middle of the night. It will be her with tearful pleading to get back together, etc. etc. Probably will happen in another 4 weeks from now as your ex's emotions oscillate more strongly.

Good to see you aren't answering calls, seems to me that your life is on track. The sooner you get everything squared away the sooner you can initiate "no contact" or "contact only by email" and truly get on with things.

Cheers,
M.
 
Well...the house sold to the first people who looked at it. They made a full price offer and now I have 30 days to find a place for my son and I to live. Dude, I thought I would have at least a couple of months to get everything going.

My soon-2B-ex and I had it out about the money split. I told her I wasn't budging and if she wanted to fight it out with attorney's, then so-be-it. She cussed me out a few times and got all crazy. She later called and told me she decided to do the 50/50 split. I'll believe it when I see it.

Going to the coast here in a couple of hours. Spent a crap load on a kick ass inn that has a fireplace and a spa on the private balcony. Time for some fun! I told the chick I'm taking that we could go to the restaurant on the pier, which is very nice. :food: She told me all she wanted to do is stay in the room, use the spa, and "****" (<----her words) all night. :woohoo:
 
I don't see why splitting 50/50 is even an issue? W-T-F!?! It should be like 75/25 considering you were the bread winner, IMHO.

Have fun at your "inn" ;)
 
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