For what its worth, I work in a corporate environment for a very large company so this communication skill is key in such a political arena.
That said, there are two thoughts I have about respecting others in conversation. One is that while it is a basic skill, it isnt common. More people dont have this skill than do. It takes constant selflessness and thinking before speaking to hone the skill. Two is that for a number of reasons people are ultra insensitive when communicating over the internet. The concept of speaking to someone whom you'll likely never meet and cannot see face to face takes away some of that desire to respect people when talking to them.
I try my best to help others as much as possible and lately I have been trying to genuinely care about even those people who I dont really know, such as yourself.
I definitely agree with you about a larger percentage of people behaving in an insensitive manner over the internet than in real life. If you are a disrespectful condescending person then you will show your true colors over the shield of the internet, yet if you have just the smallest bit of intelligence then you will mask yourself and filter what you say in real life. Unless you're a total scumbag with a low mental capacity exhibiting no interest as to how others perceive you. It's deductible then that if you are respectful and compassionate over the shield of the internet, then you are well behaved and classy in real life as well.
I feel like education and being raised in a decent family will hone this skill (on top of many others such as integrity, leadership, honor, respect, a sense of a greater duty and purpose)
That's why oftentimes in a minority communities, ghettos that dominated by uneducated poorly raised hispanics and blacks, there is no sense of a moral code at all. These types of individuals are very primitive in their ways, condescending, rude, judgmental.
It is understandable because in their society ( if you can call it that) being rude, putting down others, acting like animals, is a sign of strength and toughness which is prized in their dog-eat-dog society. Here you will find the simple basic primitive values of greed, selfishness, jealousy.
If you are familiar with Freud, he mentions the ID, which is the basic human desire to instantly satisfy wants. This is why these ghetto communities are plagued with drug dealers, liars, murderers, rapists, so on.
Yet in a while collar community, with asians and whites as the main demographic, class and manners are a lot more valued. Here you find the higher human values of selflessness, honor, duty, respect, a desire to help others. In white suburban communities the EGO and SuperEgo are more developed, we know how to control our primitive impulse and stive to be individuals of character.
Real World Example: I am in the military and the reason why I joined is because I am patriotic and had a sense of duty.
There are numerous soldiers in my company that are from the ghetto, mostly blacks and hispanics, the slums who only joined for the financial compensations or some other personal gain. (the smarter ones among them will say they joined for the country, but i highly doubt it, its against their upbringing to exhibit such a noble trait).
Sorry for the rant haha
