I can get it up no problem, just don't want to ??
just for you and cro, this is pretty similar to what I believe a lot of women find. I.e they ‘have to be in the mood’ to enjoy it and actually orgasm easily (not saying you two are women, just that it seems what you are experiencing is similar to what most women experience all the time).
generally stress/worry is the biggest blocker to the female orgasm. Whereas men can often get hard quick and cum after a short period of frenzied thrusting, women normally need much much more build up, kissing, caressing etc to give their mind time to relax. Same when you go down (especially with a new partner), tell them they taste amazing and it removes the concern they have about the ole axe wound.
anyway, my point is do you have any stresses in life generally? Understandable if that’s reducing your desire for sex as your mind (the most powerful sex tool we have) is elsewhere. As weird as this sounds,
Maybe try creating a more relaxing atmosphere and letting her caress you, have some candles and music etc.
For me personally the women being into it is the biggest turn on (don’t get me wrong, I’m a fucking horny dog regardless but I’m talking what really revs the engine). That’s why I’ve probably enjoyed a lot of different things as if the girl is into it and it comes across that really does it for me, whatever that thing is. Just hope your women doesn’t suddenly show an interest in urticaria....