Ok so here is the deal. I am currently working in Iraq as a contractor. This is a totally voluntary job but I feel it is a great way to meet my goals financially at a young age, 28.
I have a girlfriend back home that I trust. Since I am in Iraq I get vacation every four months. We made plans that we would meet somewhere in the world every vacation and that I would pay for her ticket out to wherever we choose to go. She doesnt have a lot of money cuz she is a waitress. We stay in pretty good touch. However when I call she is usually doing something else. She can talk but she is always a little distracted. I have basically said before "HEY! we dont get to see each other or even talk that much so stop what you are doing and talk to me." I dont think she gets it. Also when she calls me, it is always like "hey I can only talk for a few minutes cuz I am going into work or whatever". So why even call at thaty time?
I asked her to do some things and they do not get done. like for example, i wanted her to do something(personal) that would cost 30 bucks. She said she would do it but she never did. When I asked her days later why she didnt she said she has no money. Okay fair enough but why did you tell me you would do it then? And then just not do it without saying anything. Oh and she just bought a new camera.
another example. I asked her to download 2 songs for me and email them to me as soon as she could (i cant download or stream). She said she would. that was like 5 days ago. I asked her if she had a chance to and she said she couldnt find the songs. So that leads me to believe she looked for like a grand total of maybe 5 seconds over those 5 days.
Sadly that is the extent of how much I rely on her for anything and she fails to deliver on such simple things. This is about as deep as our relationship is right now which I find odd as well because we have been talking for a while. I have asked questions concerning these topics but I think I am kind of brushed off like it is not a big deal. I dont want to start yelling at her like I am ordering her to do things. I feel if i request such simple stuff she should want to make me happy right?
Its not so much she has done anything big at all. its just the consistancy of the small disappointments. This relationships is not fulfilling.
So my question is, what do you guys think? How do I handle this especially with a vacation coming up?
I have a girlfriend back home that I trust. Since I am in Iraq I get vacation every four months. We made plans that we would meet somewhere in the world every vacation and that I would pay for her ticket out to wherever we choose to go. She doesnt have a lot of money cuz she is a waitress. We stay in pretty good touch. However when I call she is usually doing something else. She can talk but she is always a little distracted. I have basically said before "HEY! we dont get to see each other or even talk that much so stop what you are doing and talk to me." I dont think she gets it. Also when she calls me, it is always like "hey I can only talk for a few minutes cuz I am going into work or whatever". So why even call at thaty time?
I asked her to do some things and they do not get done. like for example, i wanted her to do something(personal) that would cost 30 bucks. She said she would do it but she never did. When I asked her days later why she didnt she said she has no money. Okay fair enough but why did you tell me you would do it then? And then just not do it without saying anything. Oh and she just bought a new camera.
another example. I asked her to download 2 songs for me and email them to me as soon as she could (i cant download or stream). She said she would. that was like 5 days ago. I asked her if she had a chance to and she said she couldnt find the songs. So that leads me to believe she looked for like a grand total of maybe 5 seconds over those 5 days.
Sadly that is the extent of how much I rely on her for anything and she fails to deliver on such simple things. This is about as deep as our relationship is right now which I find odd as well because we have been talking for a while. I have asked questions concerning these topics but I think I am kind of brushed off like it is not a big deal. I dont want to start yelling at her like I am ordering her to do things. I feel if i request such simple stuff she should want to make me happy right?
Its not so much she has done anything big at all. its just the consistancy of the small disappointments. This relationships is not fulfilling.
So my question is, what do you guys think? How do I handle this especially with a vacation coming up?